Due In May :)

[BDownmommie]

Totally ok to ask - the OH has four children already from a previous relationship. When he and i got back together (after 16 years since last dating), I knew he had had a vasectomy and 4 kids prior. I told him how much i wanted to experience being pregnant and having my own children, so we saved the money ($5000) to ge that surgery done. And by the time we had an 'extra' $5000 to play with (Dec), i was about to turn 35 and when we started trying, it wasn't working - 6 months in and the only thing to show was a chemical in June. It was agreed that we could have 1 pregnancy, luckily I will get two babies out of it - but I doubt highly he will ever agree to anymore. And unless we win the lottery, we won't be able to afford it.

Lol - I will count my blessings - both of them!

 

[cgav1424]

Aw, BDown - you're only 7 weeks so I'm sure there will be some symptoms to come! Every pregnancy is so different... I remember feeling like I had a migraine nearly everyday while pregnant with my son 11 years ago and some nausea with my daughter 6 years ago and this time... I'm just sort of in between. The first tri symptoms all suck anyway. :/ You'll be be having way more fun in second and third tri when you get to feel your babies move and kick and hiccup! And how cool that you and your hubby got back together after 16 years... sounds like a good story. Enjoy your relatively easy first trimester.. maybe this is nature's way of giving you more time to rest before you have double the duty of us mommies of singletons!

 

[BDownmommie]

Thanks - here's hoping!! I'll be on double duty for the rest of my life

 

[Sass827]

That IS so cool! Double congrats!

 

[Starry Night]

Got a call from my doctor's office today saying he needed to see me today. He gave me detailed results from my scan. The gestational sac was measuring bang on at 5+5 weeks and there was a yolk sac but not fetal pole and thus no heart beat. The report used the words "fetal demise".

I have to have a scan next Friday (week from tomorrow) but the doctor was not hopeful. He gave us 50/50 odds but was talking about how we need to decide if we want to miscarry naturally or use medication. I just feel so deflated right now.

I'm pretty confident my days aren't off and I do have more red spotting today. I need to accept that it could end badly. It just stinks. I had assumed it would have been considered normal to not see a fetal pole as this early stage but the report was so conclusive. "Fetal demise".

 

[prolifer]

Oh starry I am so sorry! I will be thinking of you and praying hard your LO is just very shy :/

 

[Sass827]

But I thought the fetal pole and heart beat aren't visible in some people until 9 weeks? Fx for you star

 

[Powell130]

First off

My friend even had trouble seeing her heartbeat at 8 week.

I would say hope for the best but expect the worst.

It really could be too early tho, so I am really glad you're getting another scan in a week. My first scan didn't show a heartbeat and I thought there should have been one by then but I was wrong.

FX'd for you hun!!

 

[Megan1986]

Praying for you dear!

 

[JustFluffy]

Waiting a whole week has got to be SO hard! I am so sorry to hear the news my friend. Please keep us updated and I too will make sure to send well wishes and prayers your way.

 

[cgav1424]

Oh Starry. I'm sorry. It's promising that your sac is measuring spot on. I know with my first m/c... my sac was irregularly shaped and there was no fetal pole. We did the same thing... waited a week for another ultrasound before my doctor would label it a "spontaneous abortion." Such a horrible medical term. Once I got to three m/c, my chart as all my orders for tests had the diagnosis of "habitual abortions." Stupid medical terminology. Anyway, I'll be sending you all my positive juju and I wish I had words that made it better.. but I know from experience there are no words.

 

[AerisandAlex]

Oh Starry I'm sorry, but you know, it's not over yet. I went to the hospital at 5 weeks and they told me they weren't even trying to find the baby or a heart beat because fetal heart beat doesn't usually happen until around 10 weeks. I'm shocked they would be so jumpy about trying to help you miscarry THIS early. I'd ask if they could wait, I'm sorry dear but it just seems so odd to jump to those extremes that early. My doctor won't even see me until I'm 10 weeks! I even had a different doctor with my daughter and he said the same thing, didn't want to see me until I was 10 weeks, then they looked for a heart beat, any earlier they told me would be pointless as they wouldn't be able to see anything nor locate a heart beat.

 

[Starry Night]

Thanks everyone.

I don't want to be "Debbie Downer" so it's probably best I steer clear until my scan. It may sound awful, but I'm hoping that if my baby really is gone that I'd then miscarry naturally before my scan. I'd have to wait for a scan only to get bad news.

There is always hope, of course. But trying to be realistic too. Anyways, time will tell. Just need to distract myself until then.

 

[prolifer]

Good luck starry!

 

[nearlythere38]

Thinking of you starry x

 

[Hann12]

Starry I have to agree with the others, I heard that it was hard to see a heartbeat under 6 weeks that's why I was worried that I might not see mine at 6w 1d. There was a thread on here where someone was in a very similar position and went back a week later and the heartbeat was there. So there is hope. However I get what you mean that it's better to prepare for the worst just in case. I'll be thinking of you and hoping you get good news on Tuesday

 

[Stevensmummyx]

Hang in there starry I agree that it is really early to try and see a heartbeat, still fot my FX'd for you, take it easy and hopefully see you back in here in a week with good news xx

 

[Jary]

Good luck starry!

Urgh, ladies I'm back at work (nights) and I suppose it's been ok but my nausea and acid reflux are playing swapsies all the time! If I'm not nauseous I have acid reflux and vice versa, it's really getting me down I've popped into the docs this morning and managed to get an appointment so even tho I'm dying to to be in bed I need this appointment so
I can try get something to help. Nearly threw up in my car yesterday morning while driving home! That would have been interesting!

Just generally feeling crappy, but hey! Such is pregnancy hope everyone else is well!

 

[prolifer]

I am just going over my dates, I figure this baby will be born somewhere around Easter! My doctor always induces me at 38 weeks, I don't want to miss Easter morning with my kids though :/ Hmmm....

 

[BDownmommie]

Wow - starry - I am so sorry to hear these issues, but i tend to agree with the others. At your stage, really it isn't a gaurentee to hear the HB, it's just luck. Thankfully they are doing another scan soon, and in my opinion, i would wait to see then before thinking the worst. Which i bet is really hard, especially now. Take it easy for a few days and then go in with some positive thoughts - who knows, maybe the little bean just wasn't ready to show off yet.