Does anyone else find they're explaining themselves as to why they are FF??

[bubbles123]

I agree, now I've been through trying to BF I will never again think ill about anyone's feeding method. A friend of mine has just found out she's pregnant, she had a nightmare feeding her first, thrush, mastitis, pain, baby throwing up her blood, you name it she had it. She has decided to express colostrum and milk for the first few weeks then FF this time. Even her pro BF midwife said fair enough after what you went through last time. You do indeed need to walk in someone else shoes.

 

[stephmum2be]

I feel like i have to explain myself all the time, i did try to bf for a week i really did try and it was so bloody hard. She just couldnt latch, shes got slight tongue tie and they think that might of been making it harder for her to get on my breast. She just didnt seem interested though, she didnt take any food for over 30 hours after she was born and then when we tried she couldnt/wouldnt latch and just started screaming and trying to get away from me it was horrible In the end the mw's were telling me just to leave her and when shes hungry she'll come to me but she was going for days with no food and we were both miserable so in the end i gave in and gave her a bottle and we were both so much happier. Shes now thriving and putting weight on nicely

 

[Mum2b_Claire]

I actually wanted to explain why I FF'd Ruby. (she wouldn't latch btw) Personally I didn't want people to think I had chosen it, I know nobody cares but it bothered me.

 

[summer rain]

I've had it both ways; even though 'breast is best' is the official message there are still a lot of Mws and HVs who are very anti-BF and think its impossible for babies to thrive on it. With my eldest I had so many judgemental comments about me BFthat I felt I couldn't tell anyone I was BF in the end. With my youngest he had to have formula for medical reasons; he was lactose intolerant with possibly other intolerances as well; but I was given no support or referrals to have it looked into; as I had done with my middle son who had similar symptoms. He was extremely poorly on BM and nothing I could eliminate from my diet seemed to make a blind bit of difference; yet I had friends who were breastfeeding consultants tell me to just keep BF him and he'd get better in the end; and telling me I gave up 'too easily' when I gradually put him onto a comfort formula. I also got accused of putting him on formula because I wanted him to gain a lot of weight and be 'chubby', which is just BS as he didn't gain weight all that well on the formula; but he was just a much happier baby.

 

[Nic1107]

I felt I needed to explain; not because I felt judged necessarily, but because I wanted people to know that I'd originally chosen BF, was informed about it, etc. Then I felt guilty about feeling that way, because I felt like I was judging people who'd chosen to FF by not wanting people to think I'd chosen it, and the conflicting feelings gave me a headache so I stopped explaining myself- almost more in solidarity with other FFers rather than for myself. ykwim?

Now if anyone asks why I don't BF I'll just tell them it's because I'm really a man.

 

[GossipGirly]

lol !!

Do u think maybe we need to to explain ourselves for our own preconcieved and judgemental thinking before we actually tried it. Iv realised I was a bit judgemental about ff but I would never ever have said anything to anyone as its their own choice but I was very high and mighty about how "of course I was going to breastfeed" when people asked me. iv completly realised how wrong I was and how a healthy baby is not determined by ff/bf x

 

[Justagirlxx]

Yeah I've had this problem. One woman in the waiting room asked me if I breastfeed and I said no and explained why. And then she goes "Oh well I breastfed twins so obviously you weren't trying hard enough." I wanted to tell her to fuck off so bad but I didn't.

 

[brownlieB]

lol !!

Do u think maybe we need to to explain ourselves for our own preconcieved and judgemental thinking before we actually tried it. Iv realised I was a bit judgemental about ff but I would never ever have said anything to anyone as its their own choice but I was very high and mighty about how "of course I was going to breastfeed" when people asked me. iv completly realised how wrong I was and how a healthy baby is not determined by ff/bf x

I don't know befor e I had LO all my friends had babies and they all FF and I thought nothing of it the thought as to whether or not they'd even tried BF didn't even cross my mind.

But I think it really shows how much MW are pushing it now as a friend of mine is about 20wks pregnant and the whole how are you going to feed conversation came up while I was giving LO a bottle, and I said if when you do BF and you find for some reason you can't don't like me feel bad about it there's nothing wrong with FF.

She replied, i'm gonna try as it's the best thing for them and it makes you slimmer quicker, to which I got my back up and said not necessarily, she said how long did you do it for, I said a week, she said well you didn't do it long enough my sister breast fed and she went back down to her pre preg weight straight away.

If it weren't for the fact i know she would never of meant to offend she'd be right off my Christmas list!!! lol

 

[GossipGirly]

yeh I remember saying to someone Im not having any formula in the house to "tempt" me I will bf no matter what ... pfft! I defo think Its cos its banged into our heads so much and so much pressure to do it x

 

[Odd Socks]

lol !!

Do u think maybe we need to to explain ourselves for our own preconcieved and judgemental thinking before we actually tried it. Iv realised I was a bit judgemental about ff but I would never ever have said anything to anyone as its their own choice but I was very high and mighty about how "of course I was going to breastfeed" when people asked me. iv completly realised how wrong I was and how a healthy baby is not determined by ff/bf x

I don't know befor e I had LO all my friends had babies and they all FF and I thought nothing of it the thought as to whether or not they'd even tried BF didn't even cross my mind.

But I think it really shows how much MW are pushing it now as a friend of mine is about 20wks pregnant and the whole how are you going to feed conversation came up while I was giving LO a bottle, and I said if when you do BF and you find for some reason you can't don't like me feel bad about it there's nothing wrong with FF.

She replied, i'm gonna try as it's the best thing for them and it makes you slimmer quicker, to which I got my back up and said not necessarily, she said how long did you do it for, I said a week, she said well you didn't do it long enough my sister breast fed and she went back down to her pre preg weight straight away.

If it weren't for the fact i know she would never of meant to offend she'd be right off my Christmas list!!! lol

I lost the baby weight plus a stone extra within 3 weeks of giving birth, simply because I didn't have time to eat, so it's not necessarily true that bf will make you lose the baby weight quicker
xx