Early 30's TTC #1

[hopefulmama2b]

I'm sure that's a great feeling Hakuna!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Just got my smiley face!!! Yay x

 

[rosababy]

Hi, ladies. I've been out of town all week, without internet, so sorry I was mia for a while.

My consultation (post-op for my lap 2 weeks ago) is Friday, so I'm looking forward to what he has to say. I'm also calling my ob for recommendation for another fertility specialist, although there are LOADS in my area. A HUGE clinic, that has great success rates is like seriously 5 minutes down the road. I might go to them. I like the one-on-one service, and I won't get that with this clinic, but my dh made a good point...I've had all of the invasive, scary tests done already, and I had a great doc that did all of them himself. All that's left is an IUI (hopefully) or IVF, and I'd like to just freaking get them done. I don't even care who does it anymore, just knock me up! So, I'm making an appt for a consult tomorrow, and hopefully get the ball rolling. My dh thinks I should wait for a rec from my docs, but I can always cancel the appt. I don't want to wait any longer.

So, it's cd 2, not surprisingly because we didn't dtd all cycle. The lap had me out for several more days than I was expecting, then we were sharing a pop-up tent with my parents. By the way, we will never do THAT again! So, since af came earlier, I will not be o'ing on the cruise like I thought. Instead, for funsies, I'll be o'ing while we're visiting the inlaws. Oh wait, it gets better. Since they don't have ac in the guest room (long story), dh's parents are being nice and letting us stay in their room. My dh is like I am NOT NOT NOT dtd in my parents' bed! We'll do it on the floor or in the car or something. Fun times.

Rosababy - insurance sucks. Sorry to hear that your insurance no longer covers that doc. Does that mean if you stay with the doc you have to pay big out of pocket costs?? I am not completely sure how the american system works but we have medicare (everyone gets this) and health insurance (which you can choose to have) - if you have health insurance, it pays part of your bills and medicare pays part of your bils but if the doc doesn't have a "no gap" agreement with your insurance you can be out of pocket a lot - i had surgery a few years ago and I was out of pocket to the tune of about $10,000 - which hurt a lot as you can imagine.

I COULD pay out-of-network costs, which is 70% but why, when I could go to one of the other 10 clinics that all accept my insurance and is covered 100%? Plus, whatever I have done next is going to be VERY expensive. If I go to a 100% place, I literally pay nothing for IUIs or IVF.

Rosa- Sorry to hear about your insurance situation. I think that this would be a good opportunity to research IVF success rates amongst the FS in your town. I know you weren't thinking you were going this route in the beginning so I'm not sure you looked into that when choosing your doc. Personally I would rather give up a doctor who's personality I love to one who has higher success rates. If it turns out that your former doctor is the one with the good success rates you could always look into what the difference would be for you to continue going to him. Did they totally stop taking your insurance or are they just out of network? Sometimes the cost difference is significant and other times it's not as much as maybe you would imagine. Good luck. I know you're disappointed, but maybe you can find someone else who's just as good if not better.

I agree. Shady Grove clinic is very popular, and has great success rates, and is 5 minutes away. I'll be just a "number" to them, but I don't even care anymore. I'd be out of network with them, which is still better than nothing, but more than we'd like to pay especially since I can go somewhere else for 100% coverage.

Mrsmax, I was pissed when my dh wouldn't do it every day too, but he explained that when he "does it himself", he notices a BIG difference in amount of sperm when he does it every day as opposed to letting it build up. Both my ob and my RE said that every other day is good, and that we definitely need to let the sperm build up a bit. Have you considered sperm meets egg plan? Every other day until the positive opk and then 3 days in a row or something like that.

 

[MsJMouse]

Rosababy - yeah I wouldn't pay 70% of the cost either especially if you can go to someone else who the insurance covers 100%. In my case it was surgery for a tumour and I really didn't care at the time if I had to pay a gap as long as the surgeon was good (and my surgeon did have a good reputation) and didn't stuff up my head!!!

That is good that your insurance does cover you for IVF and IUI as that is expensive. I don't think any of the insurance companies over here cover the total cost of that.

