Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Round2]

Oh shit shit shit I think Ive managed to announce my pregnancy on fb by accident. Cant believe I would be so fucking stupid I commented on a website about eczema and pregnancy and its linked it to fb and posted what I wrote Ive deleted that post which has gone from my wall but steve could see it in his news feed. This is not how it was meant to happen and not this early I am so fucking cross with myself and feel like crying

Ah Lucy, I'm sorry that happend. I hate FB for stuff like that. Hopefully not too many people will notice.

 

[Round2]

Lucy, I saw this article where it shows how to hide comment activity from other users....maybe it will work........

https://allfacebook.com/hide-recent-activity-facebook_b42210

 

[NatoPMT]

Luce I saw it but didnt read it so wasnt aware it was a mistaken announcement, has anyone reacted? FB are stupid for linking things you read like that to your feed. I think many people wouldn't read it unless they were specifically interested in that condition - hopefully. Have you had any reactions apart from Steve? Id imagine that people have some awareness of the fact deleting it means 'shut up'

Rounders, my dad is like that, useless with babies but fantastic when they get to about 5 years old and thereafter. Eloise has just made my week, she makes it impossible to forget how lucky i am.

Youre doing so well in the face of adversity! Your children are very lucky youre their mummy. Hope the babies feel better soon, poor Bryce and Maddy

 

[NatoPMT]

I gotta share this, I bid for a 1950's sideboard at auction over the weekend and won, and here it is.....ta daaa

 

[NatoPMT]

Luce its still showing on my feed.

 

[LucyJ]

Thanks round Its completely gone from my news feed but cant seem to stop it appearing in other peopes.

Nato it was an comment on an article right at the end it said I was pregnant and going to try accpuncture to see if that helps my eczema. Two friends sent me pm and my bil called me (he already knew) and luckily I had called my brothers today so they already knew. Theres people I didnt want to know yet and thought maybe we could have one pregnancy were we could announce it in a better way with Benjamin we told family and close friends I was pregnant followed by the drs think I'll mc. On top of that what if I lose the baby and everyone knows Im pregnant. Im sat here in tears cant believe I could be so stupid.

 

[NatoPMT]

try deleting it off parenting.com?

 

[NatoPMT]

oh Luce, it's ok - fuck it, its a mistake, its not your fault. Stupid bloody fb!!! I told people myself, not even by mistake and regretted it, at least you didnt mean to.

Fuckwittery rules.

 

[LucyJ]

Cant seem to delete of the website why does everything you go on try to connect and link up to fb

Thanks Nato I feel exhausted now benjamins alseep thank goodness so at least he hasnt seen mummy crying like a lunatic. I dont know what to do now guess I should just ignore it unless anyone mentions it.

 

[NatoPMT]

Cant seem to delete of the website why does everything you go on try to connect and link up to fb

Thanks Nato I feel exhausted now benjamins alseep thank goodness so at least he hasnt seen mummy crying like a lunatic. I dont know what to do now guess I should just ignore it unless anyone mentions it.

Its an unfortunate mistake, but not one that should have you this upset Luce, i can understand it, but its just not worth the stress to you and bean. Not that I think it will do any harm, but this is your time now - you have this amazing thing going on, which is worth so much more x

 

[LucyJ]

Yep you are right Im calming down some chocolate has helped just checked in on my little boy (I love watching him sleep just want to curl up with him) and realise he steve and this little bean are all that matters if people know they know. Thanks for your support

 

[msarkozi]

Luce hun, it was a mistake so don't beat yourself up about it. I announced my first one early, and then had to face telling people I miscarried. They were very sympathetic about it and supportive. But I don't think you are going to miscarry

The bump is doing good Nato, but it's starting to get hard to sleep at night. Last night I was afraid to move as it felt like I was going to get a charlie horse in my leg if I did, and then I had muscle pulls in my stomach if I did move as well.

I am not sure what I will do on the sleepover part. I am almost guessing that if my parents still lived here, Kash would have had sleepovers already. But I don't have immediate family here, only friends. And I wouldn't want to just outright ask any of them to take him for a night. I will talk it over with my aunt when I get down there and see if she would be ok if he woke in the night looking for me and go from there I guess.

 

[LucyJ]

Love the sideboard

 

[hoping:)]

Mel- I say go for the over night stay as long as you trust your aunt. It might be good for you guys to get some baby free time especially since you will have two little ones in no time. I think Penny was 3 ½ months old when I left her for the 1st time but it was so good for me and Tim. I did cry in the morning when I woke up but it all worked out and Penny got in some quality grandma time. Her grandparents want to take her over night once a month so Tim and I can have some time alone. I love my little lady more than anything but it is nice to just reconnect with my hubby.

Do we get to see a bump pick soon? I'm glad you and bean are doing great! Any flutters yet?

