Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

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Quickly catching up. I haven't had as much time as I thought I would. Allie, I read your post and I'm so sorry. It's true that in this country you can't force someone to accept treatment. It doesn't seem fair in a situation like this, but if your mom is saying she doesn't want treatment, that's her right, even with her mental illness. I can't imagine what you must be feeling right now. I know you've had a complicated relationship with her. There must be a lot of emotions going on right now. I wish I could hold your hand through this. I hope your mom pulls through. I don't think you'll know how you feel about the trip until you are faced with it. If your mom does pass away, you might want to take the trip, you might not. Do you have refundable tickets just in case? You should reserve the right to do what feels best. If she is still alive, there won't be much you can do for her. Can you take the trip and schedule some Skype sessions with her? At least that way you will be in close contact with her. This is so difficult. I'm so so sorry. xo

Sugar, congrats. Spotting is always worrisome but isn't always sinister. But the worry never ends after you've had a mc.

Mel, can't wait for tomorrow's news! I hope the baby shows the goods. Sorry you feel so yucky.

Lucy, my goodness! You haven't had an easy pregnancy so far. I'm so glad the baby is ok. I hope it gets easier for you.

AFM, Delilah is finally feeling better and sleeping better. She's even had 2 good naps today. I'm working on an online class which is taking up a lot of my time right now when she naps. Today she is 34 weeks and 3 days which means she has officially lived longer outside of me than inside of me. She isn't an easy baby right now. She whines when I'm not holding her or right next to her. She doesn't like sitting and playing by herself. She doesn't even like it when Tim is holding her and I leave the room. I'm assuming it is a phase. I just end up carrying her all the time. I'm actually looking forward to her crawling. I think she'll enjoy the independence. I'm ready to eat my words though.

Hi to everyone else!

PS - Dazed got a BFP and is having spotting too. She might need some encouragement in her journal.

xoxoxo

 

[vickyd]

Hearty Hero was like that as a baby, I could never be more than a meter away before she started crying. To this day she really does not play on her own, she wants someone withing close range and preferably someone to interact with. However, when shes at the play ground or a toddler group ect. she is the most independant child there. Im usually consumed with fear of loosing her cause she just runs off!!

Off to look at Dazed journal!

 

[Sugarlove2]

Hi ladies, well the spotting has turned red and I'm getting some cramps which are worse than yesterday. Did a test this morning, and although there is still a line there, it's definitely more faint than the one I did 2 days ago with the same brand. Mal agrees too. Looks like it was a chemical. Pretty disappointed, but if it had to happen, at least is is very early. Thought it was too good to be true to get knocked up so quickly this time!

Allie, I still don't know what's going on with your Mum. I've requested permission to access your thread, so hopefully I can view it soon. though.

That's great news about Dazed. Will go and have a look at her journal.

Hearty, that's great that Delilah is sleeping better. Hopefully the clingy phase will pass. It has done with a lot of my friends babies.

 

[vickyd]

Sugar hun sorry to hear such news....maybe you could repeat the test tomorrow just to be sure??

I cant seem to find Dazed journal....

 

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Dazed, I read through your journal. FX for you, I really hope you have a sticky one this time.

Sugar, I'm so sorry. I know it's early, but it still hurts.

 

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Oh Sugar, I'm so sorry honey. Sometimes being able to test early is such a curse. I wonder how many women had chemicals (I hate that word btw) without knowing it before FRERs.

Vicky, Delilah loves being around other kids. She squeals and smiles and wriggles around. I can tell that all she wants to do is run around with them. Sounds like our girls have similar dispositions. Except mine sleeps a tiny bit better. Is it a preemie thing? A girl thing? A combo? Or did we just get lucky? How did Hero's urine tests come out?

Round, how is sleep going in your house? Is everyone healthy again?

Allie, I'm thinking of you.

 

[Sugarlove2]

I hate the word chemical too Hearty. I prefer early miscarriage. I've been feeling pretty down today. The lines were so good for how early I was. I bet it will take me ages to get another BFP now, as I'll probably start to obsess about it. At least I have my little baba Charlotte to take my mind off it and realise how lucky I am to have her.

