okay so here's the story lol
Begin Rant-
okay so hubs and I have always been 'hippy smokers' and i have continued to smoke, cut back quite a bit but I do still smoke a little. FIL believes that I'm "poisoning his grandchild" but after speaking with my doctor, many of my friends who have recently given birth or are pregnant now (also smokers) said their OB said pretty much the same thing as mine. That there's not much of a risk and new research pretty much disproves old. I have also found sites like this
https://www.mothering.com/community/a/use-of-marijuana-during-pregnancy
https://patients4medicalmarijuana.w...-cannabis-use-in-pregnancy-dr-melanie-dreher/
Which agree with that. Well FIL being himself, just 'knows' he's right. He has voiced his opinion to me more than once and I try to tell him that I don't believe he's right but he keeps on with it. The last time I went over there with hubs (it's been over a month) he gave me his typical speech about it and ended with that he was going to say his piece and be done with it. Well that's not where it ended. He kept talking s#it about it saying stuff like I am poisoning his grandchild and being irresponsible blah blah blah (he smokes as well, so does my BIL..so it's not the marijuana itself that's the 'problem') well I just quietly stopped going over there after that and it had to do with him continuing do run his mouth about me and also with the way they reacted when I asked MIL politely not to post stuff about pregnancy/babies on my personal FB page (i'm sure you ladies remember my rant about that also lol) it's just stress that I don't need and if I can avoid it, then I will. FIL messaged me yesterday on FB and asked why I haven't been over there lately, I was just going to ignore it even tho I really wanted to tell him why..I txted hubs and asked him what to do and he said to tell him, so I did. I told him that I do not agree with what he said and asked him if he even bothered to read the links and studies that I sent him. I tell him that I'm not trying to be rude or anything but I disagree with his opinion because I have facts and I believe that my OB knows what's best for me and what to do/not to do while pregnant, rather than just his opinion..this is what he says- I made my opinion known and left it at that. You decided to hurt my feelings because of my opinion and the opinion of every other Dr on this planet.
If your Dr told you that smoking anything while your pregnant in any amount is ok. Then he or she is a quack.
I told you we would not say anything else about it. And I promise I won't. Just don't turn you back on us they way you have
But the thing he doesn't understand is that HE DID CONTINUE TO SAY THINGS ABOUT IT AND TALK S#IT BEHIND MY BACK & I know it. I guess he doesn't know that my BIL's GF Sarah tells me everything they say about me lol Just because you're not saying it TO ME doesn't mean that you have stopped talking about it.
So I told him that I haven't turned my back on anyone and to think about they way the things they have said to me makes me feel. Like when they were trying to argue with me about when to announce MY pregnancy on FB! And that I was cutting out all avoidable and unnecessary stress and if that meant not coming over there, then so be it.
Well last night at dinner the in-laws asked Sarah where she was yesterday (knowing she was at my house cleaning for me) so she told them again where she was. MIL asked her why she was cleaning my house, why wasn't I doing it. She said that she was doing it to help me out because I'm not comfortable cleaning with bleach and strong chemicals like I'm used to doing. And FIL's response was "oh she doesn't want to clean with bleach, but she'll smoke pot"
and then he made a comment about me cutting out unnecessary stress but still smoking pot (last time I checked, pot doesn't stress you out, but hypocritical and childish in-laws sure do!) and then MIL asked where I was while she was over there and she told them that I was at work and she asked what I do and FIL replies with "nothing" and MIL says "exactly" umm.. first off they haven't asked me nor my hubs what I do at work. Second, I work on spread sheets and make/update FB and twitter pages for our electricians, MIL works on excel & power point all day...so we pretty much do the same thing, just in a different way..so I guess she does nothing all day too! Sarah was like I don't get why they b!tched about when you weren't working, and now that you are they still b!tch about it?! Not my fault hubs and I were doing just fine on 1 income (i started working again to save for baby) but we do just fine with his 1 income and idk..i think they may be a little jealous of that because FIL lost his job of 10 years last year and hasn't been able to keep another once since..
Okay I believe this is RANT OVER lol Sorry for the book, just gotta vent about it before I scream lol
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