Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[yogi77]

just checking in quickly before i head to work...thinking of you Amy, hope you get in to get checked out today.

 

[NatoPMT]

You're in good company Amy think we've al had our own pity parties - if Jennifer Aniston can have them, so can we. Can we provide some company for you, whatever you need to get out, we will listen.

In the UK, you can go to A&E but its not ideal, if you want to wait till tomorrow then you do what's best for you. I agree with hearty, if possible, don't do anything at all and rest up. I also agree that every pregnancy is different and this might be absolutely safe in this pregnancy.

what week are you in now petal?

 

[sugarlove]

Oh Amy you poor thing, you must be worried sick.

Try and have a lie down when you get in, and keep telling yourself that you don't have any cramps or other signs.

Take care

 

[vickyd]

Amy your reaction to this slight bleeding is natural hun. Unfortunately we all have had our losses and things we wouldnt think about normally end up stressing us to breaking point. Pink, brown blood with no cramping doesnt sound bad...Try and relax tonight and get it checked first thing to ease your fears...Thinking of u!

 

[msarkozi]

Amy - I'm so sorry you are going through this. I am thinking of you. Of course we assume the worst, but it could be completely normal as well. Praying for you sweetie!! How far along are you now? Try and get some rest, and don't really do much of anything today.....bed rest and keep your feet elevated.

 

[NatoPMT]

Im having a freak out now too. This af has given me a latest cycle length of 25 days

According to FF, only 4% of charts for women my age with a cycle of less than 26 days are pregnancy charts.

It feels like it will never happen. Why isn't it happening.

 

[grandbleu]

Im having a freak out now too. This af has given me a latest cycle length of 25 days

According to FF, only 4% of charts for women my age with a cycle of less than 26 days are pregnancy charts.

It feels like it will never happen. Why isn't it happening.

So sorry hon for the evil one showing her face...and much too early! I went researching and found:

Vitex a/k/a Chasteberry Tree ("VTX")
1,000 mg daily
Vitex helps relieve PMS because of its
effects on female sex hormones.
It helps balance hormones produced
during our cycles, increasing
production of luteinizing hormone
("LH" which is detected by OPK)
and inhibiting the release of
follicle-stimulating hormone.
This leads to a shift in the
estrogen-progesterone ratio,
resulting in less estrogen to cause
or aggravate PMS.
The only caveat is that women who have
PMS with significant depression
should probably steer clear of chasteberry.
Some research suggests that PMS with depression
is caused by excess progesterone,
and vitex is said to raise progesterone levels.
Vitex proved clearly superior to B6.
Combine Vitex with Red Raspberry for LPD
LPD = Luteal Phase Defect

* ENTIRE CYCLE:

B-6 ("B6") 100 mg daily
a/k/a Pyridoxine B6
to be taken at the same time as your Prenatal.
Be careful not to supplement with a single B vitamin
without providing your body with
the full range of B vitamins.
B6 to be taken at the same time
as your Prenatal or multivitamin.
B6 is used to lengthen the luteal phase -
LP = Luteal Phase or DPO (days past ovulation)
and assist RNA & DNA synthesis
and production of red blood cells.
B6 and Red Raspberry will lengthen your luteal phase.
If Vitex is not for you try B6.


Sorry it's so long but I wanted you to have all the information. Have you tried it to lengthen your LP yet?

 

[NatoPMT]

Thanks bleu, Im taking B6 but hadn't really looked into vitex, will investigate

my LP is usually ok, but was 12 days this month - hoping it was a 1 off, but i have never had a cycle this short in my life, and shortening cycles arent good news

think its time for IVF.

Amy, how are you getting on over there?

 

[heart tree]

Nato have you had a follicle count yet? That is a good way to tell if you are in perimenopause or not. I really think it is time for you to talk to a specialist. Personally I don't feel like I can waste anymore time which is why I've decided to go the IUI route in the next 2 -3 months if I don't get pregnant.

 

[pregoinnorge]

i hope you can get your LP figured out. I had one cycle a few months ago that was way shorter than normal. Have you seen a consistent shortening over the course of a few months now? Or is this just a freaky month?

I haven't had anymore spotting yet. i think what's interesting is that i would actually rather have my husband here with me and no baby, then him gone. ugh, i really thought i was going to be strong enough to get through this.

