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[more babies]

Wow that is quite the bit of information they give you! Definitely all makes sense though! I especially like the part about going home right away. I can't stand staying over night in hospitals and with both kept going at them until they left me leave which still wasn't until the next day. That was really the only thing I was outspoken about. If baby and mother are healthy I see no reason to be there and I definitely feel more comfortable in my own home!

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

I know Morebabies, its a ton of information and that was only in 1 of our 2 hours classes, (there are six in total). At first I was actually nervous to go home right away but the more I think about it, the more it makes sense. Definitely more comfortable being at home and since I will have my Mom and sister around too, we'll still have a lot of help

 

[Noo]

To be fair - You can use Entonox (Nitrous Oxide & Oxygen) throughout established labour. You won't be falling around all over the place. You get used to it very quickly. The worst possible time to introduce it is during transition (exactly when they gave it to me!) as you're already panicky and adding something that initially makes you feel dizzy and unstable is more than likely to increase anxiety and make you sick and not want it. Entonox is generally fantastic as it helps you to control your breathing, gives you something to focus on and provides relief which is fairly quickly dispelled from your body (normally around 20 seconds), obviously the downside of that is that if you're not using it effectively - It won't do anything for you! I plan to try using it a little earlier to see if I can get on with it a little better this time as I think I'll have more of an idea what is going on so hopefully be more relaxed.

 

[Buttercup2]

Mrs. Eddie they gave you a ton of info! Sounds like an awesome class. I think that's true about the "vicious cycle"--the more intervention you get, the more you need. I did read some stuff online about how going >2wks after your due date can increase complications

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but they're quick to say that, unless you are in the unlucky 2%, you probably aren't actually past your due date, your due date was most likely miscalculated. I calculated my due date from ovulation to be Oct 23 (I was keeping track of my cycle when we were ttc). My Dr decided my due date would be Oct 20 based on LMP. So if the time comes to induce, I'm going to insist on 3 extra days

My sister did tell me that the nice thing about staying in the hospital was that the nurses helped her with the baby a ton. My sister said they showed her how to swaddle, how to change diapers (and changed lots of them!), and the breastfeeding consultant was helpful too. I'm going to be a first time mom with no family in the area, so I was thinking there might be some benefit to sticking for a little while. I think if I had to stay in a non-private room, tho, I'd want to leave even in spite of the help. Plus, I know I'd worry constantly about the antibiotic-resistant strains of bacteria that are in every hospital. For people who are already moms, do you think your time in the hospital was helpful at all?

 

[more babies]

I guess for me staying in hospitals is just not my "thing". My friend however was offered to stay an extra night and she was happy to take it so was there almost 3 full days. I just prefer to be home with or without the help. I think its all personal preference.

 

[Buttercup2]

I guess for me staying in hospitals is just not my "thing". My friend however was offered to stay an extra night and she was happy to take it so was there almost 3 full days. I just prefer to be home with or without the help. I think its all personal preference.

I've actually never had to do it! Are you telling me it's not like a medical spa??

 

[more babies]

I guess for me staying in hospitals is just not my "thing". My friend however was offered to stay an extra night and she was happy to take it so was there almost 3 full days. I just prefer to be home with or without the help. I think its all personal preference.

I've actually never had to do it! Are you telling me it's not like a medical spa??

very close!

 

[Noo]

If I have a vaginal delivery - I want a 6 hour discharge! I want to bond with my baby and sleep in my own environment though I know the chance of getting a private room is VERY slim unless I pay for it. I think I may be tempted to if I needed to stay more than overnight.

 

[Toms Mummy]

Wow, there's some really interesting stuff here

Noo, the same thing happened to me, they didn't give me the Entinox until in transition which just made me so so dizzy I threw it away!

My labour progressed quite quickly, one point I was 4cm, and hr later I was 9cm! The midwife even asked my OH if I was a bit of a woos as I looked like I wasn't coping well for the stage they thought I was at! So they offered me diamorphine but before they gave it they checked me and then said I was too late for it! That's when they tried to give me entinox!

My LO was alos 4 weeks early so I had to go in to the hospital as soon as my waters broke. I then had to hang around until the contractions started 6hrs later!!!! I hated being in the hospital, and what made it worse was that Tom was born at 10:20pm so half hr after the birth they told my OH to go home! He was in such shock and really didn't want to go, I didn't want him to go either as the visiting hours the next day were 1pm! It's stupid!..... Tom went in to special care for 10 days in the middle of the 1st night so it meant OH could come in at 4am but it also meant that I and Tom were stuck in hosp for 10 frickin days! Atleast Tom was okay

This next time, as long as baby isn't early then I will hopefully be having it at home

 

[Mrs. Eddie]

Interesting feedback too re the nitrous oxcide as well. Might have to re-evaluate when (and if) I use it during labour.

