Does anyone else fear not being able to concieve?

[CantHrdlyWait]

Is there anyone else out there that fears that when it's TTC, they won't be able to? I just found out in Janurary that i've been living most of my life with untreated Celiac Disease (which can cause infertility) and it's been in the back of my mind ever since! I've also had a biopsy of my cervix and cryotherapy for moderate dysplasia! So i'm a little worried and anxious about what will happen when it's my turn to TTC!

anyone ever been through anything similar?

 

[Emiloo]

Yes! I always worry about this.. Especially with all my slip ups on my pill, I think how could I not have concieved already?! My OH doesnt think thatfar ahead to be able to worry about stuff like this..

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

I think the same thing! I was on the pill from age 16 to 25 and there were plenty of times I messed up. I've never had ONE pregnancy scare. It makes me feel uneasy now that I'm actually wanting kids!

 

[Elpis_x]

Yes, I worry about it too. I suffered with an eating disorder when I was younger and stopped getting periods for a while, which worries me that I've messed something up. Over the last year or so my cycles have also become super irregular, which also scares me! My OH doesn't worry at all, he seems to think that it'll just happen one day when we're ready! We use the pull out method and have never had any accidents, so that does sometimes make me think, why has it never gone wrong in all this time. I try not to think about it though.

 

[Viridian Soul]

I worry about this constantly!

On my side of the family, I've had two aunts that have had to have hysterectomies, and there is uterine cancer, cervical cancer, and all kinds of other stuff there. Both of my aunts were 36 when they had their reproductive organs removed...I'm almost 32.

On DH's side, his father was technically infertile (low mobility) and it took him and K's mother SIX YEARS to become pregnant with their first child! They eventually ended up having four altogether, but I think to myself nonstop if we end up having to TTC for six years, I could have to have a hysterectomy by then!

The idea makes me want to vomit.

 

[Firefly Skies]

PCOS is in my dad's side of the family, so that's always in the back of my mind. When I was a teenager, I had one period that lasted literally for MONTHS. I went to the doctor where their best guess was that my body was regulating itself and there was no need for further tests. It eventually stopped after they gave me birth control.

My cycles are now regular, but I still have that fear in my mind. Considering I don't have health insurance, I'm not going to check it out right now. Once we do start TTC (when I do have insurance), I think I'm going to see a doctor to make sure everything's okay.

 

[BunInTheBelly]

Yes, it's one of my biggest fears. If someone could just tell me "You'll definitely have a baby someday" I could wait without worry! But so far there's been no booming voice from the heavens so I just try to ignore that possibility.

I too have been on the pill for years, with no surprises despite non-perfect pill-taking. So I understand that side of the uneasiness.

 

[KalonKiki]

I think every woman who has never been pregnant worries that she will never become pregnant. I was worried that the depo provera made me infertile, but I finally decided to take OPKs this month and got four positives in a row before they went back to being negative, so I know that I'm at least ovulating. Sometimes that's all you really need to know in order to feel a little better. Now I just hope that DF has a high sperm count!

 

[GHPBWoman]

I have had issues with irregular cycles since I was a teenager, and always felt like there was something going on with me. It took us almost 4 years to conceive our little boy (we were in the beginning stages of infertility testing when he popped in) and now that he's here I got conformation that I have PCOS.

I think many women worry about it, whether there is cause for concern or not. Sometimes, our fears are unfounded though and things happen how they are supposed to anyway.

 

[zoomlentil]

Yes, I've always been paranoid that I won't be able to conceive.

I had no idea there were links between coeliac disease and infertility. My partner has just been diagnosed with coeliac.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

I worry about this constantly!

On my side of the family, I've had two aunts that have had to have hysterectomies, and there is uterine cancer, cervical cancer, and all kinds of other stuff there. Both of my aunts were 36 when they had their reproductive organs removed...I'm almost 32.

On DH's side, his father was technically infertile (low mobility) and it took him and K's mother SIX YEARS to become pregnant with their first child! They eventually ended up having four altogether, but I think to myself nonstop if we end up having to TTC for six years, I could have to have a hysterectomy by then!

The idea makes me want to vomit.

