Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[LucyJ]

Amy could the numbing be related to whats going on? Did the say anything about it at the hospital? Im so sorry you are going through this.

 

[pregoinnorge]

I asked about the numbing too so they ran tests to indicate if I had a blood clot or something but they came back negative. I have a doctor appointment tomorrow to get a referral to a neurologist. But first I have to get blood drawn. She said I can go back after my doctor appointment to get the results. The problem is that I am scared to drive with my foot and Kristian will be traveling again for work. I'm going to beg my mother in law to take Ella to day care in the morning...

How are all of you though? Any happy news that can bring up the mood around here?

 

[pregoinnorge]

By the way Amanda- is the lap that risky that I should get a d and c first? Or was it just for info? I feel like I don't want to bother with the shot and just go straight for the lap so I can still go to London at the end of the month..

 

[heart tree]

Amy, originally I would have told you the lap is a fine procedure. But I learned something from Dazed's experience. She said that her first lap and tube removal is what caused the damage to her second tube which is why she had the ectopic on that side too. I had no idea that could happen. It obviously didn't happen to me, but I didn't even know that was a risk I was taking. I know what you mean about wanting the lap. I got the shot after the D&C because that's what was recommended. Only after I did all of that was I told that it could take a month until my betas reached 0. And I was scheduled to go to Cape Cod in a few days. They told me I couldn't go unless I had the surgery. So after all that, I opted for surgery. I just didn't want to wait to see if I had a rupture or wait until my betas went to 0. Definitely get your MIL to drive Ella. Does she know what's going on?

 

[Sugarlove2]

Amy I'm so sorry you're going through all this. I hope you get some answers tomorrow. I think there's a very small risk of damage to tubes etc. with a lap. I had one to check for endo and it was fine. I also know of a lot of other people who've had one and they have been fine too. I think Dazed was just very unlucky with the damage done during her surgery.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do

 

[heart tree]

Sugar, I tend to agree that it generally is a safe procedure. I think the reason Dazed had the experience she did was because they were removing her tube. That's more invasive than an exploratory lap or a lap to remove endo. I also agree that Dazed was very unlucky. I'm not sure what the percentage is that the second tube gets damaged when the first tube gets removed. I didn't even know it could happen, though I remember asking before my surgery if they could make sure to save my other tube and my ovaries. They couldn't promise me that. But they also didn't say that my other tube was at great risk.

Amy, you need to be as informed as possible which is why I'm giving you all the info I know. Hopefully it can guide you to ask your doctor appropriate questions.

As for the foot and hand, I have no clues. I'm glad you are going to see a neurologist though. This must all feel so overwhelming. I wish I was there to drive you and Ella around and give you hugs.

 

[LucyJ]

Amy definitely get your mil to drive ella to daycare. Have you got someone who can go with you to the drs?

Amanda when I read that about dazed I found it so scary that the procedure she had caused the damage. There seems to be so many different ways an etopic can show its self or not as the case with some women.

I do have some good news have put in a spoiler:

Spoiler

Steve got the dopplar out for me the other day and it took a little longer than I would of liked but I found the babys hb and Im pretty sure I've felt some movement

 

[Sugarlove2]

That's lovely news Lucy!

I got a very strong positive on my OPK today, so BD'd. Not holding out much hope though this month.

 

[heart tree]

You took the words out of my mouth Sugar! That's absolutely lovely Lucy!

Sugar, that's great that your body got back in gear so quickly. I'll hold the hope for you. xo

 

[pregoinnorge]

That's great news Lucy that's such an amazing feeling and sound

Good luck with bding, Sugar!

Btw Amanda, I will be in the Bay Area again in July, but on my own. I have a conference in Lake Tahoe and will probably be flying in and out of SFO. Lunch date? Too bad our salad place burned down...

 

[heart tree]

When in July? I would love to, but it would have to be the first week of July. We're leaving on July 8 and won't be back until sometime in August. Going to Tim's parent's house in Kansas City first for their 50th wedding anniversary. Then going to Cape Cod for my family week. Delilah and I are staying on the Cape for a few weeks extra since I'm not working (and since July and August in the Bay Area is so damn cold!)

I was sooooo sad that Intermezzo burned down! Did you hear that Alice Water's restaurant, Chez Panisse also burned? I'm not sure of the extent of the damage, but it was pretty bad from what I've heard. They are reopening thought, whereas Intermezzo is gone for good.

