Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Allie84]

Alistair has pink eye and I think I do, too!!

I was a school working this morning and I got the call from daycare. I couldn't leave right away so he went to the doctor and then home with Alex. I'm sitting here waiting to see the doctor now. My eye is all itchy and red...no gunk, though.

Mel, sorry you guys have it as well! Your bake exchange sounds so yummy though.


Amber, yes, I'm thinking of suggesting to Alex we go to California. Maybe I can have a better visit with my sister (and see Hearty). I really had my heart set on Scotland, but I understand that radiation isn't the best time to take over someone's home...

 

[msarkozi]

oh no Allie! How did you make out at the doctor's? Hope it clears up quickly for you guys as well!

 

[Round2]

Phew, finally have a free minute to post! I've been lurking, but have had no time to post!!

Mel and Allie, sorry about the pink eye. Is it gone yet? Hope so, I've always used that polysporin eye cream and it worked pretty well. It worked better than the drops as it didn't run all over the place.

Mel, how did the cookie exchange go? I did it with 4 others and I thought that was alot of work! You're a crazy woman!!

Allie, when are you thinking of going to California? I'll be there in June for a wedding. I think it will be San Diego, but we haven't heard for sure. Sorry to hear about your FIL.

Dazed, still so heartbroken for you. I hope the pain eases soon.

Lucy, congrats to Ben on his first steps. Such a milestone!

Good luck to Raz and Sparkly. Can't wait for your x-mas BFP's!!

Hoping, I still haven't responded about you being a surrogate. What an amazing thing you are doing. I'm envious, I'd love to be able to give someone the gift of a child. Think I'm likely not a very good candidate. Have you gotten any further in the process yet?

Hearty, sorry to hear things are still rough at home. I know how hard it is when you don't have any help. Hopefully Tim heals up soon and can lend a hand.

AFM, things have been crazy busy. We have 25 people coming for Christmas this year so I've been getting the house ready and cooking/freezing in preperation. On top of that, Bryce has been a crazy man lately. For the past two weeks or so he's be waking every 1-2 hours at night and not naping at all durring the day. We've tried everything to get him to sleep. Formula, crying, holding, rocking, music, walking etc..etc...etc. It's been a very long few weeks to say the least. I know it will pass, but just wish I could figure out why he is so unhappy. Other than that, I'm still loving every moment of my time with him. Can't believe he's almost 6 months old. My maternity leave is almost half over!!

 

[msarkozi]

25 people?! oh my! I hope it all goes well for you. Since Bryce is at that 6 month stage, I would say growth spurt, or even teething. Have you tried solids with him yet? You could always try giving him some cereal before bed and see if that helps too.

The cookie exchange was good. There wasn't too many items with coconut, so that made me happy lol! We have polished off half of it already lol!

Well my eyes are starting to get better, finally! I ended up going into the clinic Friday afternoon as the polytrim drops were burning my eyes. So they thought it was actually burnt from the vinegar I was boling the one evening, and they gave me erythimiacin (sp?) instead to use. They said either way it will work as it was an antibiotic. So I followed up with the doctor yesterday at my appointment, and he ran a trace on my eyes, and they were both infected. He said that prescription I had wasn't working either and gave me something else. It seems to be helping, but my eyes are still tired and sore, and my one eye seems like it has lost a little bit of vision. Once it heals, it might be ok though.

So I had my first prenatal appointment yesterday, and he was able to find baby's heartbeat....160 bpm! Kash got to hear it as well. The doctor told him it was his first chance to hear his competition lol! Kash smiled though. The doctor got him up on the stool so he could stand by me, and he was just happy. It was cute to see.

 

[Allie84]

Awwww Mel, that's so sweet!!! I love picturing that. That's awesome they found baby's heartbeat so easily! Sorry about your eye!!

I guess I didn't end up with pink eye because I forgot to ask the doctor about it and my eye has been fine since. Thank goodness as it doesn't sound fun.

Hi Round! Wow ,you have your hands full! It sounds fun though. Hmmm not sure what suggest about Bryce. I like Mel's suggestion that maybe he's ready for some cereal to fill his tummy? Does he have gas? Have you tried elevating the head of his crib a bit with a book under the mattress or something?

 

[hoping:)]

Allie- I saw you FB post… Alistair still seems like a happy little boy even with uncomfortable pink eye! I hope it is clearing up. California sounds like a good idea!

Mel- Happy 9 weeks! Is this pregnancy still treating you well? I love that Kash got to hear his competition. So cute that he was smiling! I hope your eye heals soon!

Round- so far I’ve started BCPs to regulate my cycle and then I need to do my blood tests. After that I will be matched. You are very ambitious and brave taking on 25 Christmas guests! It sounds like you are on top of everything so I’m sure it will turn out fantastic. I hope Bryce comes out of the fussy stage soon.

