proudparent88
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Did you or someone you know use drugs or alcohol while pregnant? If so what was the effect of this on the baby during and after birth?
My biological mom which I don't communicate with because she is still like this used major hard core drugs and constantly drank while she was pregnant with me. I was diagnosed at age 3 with what is known as FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) This has affected me greatly in life in a negative manner and personally I am furious with her because she finds that it is something to brag about. When I first went and got in contact with her and went and stayed with her at the time whenever she would tell people who I was she would go on to say how she did these things while pregnant with me as if it was something wonderful and great to brag about! I vowed to never be like that because I know what affect it had on me and I struggle daily because of it.
With my first my doctors couldn't find my pregnancy in blood or urine and refused to do an ultrasound. My senior year of high school I had an incident where I thought I was pregnant because my periods stopped come to find out I wasn't and they didn't know why they stopped but had to put me on medication to start them back up. When the doctors heard this they figured it was happening again. So at that time I was 20 and I was drinking and things. Finally I found out I was pregnant and luckily hadn't been drinking cause it was all I could do to get out of bed because all I did was sleep! When my blood was tested it registered at 6-8 weeks a week later I had an ultrasound to find out in reality I was actually 12+1!! I felt so horribly guilty and hated myself knowing that I had been drinking! I feared everything from there on out just hoping and praying it didn't hurt my precious first baby. I was very lucky and on October 12, 2009 I delivered a healthy 5 pound 10 ounce 18 3/4 inches long baby boy! The alcohol I drank has not affected him! He has been diagnosed with ADHD combined type and Disruptive behavior disorder which is genetic and his dad and I both had as children so I knew that is where he got it. He is now 4 but I still feel that horrible regret of what happened during my pregnancy with him! I quit drinking completely and haven't touched it since! I am told that even though I feel like I may have caused his ADHD and Disruptive behavior disorder it isn't my fault because the doctors should have been more thorough and done an ultrasound to be sure! I understand where they are coming from when told this but it still doesn't take away my guilt and shame!
My biological mom which I don't communicate with because she is still like this used major hard core drugs and constantly drank while she was pregnant with me. I was diagnosed at age 3 with what is known as FAS (Fetal Alcohol Syndrome) This has affected me greatly in life in a negative manner and personally I am furious with her because she finds that it is something to brag about. When I first went and got in contact with her and went and stayed with her at the time whenever she would tell people who I was she would go on to say how she did these things while pregnant with me as if it was something wonderful and great to brag about! I vowed to never be like that because I know what affect it had on me and I struggle daily because of it.
With my first my doctors couldn't find my pregnancy in blood or urine and refused to do an ultrasound. My senior year of high school I had an incident where I thought I was pregnant because my periods stopped come to find out I wasn't and they didn't know why they stopped but had to put me on medication to start them back up. When the doctors heard this they figured it was happening again. So at that time I was 20 and I was drinking and things. Finally I found out I was pregnant and luckily hadn't been drinking cause it was all I could do to get out of bed because all I did was sleep! When my blood was tested it registered at 6-8 weeks a week later I had an ultrasound to find out in reality I was actually 12+1!! I felt so horribly guilty and hated myself knowing that I had been drinking! I feared everything from there on out just hoping and praying it didn't hurt my precious first baby. I was very lucky and on October 12, 2009 I delivered a healthy 5 pound 10 ounce 18 3/4 inches long baby boy! The alcohol I drank has not affected him! He has been diagnosed with ADHD combined type and Disruptive behavior disorder which is genetic and his dad and I both had as children so I knew that is where he got it. He is now 4 but I still feel that horrible regret of what happened during my pregnancy with him! I quit drinking completely and haven't touched it since! I am told that even though I feel like I may have caused his ADHD and Disruptive behavior disorder it isn't my fault because the doctors should have been more thorough and done an ultrasound to be sure! I understand where they are coming from when told this but it still doesn't take away my guilt and shame!