Its an interesting thread. Now, I'm not sure what I believe to be true, but my nanna died when I was about 7 months pregnant and I feel more a general sense of the circle of life. It was weird not feeling sad about her dying, because of my sense of new life inside me. While I dont feel that my nannas soul transferred into my son, I feel that she must have gone 'somewhere' and also Jasper came from 'somewhere', and I guess I get the feeling that its the same 'somewhere'.
This also took away from me feeling sad that she never got to meet him, as I feel like for that time after she died and before Jasper was born, they would have been together in some way. And that the nanna that I knew when she was younger and healthier would have been the nanna that met him, not the person she'd become - for the last year I really felt like my nanna was being 'held' by her body, through medical intervention and that most of the soul that is her had already gone on to wherever she was going. I almost prefer that her whole self would have been able to meet Jasper before he was born, rather than the self that was left in her body.... gee... I dont even know if that makes sense to me, so if it doesn't make sense to anyone else, thats totally understandable!