Early 30's TTC #1

[mrsmax]

MrsMax, so do you plan on beginning in February? I know you're going to skip one cycle (Jan/Feb), but will that put you at Feb/March to begin IVF? Cause you know that it's a two-month process, right? At least for me it was; I am in my "prep" month right now.

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Hye Soleil - so pleased it is looking good. Yeah, I know it takes two months but I figure we wont be able to afford round 2 until August anyways, so might as well wait until in tip top condition for the first round - if it fails there will eb less time of angst before we can start number two. Also, I want at least 2 months on Clomid before going to IVf - just in case! And, I want time to get my body into good condition - hence the fertility diet (by the wya this isnt to loose wait it is literally to clean out all the chemicals and bad stuff in body) so I am ready for IVF.

I have no expectation that it will work first time. It just seems that would be way too lucky.

Soleil - I'm glad we can be cycle buddies - I would go crazy without all you ladies.

feeling on the edge today - a little down as work has been stressful. Wish I could afford to take a few months off. Sigh.

Hope the rest of you ladies are doing ok. Any news?

 

[Soleil Breeze]

AND STOP READING ABOUT FAILED CYCLES, GIRL!!!! I clicked on your profile and saw what you were looking at. Tsk! Tsk!!

OMG! I am so embarrassed!! Ha, ha, ha! I think that I am just trying to convince myself that it might not work the first time so that way I won't be incredibly devastated if it doesn't work out.

This was just a quickie note - putting hopeful at the top of the prayer list, along with rosa, tonight!
MrsMax - I can't wait for you to start this [IVF] thing! Me, you and Rosa will be in good company.
MsJMouse - hopefully the rest of the gang will be distracted, but I really hope that everything is okay with your co-worker's baby. One of my neighbors is moving away this week and she had me and a few people over last night. Apparently one of her co-workers lost her baby at 39 weeks! I cannot imagine how someone comes back from something like that! This conception and pregnancy thing is such a delicate process...before TTC I would never have known! I mean, there are only 6 billion plus people on the planet, ay?! And yet it is such a delicate, delicate process...

DH said SA went well, but we don't have the results yet. The ball is rolling on the meds. side of things. My clinical nurse gave me the low-down on what she's ordering for me (so much!!!).

Have a wonderful evening, ladies. My fav. show is on tonight - Modern Family!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Soleil so pleased your SIS went well! Re the calcium question in milk, I asked the FS about the diet to make sure it was safe when ttc, he said it was but he didn't get the cutting out dairy thing, however he said milk isn't a problem as apparently milk these days doesn't have much calcium in it . Re the iui, im not pressing for it yet, its the 4th cycle I'm on & if no joy between now & 6 then I go back to discuss things, I think iui would be next. I'm gonna sound really selfish here but I really hope I don't have to have assisted conception as I would love 2 or 3 children. If we had to have iui or IVF then we'd not get it again so would have to pay & DH said if its gonna cost thousands he'd rather settle for one child. He's not been that bothered about more than one from the outset But hey one child will do, I cant imagine life without a child, if need be I'd adopt! As for my lining I wouldn't know as I only had the one scan on the first month when it was really thick x

 

[mrsmax]

Hey Mrs - not selfish at all. Since I started this LTTC thing I actually want more children not less - although I know it isnt really realistic. I always said 2, now I'd like three of four At this moment in time of course I would be ecstatic at one. re teh adoption - my DH said he wouldnt do it. I would love to though. I think I could persuade him to adopt if we had a bilogoical child of our own...

Cant remember why teh fertility diet says to cut out dairy products - will have to check the book when I get home tonight. I am having a splash in my decaf so not cuting out completely. Am missing cheese though - I tried vegan cheese and it made me gag!!!!

Just got in touch with an ex-collague/friend who someone said had been through all of this. I contacted her and we are going to meet up. She has been trying for nearly 3 years - wow. It is going to be wonderful and strange to have someone IR to talk to about this stuff.

Feeling OK at mo - just fed up with work. I think I have to admit that I couldt care less about work at the moment. My Dh actually said "why would you, at the moment you just want to be a mum!" He meant it nicely and I realised that he is right. Shame I cant quit - we need the money for IVF

MrsP - how long do you think you will wait before trying AC? I cant remember - how old are you? I guess I am pushing on cause of my age.

 

[mrsmax]

Sorry Mrs - just seen you said you will give Clomid 6 goes. Fingers crossed hon x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hey Mrs - not selfish at all. Since I started this LTTC thing I actually want more children not less - although I know it isnt really realistic. I always said 2, now I'd like three of four .

Oh MrsMax- this is how I feel too. I guess I'm just hoping I'm one of those who struggles for the first and then bam, bam come another couple! It could happen, right?! Haha.

As for adoption- we are all for it. And since we want a big family we realize this may be the route we have to take. One of our friends had two miscarriages and then because she's 40 decided to move to adoption. She got word right before Christmas that she was matched and her baby is due at the beginning of march!!! It happened so quickly and is so so exciting. I started crying when I read her text saying- "I'm going to be a mommy!!!!"

And like you- I can't be bothered with work either!

 

[pink80]

Hopeful what time is your scan?? Xx

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi mrsmax, glad I'm not the only one longing for a big family. I have always said I didn't want an only child but what will be will be. Even if we did have to go down the AC route, if its unexplained then who's to say over time we wouldn't get pregnant naturally for another one? There's always hope! When I was on my diet with DH (I still am but cheat a lot) we tried goats cheese as it was allowed, OMG its vile! . It's like marmite, you either love it or hate it! x

 

[hopefulmama2b]

2:45 cst. I think I'm 6 hours behind UK?? It's 8 now...

