Don't want to feel alone

[Shotgunrider]

My husband and I have a one year old and we were supposed to have another baby in August. On January 1, I had a miscarriage and now I am not only discouraged but insecure an fearful of losing the baby when I get pregnant. When we got pregnant with our son, it only took one time. Trying to have the second baby took around 6 months which I know isn't a long time but when you get pregnant the first time you have sex it is intimidating and upsetting to have months go past and nothing happen. Now I am even more upset because I never thought I would have a miscarriage I almost felt like I was immune to it as if it was never going to happen to me and then it did. A huge smack in the face. So I just want some people to tell me I'm not alone in this. It gets very discouraging.

 

[aidensxmomma]

*hugs* I'm sorry for your loss.

I understand why you're frustrated and insecure. TTC after a loss is really difficult. Before having DS2, my husband and I were TTC for 12 months, with 2 losses in that time (and one before we started TTC). It was really rough and then after I did finally get pregnant with DS2 I was a wreck at first. I had to force myself to keep my anxiety in check and just focus on one day at a time. Worrying wasn't going to help or prevent anything, so why spend my energy on it, iykwim? I had to remind myself of that while TTC as well - and think of each cycle as a fresh start instead of a failed try, if that makes sense. It can definitely get discouraging, but keep hanging in there. Eventually it all works out - just take it day by day

 

[MomLeslieM]

So very sorry for your loss....it is so hard to deal with because none of us want to think it can happen to us When you and DH feel ready the time will be right to start to try again - and whenever it happens will be the right time for you. You're definitely NOT alone - and don't feel pressured and, even though I know it's hard, try not to worry too much when you do get pregnant again.

 

[BSN2MOM]

I'm sorry for your loss. I haven't personally experienced it but know many ladies who have. I wanted to say that you definitely aren't alone!

 

[wantingagirl]

Your definitely not alone we have been ttc for 3 years and I just suffered my 3rd loss in a row Monday just passed