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[Toms Mummy]

Thanks Noo. My midwife listened to it at my last app, at 12 weeks. It's pretty standard in the UK to listen at each appointment so I know she will at my next oe. I just can't wait! I feel so paranoid that there's something wrong! :/ I know it's crazy!

 

[more babies]

Toms I felt the same way. I think I may have even posted about it. However now I have my little bump and get kicked around on the inside 24/7 and get pinches and pains all over the place

 

[Noo]

Thanks Noo. My midwife listened to it at my last app, at 12 weeks. It's pretty standard in the UK to listen at each appointment so I know she will at my next oe. I just can't wait! I feel so paranoid that there's something wrong! :/ I know it's crazy!

Actually it isn't (I'm a UK midwife). NICE Guidelines state not to listen in until 24/25 week appt. Some will oblige, especially if you've had a baby before when we used to listen in earlier but most won't offer. I was pretty disappointed mine didn't offer at 16 weeks (Though I already listened in myself at work!)

I'm sure you'll start to feel movements soon. I think mine started around 13 weeks this time xx I feel like I'm being beaten up inside now! Getting proper little kicks now instead of flutters

 

[baby1wanted]

Hi all - stalking here a little bit !
Hope you're all ok - I'm so so, would have been 20 weeks tomorrow and it's hard not to constantly think what it would've been like... AF is here at the minute so probably a bit hormonal too!
Obviously can't offer any thoughts on feeling movement, listening to heartbeats etc. but with 13 years under my belt as a physiotherapist thought I'd chip in on the whole SPD thing!
Noo - I really would recommend seeing an MSK / Women's health physio. I'm sure you do know a fair bit from your midwifery training but there's a reason we do separate training so you may be pleasantly surprised that they may be able to offer you more than you think! It's a miserable condition to cope with so get all the help you can! Have you tried a belt at all yet? I love those things so much I could wear one when not pregnant!!
Are you in a substantive post now? (You were bank I seem to remember a while back) And what's your trusts policy on mat leave? Ours you can stay off sick and they can't enforce mat leave until 36 weeks which is when most of us finish anyway... so try not to worry too much. Understand it'll be harder if you're not in a permanent job yet, hope it doesn't get too bad for you.
to everyone - desperately hoping I'll be back here with you soon!

 

[Noo]

I'm still bank but I regularly do 30 hours a week on Delivery Suite so I'm on my feet and standing for hours on end and getting in really awkward positions to deliver babies. Im not really sure how appropriate it'd be to tell a woman that sorry, she can't deliver standing up or on all fours because I physically can't handle it . The other night I actually thought I was going to die as the Reg sent me not once but 8 times to the opposite end of the ward "QUICKLY" to get him different stuff whilst he was suturing a woman. I was getting really really pissed off. I'm not sure he even knows I'm pregnant though, let alone 19 weeks and got SPD.

I'll get maternity leave but not sure at what point to take it. I've got another 5/6 weeks before I get my MatB1 form and have to apply for it but I'll only get SMP so 6 weeks at 90% average salary then £135 a week there after. I don't know when to go on maternity leave. I was planning 34-35 week but I'm thinking 30-31 weeks is probably more realistic given my condition and having to drive 65 miles to work and back - It's times like this that having a MINI is a really bad thing. I couldn't even get out of it after work the other morning

I am going to ask for a physio referral though usually you're near delivery by the time they get to you in the list so I'm not really sure what the point is. I've bought a book I'm going to read by a Cecil Rost or something and will request analgesia from my GP. I have a support belt already, I can't wear the velcro one as I can't breathe but can just about wear a tighter elasticated one which does help a little but not as much as rest or a bath - but very little chance of that when I work 3 12 hour night shifts in a row

I always think of you as you'd be around the same gestation as me

 

[Toms Mummy]

Thanks Noo. My midwife listened to it at my last app, at 12 weeks. It's pretty standard in the UK to listen at each appointment so I know she will at my next oe. I just can't wait! I feel so paranoid that there's something wrong! :/ I know it's crazy!

Actually it isn't (I'm a UK midwife). NICE Guidelines state not to listen in until 24/25 week appt. Some will oblige, especially if you've had a baby before when we used to listen in earlier but most won't offer. I was pretty disappointed mine didn't offer at 16 weeks (Though I already listened in myself at work!)

I'm sure you'll start to feel movements soon. I think mine started around 13 weeks this time xx I feel like I'm being beaten up inside now! Getting proper little kicks now instead of flutters

I've never had the impression that it's not a normal thing to do. Although I've read about the potential risks of ultrasounds (I've know nothing about NICE so not sure if it means because of potential risks) It's only for 30 seconds every 3 weeks so I'm not worried. would never go out and buy one, although maybe my mind would be a rest if I did have one?

 

[Toms Mummy]

Toms I felt the same way. I think I may have even posted about it. However now I have my little bump and get kicked around on the inside 24/7 and get pinches and pains all over the place

Thanks More babies. I felt slight kicking/fluttering about a week ago and I think because I can't feel them anymore it's making me more paranoid! And when I lie on my stomach I can't feel anything!.... Roll on bump

 

[Toms Mummy]

That sucks noo. I suppose being in a bank means that you don't get hols? I'm freelance and don't either!...... I guess just see how it goes, would your colleagues be sympathetic to your spd as they know more about it than in most other professions?

 

[annio84]

Oh Noo! It's hard work isn't it!? I'm a stroke nurse and part of my job is to assess patients when they come into A+E but I also work on the ward and they're at opposite ends of the hospital! I find I feel better if i don't work all my shifts together but I know that's hard when you're on nights. I guess just try to rest when you can and I hope it gets better for you.

