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[BDownmommie]

Ok - have to ask / rant for a second; hopefully none of you mind too much.

Have any of you suffered through the "you're just horomonal" or "that must be the horomones talking" bs from the OH?

I am now so frustrated at my OH - we got into a disagreement this morning. It was really rather silly too (I hope this blurb makes sense)....the OH made plans for a friend to drive me to work bc the friend was suppose to go to the same place that night; however, what my OH didn't remember is that there was a good chance that the friend wouldn't be welcomed at work...turns out the friend is not welcomed!! Anyways - so when my OH tells me that he made these plans, I told him that i wished he'd talked to me first. The OH got upset bc he says he did it for me, to help me out. My point was that if he was making plans for me, that I should be involved! Don't think that's too much to ask.

So = to the fight = the OH says that I am being horomonal and getting upset for nothing. Whether I am upset or not, I really REALLY hate the idea of being called horomonal. I think that my request was fair, and that this is nothing to do with horomones, rather respect.

So my point (if I have one, lol) is how many other people get really bothered by the 'HOROMONAL' clause - anyone else's OH use that against them? This isn't the first time for me, and it bothers me. I try to be very fair, and normally shut up when I think there is a chance of being emotional.

Thoughts?

(and the worst part is that this stupidity sky rocketed this morning, and now OH isn't even talking to me) so sad....

 

[Stevensmummyx]

Jary I read that earlier! I can't begin to imagine how those parents feel, I'm shocked it was a jack russel I was expecting it to be a bigger dog, so sad xx

 

[Jary]

I've never had the 'hormonal' thing but I would be upset at OH for that. True he thought he was helping you out so to him he was being nice but because it involved you it would have been better if he'd asked you first.

I'm sure everything will work out!

 

[Jary]

Stevensmummy I know! Poor little baby only in this world for a week and gone already they said he wasn't mauled so I wonder if it was shock rather than injury. Either way is awful.

 

[Hann12]

I know, I'm actually a bit scared of dogs if I'm honest so we would never get one. I always see people on fb with their babys and toddlers right up against huge dogs and I worry. I know lots of people have family dogs very safely but I think sometimes its easy to forget that they are animals and you can't predict what they will do. I'm not saying all dogs might attack a baby, I know its down to the owners who teach them rights and wrongs around the house etc, however, a dog could just be being friendly and smother a little one, or get scared by its crying and lash out. Its scary! However same could be said for cats too I guess. Any animals are unpredictable I think - thats not to say they would attack a baby but you just don't know for sure.

 

[Hann12]

Stevensmummy I know! Poor little baby only in this world for a week and gone already they said he wasn't mauled so I wonder if it was shock rather than injury. Either way is awful.

The report I saw said the baby was bitten

 

[Hann12]

BDownmommie - I got the 'hormonal' thing quite a bit from my DH last pregnancy. It was annoying so I know what you mean! I got upset at mothers day because he didn't get me a card from the baby bump, despite heavily dropped hints. That was hormonal. I still look back at that and think I was not being hormonal!

 

[pinktiara]

my hubby knows better than to say that to me this time haha hes been through this before. Just because we don't agree with something doesn't mean we are hormonal oh men I wish they could carry baby's and see what its like lol

 

[BDownmommie]

Thanks all - everyone I've talked to says the same thing - hormonal - so what, even if it is = he shouldn't say it, that just makes things worse.

And let me tell you - it did - so much worse. I sent him a text at work, apologising (even though i think I did nothing wrong but just so fighting would go away), and asking him to be reasonable. All I got was swearing...i begged, in 3 different sets of texts, and as it turns out - the OH would rather move out then deal with me bc I was being a bitch. He actually said it would be better for him to move to london bc he'd be closer to his kids and it would be cheaper, and that way he wouldn't have to deal with me being a bitch.

Wow - what a day....I am sitting (back and forth between the bathroom and my desk crying) at work debating about going home and changing the locks...

How fast things spiral out of control

 

[Powell130]

oh wow. hun I am so sorry to hear this. Hubs and I had a bad fight a few weeks ago and I was packing my stuff but then I came to my senses..maybe he will too? If not, then it may be for the better, as much as I hate to say that!

 

[Hann12]

BDownMommie - where do you live now if you don't mind me asking? He will calm down, I reckon he's just trying to make you feel bad and prove his point but he's taken it too far! Hopefully as soon as he sees you things will sort themselves out. Texts tend to misconstrue things too and make them seem worse. Thinking of you x

 

[BDownmommie]

I live in Cambridge, On - London, where his kids are is about an hour away.

Thanks for the support; however, this is the 2nd time he's done this - and right now, with a high risk pregnancy, I don't think I can handle it all over again....

 

[Powell130]

 

[Jary]

Hann they said the baby was bitten but not mauled. I think they must mean that the dog didn't savage the baby but rather one bite or something.

 

[Hann12]

But one bite to a newborn could be easily enough to do serious damage.

BDownMommie - really hope you get to a point where you are happy with any decision. Important thing is to look after yourself and your babies

 

[Sass827]

Dh and i have had some serious fights. I even left for 2 days. You need to put yourself first and not let this stress you out too much.

 

[Powell130]

Happy Avacado week Sass!!!

 

[prolifer]

16 weeks today Avacado!

I read the baby's skull was crushed by a single bite to the head, poor wee thing

 

[Hann12]

16 weeks today for me too!!! Yay to avocados!

Poor baby - knew one bite could be significant even on a little dog. The baby probably cried and scared the dog - it was the grandparents dog so wasn't used to the baby. Very sad.

Stuck in today as my car is in for a service so boring day in for us! Just waiting for my DD's Xmas present to be delivered, wooden kitchen.
DH is out until late the next 2 nights so its going to be 2 quiet nights too

 

[Jary]

I thought it was either shock or a really bad bite. Poor little thing. I suppose one bite to the head would be enough

Woo for avocados!