Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[Dazed]

It would seem odd for anyone new to join. I hope I didn't cause a stir about the purpose of this thread. I know its TTC/PAL/Parenting, but I have given it to the majority and when others decide to chime in with TTC, I would be more than happy to try to post more. Part of my problem is that I am a downer about everything it seems, but then again BnB is my outlet. I don't think this will be a problem when I start trying again because my new outlook on everything is that its out of my control. Last night instead of saying IF we get pregnant again, I told him WHEN. I didn't think twice about the phrase. Now that I have seen a yolk sac at the least, I can definately confirm that I can get pregnant, now the challenge will be my other tube.

 

[LucyJ]

Wow round thats a lot of people to cook hope it all goes well Im sure it will.

Amanda we started soilds just before 6 months in the hope it would help him sleep better (it didnt Im afraid) and on advice that it might help his reflux which it did. Benjamin didnt start sleeping through untill 9 months and naps were a nightmare if Im honest his napping has only just got better in the last few months and he now goes to bed with no problems the majority of the time sleeps through but still occassionly comes in with us if he wakes during the night & wont settle once hes alseep I transfer him back to his bed. As for teething it went on for ages for us lots of teeth wiggling but his first tooth didnt pop through untill 9 months he seems to get them in groups of two then has ages with nothing then another couple will pop up with stages of teeth moving but never comes to anything. Anything cold was good and teething granules were a godsend plus his sophie the giraffe who came everywhere with us. Now french bread and cold cumcumber sticks are great when hes teething.

Mel hope you have a fab time away and thats so cute kash getting to hear the babys hb and wonderful for you.

Vicky I think being happy and with your family is more important than other things. Hero wants a happy mummy. I couldnt leave the uk as I couldnt leave my family Id miss them far to much especially my mum. I just hope for you all that things get better in greece. Hows your new assitant working out?

Allie gutted your not coming to the uk but completely understand Im so sorry about alexs stepdad that must be so hard and pray hes ok. Going to California will be lovely steve and I have a list of places we'd like to visit and that is on it.

Dazed I understand you not being in all the time but glad you still pop in we're hear for you and want to support you in your journey. I feel the same way I consider you all friends and am so thankfull to know you hope one day we will meet.

Afm: well I got my results back from the biopsy and its normal which is great news they want me back in 6 months for another colposcopy and smear but steve & I have decided to start trying again well we said we'd ntnp but Im not really sure I'll stick to that. The dr said I wouldnt be in trouble if I got pregnant they perfer you to have the 6 month smear just as a double precaution but he said theres no reason why it wouldnt be noraml he got all the cells out. We said if the biopsy was normal then we'd go for it as we just dont know how long it will take and what will happen.

Benjamin is not a happy bunny todays hes very snotty has a high temp and not eating alot think hes teething so hoping tomorrow he'll be a bit brighter. He's got a new word which is there he signed that he was hungry and I didnt rush to the kitche he signed it again then pointed to the kitchen and said there

 

[Round2]

This is the only thread I care to keep up with nowadays either. I know it's no longer a TTCAL thread, but more of a collection of women who've been through alot and are here to support each other. I don't think we need a label and I think everyone should be free to talk about whatever is on their mind.

Dazed, I know you're in a low spot. We've all been there so many times. Please, feel free to share it with us whenever you want, here or in your journal.

Hearty, I know exactly what you're going through. Bryce will only take cat naps and as I mentioned he's waking up now at nightime more than ever. I really think he just needs more food. Last night my hubby gave him a bottle of formula for one of his feeding and he slept better than he has in weeks. I'm gonig to start giving him some cereal sometime in the next week. I hate doing it as I have some food allergies and want to do things by the book...but it's only a few weeks early for him and I really think he needs it. He's a big boy (98% percentile for height) and I think he needs more nourishment. I'm under no illusions that this will be the magic trick to get him to sleep. But my mommy instincts tell me that it's for the best.

