Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Allie84]

Hello fellow neurotic Discoers,

Mel, would a C-Section avoid that risk? I have to admit I'm really scared of birth! I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it.

Thanks, Nato. Definitely let me know when you find out what a follicle count it all about!

Cute niece, btw!!

Megg, that dream is your subconcious living out your worst fear. It's what happens to our subconcious when we are dealing with heavy stuff. It's all going to be okay!

Vicky, woohoo to the turkey turning out well and dinner being a success!

Sugar, so sorry you had a shit Christmas. I'm going to join you on the health bandwagon but I'm waiting until January 2nd!

I will post a fringe pic in a bit! I welcome honest opinions. It's so weird! I just woke up and am laying in bed looking rough, fringe sticking out in every direction.

 

[vickyd]

Allie i had a fringe for years, it is a hassle in the morning trying to get it to look half decent. My hair is curly though so i had an additional problem.

 

[yogi77]

Thanks for all the kind words everyone, this has been a really rough time.

Megg, I feel exactly the same way as you about it all. The fear is all-consuming and I wish I was ignorant and didn't know ANYTHING. I wish I didn't know what I could/could possibly not see at an early scan, I wish I didn't know squat about HCG levels or anything. I have also had terrible dreams about scan rooms and bleeding etc. and it is horrible. And I am so so scared of being left behind again. If I knew how to make it all stop and go away I would tell you. I desperately want to stop the constant negative thinking and obsessing.

I thought getting that BFP would be the end of my misery but it only started a whole new set of worries. And then I thought my early scan would give me comfort just knowing that something had implanted and that it was in the right spot and that something was in there...and even though that's exactly what I saw, it only made it worse for me!!! I really really wish I had never had that early scan.

I'm not going to request another scan myself, I'm going to leave this in the hands of my doctor now. She will get the early scan results this week and decide for herself when she wants my next scan to be. I am done trying to figure everything out for myself. I am not even going to ask for the results of my second HCG blood tests because I know that she will get the results herself and if I don't hear from her then it's all good. These steps are the best I can do towards ignorance. I find that am trying to find and focus negatives instead of just letting things unfold.

 

[msarkozi]

Allie - I am completely terrified of birth as well. My friend told me that she would rather give birth then do the months over again...but she had a very easy labour, which of course is not common. A c section would help my fears for sure, as if the cord is around the neck, they can deal with it, instead of the cord strangling the baby while you are pushing.

Vicky - I have curly hair too. It really does have it's own issues! There is no way I could ever just roll out of bed and go.....

Yogi - ignorance is bliss for sure. I hope it helps you to enjoy your pregnancy. And honestly, your numbers are way too good for anything bad to happen. Hang in there hun!

 

[yogi77]

Yogi - ignorance is bliss for sure. I hope it helps you to enjoy your pregnancy. And honestly, your numbers are way too good for anything bad to happen. Hang in there hun!

Thanks Mel, but I think knowing that I had those high numbers only made me worry more because I felt that I should have seen way more than I did at my scan with numbers like that.....I don't know the correlation between HCG levels and what you should see on a scan depending on HCG levels but I of course thought it should be more than what I did see!!! ARRRGGHHH

 

[msarkozi]

I honestly don't know what the correlation is either, but I do know that they often say you won't see the heartbeat until later....I know on the doppler too, they generally don't even try until 12 weeks, and they warn you then it could be too early yet as well. I was 14 weeks before we found it on the doppler. It's so frustrating, because all you want to do is see and hear that heartbeat. But that baby is doing just fine in there mommy! The weeks will go by, and before you know it, you will be holding him/her in your arms! Try to focus on the end result and stay positive

 

[dawny690]

Right girls I want some advice please I desperatly want to change my hair style but need some ideas this is how it looks at the moment:-

https://i252.photobucket.com/albums/hh34/dawny690/me/DSCI0265-1.jpg

This is how I looked at my xmas party at work for anyone who didn't see:-

https://i252.photobucket.com/albums/hh34/dawny690/me/DSCI0265.jpg

Thanks girls xxxx

 

[vickyd]

Dawn i would definately get some layers going to give you some volume since your hair is so straight. Also an unsymmetric side parting would look cool.

 

[msarkozi]

I completely agree with Vicky...layers are good, especially for the volume. Maybe cut the bangs a little shorter (but still long enough to tuck behind your ear)

 

[dawny690]

I really wanted something different so people go wow you know? xxxx

 

[vickyd]

how about some highlights as well???

 

[dawny690]

Any pics of ideas? Not bothered about getting it behind my ears xxxx

 

[LucyJ]

Hey girls, well I'm back home which I'm abit annoyed about as we were meant to be coming back tomorrow and I was looking forward to one more day with my parents but Steve wanted to get back as he has some accounts/banking to do.

I'm going to add my name to list of neourtic discoers and megg I totally understand what your feeling dreams can be horrific last week I rushed to the loo after waking from a dream which I was bleeding in I was convinced it was real also one when I got to the scan and they said I wasn't pregnant that it was all in my head so horrid. I was watching a drama last night where the main character had suffered a previous miscarriage and was pregnant again she was telling her husband and said she dared believe it to be true that it is such a cruel thing to loss a baby that nothing is untainted again not even hope, it really struck a cord with with and probably for all of us.


Mel I can understand your fears I don't if this helps but I find a positive story against the bad ones can at least attempt to balance out some of the fears but when my mum had my eldest brother he had the cord wrapped around his neck she delivered him naturally and he and my mum were ok I know it was so scary for her but all turned out ok and that was 35 years ago. So please try not to worry easier said than done I know.

Arm: I'm trying my best not to think about my scan on thurs which was easier to do when I was at my mums another reason why I wanted to stay another day oh well I guess I just have to try and relax just tonight and tomorrow to get through and then will be there god I'm scared.

 

[Dazed]

I was actually born with the cord around my neck and so did my cousin (have been told we should have been sisters/twins).

 

[LucyJ]

Girls I apologise for my typing today I'm on the iPad as my laptop is not working at the moment the charger is broken it's not the easiest thing to type on and can't work out to go back to make amends without deleting everything I've already typed.

Dawny I think layers would be good and maybe some highlights.

 

[dawny690]

What length and style though xxxx

 

[Allie84]

Hey girls,

Dawny, I like the suggestions given and would definitely suggest highlights! Post pics when you get it done!

As promised here is a photo of my fringe. Aaargh, I can NOT get it to look like it did yesterday at the salon. In fact, I hate it today and think it makes my face look really fat. Why can you never get it like the salon?!

Lucy, I hope the next few days go by quickly for you. I'm sorry you had to leave your mum's early. Thinking of you for Thurday.

 

[yogi77]

Allie your hair looks amazing!!!

Lucy good luck with your scan on Thursday, I hope it's a positive experience for you!

 

[dawny690]

I didn't like the highlights last time I had them this is me on my wedding day with highlights:-

Front

https://i252.photobucket.com/albums/hh34/dawny690/Our%20Wedding/DSCI0009.jpg

Back

https://i252.photobucket.com/albums/hh34/dawny690/Our%20Wedding/DSCI0008.jpg

xxxx

 

[LucyJ]

Thanks allie and yogi

Allie that's a gorgeous picture your hair looks lovely