Hope everyone is having a good day

 

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Sugar, you never know. It might be sooner than you think. People who obsess get pregnant too!

It's so wonderful that you have Charlotte to take your mind off of things. She is the icing on the cake. But it doesn't mean the pain of the loss isn't there. You are allowed to feel as down as you need to. It's a sad day.

 

[pregoinnorge]

Just popping in guys. Im sorry about your mom Allie. Must be so hard to rationalize with someone in that mental state. Thinking about you!

I'm sorry sugar...it's such an emotional time. But I agree that it doesn't mean it will take ages to get pregnant again!

I think Delilah, Hero, and Ella at three peas in a pod Ella is so clingy all the time unless we're out in public and she can run loose. She's clingy but hates cuddling- such a weird combo. And she gets frustrated so easily that she can totally lose her shit if she can't fit something in a box or something. Kristian thinks she gets that from me

Hello everyone else! Been trying to catch up lately. Since we're contemplating ttc I've been hanging out on bnb again

 

[vickyd]

Oh my Amy Hero also looses it when she cant do something like but something in a box!!! Seriously its so funny!!! All three of our girls sound so much alike, weird right? None of my mate's girls are like Hero, they are super cuddly and quite sweet tempered. I prefer my little fire cracker though!

Im gonna put Hero to bed tonight and go out for drinks with the girls YAYYYYYYYYYYYY!!! Cocktail hour here i come hahah!!!

Hero's urine tests were clear, apart from the elevated iron and ferretin all was normal. Even those high results didnt worry any of the 5 doctors i consulted with (you have no idea how much money ive spent on pead visits since Christmas...), so i decided it was just a case of several viral infections that ran their course.

 

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Amanda- we are in the clingy stage as well. Penny gets clingy with whoever she spends the most time with. Someday she only wants me. Other days its Tim and when her grandma comes on Wednesday's she throws a tantrum when it is time for her to go home.But like Hero, Penny is super independent in a group setting. She loves to tag along with the older kids and loves to show off.

Sugar- Big I hope the next BFP is extra sticky and comes quickly.

Vicky- Like you, I love my little fire cracker. There is never a dull moment and she is pretty hilarious. I love my quirky girl. Here newest thing is making people smell her stinking tootsies if she likes them I'm so glad the results came back clear. Have fun at girls night!

Prego-good luck with round 2

Allie- I'm thinking of you


Sorry, I read back but can’t remember anything. I think I have caught a cold and just feel drained. We got home from our trip on Monday and then I did something majorly stupid… filled our diesel car with gasoline. HORRIBLE mistake!

Penny was half angel and half monster on our trip but we had a great time. She is the best little side kick even with the occasional tantrum she threw. Details are in my journal but the highlights were our train ride, wedding planning, seeing Penny with my family and our visit with my mom. Penny and I took flowers to her grave on Valentines Day. On our way to the car I told Penny to say by to her grandma Fawn. She leaned down and kissed my mom’s cross… it was a beautiful moment and one I will never forget.

While we were away Penny learned a new phrase. If she wants to feed us she now says “say ahhhhh” so that we open our mouth. She also says “mmm” anytime she likes something or when trying to convince us that what she is feeding us is delicious.

 

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Amy TTC again? You are a braver woman than I am! Delilah is the same, clingy but not cuddly at all. What a strange combo! Good to see you back!

Vicky, so happy to hear the results were clear. I take it Hero is feeling better these days? I hope her mom is too!

Amber, great to see you. That image of Penny kissing the cross is beautiful. I had that cold too. Try to rest as much as possible. It was a rough week for me when I had it. What happens when you fill a diesel with gasoline?

Allie, still thinking of you.

Ok, baby is napping and I'm slacking. Must get back to my online class.

 

[VGibs]

Sugar - Sorry dear. I wish it had turned out different for you.

Mel - I'm waiting here missy!!!! Boy or girl!

