Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[vickyd]

Also its quiet at night, no drunks or junkies roaming the streets haha!!

Thats a pretty harsh statement coming from a crackhead!

Its only that i cant join them no more, im a bitter old hag!!!!!!

Spanish is hard.....................!!! Or is it that i sit down to study every night at 11 pm and concentrate more on gluing my eyes open than on the million verbs the language has to say "I am"!!
This week i alternate between studing spanish and preparing my presentation for a conference on Sunday. ill probably be so confused come Sunday ill start reciting spanish verbs rather than chemistry.

 

[Megg33k]

Damn, I wish I had seen this earlier Jaymie. My sonoline b didn't work immediately either. I had to use brand new batteries and I also had to make sure the probe was pushed in tightly to the unit. Then it worked perfectly.

Loving the nurseries girls. You are all so talented. I have nothing to show for mine. But neither does Vicky, so I don't feel as bad!

Vicky what's happening with the landlady?

Megg, you are on your way to becoming famous! I can't wait to see your book made into a movie. Of course I'll read the book first! Thanks for the CD too!

Mel, great to see you pop in.

I have more catching up to do. Tim just brought home his iPad which I think will be easier to type with while lying down. I continue to read everything though. xoxo

I'm not sure about famous, but I like the way you think! I'd love for you to read it!

AMANDA!!!!! You are so totally AWESOME!! I you! It worked and I found baby's HB! And it was 145, and I know it wasn't mine because you could hear mine in there too! At the SAME time!

Um ok... Sorry about all the yelling, I am just so excited!!!

Fabulous!

 

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Hurray for finding the heartbeat Jaymes I've had those thoughts with all of my losses and have always went the natural route. My 2nd loss I refused to believe it was a blighted ovum even though all the ultrasounds said other wise. I refused medical intervention from 8 weeks to 12 weeks and almost bled to death because of this false hope. I agree with Hearty's advice look forward and don't dwell on the past

Vicky- the verbs get me as well

Megg- you are going to be our BNB superstar

 

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Wow, I didn't know you almost bled to death. That is terrifying. I'm so glad you are ok.

 

[Allie84]

Hoping, that must have been so scary!

to you all!!!

Jaymes, how wonderful you found the heartbeat AND fixed your other doppler! Can you cancel your order for the new one now and get your $60 back?

Vicky, why are you learning Spanish? I must have missed that.

I saw that it was Round's birthday....Happy Birthday, Round!!!

Megg, you're doing a great job utilizing your talents. How much more time do you have to get funded?

AFM, I'm a bit worried about Alistair's weight gain, or lack thereof. He was in the 50th percentile for weight and height at his 2 month check up, and yesterday he was only in the 16th!! To top it off, he had lost 1 oz in the two weeks between weighings at my breast feeding group.....the doctor told me to not to be worried, but I don't know what to do.

 

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Oh Allie the worry never ends, does it? I have no advice. Hopefully some of the other mamas do. I'm sorry it's worrying you. Maybe he's burning calories from all of his smiling and rolling over!

Happy Birthday Round!

 

[Allie84]

Thanks, Hearty. It just makes me feel uneasy....because with all of the work that goes into breastfeeding, you certainly don't want to be doing it to his detriment!

Megg, I just saw your status update on Facebook. I'm sorry you had such a rough day...is there anything you'd like to talk about? Sorrow and guilt? I hope everything is okay.

 

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Allie I can't imagine breastfeeding would ever do anything detrimental to your child. Did the doctor have any recommendations of ways to increase his weight?

Meggles I hope you are ok.

 

[Jaymes]

Hoping, that must have been so scary!

to you all!!!

Jaymes, how wonderful you found the heartbeat AND fixed your other doppler! Can you cancel your order for the new one now and get your $60 back?

Vicky, why are you learning Spanish? I must have missed that.

I saw that it was Round's birthday....Happy Birthday, Round!!!

Megg, you're doing a great job utilizing your talents. How much more time do you have to get funded?

AFM, I'm a bit worried about Alistair's weight gain, or lack thereof. He was in the 50th percentile for weight and height at his 2 month check up, and yesterday he was only in the 16th!! To top it off, he had lost 1 oz in the two weeks between weighings at my breast feeding group.....the doctor told me to not to be worried, but I don't know what to do.

Allie, the company I bought it from ships same day... I'm thinking eBay!

Happy Birthday Rounders!

Allie if the dr says not to worry, I'd say don't. Maybe talk to a local lll person? Are you getting enough calories and water? Maybe try letting him nurse longer? hope he starts gaining better soon!

 

[Megg33k]

Happy Birthday, Rounders!

Hoping, that must have been so scary!

to you all!!!

Jaymes, how wonderful you found the heartbeat AND fixed your other doppler! Can you cancel your order for the new one now and get your $60 back?

Vicky, why are you learning Spanish? I must have missed that.

