Early 30's TTC #1

[SMFirst]

Hi MissNikki
You are in the same boat as many of us, so don't despair..
Have you tried using Preseed? (to help the swimmers get where they need to go)
Have you or your had any testing done yet?

 

[Aisak]

i totally just screwed up the quote function but...Susan said:my friend who is pregnant right now (conceived first time trying and has had an easy pregnancy so far) does all sorts of stuff that I wouldn't do while pregnant - eating all sorts of foods at restaurants, high impact exercise, taking flights to different places and god knows what else - so basically she is living life normally and obviously enjoying her pregnancy..

Uh huh...the woman i work with (we are no longer friends...see my journal for the "nice" version of what happened) conceived at 35. On her first month trying. After having an IUD in for too long, being in a car accident which caused the IUD to shift and her to hemorrhage for a month, then a month of strong bc, then ttc for one month (overweight, poor nutrition and drinking a bottle of wine every night). To top it all off she's having twins (one of each, ugh). Part of me wishes it could be so effortless for me, but the other part of me thinks i'll appreciate it so much more when i finally do get those 2 lines (and a sticky bean).

 

[SMFirst]

Aisak - it's so weird. I have two friends here that are around 35 years old, both just went off BCP, got pregnant their first month trying and are both expecting twins (and their due dates are within a few days of each other).

There is a higher liklihood of twins if you are older and if you've just gone off BCP (hyper-ovulation)..

(I know you are in Canada but I don't think there's a chance we are talking about the same person expecting twins - both of my friends are very healthy and active )

I first found out about one friend before I had my MC so I was happy for her, but the other friend I found out about after my MC and I was so bitter and jealous (especially because her wedding was two weeks after mine, and she must have gotten pregnant right after that!).. But now I am over it..

 

[Aisak]

This woman was a close friend. Already has 2 kids. Just nicely got engaged a month before ttc. She cornered me at a public xmas work function and abrubtly announced she was pregnant - a day after witnessing how upset i was to get my period yet again (DH was leaving right after xmas, so i was so hoping to get that bfp). My response was not real gracious, but i was bawling and so hurt that she would be so thoughtless. She just doesn't get it - she got pregnant with her other kids while on bc...she's very smug about her fertility. She has proceeded to prance around, rubbing her belly and giving our fellow coworker (who has been trying for 2 years and beginning the process of IUI) constant pregnancy updates. It's really cruel and awful. Luckily she's decided she needs to take a sick leave and not finish out the year so we don't have to listen to her endless blabbing about the contents of her uterus. You think you know someone...

 

[rosababy]

Hi, missnicki. You're in good company here. I'm 32 and have been trying since June, too. I honestly thought we'd be pregnant by August of last year, and yet here we are. I'll piggy-back on SM's question...have you had any testing done? Any blood tests or anything?

Afm, the doc's office is officially closed now, and no one called me. I guess I have to wait ANOTHER day to see if the are good. The only hope I have is that the doc doesn't walk out at 5, but checks his messages and makes phone calls after the office is closed. I know I'm grabbing for straw here, though. It's just so rude to not call, especially with info like that. It's make or break info!

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa- those SOB's !!! They must know this is so important to you, even if it's just another day at work to them... Call first thing tomorrow on demand answers (or better yet go to the office in person!!)

 

[rosababy]

Rosa- those SOB's !!! They must know this is so important to you, even if it's just another day at work to them... Call first thing tomorrow on demand answers (or better yet go to the office in person!!)

I know. I'm so disappointed. We've literally been waiting for months for these results. Rembember WAY long time ago, we tried to get a SA...yeah that was beginning of January. Who knows though, he could have been out of the office for a delivery. Anything could have happened. I'm pretty bummed though.

 

[MsJMouse]

I've just got back from the hospital, after my follow up scan and they said there is still tissue and clots in there - they have sent me home to wait for a week to see if comes out by itself, I have to back next week to be checked again! This all means it's going to be even longer before I get back to TTC!

xxx

Sorry to hear that Pink80. Hopefully it will pass quickly and you can get back TTC.

 

[MsJMouse]

Hi Lollipopxxx and Missnikki - welcome.

Rosababy: - sorry to hear the doc didn't ring. I can't believe that the doctor doesn't have time set aside during a working day to ring patients about their results if the doc is the only who can give them to you. How rude.

 

[MsJMouse]

waiting waiting waiting. It seems like that's all we ever do.

We should change our title to something like "we may be 30, but it doesn't mean we've gotten better at waiting." Or something less lame than that...

This made me lol - thanks for morning cheerup before I start work for the day

 

[rosababy]

Dh said maybe he was called away for a delivery...hopefully we'll hear tomorrow.

