Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Sassy_TTC]

Yeh I agree!x

 

[Allie84]

Hello sleepless ladies and sick babies! :wave: I hope you are all rested and getting better....???

I have a question I'd like a few opinions on...okay, so I am supposed to be flying down to Colorado to see my BFF. We've been best friends for 15 years, moved to Scotland together, etc. I'm flying 1000 miles and spending 4 nights in a hotel just to see her as she's visiting with her hubby from Scotland. I booked the flights and then she told me she can't see tomrorrow because it's the only day she can fit in her grandma (she's there for 3 weeks though). And she can only see me after 12 noon on Weds and Thursday because she doesn't want to leave her husband alone all day. SO, I'm going all this way to spend two afternoons with her!!! I knew she wasn't free Friday when I booked it and i have plans to see a friend from college in Boulder....but I had NO idea she would be so strict about the other days! WTF? AM I just being selfish or is that a bit weird? She's restricting when I can see her to two afternoons, essentially. I'm considering not even going. I haven't book my hotel yet, and I used air miles for the flight....

Anyways, Alistair is still sick too. I wonder if he has croup? He has lost his voice, poor little guy. He has no fever though and is acting fine. I hope all of the other sick babies are feeling better or feel better soon.

Thank you for the fitness tips!! I am getting a new phone soon and then I will do myfitness pal. RIght now I'm supposedly doing Weight Watchers but I cannot get into it. I'm paying the monthly fee for basically nothing.

 

[msarkozi]

I like that Allie "supposedly doing weight watchers" it took me over a year before I finally got serious about it, so don't worry about it.....

That is quite the distance to be flying to see your friend. Since you have to fly all that way, she should be a little more accomodating to you as well. At least that's how I feel. And if you want to cancel, just say you can't make it anymore because Alistair is sick.....having a baby allows you to use them as an excuse to get out of things

 

[LucyJ]

My poorly baby seems a lot better apart from the night terrors have started again he seems to get them in clusters and then will have weeks without any hes had one every night since thurs the last ones he has where in aug when we were away 9 times out of 10 he ends up in bed with us for an hr or two. His silly tooth still has broken through but he seems to be over his jabs which is great news.

I was never brave enough to let Benjamin sleep on his tummy at night from about 4 months he would sleep on his tummy at nap time but only if he was with me if I put him for a nap in his cot I put him on his back. Once he was able to roll he started sleeping on his tummy and now he seems to sleep in every possible position during the night.

Allie it does seem a bit weird to be honest I dont get why her hubby can join you both for a little bit then go off. It seems your make a huge effort to travel to see her. If it was me I'd be a bit upset about it could you talk to her and explain how you feel maybe she just hasnt realised how little time she'll see you I hope you can work it out. hope Alistair feel better soon.

Good luck with the fitness mine hasnt had a set back didnt make it to my ballet class today as I've done something to my knee think I twisted over the weekend not sure how and can hardly walk its so painful have spent a lot of today having to keep it iced and elevated so I havent done much with Benjamin poor thing although we did go to sing & sign it hurt walking and getting the bus but was worth it as he loved it made up for me not being able to do much, he's been as good as gold.

 

[jenny25]

Sorry been Mia I've hit a brick wall with bf lack of sleep and my lovely husband who likes too only change one or two nappies a day and give Kieran one expressed bottle a day :-/ I don't even have time to wipe my own bum since him and aarron like to live in a shit tip when I clean up and it's like a tornado min later oh the joy he has been so selfish it's our wedding anniversary next Monday and all he can think about is buying bloody computer games when we may have too use the money for Kieran as he has tongue tie too which has killed my boobs so I may have too use the money to get it fixed then inhale my mil nagging for me too leave Kieran with her I ain't ready sorry just a exhausted update xxx

 

[heart tree]

Allie I think it would have been fine if your friend told you ahead of time what her plans were. But the way she did it sounds selfish to me. Sounds to me like she told her hubby that she was planning on spending time with you and he got upset about being left alone. She probably felt stuck in the middle so thought this was a good compromise. But clearly it isn't. I wouldn't go if I were you. Unless you know other people there. Were you planning on taking Alistair? It doesn't sound like a whole lot of fun to be stuck in a hotel room with a sick baby.

