Do you get doubts?

[ferens06]

Seen as we're all in the same boat, trying for our first and obviously don't really know what it's like until you've been there....

Do you ever wonder if you're ready/doing the right thing? x

 

[wannabemummyb]

Totally, I think it's one of those things! I know I am totally ready and will be an excellent mother but at the same time the odd doubt creeps in - is it taking so long because some deity knows I am not ready etc etc. I think it's totally normal Hun x

 

[mummy.wannabe]

yeah sometimes because its going to be hard work but i desperatly want a baby.

i dont know if ill be able to cope with the lack of sleep and the fact that we might not be able to get a mortgage if i have a baby, so we need to try get it sorted before a baby makes an appearance x

 

[ferens06]

I just think of how much my life will change and it's scary, but at least I know I'm not the only one!

I worry that it will strain our relationship which would be really hard because we don't really have any problems (except when I have pms haha!). Also the financial worry, the reaction from family, work etc. Everything will turn upside down! But I know it's what I want, just overwhelming bringing another life into the world and being completely responsible! x

 

[ferens06]

Ps. know what you mean about the lack of sleep! I'm a sleep monster!

 

[mummy.wannabe]

both hubby and i LOVE and i mean LOVE our sleep!!! but then im thinking i wont have to get up for work or get ready or put make up on if i dont want to, and once baby is sorted and happy then you can chill again ha x

 

[ferens06]

Haha yeah I've thought about that too! I will have to go back to work at some point though so I think that will be tough but I'm sure we'll both cope just fine

 

[BH040]

Lol the only thing I really worry about is whether or not OH really knows what he is getting himself into! He doesn't like to help out at it is. And I keep telling him that when we have a baby he isn't going to be able to sit on his butt all the time like he does now and he is not ONLY going to get to do the fun stuff, he will damn sure have his fair share of the not so fun things! oh and the money too, OH has a job that gets REALLY slow during winter and lately spring time too, so money will be tight but doable.

 

[mummy.wannabe]

men dont have anything in there body to help them with the change thats goiing to happen, where as we get all the hormones to help us.

i really dont want to go back to work after we have had a baby as id love another baby very close together!!

but if we struggle with money then ill have no choice to go back to work.

when people 1st have a baby no one knows what they letting themselves in for, but so many millions of people do it and carry on to have more xx

 

[BH040]

Well I know i'd be just fine.... I have seven nieces and nephews and I lived with two of them from birth to 2 two years old. Plus I work as a daycare teacher for one of my jobs. Plus I think everything dealing with children is A LOT easier when they are your own kids versus other peoples children.

 

[mummy.wannabe]

yes i agree with thinking it will be easier to deal with your own than others x

 

[MurphyTaylor]

Oh definitely! I know we're ready and I know we can do it but sometimes, because so many things are happening at the moment with my OH and work I tend to think 'is it the right time?' and things like that. But, I know that I don't want to wait any longer because all I've ever wanted is to be a mum, and a young mum tbh so I know it's right. Doubts happen with every choice people make though, they're nothing to worry about unless you weigh out the pro's and con's and con's overrule the pro's.

I'm ranting now so I'll stop

 

[Mrs Cupcake]

i quite often wonder if the timing is right!

i wonder if we could wait another year and save more money, develop our careers further etc etc but then the little voice saying "but.... i want a baby..." wins!

i know we are making the right decision

 

[MurphyTaylor]

i quite often wonder if the timing is right!

i wonder if we could wait another year and save more money, develop our careers further etc etc but then the little voice saying "but.... i want a baby..." wins!

i know we are making the right decision

That's exactly the same thing that little voice says to me and it will never lose!

 

[MrsStutler]

Oh yeah, we are so up in the air about it. Sometimes I'm full on "baby baby baby baby" and then others I'm thinking we are nuts for wanting a baby right now. Most of the time I am in the middle though. We spoke with our pastor and his wife since he has seen us grow from a couple in his youth group to who we are now, and even married us. They gave us a lot to think about but in the end their "nugget of wisdom" was do what you want to do... I still wonder if it is the right thing but I don't think I will ever be fully one way or the other so why not now?

 

[Twister]

Oh yeah we both get doubts. Oh has tried to talk me out of it at times but we've always managed to get through it and carry on (we've only been ttc for one month but it feels like so much longer!). We know that we will be able to manage no matter what. I do worry sometimes, mainly about what both sets of parents would have to say about it but I'm pretty sure they would come around to the idea eventually, and if not then it's their loss!

 

[KTsmiles]

I'm totally with you. I don't think anyone who doesn't have kids can be 100% sure they are ready. I think they can really really want one, but being ready to have one is a different story. So many factors to think about. But if its something you really want, you have to go for it. If something comes up, you will deal with it the best way you know how which I'm sure that will be just the right thing. That's life! That's what defines us; the decisions we make when we have choices in life. Think positive! We are all in this together ladies!! Like one big, happy family! KT

 

[mummy.wannabe]

Does anyone think that if they speak to someone or hear someone way they are completely 100% then they obviously in the clouds and maybe will get a shock when a baby arrives! I think we are all sensible for having doubts, it makes us realise we are thinking this through and doing the right thing, when some people dont plan a pregnancy there's a lot to take it in a short amount of time!

We are the sensible 1s making sure we are ready!! X

 

[ferens06]

^^^ i completely agree. I think if youre not worried about what is going to be the biggest role/challenge of your life then youre perhaps being naive. I spoke to OH about it last night and he reassured me about it, feeling better today! The most worrying thing is his parents reaction, I don't have any so its not a problem for me. X

 

[karenlyn]

I definitely have doubts! I work from home and earn a good living, and turn 30 next year, and have been married for about a century, so on paper the timing looks great. And I DO think I'll be a great Mom.

Then my cat steals my just-peed-on OPK from the bathroom counter and I chase her through our apartment, yelling my head off. Clearly I am not the sea of calm, love, and patience that a great Mom should be, haha.

And oh... the sleep. I LOVE to sleep.

But what I really want is a baby... and then a child. I'm even looking forward to having a teenager (or a few!) some day...