Do you love your kids more than your OH?

[rjm09]

Our son is the result of our love. Like said before, he will grow up and start his own life. We were together before, and we will be together after. We are one!

I love my son, and would give my life for him. At almost 2 I still won't let MIL take him in her car anywhere, i'm extremely protective over him.

If we could get a weekend to ourselves though, you bet we'd do it!! We have made time for dinner and movie dates. You just have to find time for each other. Otherwise it can get stressful! As amazing as having kids and raising them are, it can get challenging and frustrating at times.

 

[moomin_troll]

This is a hard one. I read once someone saying that you only have your kids on loan while your husband is for the rest of your life. I do try to be mindful of that when even the cats get more of my time than hubby does.

i see it more the other way around. your kids are for life and ur husbands on loan. but thats just me

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I almost feel a little bad that I feel this way. Like maybe I should love my husband more? Or maybe I'm too attached to my LO? Is that even possible?

I dont think its wrong to feel this way, I love my kids more than my OH and I would tell him to his face lol. We both know where we stand. Yes it is different kind of love but at the end of it all, I love them more. Always will do because I am their mum and they are part of me!

My LO's are 5 and 7 and I still feel the same as you. Its not wrong at all. Make the most of them being lil I say

 

[pupsicle]

I would put my LO first, but that doesn't mean I love my OH any less.

 

[indy and lara]

This is a hard one. I read once someone saying that you only have your kids on loan while your husband is for the rest of your life. I do try to be mindful of that when even the cats get more of my time than hubby does.

i see it more the other way around. your kids are for life and ur husbands on loan. but thats just me

I do see Emma as being on loan. One day she will move out and live her own completely independent life, leaving OH and I. I know that it is not always how it works out but it is how I see it.

 

[mrsthomas623]

I think they are different kinds of love. My child/ren will always and forever have my love, it is just there... nothing they could do could break it. Whereas I know my DH and I do have to be constantly working on our relationship and not just expect it to maintain itself. But all in all, if I could only save LO or DH, I would 100% save LO and DH feels the same way.

I would wait until you feel comfortable taking a weekend trip away, you guys have years ahead of you where your children will WANT to be away from you spend the time with your LO while you can.

 

[Blah11]

I almost feel a little bad that I feel this way. Like maybe I should love my husband more? Or maybe I'm too attached to my LO? Is that even possible?

i think youre similar to me hun. I'm quite a protective parent. she only leaves my side if im working I dont want to be away from her. My friends get at me cos i dont leave her to go on girly holidays or nights out They all leave their LOs atleast once a week overnight and just dont get it that i dont feel comfortable whatsoever with it.

 

[Blah11]

This is a hard one. I read once someone saying that you only have your kids on loan while your husband is for the rest of your life. I do try to be mindful of that when even the cats get more of my time than hubby does.

i see it more the other way around. your kids are for life and ur husbands on loan. but thats just me

i feel the same. i could do without my OH if i needed to - like if he had a huge affair i'd leave him and fall out of love with him and get with someone else etc etc. however, i will never stop loving amelie, no matter what she did. even if i didnt like her, i'll always love her.

 

[moomin_troll]

This is a hard one. I read once someone saying that you only have your kids on loan while your husband is for the rest of your life. I do try to be mindful of that when even the cats get more of my time than hubby does.

i see it more the other way around. your kids are for life and ur husbands on loan. but thats just me

i feel the same. i could do without my OH if i needed to - like if he had a huge affair i'd leave him and fall out of love with him and get with someone else etc etc. however, i will never stop loving amelie, no matter what she did. even if i didnt like her, i'll always love her.

i always said i could live without my oh but i couldnt live without my baby. u never no what lifes got in store. im 23 n still go to my mum for things, so even tho our babies will move out they will always come back lol

 

[Blah11]

This is a hard one. I read once someone saying that you only have your kids on loan while your husband is for the rest of your life. I do try to be mindful of that when even the cats get more of my time than hubby does.

i see it more the other way around. your kids are for life and ur husbands on loan. but thats just me

i feel the same. i could do without my OH if i needed to - like if he had a huge affair i'd leave him and fall out of love with him and get with someone else etc etc. however, i will never stop loving amelie, no matter what she did. even if i didnt like her, i'll always love her.

i always said i could live without my oh but i couldnt live without my baby. u never no what lifes got in store. im 23 n still go to my mum for things, so even tho our babies will move out they will always come back lol

True, I see my mum more than ever now I have amelie haha

 

[moomin_troll]

im only expecting to see my boys when they want something tho hahaha if they are like there dad they will be after money or a place to hide to get away from a girl they have upset lol

 

[peanut56]

My LO will always come first, absolutely. She comes before me and my husband.
But I cannot compare the love I have for her and the love I have for my husband like that, because they're just completely different.

 

[bky]

I think equally. I feel sad though as I certainly love my dogs less now.

 

[Lover]

OH and I both agree that we love LO differently to how we love each other but not necessarily 'more' if you know what I mean? I would give my life for either of them in a heartbeat.

I love my son unconditionally but I love my OH under certain conditions (e.g. that he would never hurt our son, he stays faithful, never hurt me etc).

 

[Eve]

Mark and I just had a chat about this, and he and I both agree we love each other dearly, but well... we take back seats to the kids lol..

 

[Gen79]

I love them both equally and I think if I was faced with having to save one or the other of them I'd have a complete mental breakdown and we'd all be goners. I don't think I could bare life without either one of them (unless OH did something horrible to me, but he wouldn't).

 

[Nibblenic]

I love them both in a very different way.

Like if there was a situation where Oh would be upset/sad or miss out because of something lo needed or even wanted. Lo would get. But he would want that aswell iykwim.

Lo comes first for both of us. Eachother second then ourselves 3rd.

I agree couples need time. Me and OH dont go out by ourselves oftern, infact its no more than twice a year atm which is our Birthdays. However that doesnt mean that we dont spend time together and bond as a couple.

I would die for Lo without a seond though. I would die without her. I could manage if Oh died it wouldnt be nice but I could carry on. I would hink twice about jumping infront of a bus for OH cos I would think of Lo losing her mother and potenitally her father aswell.

I think me and Oh are very much on the same page with regaurds to this.

I think it would be uncomfortable or difficult if you didnt agree on what is a really big thing in your relationship

 

[Blah11]

I love them both equally and I think if I was faced with having to save one or the other of them I'd have a complete mental breakdown and we'd all be goners. I don't think I could bare life without either one of them (unless OH did something horrible to me, but he wouldn't).

See it would be a no brainer for me. I'd save Amelie first without a doubt.

Strange how everyone is so different

 

[moomin_troll]

if i had to choose i no my oh would of made me save zane, thats if i even had any doubt anyway. and i no hed of saved zane instead of me too.
we are here to protect our babies

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I love them both equally and I think if I was faced with having to save one or the other of them I'd have a complete mental breakdown and we'd all be goners. I don't think I could bare life without either one of them (unless OH did something horrible to me, but he wouldn't).

See it would be a no brainer for me. I'd save Amelie first without a doubt.

Strange how everyone is so different

Is it bad that my OH wouldn't even get a look in! I would hope to god that he would put the kids before me without a second of doubt to. I wouldn't get offended by that, I would like that!