So here's a message I have typed up to MIL, just haven't clicked 'send' yet..lemme know what ya'll think!
There are some things that I've been wanting to get off my chest.
I want you guys to know how I feel when I'm being attacked..like when David called me a jerk, said that I only think about myself, or when you said that we weren't telling you guys the gender of the baby because I'm hormonal and wanted to piss you off. Even tho none of these things have been actually said to me. I do hear about them and it hurts to hear that you guys are talking about me like that. First, when I posted the 10 commandments of pregnancy, I didn't post it to make you guys mad or anything like that. I didn't even think I'd get a reaction like that about it. I posted it because I found it funny, and think that anyone who has been pregnant would understand the humor in it, which is why I posted it and tagged my pregnant friends in it. I didn't post it to "bash grandparents" as David says I do every chance I get. Which I really don't understand why he would say that because I haven't posted anything on FB that has to do with that nor have I said anything to/about you two that would even be close to "bashing grandparents." So for him to call me a jerk for posting that really hurt my feelings because it honestly had nothing to do with you guys. Just a funny post for my friends. Second, when I heard that you said that we weren't telling you guys the gender because I'm hormonal and wanted to piss you off really hurt my feelings because we had a surprise gender reveal planned for Christmas for you guys, have had it planned since about October. I just don't understand why you would say that. Hearing things like that is really frustrating for a few reasons. One, because pregnancy is supposed to be a happy time, and so far it hasn't been. Two, because it's frustrating to hear all this he say she say stuff when nobody brings their issues to me, they just talk about them behind my back when I don't have a chance to defend myself. Third, I feel like nobody thinks about my feelings or how any of that makes me feel, when I'm the pregnant one here.
I just want you guys to be able to come to me if you have an issue with something that I've done or said. Things will be a whole lot easier if there were more communication. I am guilty of that myself. I have distanced myself from you guys lately and that is why. It makes me feel very isolated and alone, and it's not fun. So I just choose to pull myself out of the frustrating situation rather than get stressed out about it and stress the baby out in the process.
We all have been in the wrong at one time or another in the last few months and I hope that will come to an end, on all parts. I hope everyone can come to an understanding and get along. This is our first baby and your first grandbaby so it is an exciting time for all of us, but also a learning process. You guys have to learn to do things from a grandparents perspective and we have to learn to do things from a parents perspective. It is going to be trial and error and we will all learn what works for us in time.
We plan on keeping you guys involved 100%. Just on our time. So if you don't know something at a certain time, there's probably a reason for that
Also, a "how's the baby doing" message, phone call, text message, or wall post every once in a while wouldn't hurt
We just want everyone to get along and all the crap talking to come to an end. We want everyone involved in the baby's life. We don't want everyone to be at odds. We want you guys to enjoy the experience of being grandparents just as much as we want to enjoy the experience of being parents. I think everything started off on the wrong foot and I want everyone to take the steps needed in getting back on the right one...
I'm sorry for anything that I've done that has made you feel upset or anything. I definitely haven't tried to hurt anyones feelings..
We love you guys and so does the little one!
everyone!
