Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

Wow you lot are chatty.

NATO - yep the situation is a bragging twat, I don't like danika at all, agree about bet she's coming across very nasty now. Ashley is a knob, who falls head over heals in 1 second! Errrr who do you want to win?? I have no idea! Oh I like Martin, although he's a bit boring.

I iron my clothes, Danny does his own and the mil does the kids :smug:

I'm excited for the next lot of disco bubbas to be created/born :wohoo:
 
Thanks Ashley i got stuff from the gp I can remember the name but it seems too work a little I am giving him a bottle at night well for one of the feeds to help my right side I'm using my left one just a little more until it heals slightly also when i do use my right side I do the rugby hold which helps xx
 
I honestly can't imagine having to iron on top off all the other things I do! Seriously I wouldn't bother with the kids as they just leave their clothes in their baskets instead of putting them away like they're asked. And never mind keeping them folded. If they do manage to make it to their drawers, they're all wadded up and wrinkled anyway!

Lex is still small enough I can keep hers decent, until about 5 minutes after she's worn them! What a little mess maker. So sweet!

Nice to see you back Nato!

Would LOVE to see more pics of Delilah!

Allie, is Alistair feeling better?

Hoping - Changing your mind is definitely a woman's prerogative! And you do have such sweet baby!

Yogi, CONGRATS! (again)

Jenny CONGRATS! Love seeing pics on FB

Everyone... :hug:
 
Yogi, that's a beautiful line!!! You are definitely pregnant again!! :happydance:

Jaymes, Alistair is 100% better, thanks for asking.

It looks like I'm moving out on my own.....and Alex and I are doing a trial separation. It was pretty much Alex's idea tonight. I'm kind of in shock. The only time I start crying is when I think about being away from Alistair ever. I want to have Alistair 100% of the time!!!
 
Oh god allie I'm so sorry, I know this has been going on for some time but it's never easy when the actual split becomes so real. I hope that the space does you both good, I can tell how much your in love and I'm sure you'll work through this tough time. I know exactly how you feel re being away from alistair but whatever happens as long as he has 2 loving parents, that's all that matters. Big hugs, pm me if you want to chat. Xxx
 
Oh Allie so sorry to hear this....I wasnt aware that things were so bad hun! I hope the trial seperation helps bring you two closer but even if it doesnt i think that if you maintain a good relationship and live close together the transition will be ok. Im here if you need to talk babes..

Guys im getting worried about this teeth brushing...Ive never given a toothbrush to Hero as she doesnt know how to spit yet! I thought we had to wait till they learn this skill!!! How is Pennt brushing her teeth??? With toothpaste or just water????
 
Oh Allie, I'm so sorry my darling. If you want to talk about it here we are here for you - if its a trial then there are things that need to be worked out to find the right conclusion for you all? Is Alex talking to you so you know exactly how he feels and where the issues lie? I say that because when there's a breakdown, its often the case that one partner shuts down and stops communicating

You are moving out without Alistair? Is that right?

Huge hugs and lots of love x
 
Guys im getting worried about this teeth brushing...Ive never given a toothbrush to Hero as she doesnt know how to spit yet! I thought we had to wait till they learn this skill!!! How is Pennt brushing her teeth??? With toothpaste or just water????

get some 1000ppm fluoride toothpaste (for aged 0-3 years old) and use a rice sized bit of it, no baby spits it out so the lower fluoride prevents swallowing too much) - i use either a finger brush or baby toothbrush, eloise hates them both equally. You rinse the toothbrush and she will swallow whats in her mouth
 
Allie - I'm sorry to hear about your trial separation :hugs: I hope you can both work on the probs and get them sorted. (((hugs)))

Yogi - How am I supposed to get my POAS porn addiction fix.....when you have deleted the pic??? huh? I wanna stare at pretty double lines :brat:
 
Oh Allie I am so sorry hear your news if you need to talk we're hear for you. I hope you can both work things through. What are Alex's reasons for wanting the trial separation? Could you both go to councilling together to help work things through. Always here if you need anything :hugs:

Vicky what Nato said I put a tiny amount of baby toothpaste on Benjamins tooth brush then under the tap, he lets me brush his two botttom teeth and his top two then he has the brush and well munches on it. Although we can be a bit lapse about doing it it hasnt seem to got embedded in our routine yet :dohh:

Yogi I cant see the pic its been removed :brat:

:haha: Hoping I think if we let Penny, Hero and Benjamin lose we'd have to take cover. Steve leaves in the morning with the house looking normal and comes back to it looking like a tornado has passed through!

Afm: I had a trumatic night last night I stopped Benjamins last mummy feed. The last couple of days he had started to not feed as well and it didnt seem to be keeping him going through the night, I felt my milk the right side at least might be drying up as thats the side he was messing where as the left he fed fine on so decided that it was time to stop been thinking about it before as felt ready too just wasnt sure how to go about it. So we gave him a beaker of milk did a story, gave him a cuddle sang his bedtime song and put him down he screamed and screamed he was putting his arms up for me and calling me it was so tough. Id go into him give him a cuddle then put him down and stay with him he at no point did he try to get milk from me no grabbing at my top or latching into neck etc so I dont think its the milk he missed but the comfort I guess. I layed him down sang to him tucked him up and then slowly left the room he cried and I sat in the kitchen physically shaking and crying feeling like I had deprived him of something he needed just as I had decided that I couldnt do it he fell asleep cuddled up with his toy dog he slept till 7am. I honestly didnt expect to find it so hard but I'm proud of myself for BF him for nearly 13 months but it was the right time to stop just hope tonight is easier.
 