Lucy, what do the night terrors look like? Poor baby! Poor you too! It sounds exhausting. How did you hurt your knee? Do you think it was from ballet?

Jen, you sounds exhausted and fed up. I'm so sorry Paul isn't helping more. I don't feel like it is balanced in my household either, but not to that extent. Have you told Paul he needs to help more? It's ridiculous how little he is supporting you right now!

Mel, did I mention earlier that your hair is GORGEOUS! You really look amazing!

I seem to have turned a corner with BFing. Delilah has learned to latch without the nipple shield and she is gaining weight. We are still doing some bottles, but not as many. I bought a scale and have been weighing her before and after feeds and she is definitely getting enough. I'm thrilled! Things are slowly getting easier, though I still struggle with being able to put her down due to her horrible reflux. We have her on a stronger medicine right now.

Vicky, the problem I have is that I can't rest when she rests, because she rests on me! It's really challenging. I can't even get housework done.

I still love her to pieces. Here are a few pics I took today and posted on FB. I finally got one of her smiling. She smiles at me all the time now!

 

[msarkozi]

she is gorgeous hearty

have you tried a sling or front carrier at all? I tried one with Kash and found I was able to accomplish house work that way. I only did use it a couple of times though and then said the heck with it lol! There was a lot of times I didn't sleep when Kash did, but I think I would usually have at least one nap with him a day. As time goes on, you find a way.

I am heading out on the helicopter tomorrow to BC for work....unfortunately I have to spend the whole day out in the middle of nowhere, but at least it is a day out of the office. I have to go train them on how to do things properly so I can stop fixing it all the time...should be interesting

 

[heart tree]

Yup, I use a ring sling in the house, an Ergo carrier for walking and I used to use a Moby wrap. I love my carriers and so does she. But I still can't lie down when she is strapped to me. I'm ready for the reflux to resolve itself!

Sounds like an exciting day! I've never been in a helicopter. I'm not sure I would enjoy it as I hate flying. Massive phobia!

 

[Allie84]

Thanks girls.

I talked to my friend on the phone and she explained some stuff...her grandpa died right when she landed in Colorado (which I knew) but she has been spending the whole week at funeral, wake, watching her family mourn, etc. She told me really wants me to come but she feels torn about leaving her hubby in lurch after the first week of his vacation was a funeral and all the stuff involved in that.

So, I think I'm going to go, but YES, like you, Hearty, massive flying phobia!! I think I always look for reasons to cancel my trips. I've done it VERY often. I can think of three trips I cancelled last minute for random reasons that were really my fear of flying. And yet, Alistair has been on 12 flights in his 10 months so I must not be that afraid?!? Or else I like torturing myself.

But as tomorrow's flight is sans hubby I feel particularly vulnerable to plane crashes. As though Alex normally proctects me? I have no idea lol.

Hearty she is soooooooooooooo beautiful! Her smile just makes me grin and grin! I love her! WHat a beauty.

Mel, holy crap, how long a helicopter ride is it? Have fun!!

Lucy, poor Ben with the night terrors! Poor baby.

Jenny, you've got a lot on at the moment, Sorry Paul isn't being very helpful. I take it you've told him how you feel but he's still being a bit clueless?

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Amanda- I'm so glad to hear things are getting easier, we told you they would right! Zac's reflux is still AWFUL avd he's 4 months Friday, it's makes everything so much harder ay!!

Mel - have fun on the helicopter! Is be too scared to fly in one, my fear of flying is huge!

Jenny - sorry to hear things are so hard, i hope Paul pulls his finger out soon.

Lucy - glad to hear Benjamin is feeling a tad better, sick babies are no fun!

Afm: life is pretty hectic, we move in less than 2 weeks (back to the in-laws for 1 month) we're going away for 4 days right before we're due to live, talk about bad timing! I've packed a lot already but there's still so much to do!!

