Early 30's TTC #1

[Aisak]

Hey all,

i've clearly not had much to contribute lately as there's no mystery as to whether i'm pregnant. No DH = no bd = an incredibly frustrated and sometimes mopey me. However i check in almost daily

i've been bugging and bugging DH to make an appointment for SA as that needs to be done before i can go for an HSG, according to my doctor. Not that i really want to go, but i want to know that everything's ok. i'm nearly 32 and i feel like i don't have time to waste, considering i want more than one child. i'm terrified that there will be something wrong with DH's sperm but just like rosababy i don't really have reason to worry. We're generally healthy individuals. No surgeries or infections.

As for the tea thing, i have a book (called Getting Pregnant) that says there was an American study that women who drink more than one half-cup of caffeinated tea every day (orange pekoe or black tea) were twice as likely to get pregnant as those who did not. They figure it has something to do with the polyphenols in the tea inhibiting chromosonal abnormalities which decreases the number of nonviable embryos (conceptions too weak to survive). Another chemical found in the tea helps support the liquid that surrounds the egg and helps with maturation and fertilization.

Maybe i'll have to substitute my morning coffee for tea when DH finally returns...

 

[hopefulmama2b]

As for the tea thing, i have a book (called Getting Pregnant) that says there was an American study that women who drink more than one half-cup of caffeinated tea every day (orange pekoe or black tea) were twice as likely to get pregnant as those who did not. They figure it has something to do with the polyphenols in the tea inhibiting chromosonal abnormalities which decreases the number of nonviable embryos (conceptions too weak to survive). Another chemical found in the tea helps support the liquid that surrounds the egg and helps with maturation and fertilization.

Maybe i'll have to substitute my morning coffee for tea when DH finally returns...

Yes! I've heard that as well!

Your visit is coming up soon, isn't it? I'm sure you can't wait!

 

[SMFirst]

Well, in my experience, I did not give up my one cup of caffeinated tea when I was pregnant, and I still MC, so then I regretted being so selfish to still drink caffeinated tea so this time around I am only drinking regular green tea and decaf black tea.

 

[MsJMouse]

SMFirst - I'm the opposite - I don't drink tea or coffee on a regular basis. Might have a cup of tea 2 times a week if I am lucky and practically never have coffee (makes me feel sick/bloated if I am not really in the mood for it so most of the time I don't drink it). While I was pregnant I stuck to green tea on the few times I actually had a cup and I still MC'd.

 

[SMFirst]

yes.. so it makes you wonder where all these different researchers are getting their stats from - MC is very random and if it happens it's likely not a result of anything the mother did..

hence the "why me" phase that I went through when it seemed like everyone I knew was getting and staying pregnant so easily..

 

[rosababy]

Rosa - good luck with dh's It is such a good test to get done as you can make sure you are focusing on the right thing's with timing and stuff.

Thanks! Yes, it'll help us just to cross it off the list of possible problems. If he's fine, then it's probably just my progesterone, and we're working on that!

Well, in my experience, I did not give up my one cup of caffeinated tea when I was pregnant, and I still MC, so then I regretted being so selfish to still drink caffeinated tea so this time around I am only drinking regular green tea and decaf black tea.

I have 1 glass (12 oz probably) of coffee with lots of hot milk (misto at starbucks...cafe au lait or cafe con leche) and a cup of decaf green tea at night. I hope I can still have decaf mistos when I get preggo, because I am seriously addicted to them!

yes.. so it makes you wonder where all these different researchers are getting their stats from - MC is very random and if it happens it's likely not a result of anything the mother did..

hence the "why me" phase that I went through when it seemed like everyone I knew was getting and staying pregnant so easily..

I heard that there is nothing a women can do to make the mc happen when it was destined to happen. I know this, and yet I'll still be terrified of doing everything when I finally get preggo!

 

[MsJMouse]

yes.. so it makes you wonder where all these different researchers are getting their stats from - MC is very random and if it happens it's likely not a result of anything the mother did..

hence the "why me" phase that I went through when it seemed like everyone I knew was getting and staying pregnant so easily..

I so agree. One of my closest friends is now pregnant with her third after an oops moment (they are not unhappy about as they had been discussing trying for a 3rd) - at the moment all I want is one.

 

[pink80]

Well, in my experience, I did not give up my one cup of caffeinated tea when I was pregnant, and I still MC, so then I regretted being so selfish to still drink caffeinated tea so this time around I am only drinking regular green tea and decaf black tea.