Oh Luce that must have broke your heart!!!! You did excellent hun, 13 months wow!!! I think he was upset that his routine was broken. Hero is dealing with that now that she is in her own room. Last night she was up at 3 am till 6 am crying even though after 15 minutes i brought her into bed with me. Little ones love their routine! Lets hope tonight is easier on both Hero and Ben!
 
Popping in - Allie, I'm so sorry to hear about what is going on. I do hope it is temporary and the two of you work things out. :hugs:
 
Oh Allie, I'm so sorry, my heart is breaking for you. I didn't think things were that bad. I hope the distance puts things in perspective for you guys and can help you reach a decision that is best for both of you. We're here for you!!

Lucy, I totally know how you feel. I weaned Maddy at 15 months it was one of the hardest things I've ever done. It's tough for the first few weeks, but eventually you'll find new ways to bond.

Vicky, I still give Maddy the toothpaste that she can swallow some times. I find she doesn't spit it all out and I worry about her swallowing too much floride. The dentist says that's fine and most kids don't switch until they are 6 years old.

Nato....we missed you! You always bring this thread back to life!! I'm so excited you're back on the TTC wagon. I know BDing is hard with a baby...it's pretty much the last thing on your mind!

Not much to report here. Been up since 2am. Mr Bryce had some crazy gas and has been grunting and pooing all night. He finally passed our around 7 am then Maddy woke up at 7:15 am! Starbucks here we come......
 
You are moving out without Alistair? Is that right?

Huge hugs and lots of love x

No Alistair is coming with me. When I said I can't imagine myself without Alistair, I meant I can't imagine ever 'sharing' him. I mean that's the suckiest part of a breakup with children...because I want to be with Alistair every night like a mom should be. And Alistair really prefers me right now. AND I'm still BFing twice a day so I can't really be away from him anyways, for now.

I'm in as much shock at you guys! It all happened last night. I mean, ever since we moved into this cursed house we've been really distant. The dynamic has been off. I keep asking to move and break the lease but Alex doesn't want to. There has been so middle ground on this. I flat out want to move, he flat out doesn't. No one is budging.

This week I've been telling him now that I have a job (20 hours a week research assistanship, but still, it's a paycheck) that I could always instigate a move out anyways and he couldn't 'make' me live here. Yesterday I viewed a new place (Alex new what I was doing) and explained the situation to the new landlord. She was very understanding and told me to bring Alex back today and hopefully he'll come around. She said breaking a lease isn't the end of the world the way Alex seems to think it it.

Last night I said "Look, I like this new place, and it's cleaner and brighter and newer and better than here, I really want US to make this move." And then after talking all night it turned into us having a trial separation with me in the new place!!! It was all his idea last night. He even went through and budgeted how we'd split bills and offered to keep paying my health insurance for now and stuff. He wants to stay in this horrible house. He told me I bring out the worst in him, and he's sick of how I'm never happy with him, and he wants someone more independent and easygoing. I was talking to a friend last night and those are two words that people seem to think I am....so it's weird he thinks I'm not. I mean, yes, I depend on him a lot more than anyone else, but he's my husband.

Sorry for the me me me post and now I have to get ready for school quickly so no time to reply to anyone else yet.
 
:hug: Oh Allie! I wish I could be there to give you real hugs! Maybe you could try couples counciling?
 
Allie, I'm so sorry. I really hope you guys can work things out.
 
I reposted the pic, hope it worked this time! I'm doing it from my phone, trying to figure out how to put up pics lol

Allie I'm so sorry to hear about what you're going through, stay strong and your love will overcome this. Thinking about you xoxo
 
I am so sorry, Allie!:hugs: My heart sunk when I read about the separation. Do you think he was just talking out of anger and didn’t really mean what he said? I didn’t know it had gotten this bad. It almost sounds like you are ok with the separation part but get emotional thinking about what this will do to Alistair. Will you guys continue to work on your relationship (do you want to?) while you are separated? You already have so much going on and then to deal with this on top of everything. We are all here for you and if you want to talk you have my number. hopefully this separation will bring some clarity to your relationship and make it stonger. :hugs:

I’ve always thought of you as easy going and even meeting you in person I thought the same but it’s different when you are in a relationship because they see the best and worst of you. And you are right… he is your husband so you depend on each other more. Marriage is a partnership. I’m the same way… I am usually easy going, independent and emotionally strong but with Tim I let my guard down so he sees the more vulnerable side of me.

Vicky- We were told to start brushing her teeth as soon as they popped through but also cleansing the gum line and teeth with a wash cloth will work. We have organic baby tooth paste that is safe to swallow. I just sit penny on our bathroom counter and brush her two teeth on the bottom. Once I am done I let the little munchkin take control and practice brushing. She loves it and looks so proud of herself!

I hope Hero adjusts to her new routine and starts sleeping well again.

Lucy- haha at the tornado! That is what my house looks like when I come home from work.

I’m sorry you had a rough night. Don’t ever feel like you deprived him of anything …You did such an amazing job BF Ben for 13 months! I hope tonight is a better night for both of you.

Dazed- how are you doing?

Round- It sounds like you also had a rough night. I hope the caffeine helps to jump start your day and maybe you can sneak in a nap with the baby later… not sure how possible that is with Maddy.

Yogi- I can't see the picture but I am at work so sometines images don't come through. i'm sure the line is perfection:thumbup:
 

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