Early 30's TTC #1

[Soleil Breeze]

hopefulmama2b, I am so sorry about the BFN. I thought I was over it, but I cried in the hairdresser's seat today (she and her partner are going through IUI - eight rounds now - with no success, so we swap stories...). I ask myself, what happened to the girl (me) who earlier said she was at peace with herself. ?! Yeah, right. I'm still-a-fighting for a baby.

I know that we call AF the , but I'm actually thankful I'm getting a period. There are so many women out there who do not. We at least stand a chance at getting pregnant, you know? I really hope, though, that the dear "witch" doesn't visit us for a while next year. WE NEED OUR

Caroline, I hope you feel better soon, but I am just glad to hear that baby is doing all right. This too shall pass. Keep telling yourself that.

Finallyready - thanks for keeping us in the loop! We will hopefully be able to hold you up as a FertilAid success story within the next few months!

Welcome to Furbie and sillysilly7! And to silly, don't worry about not getting pregnant right away. I think the average is 6 months/cycles. I'm on cycle 17 now and I've still got a smidgin of hope. Although I do feel like stomping it out sometimes...sigh.

Arianne, thanks for the maca info. Now I'm going to be spending hours researching this stuff online! So much for my work! Ohh...and with regard to the BDing 'legs up?' 'stay in bed' thing...I've never put my legs up, but sometimes I elevate my hips. Because stuff does come out. It's hard, but I try to stay in bed for about 25 mins. The craziest thing is, if we were indeed pregnant this past cycle, I never elevated and we were in a rush to get to a restaurant, so I stayed in bed maybe 15 mins.

I think I'm/we're just trying too hard...But how do you go about 'relaxing' when you want something so bad?!

Have a great weekend, gals! (or as good as you can have in hopefulmama2b's case )

 

[arianne]

sorry hopefulmama just look forward to your next chance for this month

Our turn will come one day... it's hard that we don't know when its going to happen, but we will have a story to share about how much we wanted and tried for our babies... some others take it for granted... we won't

 

[arianne]

girls one quick question (me and my questions!! )

Do you know about anything that would help the implantation process? any specific food/thing to eat/do??

Also.... I am wondering about exercising.... I feel I over exercise, and wonder if that it's preventing implantation
I always say to myself "ok this time I will take it easy" but can't help it!... do you think I should start doing low impact exercises during the 2ww?

 

[arianne]

If I would ask these questions to my friends they will tell me im going crazy and to please relax!! but I guess you girls understand me... I want to do everything I can to finally get my BFP!
That is why I hate talking about this with my friends... I get so mad when they treat me like the paranoid ttc woman!

 

[Aisak]

i've read pineapple helps with implantation...

 

[brinib1]

Re: exercise

I'm struggling with this one too-- my ND/midwife says it's fine to exercise hard and even to do hot yoga, but then I went to acupuncture and the practitioner said to take it easy and not exercise much. Given that women through history have had to do physical work and still managed to have children, I'm guessing some exercise is probably fine-- I'm just not doing sprints.

We have begun our official month #2 trial. I was bawling today watching Giulianna and Bill reruns on Style with their struggles for fertility and subsequent miscarriage. Scared for me, sad for them. I'm getting better at reading my CM which is good since between my body adapting to no IUD and taking vitex, FF has no idea when I might ovulate. I really hope it will be before Thursday-- at the parent's house over Christmas would just be a little too awkward!

Christmas baby dust to all-- I'm hoping tonight's lunar eclipse/full moon combo will be lucky!

 

[furbie]

Hi ladies, i posted on here about a week ago, I had alot of comfort reading all your threads and realised that I wasnt on my own going through this. I just wanted to update you and give some of you some hope !

This is my 7 month TTC i have two other children aged 8 and 6. This month was slightly different, I had no PMS symptoms and no sore boobs which i normally get 10 days before AF arrives. I did a clear blue digital at 12 DPO which was BFN and again at 14 DPO BFN (i had a works xmas do, and wanted to have a few drinks) for the past 3 days i have felt sick, but still having AF cramps so thought its on its way. I decided to test again today but using a normal HPT not digital and it was a BFP - Im absolutly shocked !!! Still have a few AF like cramps and feel sick but hang on in there, its not over till the witch arrives and i thought i was out this month !

Baby dust to all of you, it will happen and i hope you all get your BFP for Xmas or in the new year .

X

 

[brinib1]

Congrats furbie! I hope this one sticks!

 

[arianne]

Hi brinib... Yeah i wonder how intense your workout routine should be... I read somewhere that your heart rate shouldnt increase much, forgot exact #
Anyway... Today i only did a 40 min routine and didnt push myself, but didnt feel i was working out

Im in my 2ww right now and af is due jan 1st so i hope the witch doesnt screw up my new year

 

[Holpop]

I haven't checked on here for a while & i've just been catching up on the reading of all the posts.