Tom's mummy, sorry you're feeling down but I think it's a stage most of us go through in between all the first tri symptoms and getting a bump and movement. I'm sure baby is doing just fine and 16 weeks is not far away!

Nice to hear from you baby1. Hope all is well with you and I hope you're back with us soon! Sending lots of baby dust to you!

 

[Noo]

That sucks noo. I suppose being in a bank means that you don't get hols? I'm freelance and don't either!...... I guess just see how it goes, would your colleagues be sympathetic to your spd as they know more about it than in most other professions?

No, I don't get holidays. I've not had any time off since my temp contract ran out at the beginning of October. I'm absolutely shattered and get really annoyed that the perm staff happily enjoy 7 or 8 weeks holiday so are easily off for a week every 5/6 weeks or so yet I can't afford to.

The SPD is only really a recent thing. It started on my last set of night shifts and to be honest I think I'm more likely to get less sympathy from midwives - You have to suck it up and get on with it.... Pregnancy isn't an illness and all that jazz!

 

[Toms Mummy]

noo

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Tom's during the first tri I too felt kind of indifferent about pregnancy. Honestly, (and obviously), I was estactic to be pregnant but it was difficult as we didn't tell a ton of people right away and I didn't look pregnant (towards the end of the first tri I looked more bloated than anything, I didn't get a bump until 14-15 weeks). I think I had a hard time believing that I was actually pregnant; it seemed surreal. Plus I spent a lot of first tri feeling like a zombie (and looking like one too ). Honestly, the second tri has been so much better, I love having a bump and feeling my little girl move You will be there so soon; it won't be long before you're definitely feeling (and looking) pregant!

Just to weigh in on the whole heartbeat listening conversation, my midwife has used a doppler with me since my first appointment (10 weeks). She did tell me the first time that we might not be able to detect it and not to freak out if we couldn't but she found it right away! Listening to my baby's heartbeat has been standard at every appointment since. Maybe this is just standard practice in Canada

Annio, I can't believe you are already in third tri, that is crazy!

Baby, it is so great to hear from you Hun I sometimes pop over to the old thread to see how you, Koj and Mummy are doing! I really hope that you are back on here soon too. Miss you lots! I hope all is going well with you. Please don't be a stranger and post here whenever you would like!

Today is my 24 week midwife appointment and GD testing. My midwife told me that I did not have to go through with the testing if I didn't want to as I didn't have any risk factors but I chose to go ahead anyway for peace of mind. I also had to weigh myself today and discovered that I have gained 17 lbs so far ! I know that this weight gain is all for a good cause but I find that lately I am struggling a bit with it as I am very health and weight conscious. I am still working out regularly and trying to eat well (though I have been eating a lot worse than normal the past two weeks or so ). Anyone else feel this way too re wreight gain/body image???

 

[Toms Mummy]

Thanks Mrs Eddie. I don't know why I'm complaining really as my last pregnancy was exactly the same! I didn't show until 6 months gone and before then I had no symptoms at all! I suppose this time, because I had a chemical in Oct, then I am a bit more nervous! I felt it kicking yesterday though so feel good today

I've gained 6lb so far, I think this seems okay!

 

[Noo]

I wouldn't worry about weight gain. I've yet to gain anything as I lost a couple of kg in 1st trimester and now just about hit my booking weight again. HOWEVER, I can't afford to gain much. My BMI is already 33-34. However, if you're of a healthy weight then you'd be expected to healthily gain more weight in pregnancy. I'm hoping not to gain more than 10kg in total but we'll see!

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Thanks Ladies for the comments re weight gain. I was in the normal range before so I was aiming to gain no more than 30-35 lbs. I know the past couple of weeks that I have been eating more junk than I normally would, which is why I am feeling a bit guilty I think. Moving forward, I will just try and concentrate on staying active, eating healthy food and sensible portions. I am obviously not looking to lose weight right now, just don't want to gain too much as I know that can lead to complications...

Thanks again

 

[Toms Mummy]

I'm not that good at determining what is a good weight during pregnancy, so not much help really but 17lb doesn't sound too bad at 24 weeks? x

 

[more babies]

Mrs. Eddie as far as weight gain goes I gained 7 lbs just between weeks 20-24 without changing anything I ate. I was initially a little horrified to hear I had gained so much in such a little time but that's also when I finally popped and the baby is also growing more. It'll be another two weeks before I get my next weight. I know in the past I haven't been exactly standard when it comes to weight gain but I think it's normal to go through periods where you gain more faster. I'll also throw in there that I am far from a healthy eater. I don't eat junk food but I also don't eat my veggies.

Had my ultrasound today.. west surprisingly well actually. I was expecting to see my cervix had gone down but it actually got longer! It measured right around 3 cms and 4 weeks ago it measured 2.51 cms. Clearly all this laying around is helping so that's what I'm going to keep doing! Also, going by measurements my little man is weighing in at 2 lbs 2 oz. I have to say it's so comforting knowing he weighs a couple pounds already! Anyways, I finally took a picture of my bump today so here's me and my bump at 26+3..

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Thanks Morebabies As I said on the other thread, I am so glad to hear that all your resting is paying off. And that is one gorgeous bump!

 

[more babies]

Thanks Mrs. Eddie! I think I'm starting to look a little more pregnant and a little less like I've been eating too much

 

[Toms Mummy]

Brilliant news morebabies! Lovely bump too x