Early 30's TTC #1

[MsJMouse]

Thanks Hopeful - that did give me a bit of a laugh.

I am also quite uncoordinated but there are ladies in my class who are way worse so i figure if they can do it so can I It has definately helped tone up my abs though so I am liking that. Might as well look good if I am not preggers.

 

[SMFirst]

hopeful - that's a pretty good list! I actually like the baby-walking route planning idea..

I went for a run today and explored a new region of our neighborhood (getting out walking and running is a great way to explore the streets!)

I have the Nike Free Runs too (I'm embarassed to say while I've only had them for a few months, they weren't the new running shoes that I just bought!)

I really like the Free Runs - my feet, shins and knees felt a little sore at the start but it quickly went away and I really enjoy running with them.

(but I run on a gravel path sometimes and the rocks get stuck in the grooves so I used that as justification to buy a pair of more "trail running" type shoes hehe)

 

[hemmysgirl]

Hello ladies! Over 30 and ttc #1 here. So glad to find a chatty forum. Just mc-ed last month after 7 months of trying. Feeling mostly OK though....

I think I am 7dpo. Not really supposed to be trying but we're not actively preventing.

 

[hemmysgirl]

Thanks for the welcome everyone!!

Zumba is so so so fun!! I love it....it's really expensive in my area, though, so I find videos on YouTube that instructors make themselves and stream them together to make one, long 50 min workout. You just hit Play and maximize the screen and away you go! Free is always better

I do exercise sporadically, so I wonder if I'll be able to continue it during pregnancy. I know that if you already exercise you can continue, but if you don't, I wonder if the doc tells you not to start exercising. Hmmmmm......

I'm a tad overweight and carry most of my weight in my stomach so I really need to lose some so I can carry the baby and not explode in the process lol

 

[SMFirst]

hemmysgirl - sorry I forgot to say Welcome

I think light exercise (and low impact) during pregnancy would be good for anyone regardless of size.. I know they really recommend swimming..

That's good you found some zumba on youtube!

 

[Crumbs]

Hi ladies, I hope everyone's doing great! I know I've been incognito for awhile but I just wanted to stop by and share a link I came across while searching about a broken BBT thermometer. It brought me a laugh!

https://howsmylittlebabymaker.blogspot.com/2009/07/either-my-thermometer-is-broken-or-i-am.html

 

[SMFirst]

even though I don't chart, that was a funny blog Crumbs.

Hope you are doing well yourself (sometimes it's good to take a break from this site - although for me today is slow at work so I am wasting time playing on here!)

A non-TTC thing from me:

I got married in June last year, and it was a perfect day, but I decided I didn't need to keep my wedding dress (even though I loved it) so I took it to a consignment store..

I was supposed to call on March 15 to either pick up my dress or extend the contract but I forgot and in the contract it says if you don't call they will donate the dress to charity.

I was mad at myself for forgetting (although the dress going to charity would have been fine) so I called today anyway and they were totally cool and said "oh yeah, your dress sold, you should be receiving a cheque in the mail soon"

Yay! Extra couple hundred bucks for me and someone else gets to use my beautiful dress!!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I'm trying to sell my dress! Is that how consignment shops work?

 

[SMFirst]

Yeah - I had never sold anything through a consignment shop but this worked out very well:

I took my dirty dress in to them, they had it drycleaned for super cheap (I paid for that up front), then we made a contract that they would keep it in their shop until March 15 - and then if it didn't sell I could either take it back or extend the contract (there was no fee for making the contract).

I had bought my dress for $900 and they were charging $500...

Becuase the dress sold they take 50% of the cost and I get the other 50%...

So I'll take $250 over nothing!!

 

[rosababy]

Zumba is so fun!! I look like an enormously white white girl doing it, but who cares. Shaking the hips comes naturally to my latino dh, but not to the Irish/German/Norwegian American girl. Still get a good workout, though.

That blog on broken thermometer was hilarious! I've definitely felt those things. Staring at the thermometer and wishing the number would go up. Taking it several times, just to make sure. It's so frustrating! I'm not temping right now, and I don't miss it at all. After 6 months of temping...well 5 1/2. I stopped halfway through last cycle, because I was so frustrated.

The ideas for the 2ww was great too! I can't remember who asked what to do...I suggest finding a great book. Look into Sophie Kinsella, Madeline Wickam (actually same person!), Jane Green (haven't read her, but several friends have and love her)...Baby Proof. Just started the book and it's cute. Can't remember the author...

Plan a vacay.
Stop temping.
Continue to enjoy a drink here and there. I'm DONE acting like I'm preggars when I'm not...
I think the thing that helps me the most is to have things on the weekends to look forward to, and just trying to keep as busy as possible during the week.

 

[Crumbs]

Continue to enjoy a drink here and there. I'm DONE acting like I'm preggars when I'm not...

