Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sugarlove2]

Does John smoke Nato? Mal doesn't, so I can't even use that as an excuse I found it really easy to quit last time. I managed to quit about 6 weeks before my BFP, and then didn't fancy cigs at all when preggers. The strange thing was, that as soon as I gave birth, I started to really crave them again. I also need to knock the red wine right down too. Have been quaffing far too much over chrimbo.

 

[Sugarlove2]

Lucy, maybe test again tomorrow if AF doesn't come. There may be a BFP waiting in the post for you! Childminding sounds like a fab idea. I bloody hate my job and having to leave Charlotte. Only gone back 2.5 days a week and have already requested to cut to 2 days. Will have a look at your pics on fb

 

[vickyd]

Luce Hero is still sleeping bad too....She wakes up around 3am and if i dont bring her to my bed she goes bloody mental....I try multiple times to put her back in her cot but as soon i put her in she wakes up screaming again. I dont mind co-sleeping in the weekend but during the week I need my sleep ffs!!

I just ate a big back of doritos....NY resolutions are so not my thing. Oh and i sent Alex to buy me fags while hes out walking Popi...LOSER

Hoping you're so fucking amazing

 

[hoping:)]

NATO- yep, we pick a couple that we like and then they review our profile and decide if they like us too. The next step is a face to face meeting. I'm anxious and excited! I've missed being pregnant but don't want another baby and like you said, I have the chance to change someone's life! How incredible?!

I've always been a silver lining kind of person and try to have a positive attitude but I still slip up. I'm trying to improve so that I can be the best version of myself for my family

Lucy- spotting is so annoying! Yay for officially TTC. I loved the pictures you posted on FB.

Vicky- the lack of sleep is no good and probably makes it harder trying to quit. I'm a monster if I have no sleep!

Good luck to all of you who are trying to quit smoking!

 

[msarkozi]

lmao Vick...you are not a loser!

That is so amazing hoping! You are such a wonderful person for doing what you are doing

Luce, I really hope it's a bfp hiding on you there! What a great way it would be to start the New Year

Nato, I did struggle after Kash...I've always been heavy set to begin with, but to be honest, I really didn't try hard to lose weight either. Once I got diagnosed with hypothyroidism, I started blaming that and gave up. But then one day I decided to try the Visalus diet, and it helped me tremendously! I think that is going to be my answer again...I am still currently on it, but not following it as a diet. So far, I am not even at the starting weight when I got pregnant with Kash, so I am proud of myself for that. I've only gained 7-8 pounds so far, thank god!

Good luck to everyone quitting smoking! I am not a smoker, but Gord is...he has been trying to quit, and our house has seen some fights over it lol!

Oh, and the ring shopping.....he kept telling me he wanted something huge for me, and I kept telling him no that I don't want that.....so it was best that he let me pick out the ring...this way, I got what I wanted...I actually almost cried after we picked it out, as it was definitely the one! It is a canadian diamond, and has a princess cut in the middle, with small diamonds going down each side...under the center diamond, it has a gap, and there are two small diamonds facing the sides there too...it's beautiful! I would post a picture, but they don't have it on their online webpage...just an in store one

 

[Round2]

Awe, I'm so excited for all you girls TTC #2. I'm finding motherhood so much more enjoyable the second time around. You're definately more tired (if you can believe it)..but you have a better perspective of time and can appreciate how fast it all goes by.

Hoping, I think it's amazing what you are doing. I'd love to do something like that, but it just wouldn't be a good idea for my family or my body. It's a nice way to give back, I love that you can help out someone who has gone through fertility issues.

Lucy, sounds promising. I hope it turns into a BFP for you.

For those of you not sleeping....I feel your pain! Bryce went to bed at 8pm and was up at 11pm, 1am, 2:30am, 3:30, 4:30, 6am and then for good at 7:30. Maddy doesn't go back to school till next week so I'm home alone with them and sooo sleep deprived it's not even funny. I took them to a museum today and now I feel like I've been run over by a train!!

 

[vickyd]

Mel do you guys have a date set for the wedding? I lost my engagement ring..well i didnt really lose it but as it was too big i gave it to be tightened at the store which Alex bought it from and they closed shop and took all the merchendise and disapeared off theface of the earth lol!!!! We never bothered having it replaced as i dont wear jewlery (not even my wedding band) and we just thought it a waste of money. We are very romantic that way!

I really wanna start a proper diet...Why am i so lacking in discipline? Definately if and when i get preggo i will try to gain the minimum of weight. I was hard enough shedding it last time and i still havent got back to my normal weight....

 

[NatoPMT]

Sugar, i see youre watching OBEM, i started and had to turn it off, i started feeling dizzy and sick at the thought of being in labour again. fingers in ears la la la im watching Queen Victoria's Children on BBC2 instead

John has never smoked. Its been a cause of contention between us and he was constantly sniffing around to see if he can smell cigs on me. He actually thinks i gave up 3 months ago, not 2 weeks ago. I did tell him to stop being my dad and i did tell myself to stop behaving like a teenager.

