Early 30's TTC #1

[MrsPTTC]

mrsmax! Temps still high! When is AF due? x

 

[mrsmax]

BFN again today using a IC. Pretty sure I'm out.

Hoping for a sunny weekend so I can do some gardening and sunbathing with a good book. Time to relax Hope you all have something nice planned.

 

[mrsmax]

Mrs PTTC - due Monday. I usually get cramps 2 days before so will see what today brings, but all stats suggest I'm out with a BFN on 12 DPO. But those high temps are teasing me!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

When does your temp usually drop before AF? Hope the cramps stay away. I know what you mean about being out, when I test and get BFN's at 11/12 DPO I know I'm out, but there is still a small chance of getting a BFP! I've decided not to test this month, first month since TTC I will wait for AF which should be 1 week on Monday. I might cave in, but I hope not, I'm just so sick of the BFN's and wasting tests. I'm a bit more relaxed this month so thought I'd give the not testing thing a go . Also I've noticed I'm not wanting to talk about TTC as much these days, did any of you go through that? Like even when my close friends ask me how things are going, I just can't be bothered to answer! I'm happy to talk about it on here though when we're all in the same boat! x

 

[rosababy]

mrsmax, sorry about your bfn. It's not over til the fat, ugly, b*tchy lady sings though. I hope your cramps stay away.

Sachagary, welcome! How long have you been ttc?

pttc, yes, I've gone through phases when I just don't want to talk about it. Sometimes, I leave BnB because it's too hard, but I always find myself lurking a few days later. It's normal, I think. Sorry you're feeling down.

So, here's a question...starting IVF, and dh and I are wondering if we should tell friends and family when we are exactly starting? My sil's are very into knowing and helping, and will inevitably figure out when my beta is, and be wondering and looking for fb statuses like "God is great" or "FINALLY" or something like that. So, do we tell them, with the mindset of telling them right away, or not tell them exactly when we start the ivf so we can tell them 8-10 weeks into the pregnancy? What would you do?

 

[mrsmax]

Rosa - first of all, I am so excited for you that you guys have decided to take the next step.

It is a tough one. I really dont know when/if you should tell people. I think maybe closest friends and family so they will understand when you need down time after the transfer and stuff. BUT then I think, that may just add the pressure and best to keep between you and DH...

Sorry - not very helpful!!!

 

[MsJMouse]

Rosa - congrats on deciding to take the next step. Sounds like your doctor is really on the ball.

Not sure about telling your family. Its a hard question. I guess you just have to do what you feel is right.

mrsmax - sorry to read about the BFNs but as Rosa said you are not out till she arrives.

Hi Sachagary!!! Everyone is really great on this thread.

MrsPTTC - I also have days where I don't look at BnB for a bit but I end up lurking a couple of days later. Mostly these days I don't really talk to anyone else about TTC (except DH) as I don't really have any friends who have struggled to fall pregnant (or had a loss or anything) and are currently surrounded by people who have had "oops" moments and now are pregnant or have just had their baby.

 

[mrsmax]

I'm the same as MrsJ - I have only told a handful of people - my mum, my brother and my sister in law, plus 2 people I know who are also struggling. I rarely discuss it with any of them - probably less than once a month. That is why here is such a great place - you can chat when you want to or just lurk.

I have been really active on BNB since the m/c as it raised so many new questions. I dont expect I will be quite a active this cycle.

And yes, I am out. My temps dropped below the coverline today. I am ok though as sooooo excited to see DH after he has been away 10 days that am more focused on that than TTC!

 

[MrsPTTC]

mrsmax sorry you are out. Rosa I would probably tell v close friends & family. At the min only my mum & a few close friends know we're TTC though I suspect MIL & BIL have sussed me. My boss at work knows with me needing time off for the tests x

 

[Paige.Br]

We are of the same age here, and getting pregnant for me wasn’t that easy. But then, I was fully driven with all my desires to have a child of our own, hence I pursued my objective to conceive. Sincere prayers would eventually help us and make pregnancy possible during later age. Well, good luck to all of us here. Fingers crossed…

 

[Crumbs]

Hi all I just got back 2 days ago and still utterly exhausted! We spent 5 days in Stockholm walking around the whole time while my Mom and aunts dragged me around shopping. I'm beat!

I'm trying to pry myself off of FB since everyone seems to be having a baby or just had a baby! Argggh. It normally doesn't get to me but seeing all the cute newborns and browsing all the family pics got me wondering what's wrong with me. What's worse is a couple of the people that posted about their pregnancy JUST had a baby! My cousin for instance, I remember sending him a baby gift and now he's having another one ... and they haven't been married long. I need to be drinking whatever it is their drinking!

Must have patience ... patience ... patience! I was hoping to see good news when I got back but hopefully we'll all be surprised this month!

Welcome to all the newcomers!