AFM- I’m back to work after my long weekend with my special little lady. We had lots of fun but we both missed Tim terribly. The 1st night we came home to little notes all over the house from him. The last notes I found had me in tears. He put “sweet dreams” on my pillow and “goodnight, baby” in Penny’s crib on her favorite stuffed animal. That night I brought her to bed with me and in the middle of the night I found her looking for Tim and saying “Dad? Dad? Dad?” Every morning Penny and I would be naughty and eat waffles and yogurt in bed and then we would spend the day out and about. The 1st day we painted a mug for her daddy and she proceeded to stick the whole paint brush in her mouth and came home with a nontoxic paint mustache! Saturday we had a lovely day at the art museum and lunch with her GG (great grandma.) Sunday I took her swimming and we had a play date/dinner with some good friends. That night Tim surprised us and came home early! We were so very happy to have him back. Yesterday Tim and I took Penny swimming again and had a blast. She surprised me with how fearless she is in the water. She likes to lay on her back and kick her little feet or do her own version of the front crawl. Every so often she would try to push me away so she could “swim” on her own. I definitely want to get her in to swim lessons.

 

[msarkozi]

awe that is so sweet!! Tim sounds like such a great guy! sounds like you had a wonderful weekend

yes, so far the pregnancy is treating me very well. It's hard to believe after having the rough one. Maybe the baby will make up for it later in the pregnancy lol!

 

[Sassy_TTC]

Hoping reading about you and your hubby makes me smile, you sound so in love and the way you talk about him is the cutest. I've not heard of many people that happy but I'm so pleased for you.xx

 

[hoping:)]

Thanks girls! I really am quite lucky and he makes loving him fun and he is still full of surprises. of course we have our ups and downs like anyone but no matter what we try not to take each other for granted and make sure the other feels loved and appreciated.

Mel- you are due an easy going one after all you went through for Kash. I hope my surrogacy pregnancy is smooth sailing since I had a rocky, worrisome road with Penny

Sassy- How are Poppy and Zac?

 

[msarkozi]

I hope so for you too hoping Everyone deserves to have an easy one after all the troubles we have been through!

 

[heart tree]

Hi girls. Catching up as the baby naps on me. Let's see what I can remember.

Lucy, that storm sounded scary! What an ordeal! How are you feeling? Is Ben walking more now?

Mel, I want cookies! Congrats on finding the hb so early. I still can't believe you are preggo again!

Amber, you and Tim have such a lovely relationship. You seem like such an upbeat person. I love your spirit.

Allie, are you coming to CA? I hope so!!! Keep me posted. I'll be out of town from 12/20 - 1/9. I want to meet you guys!

Round, I was thinking he might be teething also. It's so hard when they don't sleep. I can't imagine hosting Christmas with that many people and two kids.

Dazed how are you holding up? My HSG was perfect too. It's possible my adenomyosis causes the ectopic but no one will ever know. I'm thinking of you.

Hi Nato! Miss you!

Vicky how are things in Greece these days? Hero is getting so big! Love the FB pics.

Thanks for all the bath advice. I think I may be able to borrow a baby bath in Kansas City. My mom is looking for one to borrow in Florida.

When did you all start solids? I'm thinking of starting when we return. She'll be a few weeks shy of 7 months. She only takes 30 minute naps and is fussy all day. She only stays awake for 1.5 - 2 hours before needing another nap. She takes About 4 naps a day. She seems constantly tired. I don't know how to get her to nap longer. I'm hoping solids will help. She also wakes at night. Last night she slept from 7:45 - 1:45. Then she was up every 2 hours after that. It's driving me mad. I'm not sure if it's reflux, teething, gas. But she's generally not happy unless I'm holding her and walking around. I can't wait for vacation so other people can hold her!

 

[heart tree]

I posted a video in another thread when she was having a great day. Super cute laughin if you want to have a peek.

https://babyandbump.momtastic.com/p...losses-marl-come-join-us-43.html#post23537737

 

[Dazed]

I'm ok Amanda. I've been updating my journal mostly since this is more a mums/moms thread. I stalk daily and cheer you all on. I'm going to do a proper update in my journal about the whole ordeal because it seems I didn't follow the typical ectopic from what I can gather. I have a buddy that is in her early stages and they want to rule out ectopic (which I don't think it is), but I don't want to freak her out in any way because I seem to be the odd one out.

I hate to say it, but I think you LO is teething. Sounds a lot like what my nephew (?) went through. See if she wants to chew on a frozen washcloth.

 

[hoping:)]

Amanda- I think I relpied to you in the other thread regarding starting solids. I hope Delillah's fussiness is just a stage. I think you mentioned that she was STTN before so Daze could be right about the teething. Once we moved Penny to solids she started sleeping longer stretches.

I hope you have an awesome vacation. Whenever we go on vacation to see family Penny never touches the ground because all everyone wants to do is hold her!

Dazed- it is so good to hear from you. I hope you are coping ok

I hope everyone is well!

 

[heart tree]

Dazed I read your journal too. I have to pick and choose what threads I can respond to each day as I don't have time for all of them. You had some typical ectopic symptoms, like bleeding and cramping. But the betas weren't typical. I think I know who you are talking about in the early stages. I was looking at her journal the other day. I hope it's not ectopic. Ectopics can bite me.