 

[Allie84]

Thanks for all of your thoughts Hearty (and everyone). It helps to know someone is thinking of me.

Sugar, I am so SO sorry!!! We're here for you if you need to talk. How are you feeling tonight? I agree with whoever said the FRER comment.....no one used to know about chemical at all. FRERS are a blessing and a curse.

Hearty, as you know, everything is a phase. Phases phases phases. It kind of sounds like our Disco girls are more of a handful than our Disco boys, though. I wonder if this is the norm? Or boy babies usually easier?

Amber, I wrote in your journal but I think you mentioned Penny being clingy? Alistair is a bit clingly right now, too, but he's still cuddly. He just always wants my attention right now and sometimes that's every tiring.

Mel, I'm waiting to hear whether you are team or I'm guessing blue?!?!!?

Vibs, how are you doing/feeling?

Hi Vicky!! Sounds like Hero has a strong personality and that can be a good thing in life.

Lucy, I'm so sorry about your sharp pain! It sounds like RLP? Especially since you had a C Section? BTW are you doing a C Section or VBAC this time do you know?

AFM in womanly news, I had my first gyno annual visit since post partum. The doctor I saw today said I should have a C Section next time. She said the risks of a section are less than the risks of me having another 4th degree tear, which probably wouldn't heal as well or tear more and I could have incontinence, anal issues, etc. That was a little depressing to hear but I was kind of expecting it. Luckily I've had no damage from the first one and I look 'great' down there (sorry TMI lol).

 

[LucyJ]

Thanks Amanda I really cant wait to be out of the 1st tri and hopefully the 2nd will be better. Ive got my scan on mon which I cant wait for feeling a little nervous so need the reassurance that my little one is okay.

Sugar I am so sorry here if you need anything. Im glad you've got your Charlotte

Vicky thats great news that all heros tests came back okay hope shes feeling loads better and you are doing okay.

Amy good luck with ttc.

It sounds like we have some very strong willed little disco girls.

Benjamin is a very indepndent little boy at groups hes off barely looks back I think he figures he knows we're there somewhere and thats enough. He does give lots of cuddles although not to everyone we saw my brother at the weekend he took one look at him burst into tears and came and hid by mummy. It took 45mims for him to be ok and even then he gave him so very odd looks. He did go through a clingy stage when he was a baby steve found it hard as he wouldnt go to him but now hes dada dada dada all the time. If he hears a car or someone posts something through our door he thinks its steve and gets so excitied. He loves seeing his cousins and my parents. He'll always go to my mum for cuddles.

Allie I definitely dont want a csection if I can avoid I would really love to have a natural birth. I found it hard getting my head round having one with benjamin and still have moments when I feel aww I never got to do it myself or even experience labour although his safety was my number one piriorty and it was the only way to get him out safe. I just hope this baby has more sense than his/her big brother and is the right way. Im pretty sure I wont be able to go into the midwife led centre (which I would of liked) or have a home birth (not sure I want one) but Im ok with being in hospital. This pregnancy Im under the care of a consultant and midwife which I was with Benjamin.

Hoping glad you had a good time away even if Penny had her moments. Benjamin does the mmmmm as well he does it with a big grin on his face if hes pinched food of our plate and I caught him the cupboard the other day he was stood there with his finger on his lip head tilted going hmmmm looking then went for a pack of biscuits. He then realised I was there so handed me the packet signed biscuit then signed and said please so cute I resisted giving him one said not now maybe later if you are a good boy he was so did get one but much later in the day. He now thinks its very funny to go to feed us then at the last minute pull it away literally out of our mouth and pop it in his little monkey.

Its 12:30am here I cant sleep have caught steves cold so feel rotten wasnt that nice of him to share

 

[Allie84]

Awww, lucy, feel better soon! I remember pregnancy insomnia! Yeah, it's tough thinking about c sections when you want a natural birth so badly. It's weird how much women crave the experience of labor even though it's so painful lol? Just a natural thing, I guess. I'll be sure to get another doctor's opinion, but since I will probably only have one more baby (and Alex and I said we would like to adopt a third) the doctor said a c section would definitely be the best way to go.