Soleil Breeze - i know exactly what you mean about getting your AF. Although i can't say i'm happy when it arrives, i try to tell myself that at least we're a month closer to getting our BFP (fingers Xd)! I really do hope that 2011 is a good one & that we all get our BFPs & for those who've already got theirs, that they're healthy & happy!

Arianne - you chart was pretty interesting & seems to highlight that TTC (for most) isn't a quick process. I'm hoping that there'll be lots of bold BFPs soon!

I went to my GP a few weeks ago & she suggested having my bloods done as a starting point to making sure that everything's ok. I went on Friday for my 1st lot & i'll be due back before NY for my 2nd lot. My GP seemed very supportive & i guess i'll just have to wait & see what the results show.

Just a quick question: Is anyone else feeling a bit down at the mo? I'm usually positive about the whole TTC thing but this last week, it's started being on my mind pretty much constantly. I think it's because of Christmas (it's always a lovely family time) coupled with starting the testing procedure. Saying that, i've got awful bruising down my arm (from the bloods) & everytime i look at it, it makes me think. I know i'll perk up but it's not easy, x

 

[brinib1]

Ugh! This month was right on target with tracking CM, + OPK, but then temperature didn't rise. It did go DOWN half a degree and then back up to .2 above where it was, but FF didn't consider this ovulation. I overrode it and am considering myself DPO 3, but it's possible I didn't ovulate at all. Bummer

 

[MsJMouse]

Hi ladies and belated merry xmas to everyone.

Haven't been on the site for about a month as I decided to try and step back a bit from TTC after last month as I was very upset about starting cycle #6.

I actually handed all the internet cheapie preg tests to hubby and told him to hide them as I didn't want to be tempted to test really early and get upset again.

Congrats to Caroline. Baby dust to everyone else.

Goodluck for your test results Holpop.

Sorry I missed heaps of posts but someone mentioned that their temping is all over the place cause they get up at different times on different weeks. I was given a book about natural feritilty and it has a temp adjustment rule: "if you rise earlier than usual, adjust the temp up by 0.05 Celius (0.1 Fahrenheit) for each half hour before recording it. If you rise later that usual, adjust the temp down by 0.05 Celius (0.1 Fahrenheit) for each half hour before recording it" So basically I pick the time I usually get up (630am) and if I sleep late on the weekend I adjust the temp accordingly. Helps make the temp chart make sense.

I took a test this morning cause I am 12dpo and tomorrow is new year's eve (AF is due as well) - asked DH for one test cause he still has them hidden! And it appears to have a faint second line. I am feeling a little bit shaky cause it is unexpected - i really didn't have much hope as I o'd late around day 22. Will take another test tomorrow - a FRER to make sure. But I cautiously think I might have a BFP!!

 

[sillysilly7]

Hi ladies,
Just wondering how everyone is doing. I'm in the 2ww and am finding it a bit less stressful this time, but still no fun.
Went to the doc today for an annual. Even though I'm only 3dpo she still wanted an hcg, which I thought was odd. I'll be heading to the land down under in a few weeks, so she wants to make sure I'm set if I do end up getting a positive this month and don't have to wait till I get back. I suppose my consolation prize if I don't get a BFP this month is scuba diving the reef, so it wouldn't be so bad I guess. Just trying to stay positive!

 

[arianne]

Hello girls! congrats msjmouse! Hope everything goes well!!
Silly7 i am at the end of my 2ww (af due today) and felt it was the longest one ever!

I am concerned about what it's happenning to me right now... Yesterday i had some very light spotting, so i thought af was coming, but now the spotting is gone and no af... I am having some lower abdominal pain, which i never had... I took a pg test but got a bfn so not sure what could this be i am worried it might be an ectopic pregnancy, as im having the symptoms...
dh keeps telling me to wait till the end of tomorrow bc maybe it's just my af symptoms... But i am very worried because i know that in case you have and ectopic pg you need to act fast

 

[Holpop]

Arianne, how did today go?

On the spotting front, my last 2x cycles have been different from the norm & i don't know what to make of it either. For as long as i've known, i've spotted for 1x day before my AF has properly started. Then, last month i spotted for 2x days, then nothing for 2x days, then AF. This month, i spotted on both Chritmas & Boxing Days & then nothing (& still nothing). I'm waiting for my AF as i'm meant to be heading to the Docs for CD2 blood tests. At the same time, it'd be great if my AF doesn't appear - fingers Xd!

