Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[LucyJ]

Round Im sorry you are having such a hard time I hope things get better.

Amy I'm glad they are looking after you now and just so sorry you are having to go through this.

Dazed thinking of you too you've been through so much and it will take time to process. I always found with Steve that he focused on being strong for me and didnt want to talk about anything as he didnt want to upset me. Here if you need to talk

 

[msarkozi]

wish we lived closer Round, I would take the kids for you for a bit! is there a drop in daycare or anything available?

 

[Sparkly]

Amy - I'm so sorry that you're having to go through this honey

Dazed - Thinking of you often. xx

Round - Things sound really stressful for you at the moment, I hope some pressure is taken off you soon

Mel - Happy V day

 

[pregoinnorge]

Wow round, that sounds like a lot to handle. It must be hard but it sounds like you're doing really well. When do you have to go back to work?

 

[heart tree]

Amy, how are you feeling? I didn't have any side effects from the shot. What made you choose that route in the end? Does this mean you won't be traveling? I'm so sorry this is happening. I'm totally up for meeting again in July. We can figure out details later.

Dazed, this all just happened. I imagine your hubby will come around. It took Tim a long time to agree to IUI/IVF/surrogacy. Each one of those topics took a lifetime for him to grasp in my opinion. And we were looking at all of these options before my ectopic. Once the ectopic happened, he got quickly on board with IUI but again, it was a lot of work to build him up to that. I have a hunch your hubby is similar. It's such an unfair situation for you to both be in right now.

Round I can't even begin to imagine how stressed you must be. I can't remember, does your hubby have a diagnosis of anxiety disorder? I'm no child psychologist by any means, but I wonder if Bryce isn't sleeping well due to some of the anxiety he sees in your hubby? How did Bryce do on your trip? I know it must not feel like it, but Bryce will get easier. It might just be a little while longer.

Mel, I keep thinking girl for you. I have nothing to compare it to, but Delilah was super active in my belly. I love that Kash wants a girl too! So cute that he's helping you with names!

Gibs, you're allowed to be crabby. Just go punch that teddy bear and then have a bite of chocolate.

 

[Round2]

Hearty, yes my DH was diagnosed by his GP a few months ago with an anxiety disorder. His anxiety doesn't seem to be brought on by anything - it just comes and goes randomly. His GP thinks it's a chemical imbalance as it runs in his family. He's been to see a psychologist and is taking drugs - but nothing seems to help. He has moments when he's fine, sometimes hours, but it never lasts. It's hard to watch because I can see he's getting depressed about it. He's not enjoying things the way he used too. I spent yesterday trying to find a psychiatrist that might be able help him but the wait to see one is over a year.

Mel, thanks, I wished that you lived here too! Happy V -Day.

Amy, I don't go back till the end of July, thank goodness. It's still coming soon though. How are you feeling today? What is the latest with you?

Last night was another rough one, Bryce was up 5 times!

 

[VGibs]

I have been crying for the past half hour. I have been at work all morning and have vomitted 18 times. I am so sick. And one of the girls I work with told the whole store I'm pregnant. All the guys I work with keep laughing at me and talking about gross food to make me feel worse. I have so much work to get done and I'm so far behind but I know I need to see a doctor.

 

[vickyd]

Virginia thats weird that all the guys are acting like a-holes...In my job where 98% are male they were all so supportive during all my pregnancies...Usually its women who arent as supportive. Why dont you talk to them about their behavior?

 

[heart tree]

Oh Round, that sounds incredibly stressful. I wonder if there are other meds he can take. Anxiety and depression can go hand in hand. Is his depression being addressed? Is he getting regular counseling? I don't know what the resources are like where you live, but it sounds like he needs more attention to get this in check. I have no advice for Bryce. You seem like you are doing everything possible. 5 times is a lot for his age. Did you talk to the doc about food intolerances yet?

Gibs, that sounds like harassment to me. Is there a supervisor you can speak to about this? It sounds like you might have hyperemesis gravidarum with all of that vomiting. You need to see a doctor. Your health comes before work.

 

[pregoinnorge]

I can't believe those jerks would act that way vgibs. I cant imagine anyone treating you like that! Work is so not as important as your health- can you get some time off?

 

[LucyJ]

V I'm shocked by the treatment you are receiving definitely sounds like harassment is there a manager or someone you could talk too? Get yourself to the dr's asap hopefully they can do something to help with the sickness. Your health is the most important.

Amy how are you?

Oh round that's rough I really hope he starts sleeping better soon. Had your hubby been back to the drs could they change his medication hope he can find away through this I can't imagine how hard it must be for you.

to all

 

[heart tree]

How are my Disco girls today? Rainy day here. Baby is taking long naps today. Must be the weather. She crawled (kind of) for the first time yesterday and cut her first tooth last week! On my phone now but will post a video of her crawl when I get on the computer.

Recently she has been screaming when we put her to bed. We used to be able to put her down, give kisses and leave the room. I think she's having separation anxiety. She won't settle, even if I go in and pat her. I had to nurse her to sleep last night but she wasn't really hungry. Once she's down she has consistently been sleeping for 7 hours then wakes to feed then back down for 3-4 more hours. My question is, how do you put your kids down? We feed her, do bath, books then bed. Do you pat them? Hold them? Let them cry? I know some of you did CIO. I guess I want to hear other alternatives. She's 9 months on Sunday but her adjusted age isn't even 8 months yet.

We just started leaving a stuffed animal in her crib for comfort. What else can I do?

