Do you think BF can hinder the bond baby has with the father?

[Twister]

Some interesting responses! And I do think the breast pump manufacturers have a lot to answer for. I don't think she's jealous as such, I just think she gets irked about bf in general, for what ever reason.

I think she blew the whole Dad bonding thing out of proportion. I was talking to oh about it and he said that her oh told him that he literally used to just pop the bottle in and watch the tv, lol so much for bonding! I think he's bonded with their LO via other means.

 

[New Mrs W]

Well my DH is the most wonderful daddy I could have wished for for my children but I have to agree with your friend in part. My eldest was ff and my youngest is bf. He has an amazing bond with our eldest and has done from the beginning. I don't think it has anything to do with how Frankie was fed per se. However, the amount of time Frankie spent feeding was so much less than Mickey spends feeding, as is the case with most bf babies. So it's not just a case of him not being able to feed Mickey when he could feed Frankie, it's a case of the amount of time he has been able to spend with Mickey as opposed to the time he could spend with Frankie. Other factors have played a part too, Frankie was a ridiculously easy baby where Mickey has been much more demanding etc. I have noticed that now that Mickey has started to go longer between feeds that his bond with his daddy has really improved (he laughs for his daddy more than anyone else) and I have no doubt that as he gets older their bond will grow even more but in the first instance I have to agree that me bf Mickey did impede their bond.

 

[Button#]

OH has said that he would love to feed Ashley in the past, we tried it with expressed milk when he was little and it was so distressing we didn't try again. I don't think it affected their bond though, his first smile was for his daddy.

He does have us pigeonholed for certain things. If he wants a feed of course he wants mummy, he also wants mummy for comfort because he uses my hair as a comforter. Bedtime stories and bath time are strictly daddy times though, I tried to bath with him a couple of months ago and he screamed and clung to OH until I got out and left the room. He also asks for daddy all day while he's at work and gets really excited whenever we go upstairs as he obviously thinks that's where he's hiding!

I think a bond between father and baby has to be worked on no matter how you feed. My OH has taken LO running every saturday morning since he was about 6 months, he also gives him his breakfast every morning while I stay in bed. Yes I am probably the favourite but OH is a very close second