Hearty- You are right. Sometimes you have to pick your battles but its good that you are attempting to clear the air with the things that are really bothering you before they turn into a bigger problem.

Nato- how sweet Eloise was sharing with the other girls. Penny is the same unless it comes to her princess tent then no one but our cat is allowed. I climbed in there the other night and she immediately rushed over with her ‘mad’ face on and dragged me out. I hope your lovely day continues. That Eloise of yours is definitely a special little girl. You are both lucky to have each other.

I love the new piece

Lucy- You can still do a proper message when you are good and ready.

Round- I think its sweet your hubby is so wonderful with the older kids. He sounds like a fantastic dad and I’m sure the kids adore him. I think men prefer the older stages. Tim has been wanting Penny to be a toddler since the day she was born. Sorry you had such a rough night and I am even more sorry you don’t have caffeine to get you through the day.

We did decide on a couple. I’m not sure how much info I can share but as soon as I get the ok I would love to tell you guys about them. The agency is reviewing to make sure they don’t have anyone else they would like us to look at before setting up our face to face meeting. I had my heart set on helping a same sexed couple but I think we have our minds made up. I’m hoping to know for sure by today.

I was inspired by Allie’s trip and will be booking a train ride for me and Penny to New Mexico to visit my family. I think this will be a way better option than trying to entertain a busy toddler on an airplane or long drive. Allie, can you give me any advice on what to expect?

 

[vickyd]

Luce i saw it too but didnt read your post. Its funny that your BIl read it!!!! A man interested in pregnancy related exzema how funny!!!!

Nato love the piece!! You have such great taste! Im still in love with your bathroom.

AFM got a bonus today!!! 4000 euros!! So frickin happy! Now i can turn on my central heating hahahaha!!!!

 

[msarkozi]

awesome job Vick

Thanks Hoping. I do definitely trust my aunt. I always feel like it's a burden on someone though when they help me out with Kash, and I never want to place that on anyone. But I really need to start looking at it as, they never would have offered if they didn't want to!

I can probably start doing bump pictures soon I don't think there is really any flutterings yet. Every now and then you feel something and then you just tell yourself it is a air bubble or something lol.

I am starting to go through cravings right now though. It just hits me that I want something, like right now I want pizza, and it's only 10:08 am! (and I have no way of getting pizza either). I think baby is having a growth spurt because I am just hungry all the time lately!

 

[VGibs]

I am in need of some wine gals...rough week at work, turned into rough week at home, and I am supposed to be gettin my freak on for our first official baby making session tonight. I wish I had wine on tap :S

 

[Sparkly]

Aww Lucy, as you know I saw it too.....bloody FB linking to other websites, grrrr!! I really felt for you when I read it as I was sure that you wouldn't want to announce your new pregnancy in that way. Hope you're feeling a bit better now xx

 

[hoping:)]

Awesome, Vicky!!!

Mel- yes, she definitely wouldn't have offered if she didnt want to. We only leave Penny overnight with her grandparents because I know they love her more than anything and want to spend time with her. Her grandpa is just crazy about her and they only get to see her a few times a week since they live an hour and a half away. I feel like it is good for all parties involved.

Enjoy your night to yourself. I'm sure Kash will love spending time with his cousins and other people who love him dearly. And if he needs you you're only a block away

vGibs I hope things turn around and your at least get that glass of wine

Sparkly- How are you and the twinkies doing?

 

[Allie84]

Wow, congrats Vicky!!! Well deserved, I'm sure!

Nato, I love the furniture. How cool that you won an auction, that's always a great feeling.

Hearty, the other girls have said such great things and it sounds like you've got a good perspective (better than I would have, or do have, with Alex sometimes). I can relate to that feeling of being up nursing in the middle of the night with your husband is snoring!! Ugh, it can be so frustrating. Alex never had to do middle of the night stuff and it always felt 'unfair' to me. I woke him up sometimes to change a diaper just so he could be 'helping'! By 11 months when I stopped nursing Alistair was STTN. Alex totally dodged that bullet, but it wasn't his 'fault.' I think it sounds like Tim is a tiny bit clueless about your needs, as all men can be, ha. I love Nato's calculator; it's that kind of perspective that can be really useful. If he was taking care of Delilah on his own he would understand. For example, I'm home sick today. Properly can barely get out of bed flu. Alex wasn't going to shower when I said I didn't want to get up with Alistair so he could bathe! We had a tiny tiff where I expressed that I'm able to bath every day even though I'm alone with Alitair. I told him to 'use his brain and figure it out' (which was rude, I admit). It just annoyed me he didn't think he could shower unless I was watching Alistair? The point is that when you're not home with the little ones all day, you kind of lose sight of how much work it is, and when you're thrust into it, you finally understand.

I'm really lucky because Alex does nearly all our cooking so that's one 'duty' I am free of. He's SUCH a good cook it's unreal!!!