My 2 babies are very poorly, originally I thought it was just a cold but they're both getting worse and poppy has now lost her voice! Taking them drs today!

I've lost all my baby weight now aiming to lose a further 7lbs though!

Zac's turning into a lovely calm baby, he goes to bed at 19:15 avd wakes just once per night at around 4-5! His reflux is so bad that we're debating weather to wean him early!! Pops is doing amazing, she talks so much now, her latest is go away and stop it also wake up grandad (he's always snoozing)!

Hi to everyone else,

Yogi : how you feeling??

NATO: what cd you on??

 

[jenny25]

I've told him time and time again but not working he has seen me break down he had the lovely honour of telling his mother oh I think she has postnatal depression well no shit since you rip the piss out of me I've given up he keep trying too suggest sex but it's the last thing on my mind plus I'm not even 4 weeks pp yet xxx

 

[hoping:)]

Allie- I’m glad you spoke to your friend and figured it out. I still don’t get why she can’t hang out with your AND her husband. I had to laugh about you torturing yourself because you are always traveling… I thought the same. I’m excited you are still coming! Are you still free today? I get off work at 4pm so maybe we can meet up for dinner?

Lucy- I didn’t know they could get night terrors this young… it sounds terrible. I hope your knee gets better so you can get back to your ballet

Jen- sounds like you are under a lot of stress. You really need Paul to step up and take on some of the responsibility. He seems pretty demanding and not willing to do his share. Is your mom still with you?

Amanda- I replied to you in the MARL thread. I just love seeing pics of Delilah’s sweet face. Are you not able to relax with her napping on you because you have to be in an upright position due to the reflux? I saw this thing called a nap nanny at Babies R Us that keeps them in an upright position and looks soooo comfy… maybe you can try one of those?

Mel- a helicopter ride sounds like fun! What do you do for work? It sounds very interesting

Sassy- I’m sorry to hear your kiddos are also sick. You do have a lot on your plate right now. Where are you going for 4 days? I hope it is somewhere relaxing! Congrats on losing all of your baby weight!!! Your kids sound like they are doing amazing aside from their colds. I love the stage when you can actually have conversations with them… I’m sure the things that come out of her mouth keep you guys laughing.

AFM- We had a wonderful weekend taking Penny to pick apples at the happy tree farm. Apples are her all time favorite food so she looked delighted yanking off apples form the trees and happily sampling them. We also did a Gymboree class and Penny had her 1st case of puppy love. She met a little boy named Asher who was quite smitten with her. They would sneak off together to play with a red ball and her would just stare at her. The teacher kept telling them to stop flirting.
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[Allie84]

Amber, yes, lets do dinner! can you text me your number again? im at the airport now...pretty sure i saved it but just in case

 

[hoping:)]

Allie- I am picking up a new phone after work so I don't have access to one at the moment... mine drowned in my purse due to a leaky water bottle I can get on Bnb and Facebook at the moment so just message me there and let me know where/when you would like to meet up We can't wait to see you guys!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Amber those photos are adorable, hang on where did they go??

We're just off to centreparcs for 4 days with the in-laws and sil! Should be quite relaxing as we'll have lots of help with the bubs!

We've just had some rubbish news, a) the vendor of the house were buying wants to delay exchanging until new year

10 minutes later we get a phone call to say we need 6k extra as the bank will not lend us what was originally promised

 

[jenny25]

No mum went home last thus
On a brighter note the gp and a consultant had a telephone call in regards too Kieran's tongue tie they both agreed that he was to get referred too great ormomd street hospital for a urgent appointment thank god so just gotta wait x

 

[LucyJ]

Lucy, what do the night terrors look like? Poor baby! Poor you too! It sounds exhausting. How did you hurt your knee? Do you think it was from ballet?

Knees a lot better today no wasnt from the ballet it went at the weekend dont know how think I may have slept on is awkardly icing it yesterday seemed to really help.

