Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Megg33k]

Oh I'm so glad he's ok. Hopefully your genuine concern for him will be a strong enough message for him. He's bound to be sad, especially if he's prone to depression. But think about how much worse it would be for him if he prolonged the relationship. Or if James was the one to end it. In some ways, this was the best case scenario in this situation. Keep reminding him of that.

We all have our struggles, don't we? Life isn't easy!

Definitely! I know you're right. It doesn't help that he also hates his jobs and has a very un-supportive mother who tells him he's not getting any younger and will probably die alone. *sigh* So much to counteract. I tell him often and sincerely how amazing he is and to just keep his head up because good things are coming.

Life definitely isn't easy!

Spoiler

It's not easy, but sometimes your Kickstarter project gets OVER-FUNDED anyway!!!! (couldn't help myself)

 

[jenny25]

hey girls just so you know im having a boy xxx

here are all the pics on here https://s1264.photobucket.com/albums/jj493/jennifercallender83/baby c/

dont mention the sex on my fb page please we are not telling no one xx

 

[Sparkly]

Yey Jen another disco

 

[Megg33k]

Awww... Congrats, Jen! Team after all! I was wrong! lol

 

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Jen he looks so comfy in there! So happy for you!

Meggles over funded is so incredible! You have earned bragging rights.

On a side note, WTF is wrong with some parents? Justin's mother doesn't deserve to have a child. Why would you ever say something like that to your child? I just don't understand. There are so many people unfit to be parents. It makes me mad that so many deserving people struggle and then assholes like her just get to have them.

 

[vickyd]

Totally agree Hearty...you should have to undergo some kind of mental evaluation before youre allowed to have kids.

Jen wow another boy!!! Aaron will be thrilled to have a baby brother to pass on his wisdom lol!

At the park today i heard the most shocking thing I ever thought id hear from a mother. We were talking about SIDS and this woman said that SIDS is due to the baby feeling the lack of love from his mother and in a way ending his life before he allows himself to be hurt!!!!???????WTF??????? I was so angry and astonished i just literally picked up Hero and left. I was afraid I was gonna beat her!

Other than that im prepping for my presentation tomorrow. Im bricking it as i have to speak for an hour max and ive managed to get down to 1.30 hours only. Also i frickin hate public speaking, and i just realised my skirt has a small stain right in the middle of the front!!!!

 

[Megg33k]

I agree, Amanda. I told him I can't look her in the eyes again. I'm disgusted. He hates her at this point.

Holy fuck, Vicky! Why would anyone suggest that? Ever?

 

[LucyJ]

Megg you did the right thing by your friend and were honest so glad he's ok and wtf with his mother thats awful. Yay on getting overfunded so happy for you

Hearty I totally agree I worked at quite a rough schoo, a few years ago and there was some parents that you just wouldnt beleive I had a mum turn up drunk once to pick her kids up couldnt make it to school to see her child reveive an award but could spend all day in the pub They were always big families they would pop kids out left right and centre but never looked after them it would brake my heart. The way they'd speak to there children shocking. I had the funniest little boy in my class such a sweetie strong willed but bright when anything went wrong or he was getting annoyed you'd heard him go "oh fuck oh fuck oh fuck" we of course encouraged him not to use bad words but it was hard not to laugh as he'd stomp his foot on the floor and flap his arms up and down while saying it. I did alot of work with him on behaviour lots praise I remember telling mum how well he was doing and what a good day had her response was "shame he cant be fucking like that at home and to the little boy come on you little shit why cant you be like your sister" I would of taken him home if I could.

Vicky wtf I seriously cant believe that the stupidity if people amazes me.

Hoping hope you have a fab time.

Jen congrats on team blue fantastic pictures Im so sorry about Paul hows he doing? I know how hard it can be steve got made redundant a few years back which is why he went self employed.

Allie try not to worry Benjamins weight has always been very up and down and I used to panic a lot. I got told of for weighing him to much as sometimes they wont put much on and other times they will put loads on. I also got told that it may be them getting longer rather than heavier and to go by your child if they look well seem happy and contented then dont worry. I just got Benjamin weighed again and he is bang on 14 lbs hes dipped slightly but has been very active lately. As long as Alistair seem happy and is having lots of wet nappies I dont think you should worry (I know its not easy I worry about Benjamin a lot I think its because of BF you never quite know how much there getting). Make sure you are drinking loads and eating lots my MW told me its the only time you can get away with that 2nd bit of cake as you need the calories. I was also told that BF babies tend to be more up and down than ff babies and as long as the follow there own line. Benjamin seems to have moments when he dips but then starts following his new line then dips again he did have a dip at about 4/5 months.

bleu hows your little boy doing?

Loving all the nurseries. Well tonight is the night Benjamin is in his own room for the first time and I am a wreck I know we need to do it but I just want him in with me I keep going to check om him so I know hes alright. Spent all day doing the nursery its not totally finished needs pics on the wall and a few touches here and there but not far off will try and get some pics tomorrow.

 

[Round2]

Congrats Jenny! I called it, 2012 is definately the year of the hot dog!!

Hearty, if you needed a mental examination before having kids, I would definatley not be here today.

Vicky, good luck on your presentation. I have to do stuff like that every once in awhile and I hate it!

I can't believe the nerve of that woman. I would have screamed at her.

Lucy, good luck tonight. I know it's hard, but I bet you'll both start sleeping better once you get into a routine. This sounds bad, but I had to put Maddy in her own room starting at 3 weeks. I just found that I reacted to every little sound and kept waking her up. I was so glad after I moved her, because she did sleep better.

 

[Allie84]

Oh wow, congrats Jenny!!! Happy Team !!!