 

[pink80]

Ladies - hope you are well

Just wanted to let you know I got my bfp - got a feint positive on a FRER yesterday at 10dpo and got a darker line this morning - feel really scared and worried but trying to be as positive as I can about xxx

Hope you don't mind me posting

 

[Crumbs]

Ladies - hope you are well

Just wanted to let you know I got my bfp - got a feint positive on a FRER yesterday at 10dpo and got a darker line this morning - feel really scared and worried but trying to be as positive as I can about xxx

Hope you don't mind me posting

OMG pink, I'm so happy for you!!! Seeing a on here is like a for everyone! It most definitely gives me hope!

Wishing you a sticky, sticky bean, a very smooth and happy pregnancy and a beautiful and healthy little one! Keep us updated!

P.S. My little rant was more about the uber fertile mytles. Good news within our little group is just good news at least for me. I always update my DH when there's a new on here and it gives both of us something to look forward to

 

[pink80]

Thanks crumbs - that means a lot (I had a little cry when I read that - god damn hormones!!!) xx

 

[rosababy]

PINK!!! Congrats!!! That's wonderful! We're happy to see here, unlike FB.

Crumbs, I have blocked like...oh jeez. I probably have more people blocked then unblocked at this point. I just can't handle seeing pics or reading statuses about babies or pregnancy. I have a cousin who is preggo with her 4th (my age) and they're all 2 years apart to the month. Seriously?! Who can plan it like that?! Then my other cousin who is barely 20 and just got preggo by accident. Christmas should be oodles of fun this year. (Although hopefully I'll have an announcement by then, too!)

 

[Aisak]

Congrats pink!!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi all I just got back 2 days ago and still utterly exhausted! We spent 5 days in Stockholm walking around the whole time while my Mom and aunts dragged me around shopping. I'm beat!

I'm trying to pry myself off of FB since everyone seems to be having a baby or just had a baby! Argggh. It normally doesn't get to me but seeing all the cute newborns and browsing all the family pics got me wondering what's wrong with me. What's worse is a couple of the people that posted about their pregnancy JUST had a baby! My cousin for instance, I remember sending him a baby gift and now he's having another one ... and they haven't been married long. I need to be drinking whatever it is their drinking!

Must have patience ... patience ... patience! I was hoping to see good news when I got back but hopefully we'll all be surprised this month!

Welcome to all the newcomers!

Hi Crumbs, Hope you enjoyed your break!

Yep I’m fed up of FB, all of a sudden there’s been a baby boom with girls from school. But I did see a scan photo the other day and I could’ve cried for her, I knew she’d be trying without success and got married at a similar time to us. Well she got her BFP after five, FIVE years!! She had to lose weight until they’d give her fertility treatment, which is why it took so long, but in the end she decided “bugger it” and gave up trying, and she got her BFP! It just goes to show all this crap of “relax and it’ll happen” is sometimes true! x

Ladies - hope you are well

Just wanted to let you know I got my bfp - got a feint positive on a FRER yesterday at 10dpo and got a darker line this morning - feel really scared and worried but trying to be as positive as I can about xxx

Hope you don't mind me posting

Brilliant news pink!!! Congrats sweetie, wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months! x

AFM – I have a spotting problem anyway but usually from 10DPO, I’ve had the odd occasion where I’ve spotted 6-7DPO but then stops and starts again on 10DPO and I think it was down to the AC which I’ve now stopped. However this month I’ve spotted since approx 6DPO (stopped temping so guessing ovulation day) and it hasn’t stopped This is the first time that’s happened and I don’t know if it’s a good or bad sign. I have tested and BFN obviously. AF due Monday so we’ll see what happens…Also had some nausea, on Tuesday night and last night, but trying not to read too much into it…. x

 

[rosababy]

Mrs., that's awfully early to be spotting. Have you looked into progesterone issues?

Afm, I've had the most beautiful ewcm for the last 2 days. But we're scared to try naturally now, since doc said even if we did get preggo on our own, that there's a 60% of it being ectopic. We both decided that if that happened, it would push our ivf start date back even farther, so we decided not to dtd last night. I've NEVER had ewcm that much or for that long. It was unbelievable. I also had what I'm assuming were o pains. Sigh. It was very disheartening to NOT dtd but whatever.

We leave for our cruise today!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Enjoy your cruise Rosa! Where you going? Had a blood test on Monday for progesterone but wont get the results until all my fertility tests are complete. I mentioned it to the FS and he didn't seem worried, he didn't even ask me for how long before AF it is or what type of spotting - I assume he'll look more into it after the tests. It's not really blood spotting, more like tinged CM. I usually get it around 10DPO for 3 days before AF but this is an all time low!! Funny thing is I'm sure I only used to get it for 1 day before AF before TTC! Typical x

 

[MrsPTTC]

Oh and how frustrating having EWCM and not being able to DTD!! x