When he has a night terror his cry is totally different to any other cry really distressed he trashes around sometimes his eyes are open but hes mot awake more often thant not he opens and closes them since hes been able to roll and move around he crawls all over his cot. They are very scary although now I know what they are and how to cope with them its not as bad. I think hes been having them since he was about 4 months old I just didnt realise what they were it was only when I was talking to a HV about it as when he was about 10 months old that I found out, like hoping I thought he was to young to have them. Before he was moving he would thrash around, cry and seem really distressed.

Amanda love the pics of Delilah shes beautiful.

Hoping I love the pictures of penny shes gorgeous and looks like she had a lot of fun picking apples. I didnt know either I thought he was to young so was quite shocked when she said thats what they were, I'm used to them now so there not as scary but they are horrid.

Allie Im sorry about your friends grandpa Im pleased you've spoken to her & hope you have a great time. Have fun with hoping and penny I think thats great you are meeting up again.

Jen Im sorry about paul hope he starts helping you. Thats great news about kierans tongue tie hope you get an appointment quickly.

Sassy poorly babies arent fun its heartbraking seeing them ill. How are poppy & zac now? Hope they feel better soon. I'm so sorry about the house what a nightmare for you, do you know why the vendors want to delay that sounds like a long wait. Thats crap about the bank could you go to another bank see if they'd lend what you need. Centre parcs sounds fun.

Mel hope you enjoy your helicopter flight, I love flying steve and I did a helicopter flight when we were in New York around the statue of liberty which was amazing.

 

[Allie84]

Hi girls,

Oh, man, Sassy, I'm so sorry! That really SUCKS. What now?

Jenny, hope you get an appt asap.

Lucy, the night terrors really do sound awful.

I had a wonderful time with Amber/hoping this evening! The babies were so adorable and had changed from July in the way they interacted with eachother and what little bundles of energy they were. They loved watching the flaming cheese! Towards the end of the meal Amber and I must have been chattering too much becausse Penny and Alistair got sleepy let us know it was time to go home lol. But all in all they were fantastic babies as always. I'm glad Amber was there for me when I was going to have a very lonely evening.

My friend is still managing to piss me off, now she's going hiking with her hubby tomorrow and is pushing back our meeting even later, and and THEN she's having us to go to family gathering in the eveing, so we'll be lucky if we get a few hours together tomorrow. I'm going to have to make the most of this as I'm here but seriously.

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Allie your friend is dam right rude, you've gone all that way with a baby in tow and she's making no effort to see you!! Grrrr makes me angry for you! Try make the most of your trip. So glad amber was there to spend the evening with you!

Well looks like we'll be living with the in-laws for a lot longer than originally planned! Totally sucks! The vendor wants to push back because he'll be working away in nov and dec and we won't have time to complete before that!!

 

[Round2]

OMG, those Disco Babies are adorable!! Allie, I saw the pics on FB - Allister and Penny are precious. Heartly and Hoping, such beautiful little girls.

Jenny, sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. It's tough, even the second time around. It will get easier though (or so I am told!).

Sassy, sorry you have live with the in-laws for awhile. Maybe it will make things easier on you to have a few extra hands. I'd LOVE to move in with my in-laws for a few months right now. We did it two summers ago and I loved it, my in-laws are awesome though.

Lucy, Maddy had night terrors too. They used to freak me out. It was almost like she was unaware that I was in the room trying to calm her down. It would take forever to get her back to sleep. Luckily she grew out of them pretty quickly, hopefully Ben does too.

Mel, I live in Ottawa but am orginally from near Toronto. You are northern Alberta, right? I drove through there once on my way to the Yukon, it's beautiful there.

Allie, sorry your friend is being so insenstive. I hope you guys get some quality time together.

AFM, Bryce has a cold so I've been up ALL night. It's so hard to BF him as his nose is completely clogged. I feel so bad for him, he keeps looking at me with this sad look on his face. He's asleep right now, but Maddy woke up at 6 am and now I need to get her ready for school. Hopefully Bryce stays asleep and I can go back down too.