Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[msarkozi]

Gibbs

Benjamin will probably respond to the meds quickly and start feeling much better really soon. I hope you have fun at your bonfire tomorrow night.

 

[vickyd]

Mel please tell me your potty training secrets!!!! Hero hates the potty and will just do her stuff on the floor right next to the potty!!! Maybe i need to get a "fun " looking potty?

Lucy I know the guidelines in each country are different, but here when Hero had a very sore throat the doc told us to give her camomile tea with a tea sppon of honey. Both camomile and honey have antiseptic properties and are given for throat infections. Maybe you can ask your doc about this? I have read on UK sites that you arent supposed to give honey to under 1 year olds.

Hearty poor Delilah! I hate the runs and a sore bum makes me cry lol!!! We were told to give the formula more diluted and when we had a severe case of gastroenteritis they gave us a special formula. Obviously this isnt much help for you since youre breastfeeding... Its good that she is having wet diapers, thats what they always tell you to look out for in such cases. Good like with the flying! Hero is a very bad traveller, she can take about 20 minutes in the car before she has a meltdown so im not even considering taking her on a plane!

AFM we got a lucky break financially, Alex managed to get a surprise 2000 euros frm a seminar he pitched and got a few participants! However the day after he got paid the car broke down and along with the new tires all of the money is going to the car, which i have now dubbed "the money pit"!!! Im also getting another assistant which is a huge releif as i literally have no time to even pee at work. Im getting a guy this time, my other assistant is trying for a baby and im worried she will be on maternity leave soon and ill be fucked. need a guy just in case i also decide to try for number 2 lol!!

 

[msarkozi]

you should definitely try for number 2 Vick

I am really not sure what the secret is. I think Kash might be easy to train?! His potty is nothing special either. I just ask him if he wants to use the potty all the time, and I last week I started pushing it more then I ever have. I would have to go pee myself, so I would take off his pants and diaper, and get him to sit on his potty, and then once he heard me pee, he started to pee. Then he is obsessed with wiping. When he is done, I add water to it and put it in the toilet and allow him to flush the toilet. Then he gets up on his stool and we wash our hands.

I just keep asking him all the time if he wants to go pee, and I think him hearing me go helps as well. But of course I don't want him to think he only uses the potty when I do, so I try and put him on there other times as well.

Unfortunately last night I was getting him ready for his bath and he wouldn't get up from laying on his towel. And I was asking him if he wanted to go potty, and he laid there and peed on his towel, just smiling at me!!! lol!

 

[hoping:)]

Vgibs

Lucy- Poor little guy I hope he keeps hydrated and kicks this thing soon

Amanda- so sorry D is sick too It just breaks your heart to see them like this especially when they are still so little. Allie gave you some great advice regarding flying

Mel- I'm glad potty training is going well for you besides last night's incident

Vicky- I'm excited for # 2! That sucks royaly about your car!

AFM- Penny Pumpkin Palooza pics in my journal

 

[heart tree]

Virginia I'm so sorry to hear your news. But will remain hopeful for you!

Lucy is Benjamin feeling any better today? How are you feeling?

Vicky, that sucks about the money pit. But super awesome about getting a guy assistant! I can't believe you are even talking about #2! How are you not absolutely exhausted? In the US we aren't supposed to give honey until 1 year old either. So strange how every country has different guidelines.

Mel, I love the potty stories with Kash. So cute that he pees when he hears you pee. It's smart to have him on there at other times too. My mother started a bad trend with my brother when he was little. She would play the piano while he pooped on the potty. It became a necessity for him for a long time to poop while she played. I vividly remember him begging her to stop what she was doing to play the piano so he could poop.

Allie, thanks for the great advice! I've been googling too and you said a lot of things I've read. But one question. They make you carry the stroller down the gangplank (or whatever that tunnel thing is called)? That's going to be a bitch if I have to carry the baby, a carry on and a stroller. How do you get through security with the stroller? Mine is kind of big. Don't think I'm taking the car seat as we have one waiting for us at each of our destinations. Plus, her reflux acts up in the car seat, so I'd rather just hold her and nurse her. Logistically, did you find nursing to be difficult with a stranger next to you? Did you sit in a window seat? How did you entertain him on the long flights? I'm worried as the flight from Florida to California is long and she doesn't like to be stationary. I did book seats above the wings though, so hopefully she'll sleep a lot. She's a champion napper...especially on me! How are you?

Amber, I'm off to look at pics now.

 

[msarkozi]

I was curling tonight, and when I got home, I was told that Kash had taken off his pants and grabbed Ashley and got her to take him potty!! I was so proud when I heard that! I was also amazed because I didn't realize he knew how to take his pants off lol! He has been doing great on the potty, and I am so excited that we are on our way to being trained.