 

[pregoinnorge]

Hi Amanda! I'm ashamed to say that I still let Ella have a bottle before bed. I know it's terrible but it's her only one of the day. After dinner we play and color and then it's bath time. Then I hold her (and her favorite stuffed toy) and read a book and then sing while she cuddles and drinks. Usually she just throws her bottle down and either falls asleep in my arms or points to her bed. When she was Delilah's age I still let her nurse to sleep actually and she usually did OK through the night unless she was sick or hungry, but rarely woke up just to comfort nurse. However for the first 6 months she would ONLY sleep while nursing. That was terrible!

I swear I just jinxed myself and she will wake up 18 times tonight!

It's so frustrating when things work for awhile and then suddenly stop! Good luck!

 

[vickyd]

Hearty were you able to put her down awake and let her self settle? Hero never could do this so i rocked her to sleep till about 14 months and from then on i would have her in my bed and sing her to sleep. I then would move her to her crib asleep in my arms. It takes about 15-45 minutes depending on her degree of fussiness lol! This methos howver will never teach her to self settle which creates problems when she wakes in the middle of the night and you have to re-do the whole process.

 

[VGibs]

Well my manager is probably the worst of the bunch. He teases me relentlessly and tells me constantly that I have to "suck it up" and there is nothing they can do for me. I can get time off if I call in sick but I have to make up the work which is way more stressful and I don't get paid for the time I take off.

It turns out I had a very very bad stomach virus and was forced to take today and yesterday off. The worst part, I know I am going to get a lot of attitude when I go back to work. And my stupid husband is the most unsupportive man in history. He thinks I am being lazy and is visibly angry that I am not making any money by being off these days. He came home last night and yelled at me for about 40 minutes because I did not pick up MeMe from daycare. Not only did he not ask me to. But I literally could not get out of bed yesterday. He has been a total nightmare since he quit smoking. Its been almost 3 months since he quit and he has been a nightmare to live with. Everything makes him angry. He thinks everyone is lazy and annoying. He keeps telling me that morning sickness is all in my head. He yells at the kids for no reason. I just want him to leave sometimes.

 

[Round2]

VGibs, sorry to hear your hubby is being so unsupportive. MS is definatley not in your head!

Hearty, I used to be able to put Bryce down in his crib awake, but we're having the same issue now. The second his head hits the mattress he screams and screams. I've tried CIO, but it's not working. Lately, I've just fed him or rocked him. I don't remember Maddy going through this phase, I think she was already sleeping well so we didn't have to worry about it. Tommorow we're going to the doctor to discuss allergies, he hasn't pooed since Monday this week and his waking more and more at night. Last night he was awake for 3 hours and woke up 3 other times. Something has got be going on.

 

[LucyJ]

Amanda I nursed Benjamin to sleep untill he dropped his evening feed at just before 13 months then we would rock him to sleep untill about 14/15months when I used the put down pick up method or similar to that to get him to settle on his own it took 3 days and we got there. Our routine is bath, quite time with milk including a story, nightime songs and bed most nights he goes down in his cot and settles with no problems.

 

[msarkozi]

Hearty, as you know I used CIO method. But the times where he did need some comfort, I would go into his room, give him his soother, and I would sway/bounce him in my arms for a few minutes until he was settled and then would put him back down. I have used soft music before as well, and would just let the cd play until it was done.

 

[hoping:)]

Dazed- It is good to see you posting in here.

Round- You have a lot on your plate. I hope your husband can get the help he needs. I’m sure it breaks your heart to see him like this and plus it puts that added burden on you since you have to be the rock of the family.

vGibs- I’m sorry to hear you are so ill with MS and then a virus on top of that. I had bad MS too but nothing compared to what you are going through. Your job situation definitely is not helping and I can’t believe your husband is acting this way towards you. I would be livid. You need to be supported during this time. Do you have other friends and family you can lean on for support?

Amanda- I loved the video of Delilah crawling in her cute little dress. Penny usually goes down without a fuss but when she is having trouble I let her cry for a few minutes and then I will go into the nursery and cuddle her and put her back down. If she will not settle I bring her to bed with us but this is rare. It could definitely be separation anxiety. Penny was right around Delilah’s age when she started going through that. It helped when her grandma got her stuffed puppy, Violet. It sings songs, plays games and even has a special bed time song. We also got her a stuffed turtle star projector. I think she is having another episode because if Tim or I leave the room she just breaks down in tears. The other night I went to see a friend and felt so awful seeing her little face and hands pressed against the window crying.

It’s so cute now because Penny will tuck her dollies in at bed time before curling up with them.

Amy- Penny still drinks a bottle too. Her last one is before dinner. I’ve tried to get her used to sippy cups but she just pushes them away. She loves drinking from a regular cup so we give her that as often as we can. Occasionally she will drink from her sippy that has a straw. I really need to wean her from the bottle ASAP.

AFM- Tim, Penny and I are officially proud owners of backyard chickens! They are an Easter gift for Penny but we will raise them and keep them for fresh eggs. My mom used to surprise my sister and I will baby chicks, ducks or bunnies on Easter so I wanted to do that for Penny. Yesterday we came home with 2 Columbian Rocks, 1 Mille Fleur Bantam and 1 Cuckoo Maran. Our back yard will be our own mini farm and Tim already has big plans for our garden. Someday I would love to add a goat or two to the mix and a mini potbellied pig. We also do worm composting so we have our very own rich soil.

 

[VGibs]

Amber - I have my mom and Dad but my mother never had MS so she doesn't really understand. It's funny about your chickens because we got 20 new chickens yesterday! LOL We have 1 pygmy goat *Eugenia Victoria Butler* and 2 pot bellies *Ophelia, and Sophia*. We tried worm compost but the darn duck kept getting into it and eating the worms. She has since gone on to duck heaven so we may try again soon.


Meme still has a bottle as well. She gets a bottle of water at night to sleep with. She is still very attached to sucking to sleep. She never uses a bottle at daycare or at my Mom's house.