Stupid question but when do the teeth pop through during the teething phase? Can she be teething for months before we actually see teeth? I keep looking at her guns and don't see any signs of redness or lumps. But she is drooling a lot and gnawing on everything. I let her chomp on my finger constantly.

 

[Dazed]

Oh, I'm not fussing about you not reading my journal... just a simple explination

 

[heart tree]

I know hon. I didn't take it as fussing. Also, I COMPLETELY understand not being active as much on this thread. It did turn into a moms thread, which is why I had to stay away for so long. It's hard watching everyone else have babies, even when you are rooting for them.

 

[Allie84]

I think some people get confused about this thread and I think that's why it's quiet. I know Nato is careful about posting about anything other than TTC in here because she sees it as a TTC thread and wants to respect that (from what I remember her saying) and then Dazed sees it as a mom/mum thread and doesn't want to post about TTC. I can see where it could get confusing. I wonder if we could just have this thread moved to a different groups section? Or what happens to threads 2.5 years after they start. I want EVERYONE to feel included.

Dazed, hope you're doing okay. I'm off to read your journal.

Mel, saw your FB status, hope you're having a fun trip!

Amber, how are you today?

Hearty, we started Alistair on solids just shy of 6 months. We gave him very watered down (with breast milk or formula) baby rice. He really seemed ready for it. It's possible Delilah is ready for more food! And from what I recall babies can teethe for months before a tooth pops through. Do you see white caps on her gums at all? Alistair had those for months before one broke through. I watched the video, it's soooooooooooooooooooo adorable! Does Delilah love her little play gym? Alistair was a really big fan of his. I also loved the photo of her on Facebook in the laundry basket. How is everything going? We are not sure of dates or where/if we're going yet....we are SO disorganized! But if we were to go it'd be over New Years. I want to meet you guys, too!!!

 

[heart tree]

Oh boo Allie, I was hoping it would be after we got back if you came at all. I haven't noticed white caps at all, but I'll look again. Thanks for the info. I'm such a novice! Being a nanny and preschool teacher didn't prepare me for everything apparently!

I definitely think she's ready for more food. But I'm not prepared to give her anything quite yet. I want to wait until we are back home before I change her routine even more than it will be changed when we are away.

She likes her play gym, but I think she's bored with it now. And she hates being on her back for extended periods of time. I'm thinking of getting her a jumperoo. She loves movement. I think she would love something like that.

Tim mercifully posted the pic on FB that cut me out of it. He had another one that showed more of me. It's a better one of Delilah, but I look like hell. I'm still in my pajamas and don't have a bra on. My boobs were all saggy and my hair hadn't been washed in days. Not pretty.

This thread started out as a TTCAL thread. Inevitably people are going to get pregnant and have babies on a thread like this. And we all grew so close. While I frequent other threads, this is still my most cherished because I feel like you all are my true friends. I agree that it should feel all inclusive. At the same time, it's hard when people are at different places in their journey. I remember Nato offering to start a FB group so that I could feel included and the rule would be that people couldn't talk about babies. That would have felt awkward to me. It was easier for me to join the RMC thread and check in with you all from time to time. I'm guessing Dazed feels similar right now. I don't know how to rectify it.

Don't you think it would be strange if we moved this thread and new people started to join? For some reason I would. I kind of like our close knit group. But that's me.

 

[vickyd]

I wouldnt want anyone new to join this thread. This is my safe place where i can talk to my friends not only about Hero but my money problems, my husband problems and all the good and bad that happens. When i talk about you guys i say friends, not some women on a forum. I know it has turned into a mom thread but i think half the time we talk about irrelevent stuff to babies, just a bunch of women talking on a thread like they were out having drinks.

Hearty as you know Hero was a fussy baby (very similar behavior to Delilah) and even know she is not that easy going. I thought solids would help but no. Teething was and is a problem for us as she was very late in popping the first tooth but was teething for months. This is still the case unfortunately. She also hated being on her back even after the reflux had subsided, its like it was embedded in her memory or something! The jumperoo was a lifesaver and i defo recommend it!

The situation in Greece is really difficult, there seems to be no light at the end of the tunnel to be honest. I had a long talk with a very good friend from my PhD days in Kent who is now living in the states. This guy knows me better than anyone and he said that as long as my job is going well to stay put. He thinks i will be miserable away from my family and Greece and that even if they pay me a bucket load of money i will regret leaving. He is right...I will be a wreck away from my family! My mom went through that when she and my dad moved to Canada after they married. For the 13 years they lived there she was depressed and was always with one foot in a plane to go back. This depression was evident to us and looking back it made me feel like i didnt belong there. When she finally had enough and moved us back to Greece it was terrible for me and my sister the first years. The adjustment was so difficult that i didnt enjoy my childhood at all. I dont want that to happen to Hero. I want her to have a happy childhood and only good memories of her youth. Ok, so i wont be able to afford a good school or send her to the UK to Uni or any of the material things my parents gave me. My hope is that i can give her inner peace and happiness and hopefully that is equally important. Who knows, maybe in a couple years things will be better anyway...