You can say that again! I'm over it as well. It's just too draining! I've stopped focusing on TTC, yes, I still want a baby but I don't want to continue depriving myself of normal activities "in case" I'm pregnant. Case in point, today I bought a sandwich with brie and salami on it! And I had coffee with it as well!

Until I'm actually preggers, I'll try not to obsess like I did before. I realized how constantly considering the multitude of things to avoid while pregnant has gotten be crazy and disappointed. I don't smoke, I don't drink and I live a relatively stress-free existence --- I'm sooo over thinking I'm pregnant and will do things like normal (with moderation, of course).

I'm wishing all you lovely ladies tons of baby luck and I hope we all become bump buddies soon enough. I'll still be around, just not as often. Now that Spring is here, I have a garden to tend and a house to spiffy up for my Mom's upcoming visit!

HUUUUUUUGS

 

[rosababy]

Crumbs, will you be spending less time on bnb? I'm finding that since I'm not temping, using opks...trying hard not to obsess, I'm on bnb less often. (and yet here I am ) It helps, though. Even though I love catching up with all of you lovely ladies, I find myself thinking less of ttc, which is good.

Very exciting to have your mom visit! Does she only get out once a year or so? Have fun!

 

[SMFirst]

I like your attitudes Crumbs and Rosa

On the weekend I bought a $10 package of Brie for myself just because I can! And I've certainly been enjoying my Starbucks

It would be nice if we lived anywhere near each other to hang out in person, to enjoy the nice weather rather than sitting on the computers but oh well..

My husband and I have a plan to work on our yard and gardens for the Easter weekend - it's nice to get the house looking good after winter

And I am aiming to get out jogging during the evenings (I went last night and was proud of myself hehe)

So I am pretty much only on BnB during work hours hehe

 

[hemmysgirl]

The weather here is getting nice too, so DH and I are trying to take a walk every night. It seems like DUH, but when I'm busy, I'm happier. It's when my wonderfully crazy imagination gets rolling during inactivity that things get stressful for me. So I, too, will quit acting like I'm pregnant (although I am quitting the fast food drive thru....that's good for future baby, me and the whole family!)

Can't wait to be bump buddies with you ladies!

 

[SMFirst]

hemmy - you are so lucky that your DH will go for walks with you. My DH works in construction so when he gets home he just wants to sit..

 

[Birdie Dorf]

Just went to the MW and it was a flood of emotions. The good news is the my uterus is small and ready. No AF yet but I'm only three weeks out from the mc. She recommended waiting 3 months (WTF) which was totally disappointing. I may take my chances, I just dont think it happens that easily anyways for us.

I told a friend who mc-ed a week before I found out I was pregnant my news. That helped.

Just having a moment where I am feeling like it is hard to be me. Sigh. Though not really- I have a job I like, I have friends, and most of all I have a very loving and nearly perfect husband. But really, I just feel cheated.

We're going on a walk this evening, it is beautiful here. I'll vent to DH and that will help.

We'll keep moving forward, that's the only choice, right?

 

[SMFirst]

Birdie - Well it's such a hard process.. I agree about feeling cheated (or for me it was "why me?") but you'll move on..

That's good you told your friend - somehow talking (and typing) about it helps..

As for the waiting three months, I think they often recommend that just to ensure enough emotional healing, so it's not really for a physical reason.. So if you wanted to start trying again you could..

Although I have found that having the attitude of "Not trying Not Preventing" helped me realize that there is so much more to life to enjoy at this time as well..

BUT it sounds like you already realize all the great things in your life which is really good I think.

So have a good walk with your DH tonight. Remember, your time will come for sure, this is just a small setback

 

[Birdie Dorf]

Thanks SM. Your post made me cry...
DH is on his way home, off to get ready for the walk!

 

[hemmysgirl]

My friend mc'ed about a year ago and she said "well, it's like when a beloved pet dies....you just want to get another one right away to heal the hurt." I'm not sure how I feel about that statement. I guess it's a round-about way of saying "move forward and move on", but I don't think it's quite the same with a baby.

Birdie--friends and a nearly perfect (lucky! lol jk) DH is probably the best medicine you could have! And I also find that in general, the more you keep busy, the less your mind has to think about things you don't want to. Are you gearing up for spring cleaning? lol

SMFirst--he's a health nut, so we have great talks, but it's also very "burn, baby, burn" too! There's generally always hard-core sweating and breathing going on, so it's not all a walk in the park lol

Hard core breathing and sweating...hmmmm...that reminds me...I'm in my fertile phase now! Wish me luck! lol

 

[SMFirst]

hemmy - well that's good your DH is a motivator for exercise then... good luck with the other breathing and sweating hehe

I suppose I am in my fertile time too (CD13 today) so we started the BD'ing every other day as of a few days ago