SMFirst - I'm the opposite - I don't drink tea or coffee on a regular basis. Might have a cup of tea 2 times a week if I am lucky and practically never have coffee (makes me feel sick/bloated if I am not really in the mood for it so most of the time I don't drink it). While I was pregnant I stuck to green tea on the few times I actually had a cup and I still MC'd.

yes.. so it makes you wonder where all these different researchers are getting their stats from - MC is very random and if it happens it's likely not a result of anything the mother did..
hence the "why me" phase that I went through when it seemed like everyone I knew was getting and staying pregnant so easily..

I heard that there is nothing a women can do to make the mc happen when it was destined to happen. I know this, and yet I'll still be terrified of doing everything when I finally get preggo!

I so agree. One of my closest friends is now pregnant with her third after an oops moment (they are not unhappy about as they had been discussing trying for a 3rd) - at the moment all I want is one.

Lifes a b!tch - well that's the conclusion I have come to since I had my miscarriage. I followed the advice that they gave me - I made sure I had no more than 200mg of caffine each day, I didn't eat red meat, raw egg, or any of the other things that I wasn't supposed to. I'd been taking my pre natal vitamins before I got pregnant and I was trying to eat as well as I could (well until the MS kicked in) and I still lost my baby. I honestly don't think that there is anything that you can do to stop it happening - if it's going to happen it will.

I've just got back from the hospital, after my follow up scan and they said there is still tissue and clots in there - they have sent me home to wait for a week to see if comes out by itself, I have to back next week to be checked again! This all means it's going to be even longer before I get back to TTC!

xxx

 

[Lollipopxxx]

Hi I'm 33 me and my partner have been ttc since July of last year this is out 8th month since coming off cerazette, it's been so frustrating getting bfn all the time some months I've even had pregnancy symptoms and thought this is it! Only for my period to start! I'm hoping this month this is it! I'm still positive it will happen only taking too long.
Sending sticky baby dust to all xxx

 

[Crumbs]

Hey all,

i've clearly not had much to contribute lately as there's no mystery as to whether i'm pregnant. No DH = no bd = an incredibly frustrated and sometimes mopey me. However i check in almost daily

i've been bugging and bugging DH to make an appointment for SA as that needs to be done before i can go for an HSG, according to my doctor. Not that i really want to go, but i want to know that everything's ok. i'm nearly 32 and i feel like i don't have time to waste, considering i want more than one child. i'm terrified that there will be something wrong with DH's sperm but just like rosababy i don't really have reason to worry. We're generally healthy individuals. No surgeries or infections.

As for the tea thing, i have a book (called Getting Pregnant) that says there was an American study that women who drink more than one half-cup of caffeinated tea every day (orange pekoe or black tea) were twice as likely to get pregnant as those who did not. They figure it has something to do with the polyphenols in the tea inhibiting chromosonal abnormalities which decreases the number of nonviable embryos (conceptions too weak to survive). Another chemical found in the tea helps support the liquid that surrounds the egg and helps with maturation and fertilization.

Maybe i'll have to substitute my morning coffee for tea when DH finally returns...

Thanks for the info about the pekoe and black tea! I can sympathize about not having DH around so much, mine is being sent all over the place lately and I just heard he might be sent away again for work this week. TTC is already hard enough as is, not being able to BD enough makes it so much harder. But the plus side - BD doesn't get so monotonous with him being away so much.

 

[SMFirst]

my friend who is pregnant right now (conceived first time trying and has had an easy pregnancy so far) does all sorts of stuff that I wouldn't do while pregnant - eating all sorts of foods at restaurants, high impact exercise, taking flights to different places and god knows what else - so basically she is living life normally and obviously enjoying her pregnancy..

it would be nice to believe we could be like that too but the truth is that for those who have been trying for many months, or for those who have suffered a loss, we will be paranoid no matter what.. But at least we have each other for support

Crumbs and Aisak - sorry for the absent DH's.. For myself, my DH is always around but lately he's been working so hard that he's exhausted and just goes to sleep at night.. I hope we can all get more BD'ing in soon!

Lollipop - Welcome You'll find lots of friendly and supportive people here!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Lifes a b!tch - well that's the conclusion I have come to since I had my miscarriage. I followed the advice that they gave me - I made sure I had no more than 200mg of caffine each day, I didn't eat red meat, raw egg, or any of the other things that I wasn't supposed to. I'd been taking my pre natal vitamins before I got pregnant and I was trying to eat as well as I could (well until the MS kicked in) and I still lost my baby. I honestly don't think that there is anything that you can do to stop it happening - if it's going to happen it will.