Vicky, that is insane!! How horrible...just horrible. Good luck on your presentation tomorrow. Thanks for the advice about weight...it made me feel better.

Megg, congrats on being over funded, and brag away!!

Bleu, how are you and LO doing? Thanks for the words of wisdom. They make me feel better!!

Lucy, good luck with Benjamin going into his own room tonight! I'd like to see photos! Even though Alistair's nursery is done, he's never slept in his crib. He's still in his bassinet and is seriously outgrowing it...it says it's good to 15 lbs and he's only 13 1/2 but he doesn't have any stretching room. I just don't want to move him to his own room yet but I think we need to do it this week. Thanks so much for the weight info. I guess it's a breast feeding baby thing!! I don't count his wet nappies but I think I will just to make myself feel better.

Hoping, so jealous ,have fun this weekend. Thanks for the words of wisdom!

Hearty, glad you're feeling good, because it seems like you guys have had really gloomy weather out there recently? It seems like it's always raining! Anyways, you've been such a good girl about bed rest and I have a good feeling about your cervix.

 

[Allie84]

Hearty, if you needed a mental examination before having kids, I would definatley not be here today.

LMAO! Me either!!!!!!!!!

 

[jenny25]

Thatnks guys I'm so happy to be having a boy raising a boy is the best for me cause there mummy's little boys aarron and I have such a close relationship I'm thrilled xxxx
Paul is doing ok he was shocked but he knew the company wasn't doing well at the moment he was one of the longest there since the company started his boss was embarrassed and took time too speak to him personally about t and give him a in depth reason xxx

 

[vickyd]

So last night was hell...Hero decided she didnt want to sleep again and we were up all night. Ive had 2 hours sleep and need to leave for the conference in an hour! Im so gonna blow my presentation...

Jen thats awful news especially now with the baby coming. Lets hope Paul finds a new job quickly. Here in Greece unemployment has grown astronomically. 1 in 4 families have at least 1 unemployed member and i have friends where both adults are without jobs. The fucked up thing is that here youre only entitled benefits for 1 year! Then they leave you to figure out how the fuck to put food on the table. Usually its the grandparents who take on feeding extended families with their pension. I find ironic how the EU is saying we have too many benefits and at the same time in France if you loose your job they pay you benefits equal to your last salary indefinately.

 

[vickyd]

So last night was hell...Hero decided she didnt want to sleep again and we were up all night. Ive had 2 hours sleep and need to leave for the conference in an hour! Im so gonna blow my presentation...

Jen thats awful news especially now with the baby coming. Lets hope Paul finds a new job quickly. Here in Greece unemployment has grown astronomically. 1 in 4 families have at least 1 unemployed member and i have friends where both adults are without jobs. The fucked up thing is that here youre only entitled benefits for 1 year! Then they leave you to figure out how the fuck to put food on the table. Usually its the grandparents who take on feeding extended families with their pension. I find ironic how the EU is saying we have too many benefits and at the same time in France if you loose your job they pay you benefits equal to your last salary indefinately.

 

[Megg33k]

Aww... girls! to you both!

 

[jenny25]

Aww wow that sucks hun not good poor hero I hope you guys are ok and you will be fine darling xxx


David Cameron has buggered up this place he has put the nhs up for sale taken money from pensioners he wants people back to work yet with another recession people are loosing there job so they are having too turn to benefits to help them he even said something about petrol and there has been a mad craz on with people running buying petrol when a fuel strike has not even been mentioned he has put up working tax credits too min 24 hours a week when it used too be 16 before you could claim and that's going to hit single parents the worst it totally sucks we will be fine I know we won't be rich but as Lin as we have food on our plate and a roof over our head we will get by and be happy cause we have each other xx

 

[LucyJ]

Vicky hope your presentation went well been thinking about you.

Allie we put Benjamin in his cot when he was about 17 weeks as he kept waking himself in his moses by hitting the sides when he wiggled we were lucky as his cot fitted in our room at the end of his bed. Last night went ok Benjamin was up twice for a feed but did go back down although he was in with us from about half 5 not that I realised steve had bought him in as he wouldnt settle. We'll see how tonight goes. I know its the right thing to do but have found it hard.

Round how are you feeling?

 

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Vick good luck with your speech! I hate stuff like that too. I get so nervous. At least you don't have to give it in Spanish!

You girls are hilarious. You would totally pass the parent test! Unless you are secret crack addicts!

Am I delusional in thinking I'm moving my baby out of my room by 6 months at the latest? You girls make it sound so hard. Except for Rounders! She evicted that baby super quick! LOL! I have a feeling I'll be more like that. Or at least my husband will be.

 

[vickyd]

So the presentation was ACE! I was incredibly nervous, had the sweaty palm effect the whole two hours before BUT the first presentation ( i was second) was so badly prepared and badly executed that 30 min into it i thought there is no way mine will be so bad that suddenly i got super confident. I actually cracked jokes which were funny too!!! Everyone was super impressed lol!!!
Well as soon as it was over my body went into crash mode from lack of sleep, i made it through the rest of the day without napping and i got home at 6pm and went right to bed! Its now 4 am and i woke up ready to start the day haha!! Naw ill have a small internet break and go back to sleep easyyyyyyyyyyyy!

Hearty 6 months is a good time to move her to her own room. Most of my sane and organised friends did it at 4 months. I guess you might be tempted to keep her with you longer if shes still not sleeping through by then and breastfeeding. Its much easier to just bring her into bed with you for a feeding that getting up and going into her room.

 

[heart tree]

That's awesome Vicky! You probably did such a great job that you'll be asked to do lots more of them! You need more sleep. Get off the Internet!