Lucy, glad to hear the results were normal again. Scary thinking about TTC eh? I know, but I'm sure everything will be fine this time, your body knows what to do!.

Vicky, sounds like a tough decision. But really, there are much worse places to be raising a child other than Greece. Hopefully the turmoil will settle soon and you can start to feel happy about living there.

 

[vickyd]

Dazed im so glad you switched the "if" to "when" i get pregnant! My doctor always reminded me that if you got pregnant once you will have a baby. For a couple of years it was my mantra! A story that will give you courage and some optimism is one of a friend who this week gave birth to twins after 7 years of trying. She had a difficult time getting pregnant the first time, almost 3 years and when she did she miscarried. This was followed by two chemicals and a mmc. She had reached rock bottom and after several procedures to get rid of fissures and re-occuring cysts she managed to have her forever babies. She would always repeat to herself the same mantra " once pregnant=forever baby". I hope you feel you can share all your dark thoughts with us, we have all been through this shit and i think we understand eachother in a special way.

 

[Dazed]

Thanks girls.

 

[hoping:)]

Hearty- Penny didn’t get teeth until 8 months. She got her two bottom teeth within a week and none since then!
I think it would be weird to move this group and have new people. This thread has been just the same group of girls for so long and there isn’t really any set topic.

Allie- Your explanation about people being confused about the thread and not posting makes sense. I don’t really see it as anything but the Disco girls thread. All topics are included and I feel like it is a way for us to all stay in touch and follow each other’s journeys.

Vicky- I agree! And how fun would it be to get all of us together for drinks?! I can imagine the laughter would be endless.
It sounds like you have your mind made up regarding staying put. Do what feels right as long as you are safe. And you are right… the material things don’t matter as long as Hero grows up in a loving and encouraging environment.

Dazed- I love how you are already looking at the Brightside. That is what I did. I didn’t know when it would happen but I knew someday I would get my baby. A positive attitude has helped me so much. I know you will get your baby I just wish he/she would hurry up already! Don’t feel bad about having down moments. Like Round said, we have all been there and still have those moments but it makes it more bearable to have good friends to bring you back up again.

Lucy- I can’t wait for you to announce a BFP. I have a feeling their will be a Disco baby boom in the next few months. I hope Ben starts feeling better soon

Round- I hope the added solids helps Bryce. How is Maddy doing with the adjustment with a baby brother. I still laugh when I think about her trying to breast feed him that one time.

AFM- i just have to submit my driving records and then I can start my blood work and matching process Hopefully I will be back on the TTC train with the rest of you in February or March

 

[Dazed]

Driving records? REALLY?!

 

[Allie84]

Ohhh, when I said move the thread I didn't mean move the thread. When I said move the thread, I meant can the whole thing be moved away from the 'TTC-Group' umbrella (that's in the URL) to something else. I guess it can't and it doesn't really matter.

I agree, I see you guys as my friends! Alex hears about you as if I just had lunch with you yesterday or something.

Vicky, I think you've thought it through really well you know what's best for you. Hero will be loved and well taken care of no matter what and that's what matters!

Amber, I can't believe they need your driving records! That's too funny.

Dazed, I love your attitude. I remember Vicky telling us that mantra and it got me through the time I was TTC as well. I remember after my MC I kept telling myself "I can pregnant, I know I can!" and part of that was reassuring to me.

Re: foods....I really think Alistair was hungry and ready for solids before 6 months. Round is right, listening to mommy instincts is almost always the right thing to do. It's interesting how our babies are all so different! But equally as wonderful.

AFM Alistair has his 1 year check up and immunizations today. I'm nervous about this shots, as usual. Doesn't he get the MMR today? Eek!

 

[Round2]

Hoping, funny you should ask. I got a note from Maddy's teacher yesterday saying that she was upset and crying durring class. Apparently she was sad that her Mommy is too busy to play with her now that she has a baby!! Talk about gut wrenching. It's true though, I've hardly had any time for her lately, things have been so busy. We've got a special date this weekend though, just her and I.