 

[msarkozi]

Thinking of you Amy. Hope you are getting some rest and can get some answers in the morning

great news Luce! I can't believe how quick your pregnancy is going. It seems like you and Gibs are flying by, and mine is going so slow lol!

I felt this baby so much earlier then I did with Kash (probably since I weighed less), but man is this an active baby too compared to what Kash was. I am so glad the days are ticking by for finding out the gender for sure! If you ask Kash, he says he wants a girl. He agrees we can name her Sadie lol. I was asking him today about names if it is a brother instead, and asked him if he wanted to name the baby Brandt and he said no. So I asked him if he wanted to name him William, and he was very enthusiastic when he said yes. I told Gord when he got home from work, and he said he liked that name, so I think we are close to finally agreeing on a boys name

 

[VGibs]

Grrrrrrr I have 1 day off in 11. I'm exhausted and so crabby and everyone keeps saying "Well you wanted to get pregnant." I would punch a teddy bear right now. *mini rant over*

 

[Dazed]

Geesh Amy! I can't really give you any advice, I'm obviously not your run of the mill ectopic sufferer. Have they given you another ultrasound? I'm glad they are doing betas, but they should at least be giving you an ultrasound to verify that they still don't see anything.

Thanks for all the love ladies. I'm generally well, just still mentally numb IYKWIM. Coming to terms with this wasn't hard once the surgery was done, but its still the reality of it all. I have a feeling DH is just done because I can't get him to really talk about if he wants to pursue things further. I have decided that once I get around that obstacle with him and he wants to go further, I am going to try for the INCIID scholarship. That really is our only option other than asking family (AKA mum & dad) for money.

 

[pregoinnorge]

Levels up again but not doubled. Around 350 now I guess. Got the shot so sitting here with them monitoring my blood pressure.

I've been thinking about you a lot Dazed. I can imagine that this is all do hard to process. I'm glad that you are doing OK. Good luck with the scholarship!

 

[pregoinnorge]

Sorry forgot to answer you about Cali. The conference starts on the 7th I think. Maybe I fly on the 6th? Rent a car, visit some friends, and drive up to Tahoe. I would love to see you and meet lil' D

 

[Round2]

Amy, so glad to hear you got the shot. I. As if dealing with a loss isn't hard enough, but have to fight for them to take care of you properly is just awful.

Dazed, I think about you often too. After my 3rd loss when my hubby wanted to give up was one of the lowest periods of my life. It took some time, but after he realized how I could never be happy without continuing to try, then he agreed to try again. I hope you get another chance as well.

Lucy, glad that's wondeful news. I felt movement so much earlier with Bryce as well. It was around the 14 week mark too. So happy this little bubba is here to stay!

Mel, William was one of our names as well. Pretty sure it was because of Braveheart!

AFM, well I survived my first solo road trip with both kids. It was crazy! Bryce didn't sleep, Maddy got the stomach flu...despite this, it was fun, but I'm not sure if I would do it again.

Things have been pretty stressfull since coming home. Hubby's anxiety issues are worse than ever. He's pretty much incapacitated right now. I'm so drained and fustrated with doing everything for everyone. I'm starting to feel bitter and angry that I have nobody to help me. Bryce was up every hour last night again. I'm sure it was becasue he was constipated as he had big poo in his diaper this morning. Just not sure much longer I can continue on being super mom.

 

[msarkozi]

oh Round Can you book yourself for a massage or something just to have some you time for a little bit? Is there any friends that would be willing to take the kids for a couple hours? It's hard being super mom, but it shows what a strong woman you are! I am basically a single parent, even with a spouse, so I know how you feel. Hopefully Bryce starts sleeping well for you and then you can get some much needed rest!

 

[vickyd]

Amy sorry you had to go through this...Hope you are doing ok and on the mend...

Round Gosh that sounds stressful! Do you have family close by that can maybe help you out during this time?? I cant imagine how helpless you must feel not being able to help out hubby...

 

[Round2]

Thanks ladies....ya, I wish there were people I could ask for help. My hubby's familiy is here, but his grandmother had a stroke last week and is not well. My mom is here, but she's a mess. She had a car accident a few years ago and it's left her partially brain damaged. Some days she doesn't even remember that I have a baby.

I tried leaving the kids with hubby while I got my hair done last weekend - but I could see as I was walking out the door that he was having a major panic attack, so I grabbed Maddy and brought her with me.

Most of my girl friends are spread out across the province....the few I have here just had babies themselves.

Unfortunately, I don't really have any choice but to suck it up and deal with it.