Hmm the car - I don't think I have tried that in years.

Enjoy your cruise.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Rosa, good luck with your follow up appointment this week. I don't think it hurts to go ahead and make the apointment with the other clinic while you're waiting.

Re: parents bed- we have dtd on the floor in my inlaws house as well because they put us in a loud bed!

 

[rosababy]

Rosababy - yeah I wouldn't pay 70% of the cost either especially if you can go to someone else who the insurance covers 100%. In my case it was surgery for a tumour and I really didn't care at the time if I had to pay a gap as long as the surgeon was good (and my surgeon did have a good reputation) and didn't stuff up my head!!!

That is good that your insurance does cover you for IVF and IUI as that is expensive. I don't think any of the insurance companies over here cover the total cost of that.

Hmm the car - I don't think I have tried that in years.

Enjoy your cruise.

I'm not sure how putting my legs up in the air would work in the car. We'll figure something out...it'll probably only be once anyways, since we won't be there that long.

We're SO lucky to have good insurance that covers everything. And we're also very lucky to have several excellent clinics within minutes of my house.

Rosa, good luck with your follow up appointment this week. I don't think it hurts to go ahead and make the apointment with the other clinic while you're waiting.

Re: parents bed- we have dtd on the floor in my inlaws house as well because they put us in a loud bed!

I made an appt for a few weeks from now, so that's good. I could have had this Thursday, but I can't do it then. Bummer! Oh well, hopefully things move quickly after the consult.

On a negative note, I found out that 2 friends of mine are pregnant. Found out within 30 minutes...I can not stop crying. Literally everyone around me is pregnant.

 

[mrsmax]

Rosa - massive hugs on the friends thing. I have lost track of the friends I have used the Hide button on FB. I sometimes worry that I wont have any friends left when we finally get pregnant as I have distanced myself from all the pregnant ones.

Great that you have lots of clinics near bv - glad you got an appointment.

Right, off to work. Boo hiss.

 

[Crumbs]

rosababy, your post cracked me up And I'm glad there's successful clinics nearby you can turn to. Your DH is right, all the hard stuff is already done. Enjoy your trip!

hakunamatata & MrsPTTC, Fx!

We picked up the old ladies (Mom and 2 aunts) from the airport after their weekend excursion to Amsterdam. They are knocked out right now. Lol! No more worrying about them waking up at the crack of dawn. But we have another week left. I'm happy they're all together, it makes entertaining much easier. I figure this is how it is with kids!

As for my temps, it took a nose dive yesterday and barely up today, I've been having little twinges ... expecting the soon. I didn't have any symptoms so it's not really a surprise.

HUGS to all my girls! I hope the stork comes and visits all of us soon!

 

[rosababy]

mrsmax, I've also hidden so many people on fb, it's ridiculous. And I have also distanced myself from my friends who have babies or who are pregnant, and it makes me so sad. We're hanging out with some of our good friends tonight and I told my dh I'm NOT GOING if she's pregnant. How terrible is that?!

Crumbs, enjoy your family visit! Family can be stressful sometimes, can't they? Sorry your temps are dropping. Hopefully it doesn't mean anything.

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks Crumbs! I was so lucky I caught my LH surge as I had a negative digi on the am, BD'd anyway, then took an IC on the pm which I thought was almost positive so decided to try another digi and got my smiley face! Funny thing is I took both an IC and digi the next day (yesterday) and no positive! So if I only POAS once a day like they say and on a morning like the digi says I would NEVER have gotten a positive this month!! I'm so pleased I like POAS-ing ! Hope doesn't make an appearance. That's why I prefer not to temp now, it just gets me depressed watching the temps dive

Rosa/Mrsmax - am totally with you on the FB thing. A lot of my old school friends who I don't see are announcing their pregnancies and it's torture, and there's a girl from work and all she EVER talks about on her status is every move her baby makes! I know it's exciting so I don't mean to sound horrible, but I hope I'm not that boring when I'm pg and have something other than babytalk to update my status with!

Sending you lots of ladies xx

 

[hopefulmama2b]

MrsPTTC- so glad you didn't miss your spike!! Welcome to the 2ww!