Thanks Hearty, I am scared of that happening and so I don't want it to be a habit for sure.

Need to go check out pictures

 

[Sparkly]

Hugs Ginny xxxx

 

[vickyd]

Hearty hold your horses we arent trying yet lol!! We are discussing it! I just wanna be prepared in case we do want to!

 

[msarkozi]

oh Vicky, you want to join the crazies and have another I really miss the baby stage, and every time I was seeing or holding a baby, I missed it so much. I am hoping once you get into a routine, it won't be so bad......please tell me that's right lol!

 

[Allie84]

Ginny

Hearty, yes, they make you carry the stroller all the way down the gangplank. I've had people offer to help me sometimes. Other times, I just push it down the gangplank with Alistair still in it and then collapse it down there at the door to the plane. I just stand off to the side. When you get off the plane, you may have to stand there and wait for them to bring it up to you, or it may already be there. If your airlines offers early seating for travelers with small children, you'll get plenty of time to sort yourself down at the door of the plane. As for nursing, I always sat the aisle and gave people a lot of side boob LOL. I mean, I didn't try to...I would be as discreet as possible but I have DD breasts so even when I cover up as much as possible some boob is on display. Everyone was always really kind not to stare at me too much (although I did catch a few men staring at me nursing on different flights. Women are different...if they catch your eye, they usually just smile). To keep Alistair entertained, I usually tried to keep her asleep! As Alistair has gotten older, I've packed more toys and given him puffs and different snacks to eat. He's always been really easy to fly with. I actually think the difficult flying stage is yet to come!!!

Vicky, yay for getting an assistant! Sorry about the car.

Mel, Kash is so amazing! How cool that he's getting potty trained so young. I love it. I love that you go curling. It sounds very Canadian. I think it originated in Scotland, though?

 

[msarkozi]

I think you are right about that Allie. It is definitely more common in Canada then it is the US. I curl in two leagues, so I curl every Tuesday and Friday night. It's nice to get out of the house, but I always hate when I miss saying goodnight to my little guy.

 

[VGibs]

HURRRRRRYYYYYYYY, HARDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDD! *Canada lingo for ladies who curl!*

 

[heart tree]

Allie thanks for the traveling advice! I really appreciate it.

I've only seen curling on the Olympics. It looks like fun though. How are you feeling Mel?

Vicky, the fact that you are even talking about #2 is crazy!

Lucy, I saw on FB that you have tonselitis. Oh no! And that you dropped your sausages on the floor. What a bad day!

AFM, girls, I'm struggling big time. Tim had shoulder surgery on Wednesday and now can't help at all. I'm really pissed off about it. He dislocated it 25 years ago and it has gotten worse over the years. This summer it got really bad. So, he decided to get surgery on it before the baby got really big. I wish he had gotten it when I was pregnant though. Or waited a bit longer. He wanted to get it done this year so that insurance would pay for the whole thing. I understand that, but I kept telling him that if he got it, I needed more help. He kept saying we would figure it out. Well guess what? It hasn't been figured out. I had to drive him to the doctor's and he got really mad because the doctor told him he had to keep his arm in a sling for 4 weeks and then have physical therapy for a few weeks after that. He thought he'd be healed in a week or so. I knew he wouldn't be. I'm mad because he didn't ask the doctor important questions like how long would he have to wear the sling. Now I have to do all of the shopping, driving, laundry, meal prep as well as take care of the baby full time. To make matters worse, she has had diarrhea for 13 days now. She is constantly pooping which means I'm constantly changing diapers and doing even more laundry. At night I used to change her on my bed if she had a really wet diaper. Otherwise I'd just leave it. Now, there is ALWAYS a poop in her diaper in the middle of the night. So I have to get out of bed and change her. Last night it soaked through and I had to change her whole outfit. The second time I got up to change her, she pooped right after I changed her, so I had to change her again. Then it happened a third time! I'm usually up with her nursing and changing poop for at least an hour each time. I can't get a break at all. We don't have many friends or family around to help. I'm a mess and I'm mad. The baby isn't dehydrated thank god. She's doing fine otherwise. The doctor thinks it is a virus that will take some time to clear her system. I begged Tim not to do this surgery right now, but he did. I understand why he wanted to do it, but I'm struggling so much right now I want to run away. And then he tries to grope me and gets annoyed when I push him away. He says that he has needs too. I keep wondering when my needs come first? I'm lucky if I'm brushing my teeth before noon or drinking a glass of water before 4pm. Nevermind getting any sleep.