Tom's, it totally sucks that you had to stay in the hospital for such a long time following your LO's birth. I really hope you are able to have your home birth this time

Buttercup, I totally get wanting to stay at the hospital too. I am only comfortable going home because I will have quite a bit of support with three helpers and my midwife will be doing an at-home visit the day after baby is born so I can raise any concerns with her. Obviously if I have a really difficult labour or there are any problems with baby I will be staying at the hospital...

 

[more babies]

I wasn't aware that they don't let your DH's stay at the hospital. I couldn't imagine them making DH leave because visiting hours are over. Are the rooms just not big enough? With DD1 I ended up in a shared room the next day and even though I ended up leaving they still have a chair that pulls out to a little bed on each side. They now have only private rooms which does make it a little better being there.

 

[Toms Mummy]

Thanks Mrs Eddie, I hope I get a home birth too

Morebabies, it might vary from country to country or even hospital to hospital but our local say that the mother needs rest and time to establish feeding with baby. Plus you are generally on a ward with 5 other new mums. So there's not really any room x

My friend had her 2nd baby today, she was just under 2 weeks late and refusing an induction (which I think I will be doing depending on timings/circumstances) but she went iin to labour today. It was a long one despite being her 2nd and she ended up in hosp having a c-section .... It makes me sad as her 1st boy was a week early and a lovely home birth, and then this happens the 2nd time round! It's made me a bit nervous in fact, I'm now worried that my 2nd won't be a typical textbook 2nd birth where they fly out haha!

 

[more babies]

Oh wow hearing that makes me thankful for our private rooms the entire time. You start out in a delivery room then at some point after baby is born you are moved to a different smaller private room in another wing. Assuming its still the same as with DD2.. your DH, SO or whoever you would choose to stay with you can come as go as they please (they get a hospital band as well) but the only thing is their meals aren't covered.

 

[Noo]

Nope, men definitely can't stay overnight in most hospitals in the UK. You have 3-5 other women in the ward and I'd not be comfortable only being separated by a curtain from someone else's partner when I'm trying to establish BF or needing to get out of bed to change pads or being examined etc. I know where I'm booked to deliver - Partners are welcome 9am-9pm (as are your other children) though "normal" visitors are 1-3 then 6-8. Birth partners can stay for the duration of labour and normally 1-2 hours afterwards but have to go home if you're then transferred to postnatal and it isn't within visiting times.

 

[more babies]

I can understand now them not being able to stay where you are in a ward with multiple other women. I was unaware things were set up like that since its obviously very different here where its all private rooms.

Makes me complaining about not wanting to stay in the hospital for an extended period of time sound pretty bad

 

[annio84]

Hi ladies, may need a little catch up on the thread but just thought I'd stop in and see how you're all doing. I'm on nights for 4 weeks so may not post much.

I had my 31 week midwife appointment this week and my fundal height has gone from the 50th centile to above the 90th. I hope I'm not growing a giant baby! Also baby's gone head down and I'm having a lot of pain down there. MW thinks it's ligament pain. I also think I have a uti. she's sent my sample off to be tested so I'll ring on tuesday and see if the results are back.

What's new with everyone else?

 

[Buttercup2]

Hi annio! What does it mean that the baby is head down (besides being ready to be born)? I guess you can be expecting some kicks in the ribs!

I noticed last night that I've started getting that brown line on my stomach. I don't think i even look all that pregnant yet, so I'm surprised to see it already! I'll be 19 weeks this weekend. When did you guys notice the line? Baby is moving all the time now, which is really fun. I wasnt sure i liked it at first because it felt so weird, but it's growing on me

 

[Noo]

I'm doing my last night shift tonight of hopefully this entire pregnancy! Work have decided that I'm far too much of a liability to be on nights anymore so hopefully I'll be able to carry on with my plan to work until 31/32 weeks in line with DS' summer holidays.

 

[annio84]

Buttercup, my mw said that head down means that i'm likely to feel more uncomfortable down below. And yes been getting kicks in the ribs, baby likes to stick a foot under my ribs and keep it there. As for the line I haven't got one so can't answer.

Noo, Yay for no more nights!

 

[Noo]

Noo, Yay for no more nights!

Yay! Last night completed! Though I did get home and promptly throw over myself with utter exhaustion! I don't think it'd be too bad if a 12 hour shift was a 12 hour shift but it's really 15 hours with my traveling! (I work 65 miles away!)