The driving records are just too funny! I guess they don't want surrogate that are dangerous drivers? Weird.

Allie, good luck with the shots. We've got ours next week. I hate them so much, Bryce always gets a fever and is miserable.

 

[hoping:)]

I know its crazy but I guess you can't be to crazy enough when screening for someone to carry your child. They do a full background check as well as pull credit too!

I'm not sure if I shared with you guys that I got a great offer at another company and accepted it. My current Director just pulled me into his office and asked if I would stay if they matched what the other company was offering He said it hasn't been done before but they got special permission from senior management. Not sure what to do but I think I am leaning towards staying...

 

[Dazed]

If your happy where you are working, than stay Amber.

 

[hoping:)]

Round- I must have posted at the same time. That is so sad but I am sure a mommy and daughter date will help make up for it.

Thanks, Dazed! I don't really like the work that I do... I never saw myself doing it but I am good at it and it is easy. I'm not sure I would like the other job either and they are more strict with how your time is spent. Currently I can pretty much do what I want as long as the quality of my work remains above average. The other job has more opportunity to advance but my director sd he wouldnt hesitate to help me explore other departments... Senior management just wants to keep me within the company. I secretly hoped this would happen! My current job would also be better for when I am a surrogate or need time off for our business.

 

[Dazed]

Well then I think you have your mind made up.

 

[msarkozi]

Thanks girls, I did have a good weekend away. Now back to work and the busy life.....wondering when it is ever going to start slowing down some?!

Hearty - I believe I started Kash on solids at 6 months or just before. She will let you know when she is ready. And they can teethe for months before you see any teeth...it is awful, but that is the way Kash teethes as well. Thankfully I only have 4 more to go now until his adult ones start (whenever the heck that happens).

I can't believe it's almost Christmas! This year has flown by. I am pretty excited for it though. My mom and dad will be coming to our place this year, and Kash keeps looking under the tree already....I think he will be right into it.

And I agree about the thread. I did stay away for awhile after having Kash, as I felt out out of place. However, I feel so close to you guys, and this is my safe place to talk about whatever I want. I tell you guys more things then I tell my closest friends. I like the fact that I can come here and bitch about Gord and what not I think of this group more as a friends group then anything else

 

[Sparkly]

Hello All

Just popping to tell you all that I had my FET (frozen embryo transfer) yesterday and all went really well, I am now PUPO with twins

Official test day is 22nd dec........

 

[hoping:)]

Mel- I'm glad you enjoyed your time away! So cute Kash is already looking under the tree. We just put our up and Penny keeps rearranging the ornaments but so far so good

Sparkly- I am so excited and can't wait for you to test! I'm hoping for an extra special Christmas present for you

 

[Round2]

Yay Sparkly!! So when is the 'actual' testing day??

 

[Sparkly]

Yay Sparkly!! So when is the 'actual' testing day??

As a POAS addict I will probably start at the weekend

 

[Allie84]

Sparkly!!! I'm so happy and excited for you!! I read the story of your trip in your journal. With the snow and everything, it just sounds so perfect. I love that you are PUPO with TWINS!!!!!!!!

Mel, glad you had fun. Does Kash know how to open presents? Alistair still hasn't gotten the hang of ripping off wrapping paper but he does keep looking under the tree. Luckily he's left the tree itself alone. Can't say that for Weasley, who threw up tinsel this morning.

Alistair took his first proper steps today! He took three steps towards me. I'm so proud! He's such a big boy!

Oh, and I'm officially done with my first semester of graduate school. Yay to a whole month off with my boys!! Well, Alex is working but I get to be home with Alistair for a month.

 

[msarkozi]

way to go Alistair!!! You are definitely going to enjoy your month Allie

I "think" Kash is understanding the ripping open gifts thing.....He tried to rip one open already when we told him it had to go under the tree. He hasn't tried since, but I guess we will find out in a couple more weeks

yah Sparkly!!!!!!