Disco Derail! - TTCAL/PAL Discussion and Support!

[VGibs]

I had cramping with this pregnancy too. They told me the bleeding and cramping I had was because of the previous MC and my body was trying to adapt. The cramping lasted me almost two weeks.

 

[heart tree]

Vicky you are about to get your scan. Thinking of you babes. Can't wait to hear how it goes. You better get a picture this time!

Jenny sorry you are sick. Boo to being sick.

Lucy, it seems to me you would have had at least a flow like AF to be a mc. Also it is interesting what Virginia said about bleeding during pregnancy after a mc. Your body is no doubt still trying to regulate after your last loss. Maybe that's what the bleeding is about. I hope you get some good numbers tomorrow.

Allie don't make me come to Fargo and hug/slap you. Your temps still look great. Look at my first pregnancy chart again. Imagine how I felt at 9dpo when my temp took a nosedive. Then it took another one a few days later. And I was pregnant! I know it wasn't a sticky one, but of all my pregnancies, it was the only one that was growing properly and had a heartbeat. It was the blood clot that ended the pregnancy. So please stop reading into your charts so much. As much as I love you I really don't want to come to Fargo in December. Brrrrr.

Mone how are you doing? Where are you in your cycle?

Hi to everyone else!

 

[yogi77]

Just wanted to say that I am thinking about you Lucy and hoping that you get a wonderful Christmas present!

Allie your chart still looks good, way above cover line!!

Sorry your feeling sick Jenny, hope you feel better soon...

Big hello to everyone else

 

[jenny25]

girls im having a crash and burn moment i have been feeling guilty about terminating my pregnancy with jamie yes thats right i ended the pregnancy and i feel so awful i should of let him fight id of been 23 weeks on tuesday and i hate that im not , jamie had a condition called megstytis where their was a blockage in the uretha where their was no out flow of urine to amntiotic fluid and his bladder had gone up into his chest one of his kidneys had been made deformed because of this and their was no room for his lungs to grow and mature i feel guilty for not giving him a chance to fight

 

[cazza22]

OMG Luce i have onlly just read your news aaaarrgghhh i sooooooooo hope that this is the most amazing chrimbo prezzie ever babe, i have everything crossed

Meggles i am sorry about ur 3rd frostie babes, but i am extreeemmmeeelyy optimistic about ur iccle twin embies gorgeous

I promised hearty a bump pic AGESSSS ago and i finally got round to doing it lol!! heres my 14 week bump

https://www.babyandbump.com/attachment.php?attachmentid=146948&stc=1&d=1292517770

Lov you all millions xxx Caz xxx

 

[msarkozi]

cute bump picture Cazz!!

Jenny - don't feel guilty about it. I know you are always going to wonder "what if", but you have to think of it as in the way you did the best thing for him. Yeah, maybe he would have had a chance, but what would his life be like?! Would he be suffering?! What if you did give him the chance and he struggled to live and passed anyway?! It's just one of those things, that we will never know, and you had a tough decision to make. It seems like a slim thing to me that he would have made it, so I think you did make the right decision. Don't be so hard on yourself!

 

[Megg33k]

Gorgeous bump, Caz! Do we not have you on FB?

If your tests are getting darker, its a really, really great sign, Lucy!

Oh, Jenny! You have nothing to feel guilty about. He would have suffered forever and ever. That's no way to live. Mature lungs are one of the most important things that a baby needs, and he would have probably struggled, suffered, and not survived anyway. You wouldn't have wanted to put him through that. You made the best decision a mummy can make... You put his well-being before your own desires. I'm 100% certain you made the right choice!

 

[Allie84]

Thanks girls. I just really feel I'm out and it was my last shot before my due date (around New Years). I would never have imagined I wouldn't be pregnant again by now. It's hard to accept. Hearty, I wouldn't wish December in Fargo on anyone haha.

Jenny, you put your baby before yourself when you made this decision and while it's the hardest decision a person could ever have to make, it showed how much you were thinking of him while making it. I'm sure there will days when you will feel awful about losing him, but please, please do not feel guilty.

Oh, Lucy, I wish they could just give you your results right away! I'm so impatient waiting, so I cannot imagine how you must feel. Darker pregnancy test is an amazing sign!!

Gorgeous bump there, Cazz!! Love your tracksuit too!

 

[Jaymes]

These Girls are all right! Jenny you made a tough decision, and you need to stop feeling guilty for it. Fat chance I know, mine had no heartbeat and I still feel guilty for getting my D&C. I think to myself "what if," but in reality it was the best decision for both of you.