I saw that it was Round's birthday....Happy Birthday, Round!!!

Megg, you're doing a great job utilizing your talents. How much more time do you have to get funded?

AFM, I'm a bit worried about Alistair's weight gain, or lack thereof. He was in the 50th percentile for weight and height at his 2 month check up, and yesterday he was only in the 16th!! To top it off, he had lost 1 oz in the two weeks between weighings at my breast feeding group.....the doctor told me to not to be worried, but I don't know what to do.

I have just under 48 hours left. You can track my progress HERE if you like.

Thanks, Hearty. It just makes me feel uneasy....because with all of the work that goes into breastfeeding, you certainly don't want to be doing it to his detriment!

Megg, I just saw your status update on Facebook. I'm sorry you had such a rough day...is there anything you'd like to talk about? Sorrow and guilt? I hope everything is okay.

I don't know... perhaps. The sorrow is because people I love are hurting. The guilt is because of how they came to be hurting. The story goes like this: One of my best friends in the whole world (Justin) started talking to one of my FB acquaintances (James) romantically. Despite a ~1000 mi (~1600 km) distance between them, they hit it off. After a couple of weeks of both Justin and me talking to James separately over the phone, he decided to fly up for 17 days. It went well for a while. In fact, when he went home, both boys were in agreement that he would be moving back for good. Then, it suddenly Justin felt like everything was moving way too fast. He asked my honest opinion of the situation, and I told him. I pointed out things I had noticed (which were all true and certainly attention-worthy) that he might have overlooked, as he was a bit puppy-love-struck. He admitted that he had noticed the same things but had been ignoring them. (These "things" are stuff like terrible work history, impulse control issues... oh, right, and chronic lying.) After a few conversations with me (as well as others who met James), Justin decided to ask him to wait a month before moving back. He agreed, but then his grandmother inexplicably "kicks him out" as of April 1. Whether it's true or not, it came across as incredibly dishonest (probably because he lied constantly and ADMITS to lying constantly). He ended things with James, instructing him not to move back at all, and now they're both miserable. I guess I feel like maybe I should have kept my mouth shut. Maybe if I hadn't pointed out the negative stuff, they might both be happy. Of course, I know in my heart that I did the right thing by telling him or making him more aware of the negative stuff. It's better that it ended early with minimal damage to both parties than watching it slowly go down in flames for months or years. I mean, dishonesty is ALWAYS going to kill a relationship eventually. But, they met on my FB page. I encouraged them. Then, I was honest to a fault, which had some hand in ending them. Now, they're both hurting. I feel fucking terrible. Even if it was the right thing to do, I feel SO guilty. And, I didn't force my opinions... I just answered his questions honestly with the disclaimer of "but it's up to you... I just want you to be happy."

There... That's my sordid tale. That's why I'm feeling sad and guilty. I can't take it back anyway, so whatever. It just feels awful.

Allie I can't imagine breastfeeding would ever do anything detrimental to your child. Did the doctor have any recommendations of ways to increase his weight?

Meggles I hope you are ok.

I'm fine, sweetie... just upset.

 

[vickyd]

Megg both guys are adults and therefore 100% responsible for their life choices. The fact that you tried playing the matchmaker and later on saw that maybe they werent made to be does not mean you are responsible for their misery. They could have met at a bar and gone down the same path. Couple years ago i decided that i should introduce my cousin to a friend of mine who had recently divorced but really wanted to meet someone and start again. I thought they would be a great couple as they seemed to be tlike two pees ina pod. Sure enough they hit it off and 1 year later they move in together. Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago, my mate has decided hes against marriage and is happy to leave things the way they are. This obviously doesnt sit well with my cousin and shes now miserable and considering leaving him. I dont feel guilty, I did make the introduction but they acted on it. They are responsible for whatever outcome. My and your heart was in the right place and thats all there is.

Allie, I here similar low weight gain stories from alot of breastfeeding moms. Its true that ff babies are bigger but that doesnt mean that thats the way it should be. Humanity survived and thrived before formula and you should not feel like youre doing something wrong. Hero was always in the 90th centile for weight and my paed wasnt happy with that either. Dont forget that the centile charts were made taking formula fed babies and bf babies weights together. Does Alistair seem constantly hungry? If hes not getting enough maybe you could pump some top ups? Maybe change your diet to include foods that boost milk supply? I hear Guiness beer really helps.
My job decided to pay for spanish lessons as we are now really active in Southern America where we opened a sister company and im technical advisor.

Hoping your story really touched a nerve...When my second baby was a mmc i was also in denial for a couple of weeks and wanted to wait in case he was a slow grower and my doc described exactly what happened to you as a real possibility if i didnt accept the loss and have the D&C.

 

[Round2]

Allie, I went through the same thing with Maddy at around 4 months. She grew quickly at first, then she just stopped putting on weight for like 5 months. She didn't gain a single pound till then! She wasn't unhappy, she was developing normally, I think she was just getting taller instead of chubbier. I of course freaked out, but my doctor tried to tell me that if she was starving, then we would know. It was just her bodies way of working thing out.