I told him I need to buy some clothes as my stuff isn't quite fitting yet. So he called his cousin today and asked her if she could come over for an hour so I could go shopping. I told him there was no way I could go clothes shopping in an hour. Driving alone would take 30 minutes. Not to mention I'm so tired today. His response was "well, do what you want. I just wanted to get you some help." Doesn't he realize that's not helpful? GRRRR.

 

[Allie84]

Hi Hearty,

Coud he go shopping with you and entertain Delilah while you were in the fitting rooms or something? I actually prefer taking Alistair clothes shopping, alone, though, and he's usually fine to watch me in his stroller, especially if I put him in front of a mirror. However, I understand shoping isn't the real issue here!

It's really too bad that the surgery happened when it did...but at least this way, it's over and done with and will suck for a month but when Tim's recovered, you won't have it hanging over your head anymore. You will know it's done and dusted. The next month WILL be hard with no help, though! Can you perhaps hire temporary help with the housework or cooking? I know there's nothing that can be done in the middle of the night...and believe me, there were plenty of nights I'd be up breastfeeing Alistair and listening to Alex snore and feeling annoyed! Alex never had to do the middle of the night thing because by the time I stopped BFing Alistair slept through the night. Anyways, if you do end up getting more help, I'd make sure Tim is the one to organize it. Is there anything he can do with one arm that he can help with? Feeding Delilah a bottle, holding her and rocking her to sleep, etc?

I'm so sorry about her diarrhea. So you stopped the fenugreek and it's still going on? That's quite a virus. I'm happy she's not dehydrated...I wish there were something you could do to firm up her poops! I found Alistair's poops were always runny (breast milk poops) until he started eating solids. But at least the breast milk poop doesn't stink! What kind of diapers are you using? Have you tried night diapers to avoid leaks in the middle of the night?

Anyways, sorry I'm not more helpful with the advice. It sounds like you're doing everything you can. Hang in there....it will pass. Everything with a baby is a stage, and blink and it's over; at least that's how I felt. I know Tims' surgery isn't technically a 'stage' but I guess you could look at it that way.

 

[Round2]

I agree Hearty, see if you can hire some help. I know you guys are saving for a house, but you are just going to be fustrated and bitter at Tim if you don't get someone to help you.

It really is bad timing and I can see why you are so angry. He really should have done the surgery earlier or waited till you had some help lined up.

Honestly, men are just so clueless when it comes to this stuff. I consider my self very lucky when it comes to my hubby. He was a single father to a 2 year old when we first started dating. He knew first hand how hard it was to take care of a young child. Despite this, he's still makes bonehead decisions.

Sorry about the poo issues. We went through that a few weeks ago, but it seemed to pass in about two weeks or so. Glad it's not bothering her too much.

Well gotta run. Baby is crying. House is upsided down and hubby is watching football!!

 

[LucyJ]

Yeah I've got tonsillitis thought I'd escaped it but came down with it on thursday and dropping my sausages really upset me they were cooked perfectly ;-( ha ha oh well. Benjamin is back to his normal happy but mischevious self. He's cut another two teeth so he has 10 now. I posted a video of him on fb.

Oh hun what a hard situation so sorry you've got so much on your plate it sounds like Tim really hasnt thought having the surgery through which must be so frustrating for you. Id be angry too especially when you've got a poorly little one to look after, I hope delilah is better soon. I was going to say the same as the girls could you get some one in to help with the laundry and shopping maybe the cooking so you can concentrate on delilah and you as you do need down time too something I think sometimes men dont always get. Steve used to frustrate me so much when he'd wake up and announce how tired he was when Id been up every 2 hrs feeding benjamin had him sleeping on me.

 

[vickyd]

Hearty if i was in your shoes id get Tim to fly my mom out for a couple of weeks. In times like the ones you decribe only your mother could help. Seriously, think about it!
Men are pretty useless, they somehow always put their needs above everyone else. Then they want to get laid on top of it. Yeah right, cause they give us so many reasons to feel sexy...
I have been really tired all month, so much work and a very demanding todler to take care of. I really wanted a few hours this weekend to catch up on some rest but Alex arranged to go watch a football game on Sunday which meant he left at 6pm and came back at 11. I was asleep on the sofa when he came back and he started to feel me up!!! He was upset that i pushed his hand away and went to bed...Whats up with that???

 

[Dazed]

Amanda - I'm sorry things are so hard for you right now. I agree about seeing if you can't fly your mom out to help you.



Well, its been a long time coming...

Spoiler

After almost 3yrs, I got my BFP!

First test is yesterday's First Response Rapid Result and the second test is a FRER.



Please don't mention this on Facebook. I don't plan to tell anyone until around Christmas.

 

[Round2]

DAZED!!!!!!!! Yay...congrats! You are right, a very long time coming. So happy for you.

 

[vickyd]

DAZED YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!! Im so frickin happy for you!!!!!!