Early 30's TTC #1

[mrsmax]

Thanks pink80. I think you're right, as when I used to use just OPKs I always got my surge on day 14 or 15. Top tip about not discarding temps too. Thanks

 

[Crumbs]

Could it be implantation spotting Crumbs??

No, I'm at 13 DPO, it's most likely

 

[mrsmax]

Crmpbs - it is possible to have implantation at 13 DPO I thought?

 

[Crumbs]

Crmpbs - it is possible to have implantation at 13 DPO I thought?

I've read that implantation is typically 6-10 days after ovulation, with a few rare cases that fall a few days before and after. I've also read that recent studies show that the later the implantation, the lower the chances of a successful pregnancy.

In my case, I don't think it's implantation at all because the last time we BD was ages ago. I had an early dip at 5 DPO, which I thought was implantation and had tender breasts since (and that fell in line with my last BD date as well). So I was secretly hoping ...

It hasn't gone full-blown yet but I feel it coming any minute now! Oh well, even if it is, at least isn't cruel and dragging it on.

 

[rosababy]

Morning, ladies. I havne't had a chance to catch up on my reading yet...but wanted to update you on me. Official AF cramps started this morning. Took tylonol (would have loved to take something stronger...), so I expect her any minute now. Today is 17 dpo. I've had 2 16 day LPs in the past and 2 15 day LPs, a random 12...so if she doesn't come today, I'm officially "late." However, clomid CAN lengthen the LP, so I'm not hopeful at all.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

I crashed last night, girls; I cried on and off so much that I woke up this morning with a swollen sensation in my face. I knew it would happen this cycle, though. I felt lucky, hopes went up, and then last night I saw that bit of bright red blood on the TP. It's so messed up. I am 10 dpo. I just feel like it doesn't matter what I do, what DH does or anything. We are not going to have children without help. I really feel like crap today.

And no, the bright red yesterday isn't implantation spotting. I usually get a bit of bright red 10 dpo (so it was a day early - joy) and then it's light brown spotting until AF finally comes.

I felt like taking a knife to my ovaries last night. Not that I would, of course...but I went to a dark place and even with the sunlight outside, I'm still pretty miserable today...

What else?
Oh yeah, welcome to Jessica, aka Babyluv1
RegalPeas and MsJmouse - thanks so much for the encouragement.
Arianne - honest to God, the story you got from your fertility doc. is almost the EXACT same story we got from ours last summer; only difference is my husband's sperm analysis wasn't so hot. Thanks for the preseed info, too, by the way. I think I crashed [still crashing] so badly because I had some hopes that it was somehow going to work a miracle for us. But what you said makes sense.

I started jotting down notes about what you girls said in the thread, but now they don't make any sense... So I've got:

Crumbs: sigh...
Rosa: sorry...

xx

Thanks for giving me a laugh about the name of the private thread [which I would be for as long as we sign a BnB oath to never reveal our identities to the outside world even when the other becomes world- or region-famous ] Ha, ha, ha!

xx Back to work. Really wish I could get out of this dreadful funk.

 

[pink80]

Hun xxx

 

[rosababy]

My chart has really confused me today. Fertility friend has me o'd on 13th day, but it looks to me more like day 16? I have discarded two high temps as they were the weekend and I had drunk some wine and read that effects your temps. If I dont discrad them then F&F think I o'd at day 16. Can anyone help? (you canaccess my chart on my signature). Views very welcome.

We didnt bd much this month so I think I am out anyways, but still frustrating.

I also think your O date looks like cd 15 or 16. Not sure why they'd put it before the opk...I would go with 15 or 16.

Could it be implantation spotting Crumbs??

No, I'm at 13 DPO, it's most likely

Oh crumbs. I'm so sorry.

Soleil, I'm sorry you're so down today. I've totally had days like that. Thank GOD my dh is a supportive and patient man with me, otherwise he'd think I was crazy! That seems to be a pretty short LP. Are they always that short? Maybe it's a progesterone deficiency. I've heard anything less than 10 or 11 (some docs even think 12) days of LP could be a progesterone problem. I've also heard when you spot for a few days before AF, it could be a prog problem. Good news is, that's easy to fix. Clomid or progesterone sup. That's why I'm on clomid. Not for short LP, but my levels were still too low.