I've just got back from the hospital, after my follow up scan and they said there is still tissue and clots in there - they have sent me home to wait for a week to see if comes out by itself, I have to back next week to be checked again! This all means it's going to be even longer before I get back to TTC!

xxx

You're right pink80, life it a bitch sometimes. We just have to hope it gets better next time. One of the girls in the recurrent miscarriage thread's title under her name says- "being screwed by life" It always makes me smile because that's what it feels like sometimes! And if I remember correctly she is currently pregnant and so far so good. We just have to keep the faith! (cue George Michael music)

Hi I'm 33 me and my partner have been ttc since July of last year this is out 8th month since coming off cerazette, it's been so frustrating getting bfn all the time some months I've even had pregnancy symptoms and thought this is it! Only for my period to start! I'm hoping this month this is it! I'm still positive it will happen only taking too long.
Sending sticky baby dust to all xxx

Welcome Lolli - you've come to the right spot for support. We know how frustrated you feel!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Oh ya, and I forgot my news- FIRST NEGATIVE PREGNANCY TEST THIS MORNING (internet cheapy)!!! YAY!! I've been waiting a loooong time for this. I will repeat in a couple of days with a FRER and if that's negative I will breathe a huge sign of relief that we can move on. It does make me sad to know that I'm officially "not pregnant," but I am just being optomistic that the third time will be a charm. I sooooo want a healthy pregnancy next. I just can't even imagine any other alternative. Also- DH and I booked a memorial day weekend trip to Florida so I have something to look forward to! I hope to be barefoot and pregnant in the sand! If not- soon after!

 

[Crumbs]

Hi I'm 33 me and my partner have been ttc since July of last year this is out 8th month since coming off cerazette, it's been so frustrating getting bfn all the time some months I've even had pregnancy symptoms and thought this is it! Only for my period to start! I'm hoping this month this is it! I'm still positive it will happen only taking too long.
Sending sticky baby dust to all xxx

Welcome to our little corner! Fx for you!

 

[rosababy]

Hi I'm 33 me and my partner have been ttc since July of last year this is out 8th month since coming off cerazette, it's been so frustrating getting bfn all the time some months I've even had pregnancy symptoms and thought this is it! Only for my period to start! I'm hoping this month this is it! I'm still positive it will happen only taking too long.
Sending sticky baby dust to all xxx

Welcome! I'm 32, and we've been trying since June of last year, so we can all understand your frustrations. Fortunately, you're in the right place! This site, and particularly this thread has helped me a lot. Good to keep your positive attitude! I know it will happen too, just taking longer than I would have liked.

STILL waiting for the doc to call with my dh's SA results. I've called the office twice now...they said I have to wait because the doc himself makes the call and he's busy.

 

[SMFirst]

I guess a few of us are in limbo right now:

Rosa - Sorry you have been kept waiting - hopefully you hear by the end of the day

Hopeful - Glad you got a negative HPT (as weird to say as glad you got AF) - now I hope your cycles will be normal and you will get to be pregnant on the beach!!

Pink80 - sorry your MC isn't quite over yet - I ended up having two rounds of the cytotec (the second round was much easier than the first). Hope things clear up for you soon..

AFM- still no AF, but I haven't tested again.. still going to wait as long as I can hold out..

 

[rosababy]

waiting waiting waiting. It seems like that's all we ever do.

We should change our title to something like "we may be 30, but it doesn't mean we've gotten better at waiting." Or something less lame than that...

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Pink80- I just wanted to mention that I also had "retained product" with my first mc. I hope it comes out on it's own. I unfortunately had to have a second D&C. I can't remember did you have a d&c or narural mc? I hope it resolves on it's own and soon. I just wanted to mention that I've been there and I know the frustration that you are feeling right now....

 

[SMFirst]

I went back a few pages to reference something and it looks like I skipped a page or two the other day, so I wanted to say:

mrsmax - sorry about your "crash" and feeling bad the other day. How are you feeling now? Do you have any plans for this or upcoming cycles?

(and also - yes that's me in the avatar, but now I'm thinking I should anonomize it again...)

 

[Missnikki]

Hi, I hope you don't mind me joining in.
I am 32 and have been TTC since July last year. I honestly thought that I would have a BFP by Christmas last year so to be where I am now is a bit of a shock and very dissapointing I am using the CBFM, it is my first month of using it but my periods are irregular, although it gave me my peak on days 14 and 15, I am now on day 20. I think that was a little early as my cycles are normally between 31 and 35 days.
Fingers crossed for us all