Vic you are taunting me with your fag and dorito buying. Parading your corn chips around and flashing your cigars. You are like me when i am more fun.

Hoping, thats so sweet that you are nervous, that kinda shows how much you're doing it for the right reasons. And i agree that life is a work in progress, you can never stop being something better.

Luce - sing it with me la la la. Great news youre actually going to start trying. Do you put Ben in the bed with you when he wakes up? I try and settle weezie in her room but if she starts crying i bring her in with me and she always goes straight back to sleep then. As long as everyone sleeps i dont care where they are. Loved the pics of Ben at Christmas, he's such a sweetie

Mel - wow youre doing so well!! I think having a 'reason' doesnt help your esteem when you dont feel yourself at that weight, so really glad youve found a workable way of eating. The ring sounds amazing!

Round, hope you get some sleep soon, that's a lot of not sleeping Bryce is doing there. Boys dont seem to be as good at kipping just from what my friends are saying. Can you pack Maddy off for a day out play date with her pal's family to get a nap during the day or are you just going to ride it out?

 

[Sugarlove2]

Nato, the only reason I can happily watch OBEM is because I aint up the duff! Must admit, it does bring back some horrible memories of being in mortal agony!

I'm surprised Eloise hasn't told on you about the fags!

Mel, your ring sounds gorgeous! Post a pic as soon as you can, I love looking at rings. Am off to google the Visalus diet!

One of my worries (and I've got many) if I manage to get preggers again, is having a baba that doesn't sleep. Generally, we've been very lucky with Charlotte, although she went through a bit of a rubbish phase of waking up for the day at a silly hour. She now kips through till 8. I'm bound to have a kid that doesn't sleep next time. I couldn't get that lucky again, and this time will have a toddler to deal with too! Eeek!

 

[VGibs]

mel - I own stock in Canadian Diamonds so I say...the bigger the better! LOL Just kidding!

Luce - I am due tomorrow too...weird! I know AF is on the way because I am a moody crampy horrible mess!

My Ian is officially quitting smoking on January 9th. I am going to cut out the drinking so we both are quitting something. I am kind of nervous because I have a few tall cans of Strongbow to relax...so I have to learn some new relaxation techniques. :S

 

[LucyJ]

Vicky its rough last night was the first night I managed to get him back into his cot without him waking & screaming the place down. Hes becoming in with us which one night now and then I can cope with but night after night is hard going especially as he such a wriggler.

Nato yeah I bring him in with us I try to settle him but it never works so I give up and bring him in to our bed unfortunately I never sleep that well but its better than standing up walking with him. Hes such a wriggler even when hes asleep he moves alot & he likes to lie horizontily (sp?) or across my neck. Steve normally gets kicked and I did wake up once to find him sat on my head which was a little odd he had woken up and decided to sit on me. Hes also rolled out of bed which scared the life out of me especially as he'd gone to sleep in between us he must of crawled over me then rolled out or was trying to climb out we're not sure which thankfull he was ok. Thank you he is a cutie.

I really dont think it'll be a bfp but if AF doesnt show its self I'll test again.

Mel the ring sounds beautiful. Steve and I choose are ring together he propsed to me when we were on a weekend away in dec 2007 then we went ring shoppping together in Hatton Garden in jan 2008,he didnt feel confident choosing a ring for me which to be fair I dont blame him as the ring I got was the opposite of what I thought Id get but I absoutly love it, and got married in the aug 08.

Sugar we are just about surviving finiancial with me not working but its tough especially as steve self employed there are no p/t teaching position and I dont want to go back full time so figured why not using my teaching skills etc to be a childminder it means I can stay at home with my baby and earn money seemed like a perfect soloution. My parents said they would help me set it up apparatenly my dad has plans for me which ends up with me renting a premise, employing staff and running my own nursery!!

Thanks hoping I cant believe how much he has changed since we went away. Walking has really turned him into a toddler.

 

[msarkozi]

lol Gibs! The ring is almost 2 carats in total weight

No wedding date set....I think it will be a fall wedding though in 2014.

It almost seems to be a stage with them all sleeping horribly lately. I hope it gets better for you guys! I am thankful Kash finally started sleeping all night again. I kept thinking too that how the heck will I deal with 2 of them being up at night?! Gord is going to get his butt kicked out of bed I think lol!

 

[hoping:)]

Mel- your ring sounds amazing! You have to definitely post pictures when you get it. I was the same and did not want anything huge… knowing me I would have lost it! It sounds like you are off to a great start weight-wise with this pregnancy

Round- I know the ‘run over by a train’ feeling but it must be so much harder with 2. Hopefully they are making it up to you with lots of smiles, giggles and hugs. Does Maddy help out with Bryce? I still giggle when I think of her trying to breast feed him

Vicky- you are too funny! I would have been sick with worry if I lost/had my engagement ring stolen. That is so crazy they just closed up shop never to be seen again!