I hope you feel better soon.

 

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Soleil Breeze

Rosababy I'm fxing for you! It's not over until the makes her appearance!

Arianne mrsmax pink80 and anyone else I missed that's close to the end of their cycle!

 

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The new TTC #1 section is finally open!!!

Should we all move over and start a Early 30's thread there?

 

[SMFirst]

I think they tend to move threads like this (like a long ongoing one) to groups/ discussions anyway.. But maybe a good idea to start another one anyway to find other ladies that are in the same boat

So I am actually a little conflicted about either getting AF or getting a BFP this cycle - If I get AF I won't be all that disappointed or surprised and then I can enjoy our little trip we've planned the first week of April to the wine region of our province
But if I get a BFP I would be surprised and happy but also nervous..

Probably by Murphy's law this is when I will get a BFP..

(same thing I thought about exercising - the more I work out and get my body looking good the more likely I am to get pregnant to ruin my figure!)

 

[Crumbs]

SMFirst, your wine tasting trip sounds wonderful! Heck, wine sounds wonderful right now but she hasn't come full force enough for me to booze up. What DPO are you?

 

[SMFirst]

crumbs - I am not really sure what DPO I am on - if this was a normal cycle then I would be on 13DPO, but I had a weird issue with last AF - it came then went away then came back again.. and then even though I figured I was supposed to ovulate on ~ CD 13, about a week after that I got stronger one sided cramps so I don't really know! I've been taking B-vitamins which I have read can lengthen your luteal phase so maybe my whole cycle is shifted..

 

[mrsmax]

Soleil - massive, massive hugs This journey can be so cruel and such a rollercoaster. I get mad, sad, jealous and angry so much so that I think I'll go crazy, and then other days I feel fine and breezy and positive. Just know you are not alone

Crumbs - Big hugs to you too I know it feels like it is never going to happen.

I have just got back from my appointment with the docs and I have an appointment with a fertility clinic on 4th April. I was really lucky, it was the only appointment for 7 weeks. Feel happy but also gutted as, like all of us, i never imagined it would come to this.

Rosa - I agree, it should be 15 or 16 days. Sorry to hear about your cramps too - all bad news today. Maybe all the good news is on its way = f'xd.

 

[rosababy]

The new TTC #1 section is finally open!!!

Should we all move over and start a Early 30's thread there?

I think we should! We're in the ttc buddies section...maybe some more ladies would like to join us. Of course, we'd really have to quit our jobs to keep up with the thread though!!

SMFirst, your wine tasting trip sounds wonderful! Heck, wine sounds wonderful right now but she hasn't come full force enough for me to booze up. What DPO are you?

We live in Virginia wine country, and we're constantly out at new wineries! We're going to one tomorrow (AF or not, here I come...) for a barrel tasting. Fun! If I still don't have AF tonight or tomorrow morning, I MIGHT test again tomorrow, just because I'd like to have a final answer of preggo or not before I drink. Not drinking a ton though, so it should be fine either way.

I have just got back from my appointment with the docs and I have an appointment with a fertility clinic on 4th April. I was really lucky, it was the only appointment for 7 weeks. Feel happy but also gutted as, like all of us, i never imagined it would come to this.

Rosa - I agree, it should be 15 or 16 days. Sorry to hear about your cramps too - all bad news today. Maybe all the good news is on its way = f'xd.

Glad to hear you have an appointment! I never thought we'd be here either. I'll be crushed if I have to end up seeing a fertility specialist, too. Clomid is my last hope before all of that testing. But you have an appointment. Hopefully they'll be able to find out what's going on and fix it quickly.

Cramps have gone way down, back hurts like heck, and I left my tylonol at home. STILL no af.

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - have fun at the winery

That's why I will wait to test on April 1 - the day before we head out

 

[rosababy]

If we move to the new #1 ttc, someone can make an official first page of testing stats for us...

 

[MsJMouse]

Wow I don't check BnB for a whole day and there are four new pages.

That would be funny mrsmax - when I first joined this site I scanned to see if my sister was here! And I complained about another friend of mine but then worried that she might somehow be on here and read it..

In another thread I joined there were two girls that had gone to the same highschool at the same time but in different grades and they didn't know it..