 

[pregoinnorge]

and by this i meant us living apart

 

[Sassy_TTC]

My new home:-

https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnan...hanks-our-4-tiny-angels-xxxx.html#post8037915

 

[msarkozi]

Amy, you are stronger then you know! You will get through all of this, as hard as it is at first, you'll get through

 

[heart tree]

Amy that's great news that you aren't spotting anymore. That's a powerful revalation you've had. You are very strong, but at the moment you have a few cracks in the foundation. Not to mention hormones! You will get through this. Have you heard back from the doctors office yet? Do you have an appointment set?

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Oh god Amy I'm soooo sorry I didn't read before posting, please try to stay calm and relax, remember I had some bleeding with this pregnancy and I know how scary it is, put your feet up and chill out I'm sure bubba is just fine. Please try to get it checked out asap just to put your mind at rest. Thinking of you hunny, big hugs.xxxx

 

[heart tree]

Amy you need to give this situation with your husband gone a little time. It is so new and you are going through a lot right now. You don't need to make any decisions about your future right now. Right now you just need to get through today. Once you know what's going on with your bub, you'll have a clearer head. Then you and your husband need to have some honest conversations about what is working and what isn't and how you can realistically improve the situation.

 

[Duffy]

no, no cramping yet. just some light pinkish brown stuff, not much. But still, it's exactly how it started last time. It's too late to get in today, but I hope I can get in tomorrow. I sent the clinic a text message and they usually respond first thing in the morning.
with kristian gone now though I don't know what i am going to do. i feel like i can't breath and now i'm all alone. sorry for the pity party

I just wanted to send you massive big hugs and I'm hoping everything turns out okay for you.

 

[NatoPMT]

ach. Just phoned Mr Taranissi's clinic for an appointment, you have to leave a message on a voicemail so gotta wait for them to call back now. Sugar told me there's a 4-6 wait for the initial appointment so might as well get it in now.

I havent had a follicle count, but i guess i just go through the process with Mr T and see what investigations he advises.

I aint getting no bfp, fool.

Amy, my cycles this year have been:

April: 28 days
May: 29 days
June: 27 days
July: 29 days
August: 28 days
Sept: 27 days
Oct: 28 days
Nov: 25 days

Hmm yes, maybe i have just had a ropey one-off month and i am overreacting cos i cant try this month. For some reason, i had it in my head that my last 2/3 months had been shorter.

Glad the spotting has stopped, thats excellent news. Keep your feet up and keep an eye on it - lets hope the EPU can see you tomorrow. I understand what you are saying about Kristian not being there, the fact that you have had this nasty scare will highlight that all the more, him being there is what you know and who you have chosen to be in your life. Are there any options to rethink the situation? You are right at the start of the separation, you might adapt better than yo think, we are very resilient - given the fact you are pregnant after a loss, this isn't the best time to test how resilient you are - i went a bit mental when i got pregnant, and i wasn't even separated or worried about loss then. Just the thought of john going away for 2 weeks is a bit much for me, so even though id like to say things will get easier, as they may well do, that would be a bit hypocritical of me, and its you who knows how you feel.

 

[heart tree]

Good girl Nato. Time to take this to the next level. Is Dr T primarily for IVF or will he explore other options as well?

I'm annoyed today too. FF changed my ov from 16 to 17 which I was afraid of. I'm really not convinced we timed it right. Also my temps are high but I'm nervous that they are artificially high from the progesterone. I'm scared I didn't actually ov and now I'm messing with my cycle with the progesterone. I only say this because I have gotten false positive opks in the past. The smiley ones no less. It happened to me last cycle in fact. However when it happened last cycle I didn't get a peak on my monitor like I did this cycle. Also I did get a positive IC Opk at the same time which I didn't last cycle. I'm trying to convince myself that I did actually ov if you can't tell. Grrr. I'm losing hope this cycle. Damn.

 

[vickyd]

Nato i think its good that you are going to the next level. I also had said that if i didnt get a bfp within 7 months i would go for help. I hate the waiting every month and not feeling in control. Alex thinks im a control freak but he went along with the plan. I dont think your cycles are getting shorter by the way....I had a few short cycles before my bfp and discussed with doc wheather it meant i was pm. He said that unless you get at least 5 short cycles in a row there really is no reason to worry.

Hearty im a bit confused as to why although you were given femara why the didnt follow up with a scan to see ovulation. Im sure that unless they see that its working they cant give the right dose ect. Cant you ask for a scan?

Amy so glad the spotting has stopped. It must be soo hard to go through these first weeks alone...Remember we are here whenever you get paranoid!