Drank excessively before I knew I was pregnant. PLEASE HELP!

[Ggj1986]

In a perfect world, I would have known I was pregnant right off the bat. But I didn't. I miscarried in mid April and had the miscarriage confirmed on May 4th. This was my second miscarriage and I handled it poorly, drinking a 12 pack of Keystone the following night and then going on a bender that weekend as well. It was bad. I drank either a 12 pack or a bottle of wine about 3 times during the 2 weeks days after finding out I miscarried. I took a test on the 13th of May and it was negative. So I drank that weekend as well. Well, just for fun I took a test on the 16th and IT WAS POSITIVE! I got a blood test done a few weeks ago, which put me at approximately 4 weeks along when I was getting stupid drunk.

From what I understand, your baby's brain and nervous system develops around 4 weeks. I don't think I could have picked a worse time to get so so drunk.

Now I'm worried beyond belief. If I had known I would get pregnant RIGHT AFTER I miscarried then I would NOT have drank at all! I'm so worried that I may have caused permanent brain damage and my child is going to have so many problems because of me and I had no idea that I was pregnant. HELP!!!!

 

[OliveLove]

I'm sure everything will be ok! I had a couple of drinks at 3.5 weeks also before I found out. As long as you take care of yourself from now on I don't think you have to worry!

 

[Wiggler]

Hun, I'm sure your bubs will be fine, I drank like a fish then got an unexpected BFP and my little man is fine, very intelligent and loving, a little stroppy but thats the terrible twos for ya x x x

 

[sweetm]

I know it is hard to stop worrying, but you should try to relax. I also drank before I got my BFP and so I told my doctor. He said not to worry because:
1) It is in the past and there is nothing you can do to change it. Best thing to do is to stay healthy from this point on.
2) It was very early on, and he's seen people do a lot worse throughout the first trimester and the babies turn out fine.

And, on a personal anecdote... When friend of mine found out she was 6 weeks pregnant after a one-night stand, she drank 2 bottles of wine because she planned on having an abortion... She ended up having the baby, who is perfectly healthy.

Try not to worry so much and just do your best from this point on.

 

[Ggj1986]

Thank y'all for your replies, it means the world to me and helps put my mind at ease by y'all sharing your experiences. I am still waiting to go to my first prenatal appointment (I've only have the blood test confirmation) so I will be asking him as well, which I'm sure he will give me a similar answer as you guys have. I know if I had known I was pregnant, I would not have drank, but there is nothing I can do at this point and I haven't touched a drop since I tested positive. It's just those few weeks prior to testing positive that I am so worried about. Thank you so much.

 

[Duejan2012]

I believe your baby should be fine. I had alot of parties and plus my aniversary in those few weeks that i didnt know i was pregnant. But as long as you stop when you find out everything will be fine. So please dont worrie and good luck

 

[MermaidMom]

im going to agree with sweetm.... and while i dont condone drinking during pregnancy if someone is aware that they are, i did have a friend that was pregnant over new years and went out at least 6 times to get REALLY drunk before she found out she was pregnant. her baby was perfect. he's two now and is happy and healthy and smart. try not to worry! make sure youre taking your prenatals and omega-3 supplements. also choline (one of the b vitamins) can reverse liver damage and is important for brain development. im sure youre baby is going to be wonderful! im so sorry you miscarried, i know it can be heart breaking so dont beat yourself up.

 

[LakensMommy11]

I think you will be okay. With my first pregnancy I had about 3 margaritas the night before I found out. And I was about 7 weeks along then. My lil guy turned out perfect

 

[FiNZ]

Poor you, but don't stress yourself. You didn't know you were pregnant, and the chances are just so high that everything will be perfect with the baby. Congratulations on your pregnancy! xx

 

[Leesa4]

I did a search for excessive drinking while 1st pregnant and everything that came up was not as much as I drank so I am glad to have found someone in the same boat as myself. Although I didn't have a miscarriage to boot. I am sooo sorry that you went through that pain. Before I found out I was pregnant I suspected it but then I thought well maybe these symptoms are just because I am going to start my period. I have hypothyroidism so that can mess things up with my system. Well I said I am going to drink, Drink, Drink because if I am pregnant I won't be able to when I find out. So I would take pregnancy test about every 3 days and if it said Neg. I kept on drinking. I am very worried as well and I haven't been to the dr yet. I go monday to a midwife. I do have 4 other children in which I did get drunk one night and never had any issues with them so mostly likely we will be fine. It is scary knowing we drank that much though but it is in the past and I am going to try to stop worrying as I think that is worse for me than what happened with my drinking, same as with you! I hope you keep us posted on your progress. I really enjoyed connecting with you today.

 

[NinaAutumn]

Right next to the pic on my phone of my positive pg test is a picture of me (a day or so before) downing prosecco out of the bottle!

I had an early scan at 9+4 and all was well so try not to worry too much. It happens all to often. Remember a few years ago our parents drank right through pregnancy! (not that I am recommending that though! haha )

Try not to stress to much and I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

 

[staralfur]

I found out I was pregnant at 6 weeks and the two weeks before that I had drank a ridiculous amount. It was my OH's birthday, then a camping trip, then friends visiting from out of town. There was so much alcohol involved in all of it!

After I found out it was the first thing I asked the doctor. He said most people he meets don't find out they're pregnant right away and have the same concerns, and it's always just fine.

My LO is perfectly healthy, smart and amazing!

Try not to worry about it.

 

[bellaxgee]

i went out for a bachelorette party and don't even remember half the night because i drank so much..i found out i was pregnant 2 days later at 4.5 weeks. i was also smoking cigs at the time as well.

my baby is perfect and healthy!

 

[Tesa]

I was sooooo drunk the night before I found out i was (unexpectedly) pregnant with my firstborn that I was quite surprised he wasnt born with a hangover - and he is now a perfectly fine (if slightly hormonal) teenage boy! Cut yourself some slack - the worry you are putting yourself though is probably worse for you than a few drinks!