FB is bad bad bad sometimes.

 

[MrsPTTC]

MrsPTTC- so glad you didn't miss your spike!! Welcome to the 2ww!

FB is bad bad bad sometimes.

Thanks hopeful! x

 

[mrsmax]

I second that - welcome to the 2WW MrsPttc!!!

I also hope Im not that boring and a bit more sensitive when I am pregnant.

I did something stupid today which really got my hopes up. I searched on FF fro charts like mine and ticked the pre and post temps and coverline and Bding schedule and it came up with 88% charts like mine are pregnancy charts and 11% are miscarrige . Not sure about the other 1%...

I think it is cause I have had two really high ones but I think that is cause I have had disturbed sleep. I pray for a high temp tomorrow, and if I get it I will start getting more hopeful!!!

 

[pink80]

I've come to leave some big for any of you ladies that need it xxx

I had a temp rise today ladies - so I guess that means I finally ovulated!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

I second that - welcome to the 2WW MrsPttc!!!

I also hope Im not that boring and a bit more sensitive when I am pregnant.

I did something stupid today which really got my hopes up. I searched on FF fro charts like mine and ticked the pre and post temps and coverline and Bding schedule and it came up with 88% charts like mine are pregnancy charts and 11% are miscarrige . Not sure about the other 1%...

I think it is cause I have had two really high ones but I think that is cause I have had disturbed sleep. I pray for a high temp tomorrow, and if I get it I will start getting more hopeful!!!

Thanks mrsmax! Wowee your last 2 temps are pretty high! Yeah I do that, searching for pregnancy charts similar to mine, though can't do that this month as I'm not charting anymore. I'm glad really, means I can't spend ages browsing FF and get my hopes up!! Good luck for when you next test! x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Good luck pink! x

 

[Crumbs]

mrsmax, oh my goodness your chart's looking good! Fx! Fx!

pink,

I've up in the middle of the night because I was so hot (slept with the door closed because the guests were up late chatting) and I haven't been able to sleep since. I gave up not moving and decided to just go online -- if is coming anyway I shouldn't force myself to remain in bed just to temp.

1 more week until they're here! It's been non-stop action packed and I'm absolutely exhausted! One of the aunties is a little older and really, really reminds me of a kid. That sounds bad when I say it that way but I don't know how else to explain it -- she's really, really inquisitive about everything! She's constantly asking a multitude of questions and has already broken something! It was just a little pot and not valuable but it reminds me of how my house is soooo not kid friendly!

I hope you're all having a great week and

 

[mrsmax]

Thanks Crumbs.

It sounds like you are ready for your guests to leave!! I have had my mum staying for the last few days - not quite so bad, but she likes her wine and it has been hard to resist (even though she knows I am TTC).

Looking forward to some peace the next few days whilst DH away.

And thanks Pink - GL this cycle.

I'm still swaying between convinced I'm pregnant and convinced Im not and will never be. Maybe this temping thing isnt good afer O after all....

 

[mrsmax]

OK. I am so setting myself up for a fall this month. I think that fleeting BFP last cycle has messed with my head. It is just that I have so many symptoms this month.

I was in the shower yesterday and noticed crazy blue veins on my bbs and chest - I wasnt looking for them as I didnt get these last BFP, but they were so pronouced that I couldnt miss them. I have also had twinges above pelvis just like last month, stabbing pains in bbs and my chart looks so positive (FF still says 100% of similar charts are pregancy charts) - BUT what are the chances of trying for 13 months with ZERO BFP and then getting two BFPs in a row. Pretty unlikley I would say. Maybe i have some residue hormones in my body or something... Grrr.

Took a test today and got BFN - at 9 DPO.

 

[joeybrooks]

Hi all, I know this thread has been going on for some time. It is lovely to see that some of you have got your BFPs in this time.

I am 30 years old, as is OH, and this is my first cycle TTC. I am CD10 and will be ovulating soon, so very excited to see if it works. I know it can take a very long time and by no means to I expect it to happen right away, but it would be just amazing if it did as we took forever to bite the bullet and actually go for it.