I hope you get a clearer idea, re/ what's happening with your cycle & sorry i can't offer any help. I find the whole process of TTC frustrating because i never know what's going on. We didn't go down the OPK & temping route as we didn't want to make it seem mechanical & as a result, it's like playing a guessing game! x

 

[AnnetteCali]

Hello Ladies.... I'd love to join this thread! I'm 33.. ttc my first. It's been about 5 months of ttc.. not as long as a lot of women here.. so I shouldnt complain.. but.. it feels like forever to me. I'm currently in the 2ww.. will be testing next Sun .. the 9th.. as I will be 12dpo.. I'm notorious for POAS sooner.. so we'll see if I can hold off!! AF is expected on the 7th or 8th.. I'll try to hold off . I started temping this month.. so I will try to use that as a gage... hhmm.... Hoping for BFP'S for everyone!!

 

[Holpop]

Hi AnnetteCali!!! I've been TTC for 6 months & i know what you mean about it feeling like forever. It's not easy & by keeping it quiet from friends, etc., it can sometimes feel harder. As most people on here are in the same boat & going through similar experiences, it defo helps. How are you finding the whole temping process? That's something i'm looking to try next if my AF arrives. Let's hope the temping did the trick & that your BFP comes soon! x

 

[AnnetteCali]

Hi AnnetteCali!!! I've been TTC for 6 months & i know what you mean about it feeling like forever. It's not easy & by keeping it quiet from friends, etc., it can sometimes feel harder. As most people on here are in the same boat & going through similar experiences, it defo helps. How are you finding the whole temping process? That's something i'm looking to try next if my AF arrives. Let's hope the temping did the trick & that your BFP comes soon! x

Holpop....

Hoping we both get our bfp's this cycle!! I made the mistake of telling family and close friends that I was ttc.. I didn't think it would take this long.. the first few months.. they would constantly check in with me.. and I'd have to keep telling them.. "no... not yet.. still trying". They have sorta forgot about it I guess. I know my mom keeps thinking I'm going to give her the big news every time I call her.. poor thing. Hopefully I'll have good news soon!

Temping has been going ok. I am not as religious as most women with temping... it should be done at the same time every morning..but.. my work schedules fluctuates.. so i dont really have a set time in the morning. i just make sure I test the moment I wake up. I'm usually off in time... give or take 30-1 hr. .. so my chart isnt 100% accurate... but close enough since my cycles are pretty accurate. That's my thinking. Temping doesnt tell you when you ovulate.. until after you've ovulated. So it's used as a tool.. for future months. I used the CBFM along with temping this month.. that way i would still be able to time it right. The CBFM was pretty accurate... my doc seemed to believe it wasnt.!


I will probably temp for another 4-5 months.. that way I will have enough data to show the doc in the event I'm not pregnant by then. Hoping this will be my month! Fingers crossed!!

Are you using ovulation tests?

 

[Holpop]

AnnetteCail...my Mum, sister & a couple of my close friends know too so i know what you mean. My friends & sister ask for an update every now & then but my Mum's expecting one daily - lol! She's excited & it'd be her first grandchild so i can't blame her.

I've read on here that the CBFM is meant to be the thing to use. Did your Doc say why he/she thought it wasn't? I'd not thought of keeping data like that to take along to the Docs (if needed) but it's a good idea. I used OPKs in the summer but i gave up because i didn't see any smiley faces. My OH & i both agreed that the whole thing seemed to be getting a bit mechanical/predictive so we said that we'd take a more 'whatever happens, happens' approach. It's got its plus points but at the same time - it's a guessing game. Good luck this month, x

 

[AnnetteCali]

AnnetteCail...my Mum, sister & a couple of my close friends know too so i know what you mean. My friends & sister ask for an update every now & then but my Mum's expecting one daily - lol! She's excited & it'd be her first grandchild so i can't blame her.

I've read on here that the CBFM is meant to be the thing to use. Did your Doc say why he/she thought it wasn't? I'd not thought of keeping data like that to take along to the Docs (if needed) but it's a good idea. I used OPKs in the summer but i gave up because i didn't see any smiley faces. My OH & i both agreed that the whole thing seemed to be getting a bit mechanical/predictive so we said that we'd take a more 'whatever happens, happens' approach. It's got its plus points but at the same time - it's a guessing game. Good luck this month, x

My doc felt that the machine isnt completely accurate when it comes to reading levels in the urine.. some women don't get high levels .. but still ovulate. She felt the temping was more accurate. Every doc will tell you something different.. according to their experience I think. I have no problem with my machine... it seems to be accurate. Oh.. she said it's expensive too.. and temping is cheaper

I am gonna give it 4 more months.. I'll have a really good idea of my peak days by then. A fertility specialist wont see me until after a full year of trying.. i should have lied to my doc when i started trying! lol... After 4 months.. I may try the "natural" way ... we'll see. sounds good now..but... i get impatient.

Good luck to you too!!! I'll keep you posted.. AF should arrive by next Fri or Sat.. if not.. i'll test on Sunday