I Blizzards! I have not seen a single DQ since we moved here, but I do see commercials for them, so there has to be one somewhat near to me. Sorry for your bad day hun!

Megg - - - Hugs! Dont beat yourself up about the 3rd. The polyps are all gone and you have a nice clean uterus to grow babies in! You will get your forever baby!

Lucy, fxed for you dear! a Christmas miracle is just what we all need to hear about!

For all of you I missed including those who don't post much or at all...
Love you people! MUAH!

 

[Megg33k]

Jaymie! I love that you fly in with good advice and hugs! You should do it more often!

 

[heart tree]

There isn't much I can say here that hasn't been said. Jenny, I agree with all of the other women. You made the right decision. It was a very difficult one, but the right one. I would have done the same thing, I have no doubt in my mind about it.

Cazz, I'm in awe of your bump. It is so beautiful! I'm over the moon for you. Thanks for sharing it.

Where is Vicky? It's been hours since her scan. I'm dying to see a picture!

 

[vickyd]

Hey ladies!

scan went well but i have yet to see my baby girls face as she is always faced inward sigh... I didnt even ask for a photo as you would just see her spine and tush! I dont think ill be seeing her till she is born lol!

Jen i too chose to terminate a pregnancy at 23 weeks. I made a decision based on love for my child, i could not imagine being so selfish that i would keep her and let her go through life with severe health problems. In my oinion thats what a good mother does, protect her child from ain and suffering. If you need to talk you can always pm me.

 

[heart tree]

Vicky, I'm so glad the scan went well. I knew it would. I really want a picture though! Spine and tush would have been fine. Not sure I can wait 85 more days. Next scan, do some jumping jacks so she moves and you can get a picture of her cute little face. I'm so incredibly thrilled for you!

 

[jenny25]

thanks girls for all your advice jamie and paul were my little boys i know they always will be i just think to myself why do i need to go through this over and over surely i wasnt that bad in a past life i think its the time of year it gets hard i should be a mum of 5 at christmas xx

 

[vickyd]

I think the reason i dont feel so much movement apart from the cervix kicking is because she in always facing inward. Remind me of this next time i start freaking out that i havent felt movement...

 

[NatoPMT]

ah ah and ah again, she has a tush!!! Vic, i wanna see her tush. Now i feel hard done by that there is no tush photo. Massive congrats

Jenny. Thanks for trusting us with that. I know how hard it must be for you to think about what's happened, and what hasnt happened. You were in a horrific position, i think the choice you were faced with was an impossible choice. And a choice with no right answer, only wrong ones. Whatever you did, you would have been full of guilt. As you mentioned past lives, i believe that you arent punished for past wrongs, but all of us have to go through hardships to learn compassion and whatever we need to learn to grow.

Luce, how are you getting on this evening?

Allie, am hoping very hard for you for a rise tomorrow.

where's Miss Sassy these days? i hope shes all right in the snow.

 

[LucyJ]

Vicky so pleased the scan went well I knew it would.

Jenny I agree with the other girls it must be so hard for you but you did the best thing by your little boy.

Caz your bump is gorgeous thanks for the pic made me smile so happy for you.

Cramping has got worse but still spotting god I just want the results back now I hate this waiting game. I go through ups and downs sometimes feeling hopeful sometimes feeling resigned its such a confusing time but thank you for all your support couldn't get through this without you all.

 

[NatoPMT]

sorry to hear that, what results will there be? is it just blood hcg? anything else? Im assuming your hcg must be good because your line is pretty dark, and getting darker?

Im sorry i dont have any words or advice to help you through this, all i can do is say whatever you want to talk about, we are here to listen

if you want a distraction, these photos are incredible:

https://news.sky.com/skynews/Home/W...ubble_Space_Telescope_-_Best_Images_From_2010

 

[msarkozi]

Vicky - glad the scan went well, and we will totally remind you of that. I think your little girl likes showing her bum....you might be in trouble later on!! lol!

 

[vickyd]

Luce hang on girl....lets all hope for the best possible outcome tomorrow...

When i was at docs there were two other coules there, laughing and chatting like it never crossed their minds that something could go wrong...i couldnt help but feeling robbed...i havent been relaxed once when i go for a scan! I cant even ask for a damn photo im so concentrated on discussing everything that might be wrong with my little one. Today i was obsessed with the fact that my placenta has gone grade 2 and worrying if i might get premature ageing. Doc tried very hard to calm me down saying that this scale is not as useful anymore and that next month he will reform a doppler scan which is more accurate. He begged me not to worry but that went in one ear and out the other...