Does Anyone Else Feel Guilty?

[Jade--x]

I met this guy a few weeks ago.

Got into a relationship together and then the other night we were fooling around and I felt so guilty that I was letting my little boy down :S

I don't know why though..

 

[Mummy&bump]

of course ur not letting him down hun. your not just a mummy, ur a women and u have needs that have 2 b met 2. why shouldnt u be happy?

shouldnt it be a good thing that u have me sum1 else?

i thnk it is.

xxx

 

[xJG30]

Nope, kyle's not Tom's real dad, but he acts more of a dad.. and I've never once felt guilty.

You deserve to be happy

 

[Jade--x]

I am happy with him..I just find it hard to do the intimate stuff..I feel like I'm letting him down in some way like I shouldn't be doing it..

I have my needs and things I just can't help feeling abit bad about it

x

 

[ani]

I'm sure if he was old enough to tell you, he'd also say that he likes to see you happy!

 

[DizzyMoo]

I understand you hun, & its totally normal to feel that way, But it is also normal for you to have some attention too. I'm sure as above poster said your little boy would want to see you happy, He would want to see his mummy smiling
You are in no way letting your boy down, if you are happy then you will be giving him a smiley mummy which is nothing but fab. You need happyness too hun

 

[Laura--x]

I can understand how u feel hun and could imagine i would feel the same, but theres really no need to feel guilty at all! You deserve to be happy x

 

[tasha41]

I would feel guilty too. I think it's a natural feeling, but you have every right to your own happiness, and you deserve it! I'm sure your little man wants you to be happy too

 

[xjodiekissesx]

Darren and Ryan sleep in the same room as me, they ar always sleeping when i get home on saturday night/sunday morning so i dont really feel guilty when im fooling around...but sometimes they have woken up but they dont understand anyway Dizzymoo is right they would want to see us smiling sometimes they do!

 

[LucyS]

Do you mean being intimate when they are in the same room? x

 

[xjodiekissesx]

Oh no not intimate when they are in the same room. One of them sleeps in the other bedroom and one of them in with me, wouldn't want them waking each other up at night. xx

 

[LucyS]

I feel guilty as I was seeing a guy and Alf was still in his cot in my room and you know stuff happened, I feel really slaggish!

 

[Jade--x]

Tyler wasn't even in the same house as me (my mum was babysitting for an hour or so) so I really don't know why I've felt that way. I decided to talk to my bf about it and he really managed to put my mind at ease a little and understands - which is really good because there's no pressure to get intimate.

 

[LucyS]

thats good, i know what happened with me is wrong really but wouldnt dream of it now hes more aware of stuff but then things with his dad were worse

 

[Perdita]

You're not neglecting your child, you're not hurting anyone (except yourself by feeling guilty!) and you are a grown up woman, second marriages are proof themselves that children are not the end of your sex life or your dating!! I would advise against getting ahem down to it with kids in the same room and even with a baby in a crib but only because kids can get a bit confused about the whole thing and it's a lot to explain to a toddler!! With the baby - well, waking them up would kinda put a dampner on things!! Plus I have to say it would feel really weird to me but hey, passion is a good thing if you're in the right location!!
Give it a chance and don't worry - if you're happy and content you have a happy and content child and if there's times he's with yout mother, well, make hay while the sun shines (or roll in the hay as the case may be!)

 

[jenny873]

i know how u feel ive recently starting going out with some1, been with him for 1 month known him for years though. still havent done 'the deed' cant bring myself to do it! to be honest the main reason being is i think what if down below doesnt feel the same after having my baby, lillys dad used to say it did but he would just say that to make me feel better! am i a wierdo thinking this HAHAHA x

 

[ajarvis]

I wouldn't feel guilty. My youngest is only 3 months room and he sleeps in my room. He sleeps through the "intimate" stuff, and will soon be in his own room since he's getting older. But he still wouldn't even notice anything going on if he did wake up. You deserve your own life. There is nothing wrong with it