Wow that is a bit scary. I sometimes worry about whether other people I know are on here but there don't seem to be too many Aussies so I "think" I am safe.

Veggies! That's great! But what about Beans? Or something with beans.

you're right! No one wants to read about a bunch of girls trying to increase their bean intake. Haha!

I love it!!!

I just have to say - hysterical!! I love the girls and bean thing! Brilliant. Made me laugh out loud. Only problem with a FB page is it is one more place to sign into and check messages (i'm just lazy)

Also, just thought - what if any of us already know each other in RL and don't realise it!!

Wouldn't that be a hoot?! I love you ladies! This is an awesome thread.

The whole beans thing made me laugh out loud.

Could it be implantation spotting Crumbs??

No, I'm at 13 DPO, it's most likely

Sorry to here at AF is possibly on its way. But you are not out till it arrives.

Morning, ladies. I havne't had a chance to catch up on my reading yet...but wanted to update you on me. Official AF cramps started this morning. Took tylonol (would have loved to take something stronger...), so I expect her any minute now. Today is 17 dpo. I've had 2 16 day LPs in the past and 2 15 day LPs, a random 12...so if she doesn't come today, I'm officially "late." However, clomid CAN lengthen the LP, so I'm not hopeful at all.

Sorry Rosababy. FX'd they are preg symptoms cause cramping can be one of them.

I crashed last night, girls; I cried on and off so much that I woke up this morning with a swollen sensation in my face. I knew it would happen this cycle, though. I felt lucky, hopes went up, and then last night I saw that bit of bright red blood on the TP. It's so messed up. I am 10 dpo. I just feel like it doesn't matter what I do, what DH does or anything. We are not going to have children without help. I really feel like crap today.

And no, the bright red yesterday isn't implantation spotting. I usually get a bit of bright red 10 dpo (so it was a day early - joy) and then it's light brown spotting until AF finally comes.

I felt like taking a knife to my ovaries last night. Not that I would, of course...but I went to a dark place and even with the sunlight outside, I'm still pretty miserable today...

xx Back to work. Really wish I could get out of this dreadful funk.

Hope you are feeling better today Soleil

So I am actually a little conflicted about either getting AF or getting a BFP this cycle - If I get AF I won't be all that disappointed or surprised and then I can enjoy our little trip we've planned the first week of April to the wine region of our province
But if I get a BFP I would be surprised and happy but also nervous..

Probably by Murphy's law this is when I will get a BFP..

(same thing I thought about exercising - the more I work out and get my body looking good the more likely I am to get pregnant to ruin my figure!)

A trip to the wine region sounds awesome. I know what you mean about waiting to test. I got my BFP on new year's eve and the only reason I tested was cause I was going out with friends to celebrate. I nearly fell off my chair when it was positive as it was really unexpected.

I also think that about exercising. By the time I get those nice abs, I will probably end up pregnant and those abs will quickly disappear. Oh well.

 

[finallyready]

AHHHHH you ladies are wonderful... what a great idea....a private group! I do share the fears wondering if maybe someone will stumble on my posts and figure out who I am.....yikes!

I just wanted to send loads of to you all. I have dating scan in 2 weeks to see how far along I am. I am guessing 6 weeks but not sure since my last period was Jan 5. I did have BFNs in Feb and only got BFP Mar 11....digi was only 1-2 so I'm guessing I conceived the end of Feb. Time will tell.

One thing I have to say is that even when I got my BFP, I think I took like 6 tests later on just to double check. And now that I am somewhat satisfied enough to not POAS, I am still filled with dread and fear. I just found out a really close friend of mine was pregnant and went for her first 12 week scan and found that the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks. So stuff like that is really very real to me.

Anyways, I guess there is really nothing I can do at this point but keep myself as healthy as I can be. What will be will be.

Enough rambling, I just thought I'd touchbase with you since the last time I posted I was sitting in a hotel room freaked out! LOL.

I'll keep checking in to see how you are making out and if you get a BFP please look for me in the 1st Tri section.

 

[rosababy]

Major cramps woke me up at 4:45 this morning. I had to get up, heat up my heating pad, eat something so I could take some pain meds, and there she was. Oh well. I knew she would come, since I tested bfn on 14 dpo. Just wish she wouldn't keep me waiting. On to cycle #11.