Holliedolly
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**Disclaimer - not pregnant, just stalking my bestie txbiscuit**
I agree - Mother's Day seems ages away. I'd like to tell everyone sooner, but OH is nervous about making it through the first trimester.
My OH is nervous about doing anything too early as well...like I just want to buy maybe a baby tee or something, as a good luck sign that I BELIEVE it will happen for us. But in a previous relationship OH had 2 MCs and they bought lots of stuff and even painted a room for the baby. So now he is really nervous about counting your chickens before they hatch, so to speak. I don't know how long I'll have to actually wait once we do get our BFP before I can buy anything or tell anyone.
i dont mean to dull the mood but i ended up being forced to terminate my daughter at 26 weeks last year as her heart was failing i dont think it really matters how long you wait to tell people or buy things. I waited until 12 weeks to announce my pregnancy with my little girl, i bought things towards the later part of the pregnancy including my huge coach built pram, the cot, clothes etc only to lose the baby so far along. i did everything right but some things are out of our hands and problems can become apparent at any stage.
i dont think people should listen to tradition, i dont think it is necessary to wait until certain dates to spread the good news! if you have a good feeling about your pregnancy and want to tell people, go ahead, i dont think that it will affect the outcome! although i do understand it is a case of keeping quiet incase the worst does happen, but who can predict the future? ...definitely not me!! xx