Meg, sorry you feel so guilty. I agree with Vicky, they are both adults. You can't control their decisions. I think it was the best decsion to give your honest opinion. I hope things work out for them.

Hoping, I went into major dinal with my 3rd loss. I went in at 9 weeks after a healthy scan and there was no heartbeat. The thing I struggled with the most was that the baby measured right on target, I had no bleeding and no cramping. I kept thinking it must have been a mistake, but I let the doctors rush me in for D&C without a second ultrasound. To this day it still haunts me.

Thanks for the birthday wishes ladies. I think I may have a birthday cake hangover today!! It was so good though!! Can't believe I'm now officially closer to 40 than 30. How the hell did that happen??

 

[Megg33k]

Thanks, ladies. I know that in my head, but it's hard not to doubt it when I see them hurting. Moreover, I didn't even entirely introduce them. It was more that they met on MY Facebook page, but I guess that's not entirely my fault either. Either way, I feel better today.

 

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Happy birthday Round!!! birthday cake hangover

Thanks girls I'm sorry to hear some of you went through the same thing If you are interested the whole story is on the 1st page of my parenting journal in the backstory spoiler.

Allie- I replied in your journal... I wouldn't worry about it as long as Alistair seems happy and content. I think you said he was 13 1/2 lbs? Penny was just a tad over 14lbs at 4 months and was in the 50th percentile... I don't see how he is in the 16th You are doing an awesome job

Megg- ditto to what Vicki said! You are a good friend so please don't beat yourself up I'm gald you are feeling better today

Vicky- that is so awesome your company actually pays for it

Happy Friday ladies I hope you all have an amazing weekend! Tim, Penny & I are headed of to the hot springs for some much needed R&R

 

[jenny25]

Sorry I'm not about Paul got made redundant yesterday I'm so upset for him right now with everything he has done for the company we have the move and that this week well only 5 hours 20 min until gender scan baby has been moving around getting stronger each time so happy pudding is ok xxx

 

[Megg33k]

Aww... Sorry about Paul, Jen! Can't wait to find out baby's flavor though! I'm betting on !


AFM... My funding is 100% complete! I'm shocked!

 

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Megg that's fucking awesome!

I think the other ladies covered it with your boy drama. But just wanted to echo what they said. Sure you're feeling guilty and bad about how it all went down, but you know deep down it was the right thing to do for Justin's sake. That's what friends are for. To protect and love. You did just that. And he didn't have to listen to you. I've had plenty of friends ask me for relationship advice and if I don't tell them what they want to hear, they ignore my advice. Then they end up in bad relationships that drag on and eventually end. In my mind, Justin already knew what he was going to do. He just needed validation from a friend. You told him what he wanted to hear.

Jen, I think it's a girl too. I've already been chatting with you on the PAL thread about Paul, so won't restate it here. Can't wait to find out about your baby!!!

Hoping, have a fab weekend. Hot springs sound divine.

Hi Vicky, I see you on here right now.

Well we didn't win the $640 million dollar lottery tonight, but we did win $7! LOL! Not enough to buy things for the baby, but we're going to buy things for her this weekend anyway. I can't wait. I'm feeling more positive about her today. I can't wait for Monday's scan. I've been so disciplined with this bed rest. I'd be shocked if my cervix didn't improve.

 

[Megg33k]

Thanks, Amanda! About Justin... He was super sad yesterday and not answering calls or texts tonight. I got incredibly worried... physically ill, to be honest. He's got a history of depression, and I was so concerned he might do something... er... something he shouldn't. I woke him up pounding on his door shortly after midnight... He answered in a t-shirt and underwear, and (if our relationship isn't already strange enough) that didn't stop me from hugging him and sobbing into his shoulder without hesitation for a solid several minutes. Luckily, he knew exactly what I was afraid of and understood my concern. I was just so happy he was okay... and I made him pinky swear (begged him really... still sobbing) not to give me reason to worry about that sort of thing anymore. *sigh*

$7 isn't much, but it's better than nothing! LOL

 

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Oh I'm so glad he's ok. Hopefully your genuine concern for him will be a strong enough message for him. He's bound to be sad, especially if he's prone to depression. But think about how much worse it would be for him if he prolonged the relationship. Or if James was the one to end it. In some ways, this was the best case scenario in this situation. Keep reminding him of that.

We all have our struggles, don't we? Life isn't easy!

 

[grandbleu]

Congratulations Meg!!!

Allie - My boy has stopped packing on the pounds as well...He's growing longer and hitting milestones but just not getting chubby...lots of calories are going to other things now...Don't worry unless he's irritated or acting hungry otherwise don't pay attention to percents...they don't use them here and it's so refreshing not to have to think about it.

Gorgeous nurseries all around!