 

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It's never TMI Allie! That sucks about the c-section news. I would definitely get a second opinion on that one. It is pretty amazing how we crave the most painful experience on earth!

Lucy I hope this baby cooperates and you get to experience the pain of labor and vaginal delivery. LOL! I'm so glad I was able to do it, but like you said, if a C section was necessary, I wouldn't have thought twice about it. The important thing is Benjamin arrived safely and is a healthy boy. Good luck on your next scan. Will you find out the gender at some point?

Mel, sorry the baby wasn't cooperating! Did you get any pics?

 

[VGibs]

Allie - Honestly, I feel fine. Despite the insane mood swings. I am lucky I haven't been fired/divorced yet. This morning I started throwing things because I couldn't get the sticky stuff from a band aid off my hand. LOL

 

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Amanda- the wrong fuel in your car causes a very expensive mistake. Minimum it is $500 to remove the gas tank and clean it. If there is more damage it just escalates from there and can cost a few thousand dollars to clean/replace parts or a car that no longer works. Lucky for me we were at the lower end of the spectrum and paid $572. It still sucks big time!

Allie- even in real life it seems boys are easier babies. Penny’s friend Boston is a few months younger and just sits there like a lump on a log while my toddler is like a little tornado exploring every thing in her path. Penny is clingy and cuddly too. She walks over and hugs our legs if she doesn’t want us to leave and she will happily be carried around while she has her little death grip around our neck.

I totally forgot you had a 4th degree tear. I had a minor tear and it was still not an easy road to recovery. I’m glad you look good down there after all of that. I remember being terrified to look down there for months after I had Penny. I was so scared I would be deformed forever. If we ever decided to have another child we said we would always adopt too. But Tim did just notify me that on his wish list is another baby when we get our business where we want it to be. I’m not so sure about this but we have plenty of time to think about it.

Lucy- I’m predicting a girl for you! Penny can be picky with the people she likes as well. If she is not comfortable she will refuse hugs and will give high fives instead. I hope you get the birth you want this time around but you are right… You did the best thing for Ben and kept him nice and safe.

I love that Ben is so good at signing. Didn’t you mention at one point you are certified in sign language as well? I really wish the US promoted baby sign more and had classes. Penny teases us with food too.

I hope you feel better soon!

vGibs- Good luck with the mood swings. They are killer! I was mostly an emotional knapsack and would burst out in tears for the littlest things.

AFM- my DH will officially be a SAHD in 2 weeks and run our business full time. It is awesome but I am jealous.com. Our plan is to get me home by the end of the year so hopefully we can make that happen.

 

[LucyJ]

Amanda no we're not going to find out the sex I like not knowing and people guessing having that wonderful surprised. I'll always remember the moment they held Benjamin up to me and said can you see I was like its a boy it was pretty special I would of been shock if I'd had a girl I was convinced that Benjamin was a boy. My mum said shes coming to my 20 week scan so she can bribe the scan lady into telling her the sex

Amber I have my stage 1 in british sign language my long term plan for my teaching was that I really wanted to work with children with hearing impairment/loss so did my stage 1 but sadly couldnt afford to do my stage 2 as it was so expensive hopinh one day I'll be able to. I cant praise sing and sign enough and really feel it has benefitted Benjamin in many ways alot of people comment on his speech.

Its funny you should say that as for some reason I think a girl as well who knows. We did the wedding ring test the other night and it went back and forth which I think means a girl and is the complete opposite if what my wedding ring did when I was pregnant with Benjamin. We'll see in September.

Im tucked up in bed feeling truely awful have a high temp, bunged up, headache and no appitite so trying to force food down. Its the worse timing as my mum & dad are down this weekend for a big family meal to celebrate my mums birthday then Benjamin and I are meant to be going home with them on mon after our scan just hope I feel better tomorrow especially as I have plans with my mum.