My mom had a hysterectomy in her 30's too and now they are telling her that her ovaries need to go by the time she's 50. She's 43 now. it's Scary!!!

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

I think every woman who has never been pregnant worries that she will never become pregnant. I was worried that the depo provera made me infertile, but I finally decided to take OPKs this month and got four positives in a row before they went back to being negative, so I know that I'm at least ovulating. Sometimes that's all you really need to know in order to feel a little better. Now I just hope that DF has a high sperm count!

I've thought about doing a couple OPK's but unless I did them in private, I really think my OH would freak out. LOL! I usually can tell when i'm ovulating though. I have very telltale CM and such.. so I HOPE that I am!

 

[KalonKiki]

I never get the EWCM, but I do usually get more CM around O day, although increased CM has never lasted this long for me before. I'm hoping that it's a sign of pregnancy. I also get unbearably horny on my fertile days. x.x

 

[KitteyKat2010]

It took us about a year and a half to conceive our little guy...I just figure if it's meant to happen it will. I worried about being infertile every single month. I actually took a first response test (it was a fertility test) and it said I was fertile, so that really made me realize it will happen when it's meant to happen.

I started birth control, I will be on it until January 2014. Then we are trying for number 2...we will see how my periods go.

I have had irregular ones all my life. But I figure I would rather be on birth control and be protected, because there is no way my body physically and mentallly could handle another baby right now, plus Gavin is going to go through some big milestones in the next few months: crawling, eating baby food, walking sitting up.

 

[loeylo]

This is a huge worry for me. I was with my ex boyfriend for 4 years and we were not very good with contraception after the 1 year mark - I would take the pill for a few months then stop, then we would use pull out method, then nothing, then the pill again - 6 times in 10 I would say were totally unprotected.
I began to worry about this, as did he - although we were not trying for a baby, we worried that if we ever did, it wouldn't happen.
We split up in August 2010, I fell pregnant with my new boyfriend in December 2010, and miscarried in February 2011. His new girlfriend got pregnant in February 2011 and miscarried in April 2011! We were both roughly the same amount of weeks as well.
I have had a subsequent pregnancy which also ended in miscarriage. For me, getting pregnant is not the issue, staying pregnant is, and in a way I think that is worse =[

 

[MelliPaige]

Yes! Both my mom and aunt on dads side had PCOS and both had to have hysterectomies. I am so scared I will develop it, even though I have the most regular period of anyone I know, and I ovulate perfectly. I'm just scared we are gonna start TTC and it will develop in me

 

[oedipamass]

Not sure this makes sense, but I think the impatience of waiting to try is making me scared more than anything. It's almost as if I stopped being excited about the thought of TTC (and hence, possibly getting pregnant right away) and started dreading the thought of TTC (and hence, having possible problems, set-backs, etc.) Also, reading about how difficult is has been for so many makes me apprehensive too. I hope I feel more optimistic once I just go ahead and TTC!

 

[GHPBWoman]

I think there is a lot of pressure (put on by ourselves and by others) to immediately get pregnant on our first try. We learned to not tell anyone we were trying so we would avoid seeing other peoples disappointment each month and avoid all the advice that would follow.

It really helped me to focus on something else for a while. The fear of not conceiving never totally went away, but at least it wasn't glaring me in the face when we had other things going on.

 

[CantHrdlyWait]

Not sure this makes sense, but I think the impatience of waiting to try is making me scared more than anything. It's almost as if I stopped being excited about the thought of TTC (and hence, possibly getting pregnant right away) and started dreading the thought of TTC (and hence, having possible problems, set-backs, etc.) Also, reading about how difficult is has been for so many makes me apprehensive too. I hope I feel more optimistic once I just go ahead and TTC!

I feel the same way!!! I see some people that have been trying for 2+ years and that scares me a lot. I've also had 3 friends who lost babies at full term/ or right after they were born. It's scary!

 

[aidensxmomma]

I worry about this all the time too. Not so much that I'll never get pregnant, since I already have kids, but about how long it's going to take and if I have fertility issues. It didn't take me long to get pregnant with my first two kids (first cycle each time) but with my third it took me a year to get pregnant. So I worry constantly about how long it's going to take and if there's problems that I have.