 

[rosababy]

I've also wondered about the no dairy thing for fertility diets. It seems that there are several different versions of fertility diets out there. I don't think I could live without my cheese! It's my favorite food.

hopeful, good luck with your scan! 2:45 cst? Better update us asap!

Nothing new for me. This morning, my boobs have started to hurt a little and I've noticed the ariolas are bigger than normal. I actually woke my dh up to ask him if they looked bigger. He laughed about it later. Said I'd be TICKED if he woke me up to ask him a question like that. He's right, I would be. Still very tired...trying to get through the days. I'm looking forward to no concert and no lessons tonight. I'm coming home and getting straight into my pjs.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

that AC can give you a two-for-the-price-of-one sort of deal now, don't you girls? :wink wink:

This was just a jump-in, need to dash home to make dinner; came by to see hopeful's beautiful baby pic!

xx

 

[mrsmax]

Ok - so first off - Hopeful. Woop!!!! Wooop!!! I cannot imagine how relieved or joyful you have been leaving that hospital. Loving the feel of this thread at the mo.

And Rosa - 6weeks baby!!! You have reached 6 weeks - awesome I am struggling with the cheese thing but to be honest I like it best with red wine or pasta and as those are off the menu it isnt as bad as I thought.

MrsP - I love, love, love goats cheese! It is soooo good with caramelised onions and rocket salad. Yum. Damn you - now I'm missing cheese

Seriously, feeling up and down at the moment. This is the most obessed I have been in yonks - as in I go to sleep thinking about TTc and I wake up thinking about it. I'm not that tearful, but I am having so many doubts that it wont happen. The 35 things freaks me out - but as DH said - its not like your ovaries chanegd overnight. My FSH was really low so that is good. I should get my AMH test back soon - and that is the real scary one. I am terrified it will say I have crap or no eggs!!!!!

Love you ladies. I read this quote yesterday ina TTc book and loved it "You suffer privately, but you don't suffer alone. Luckily, we have each other so we dont even have to suffer in private. IR though - it is getting harder to keep up pretenses.

I can't believe this is month 21 or something. Blah.

love you all xx

 

[mrsmax]

I have such bad typing - sorry guys!!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hopeful, I've had a look at your journal and seen your scan pic! Yay!

Mrsmax - I too am up and down, more down that up these days. I've put it down to the clomid though, I've always been tearful if I see or hear something sad or even good news but god I am pathetic at the minute! My big test will be when some friends of ours have their baby in Feb (or March) we were IRL TTC buddies so it'll be hard.

I have my fingers and toes crossed that your AMH results come back just fine! Is that a test they do as a matter of course? I don't think I've had that x

 

[MsJMouse]

Soleil so pleased your SIS went well! Re the calcium question in milk, I asked the FS about the diet to make sure it was safe when ttc, he said it was but he didn't get the cutting out dairy thing, however he said milk isn't a problem as apparently milk these days doesn't have much calcium in it .

I have been told that we don't absorb the calcium in milk that well because of the other minerals we require when we absorb calcium are not found in the milk. Sorry off the top of my head I can't remember all the details but I am pretty sure that a lot of your leafy green vegies have calcium in them, so if you are eating that kind of stuff you are probably getting your calcium from there.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

MrsMax, did you just turn 35? If so, happy belated, girl! And DH is right, your ovaries haven't changed overnight! I am glad that you are getting good test results back.

By the way, ladies, what is "IR(L)" and "AMH"?

As for the dairy thing, MrsPTTC, I seem to remember something similar now. Something about adults not been able to process the calcium from dairy very well...

I literally CANNOT wait for next week Sunday! I begin Lupron then! Whoo hoo! We have been financially cleared and are all set to go! Bring it on, baby! I am ready!

Have a lovely weekend, ladies! Find a moment for some peace in your TTC (or pregnancy) journey. Everything will be just as it should be in due time. Much love. xx

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Whoops, meant to say MrsJMouse on the calcium thing. Sorry!

 

[mrsmax]

Just jumping in and out as have to go have a shower and get out of the house - but AMH is a relatively new test and I think they only bother if you do IVF. I think it is a better indicator of your number and quality of eggs - but they do it as it is a good indicator of how well you will respond to the egg stimulating drugs in IVF. I think the higher the better. As I am sooo old I can only hope that my FSH is a good indicator that my AMH will be good - but that is not always the case. Very scared!!

 

[MrsPTTC]

Thanks for the dairy info ladies
Soleil, I love your body builder man . I can imagine your excitement! IRL means In Real Life not sure what AMH stands for but it's a hormone I think like FSH/LH. Mrsmax do correct me if need be!

Mrsmax - I see now, I hope the results are good! And less of the OLD!

x

 

[rosababy]

mrsmax, I'm not missing wine either, which is surprising considering how much I love it. I would not do well if I had to give up cheese though. I ordered a salad yesterday and had to make sure that I got one without feta or crumbled blue cheese, which was painful! Sorry you're feeling so down. Your time is coming. Look forward to the IVF. Your time is coming.

SB, yay for lupron!!!! Do you know when you start "stimming" (ivf code for stimulating the eggs)? Any idea when retrieval is or anything? So exciting!!!


Afm, nothing to report. 2 more days until we see how many buns are a-cookin'. Anyone have any bets? Trying to stay at peace until then.