Does anyone ever feel guilty?

[Evian260]

Nobody tells you how hard it is when things don't go as you planned. Not that I regret taking all the Lamaze and BFing classes, but I wish I hadn't put so much pressure on myself for things to be a certain way. I know I should just be grateful to have a healthy baby instead of beating myself up over how she got here and what she's eating. Hopefully, these feelings will pass for us both.

I could've wrote this myself.

 

[shorman]

See I feel there should be support groups for fomula fed babies there's groups for breastfed babies and I feel there a great kneed for ff groups I could have done with advise and support about formula because I fel my hv wasn't very helpful with advise anyone else?

 

[Lady_Bee]

Shorman I totally agree. But there will never be formula feeding groups allowed on the NHS that's for sure. It would be seen as a threat to breastfeeding rates and they cant be seen to support formula feeding. I couldn't have felt more alone really when I started out with formula as every single person In my extended family breastfed successfully and I didn't know a single formula feeding mum and I didn't have a clue what I was doing but hey hum. This forum became my support group! And it was a godsend seriously.

 

[Damita]

A little but I am starting to accept it as my midwife says as long as she is fed what does it matter, I couldn't help my breasts not producing milk (traumatic birth) and she couldn't latch. Our babies are still just as happy and healthy

 

[shorman]

Defiantly but I wish I could talk to ladie like you in real life I am so insecure since becoming a mummy you are all so really supportive

 

[Damita]

Defiantly but I wish I could talk to ladie like you in real life I am so insecure since becoming a mummy you are all so really supportive

 

[Chris77]

I don't feel guilty for FF. FF was right for both myself and my son and as long as he is being fed, thriving and healthy (which he is) than that is what's important.

And to be quite honest, I'm sick to death of BF pushing (especially here in NY). As long as a child is being fed, thriving, happy, etc, I fail to see the importance of where his/her food source is coming from. And I certainly don't understand why governement (even here in NY) cares what women are feeding THEIR children. While one may be better than the other, a child's health is more important.

 

[chrislo4]

I felt very guilty at my decision to start combi feeding after 2 weeks. It took a good few days & lots of advice/support from my HV, family & friends to start with a slightly eased conscience. I combi fed for 4.5 weeks and she is now formula fed. I do look at breast feeding mums and feel guilty & sad but Lucie is happier since having formula so it has worked for us. 6.5 weeks of breast milk wasn't too bad xx

 

[Indigo77]

I don't feel guilty for FF. FF was right for both myself and my son and as long as he is being fed, thriving and healthy (which he is) than that is what's important.

And to be quite honest, I'm sick to death of BF pushing (especially here in NY). As long as a child is being fed, thriving, happy, etc, I fail to see the importance of where his/her food source is coming from. And I certainly don't understand why governement (even here in NY) cares what women are feeding THEIR children. While one may be better than the other, a child's health is more important.

Ditto

 

[oliviarose]

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind me posting on this thread.. I am a mum of a DD(9) who was FF and DS (22mo) BF......And I am currently 16 weeks pregnant with no3....

I am really struggling with how to feed the new baby.... I tried BF with DD for 3 days, but ended up giving up as I was young and didn't know that much about it... I did have that guilt feeling, but it wasn't too bad... With DS I was determind to BF and boy was it a struggle... I nearly gave up a couple of times, but I just couldn't... I had to see it through... But did I have a tough time doing it... He used to feed for an hour and then sleep for an hour and then the cycle would repeat.. He did have a longer stretch at night, but still not very long and boy did those months and months and months of broken sleep take their toll.... He was also a very unhappy baby and cried a lot and always needed to be held..... I don't know if this was just him or if it was how I fed him.. DD was always so content and happy...... I reached my goal though and fed DS for 14 months... I was super proud....

Getting to the point, I plan to give BF a go this time, but with DS still being so young I don't know how I will cope if this baby is as demanding as he was... This is our last baby and I don't ever want to have guilt over not trying hard enough as I will never be able to try harder again..... How can I get rid of the guilt of FF? And I don't even know why I feel guilty.... It is such a small part of their life.. As long as they are fed and happy, why does it matter where the milk comes from?

Sorry ladies, not sure where I am going with this... It is just eating me up now.. How am I going to be in a few months.....