Funny story...we were talking about the SA, and dh said there were 4 movies. One was called "Spunk 7." He was like well...I would, but I haven't seen Spunk 1-6, so I just don't think it'll make any sense.

 

[SMFirst]

LOL!!

I've heard those porno's have pretty strong plot lines, so best to watch them in series, yes

 

[rosababy]

LOL!!

I've heard those porno's have pretty strong plot lines, so best to watch them in series, yes

LOL!!!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Oh my gosh- I just have to tell you guys- I've been google-ing Royal Jelly tonight to read the benefits (which I may try! Sounds good for healthy eggs, which I so desire!)...Anyway....a girl I went to high school with popped up on a different forum! I read her siggy and couldn't believe it- I don't know her too much- we graduated 12 years ago! But I knew she had twins and I remember people saying, "she always said she didn't want kids I can't believe she was "lucky" enough to get twins." and on and on. Always talking negatively about her. Well according to her siggy she's had unexplained infertility since '08. Went through several rounds of clomid, 2 rounds of IUI, one ectoptic with tubal rupture and then finally an IUI resulting in TWINS! It's just amazing how we don't know people's stories and that people's lives aren't always how they appear on the outside. It will make me think twice about saying how "lucky" someone is in the future.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Just ordered my Royal Jelly!

Also, that previous post wasn't a knock on those talking about all the twins you guys know! I just was so surprised when I read that and made me realize I shouldn't judge people whose stories I don't know. Mean co-workers who flaunt their good fortune to those less fortunate deserve a little forum trash talk!!

 

[SMFirst]

hopeful - you are right - it's definitely best to think about how we might not know people's histories before we judge (my husband is really good at not jumping to conclusions, me not so much)

I hope the Royal Jelly works out for you (I've heard about it but never really investigated..)

 

[Soleil Breeze]

This is just dragging on, eh? Temp at 98.1 still. I guess AF will come tomorrow and I will be able to say "Hurrah! I had a 14 day LP." (Yet "Boo!" I freaking spotted for what felt like half of it).

Anyhew; the nurse called back and said that I can take the clomid. I just need to call her the day AF starts. I haven't made my mind up about IUI this cycle; got too much going on in April and they need me to get a physical beforehand. If the clomid doesn't make me feel terrible, we'll IUI in May. I'm just that we can do it without IUI this upcoming cycle. Go ! Oh, and to answer you MrsMax, my blood work was fine with one exception - my blood sugar levels were high. Progesterone and everything else is fine, which is why I can't understand why I spot for days before my period?!

Rosa - I'm still praying for good results for DH. My DH is healthy, doesn't smoke, etc., but he still got so-so results. His count is fine (84 million), but his motility and morphology weren't so hot (39% and 4%). IUI is supposed to help because they pick out all the "good-headed" swimmers and place them waaay up in your uterus.

To add to the twins story-line, when I came off BC in May of 2009 I developed corpus luteum cysts on each ovary, which means that I ovulated from both ovaries. Darn! We weren't trying that month, but the potential for twins existed, eh?!

Oh, and to add to the tea story, MsJmouse couldn't have said it any better! I'm just like you regarding the tea and coffee! I know my mom drank raspberry leaf tea throughout her pregnancy with me.

Hopefulmama2b - barefoot and preggo sounds great to me in this instance! I hope you enjoy your trip to FL and get in some quality time with DH.

Welcome to Lollipop and Missnicki
and I am sorry that you have to wait longer before TTC again, Pink80.

I hope the next time I'm on here AF has come [unless I'm pregnant, of course - yeah! right! ] because I want to start this clomid cycle!

 

[rosababy]

Doc called. Dh has 80 million Holy crap! That's 4 times the amount as normal!
However, his motility was on the lower side of average, only 30% and the morpholity or morphology or something (shape) was only 7%, which is very low. He did say that the most important was the count, and since he has SO many sperm, that it counterbalances the low shape %. He said at this time, continue with the clomid for 4 more months, and if we're not pregnant by then, dh will get another sperm analysis. Whew. Not perfect news, but could have been worse. I feel better just knowing, though. My dh will like the 80 million!

 

[SMFirst]

Rosa - Glad you got your results. The morphology thing is a bit of a farce acutally - even though the "normal" percentage for perfect shaped sperm is 14% or something, most men are below that (because of how stringent they are when they count).. So if most men are below 14%, so your husband is normal

Take a look at this site:
https://infertilityblog.blogspot.com/2006/05/sperm-morphology-mythology.html

 

[Missnikki]

Hi MissNikki
You are in the same boat as many of us, so don't despair..
Have you tried using Preseed? (to help the swimmers get where they need to go)
Have you or your had any testing done yet?

Hi SMFirst
No I haven't tried Preseed? But am willing to try anything that can help.
Had no testing at all but think next month will visit the Doc's to see what is what...
Thanks for your reply. xx