Nato- very sneaky! How have you managed to go 3 months without him finding out? I am a terrible liar and would have let something slip by now.

I’m the same and let Penny sleep with us if she wakes up early. It soothes her and I don’t mind the extra cuddles.

Sugar- I love watching that show and anything relating to pregnancy/babies really. I’ve been known to waste an hour watching Teen Mom or 16 and Pregnant. If I had see those shows growing up I would have been terrified to have sex as a teen… maybe I will record some so I can scare Penny into being celibate during her teen years

Lucy- a childminder sounds perfect since you get to stay home and make $. Your parents are awesome! It is so nice of them to want to help you out and it sounds like it would be something you would really enjoy and be good at.


Tim was a big smoker when I met him. After our 1st loss I pretty much demanded that he quit. He went cold turkey and was a complete monster for 3 days. He still smokes the occasional cigarette if he is with my dad but its rare. I read that cigarette addiction is often compared to a Heroine addiction. I smoked for a year out of high school. I'm not sure why... I guess I thought it looked cool

 

[msarkozi]

not sure if any of you ever follow the World Jr Hockey at all or not, but in about 4 more hours, I am hoping Team Canada eliminates Team USA (sorry my fellow American friends) It is killing me with this time change from here to Russia, as all the games are in the middle of the night!! We always love watching the Jr's at Christmas time, but it is impossible to watch it in the middle of the night......

Gord is taking the Champix to quit....this is his 3rd time with it I believe. It helps him, but then all of a sudden he decides to stop taking it so he can have some drinks, and starts smoking again and not taking the pill anymore. He says he is going to start again soon.

Some of you probably seen on my facebook tonight, but Gord asked Kash to say boss and he did. So then he asked Kash who the boss is, and he said mom mom!! lol!!! that's my boy

 

[LucyJ]

Girls Im so happy Benjamin slept right through the night

I guess all the walking yesterday must of helped but he also has his appittie back so maybe that helped or its just one of those things whatever the reason lets hope it continues.

 

[Round2]

Lucy, that's great news!!

Sorry Mel, but it wasn't worth staying up to watch! We watch the World Jr's every year too....so sad!!

 

[prgirl_cesca]

Just dropping in to say hello and happy new year to everyone! Congrats Mel on your pregnancy!

I think I am the only one not TTCing or pregnant for 2nd time now it feels! Everyone keeps asking when I am having another one and I just think it's mad as Luca's not even 2 yet!

I had a set back a couple of months ago and ended up going to the doctor absolutely hysterical because I couldn't handle everything and I have been rushed through the mental health team and now attending counseling for delayed/untreated Post Natal Depression. I've had a couple of sessions and have found them helpful and I start CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) in a few weeks time to hopefully help me handle things. Doctor just says I overload myself with everything - I work full time but it's shifts so I often have all day with Luca then working at night which is exhausting, I have a job with lots of responsibilities and I just never get any time to myself really and it's just taking it's toll now. I am really trying to avoid anti-depressants but they're quite insistent that I go on them should I not feel lots better in a month or so.

There are so many issues surrounding breastfeeding guilt and trauma following my surgery when Luca was a few months old that I need to come to terms with before I can even consider another child.

Still, lots to look forward to this year as we've decided moving is too expensive when we don't actually need another bedroom given we're not going to TTC until luca is school age so we're getting an extension so we can have a big kitchen/diner/family room which should really help us as we're so cramped in our house at the moment!

 

[msarkozi]

Round, I heard that the game was not worth watching last night and that the better team won! Canada seems to find a way to blow it every time in the last few years! Hopefully next year!

Cesca - so sorry that you have to go through all that! I hope the therapy helps you. It does sound like you are quite busy and need some time to relax. It's a hard thing too because everyone always ends up asking when you are getting pregnant again, not thinking about the reasons a person is choosing to wait or not have another. We always assume we are asking innocent questions, but they can end up hurting the person instead! Keep us updated on how you are doing......we care about you too!

 

[hoping:)]

Mel- Nope. I don’t think we have ever watched sports on TV unless it’s the Super Bowl but I mainly go for the party and to stuff my face with yummy game food. What is Champix? Well done Kash! What a smart little boy you have. He already knows his momma runs the house.

Lucy- Yay Ben! Before becoming a parent I never thought I would get so excited about the little things like getting to sleep a full night or Penny going down for a successful nap.

Cesca- its sounds like you have had a rough time but I’m glad you are seeing someone and it is helping. It does sound like you have taken a lot on. I hope you are able to start taking time for yourself. School age sounds like a good time to start TTC. We are 100% certain on only having Penny but maybe we will feel differently when she is in school. Have fun adding the extension to your house!

 

[hoping:)]

Holy crap... there are 3 couple's profiles waiting for me to review AND they want me to let them know what I think in a few days! I'm excited and just dying to read the profiles but nervous all at the same time. This is the beginning!!!