Early 30's TTC #1

[arianne]

Hey kcali, what Rosa says is true.. so it will be good if you start charting for that reason as well also a blood test at CD21-22 confirms if you have ovulated that cycle... my doctor made me do 3 in a row, just to make sure I ovulate every cycle...

 

[kcali]

Thanks rosa for the FYI - I am having 3-4 days of +OPK's and I was thinking that's weird... I read that it could take the body some time to O after the pill, so maybe that's the problem. I'll track my temps next month and see what's up!

 

[piccolo]

Girlies, as you see on my chart, af came today! I find charting quite helpful as i knew it was coming because my temps starting to drop at 10dpo. Today it dropped to coverline, so I was sure it will show up today, and it did! This is amazing. I will no longer suffer the 2ww and wonder 'if'... and usually is the last week before af comes where im more impatient.
Now im 100% sure Im not pg and can safely do things I would not otherwise do. I havent taken even a sip of alcohol since I starting ttc!! Because I always thought 'what if I'm actually pg'... I can't rely on my light periods... But now my temps confirm it! This makes this journey soo much easier, and I'm very happy about it.

This month I'm going to try the pineapple core thing from 1dpo to 10 dpo... Im still scared to take BA, so I'll start with pineapple

Kisses to all the newbies!!

Arianne looks like we're in sync - I started spotting today. I think I am okay this month. Trying to stay positive and appreciate what I do have. While I have lots of friends who are pregnant or have new babies, I also have lots my age who are still single, and who knows if they will ever have a family at all? At least I have my partner and all we have to do now is wait for our turn, however it comes about.
Arianne I'm glad that temping is making it less stressful for you! But FYI to others - my temps often stay high through my period, and I gather this is not uncommon. So while a drop might help to know that your period is coming, temps staying high are not necessarily a reason to get your hopes up.

Welcome new buddies!

 

[arianne]

Hi piccolo, actually that is what my husband tells me to make me feel better.... all my best friends are not even married...
I actually feel very lucky to have him, we have been together since 2003 and we are still very much in love... and I never lasted for more than 4 months in a relationship, so he was definitely the one for me... I am so happy and blessed to be her wife, and we do have a beautiful life... I guess you can't have it all!
I am starting to change my perspective of having my kids before the age of 35... to 40... that gives me more time

 

[rosababy]

Thanks rosa for the FYI - I am having 3-4 days of +OPK's and I was thinking that's weird... I read that it could take the body some time to O after the pill, so maybe that's the problem. I'll track my temps next month and see what's up!

Maybe it's the opks. What brand are you using? I used the cheapest I could find for my first cycle, and didn't have much luck. Now, I use First Response, which are more expensive, but a lot more reliable.

 

[sarah10380]

i'm on cd14 and still have not had a positive opk. Yesterday and today my cm has picked up, but i still haven't had the ewcm. do you ladies have increased cm prior to the ewcm?

 

[rosababy]

Sarah, typically cm works its way up to ewcm. Yes, I have just wet (where I can't actually see any, but I have some wet stains on my panties, sorry tmi!), then creamy (again, stains but white/yellowish and maybe a little cm in me, not that I check internally, but just in the opening) and then ewcm. Don't lose heart, though, I typically O on CD 17, and have O'ed as late as CD 19 and 21 before. I'm CD 11, and day 2 of ewcm, which is by FAR the earliest I've ever had it. Some cycles, I only have a little ewcm, or none at all. Is this your first month of tracking cm?

 

[sarah10380]

Rosababy..
I've never really kept track of cm, but I've always been aware of it being there (never checked it internally). This month however, I guess i'm trying to track it better since my cycle was so long last month (36 days) and I'm sure I completely missed when I ovulated, because I was so focused on my opk's. I get paranoid that I'm not even ovulating...right now I'm having the white/yellowish cm, hoping I will have the ewcm soon

 

[rosababy]

That's great. Temping would really help you, then. You should consider starting now, even though you're in the middle of your cycle. Some people like to wait until the first day of their cycle, but in my opinion the more data, the better. What cycle day are you on now?

I've never checked internally either (kind of grosses me out), but I do check right at the opening (without being too tmi here). Sometimes I don't see any on the tp or panties, but can see it in the very opening of the vajay jay. If I hadn't checked like that last cycle, I would have assumed I had none.

 

[kcali]

Went out last night and got a basel thermometer. Started charting this am

 

[rosababy]

Kcali, good! Did you find fertilityFriend.com? It's so helpful. They even send you a "lesson" via email for 2 weeks or something, so you can learn all about it. You can even set up a link in your signature so we can all look at your chart, too! (If you want)

 

[finallyready]

Hi Ladies! Welcome new buddies

So I am finished my course! Wrote a 3hr exam last night! So I am VERY happy to be done with that. I'm not sure how long my cycles are since only properly getting AF beg of Jan, but as you can see on my chart I am CD 27 so that means AF should arrive any day now. I haven't bothered Testing again since getting my BFN at 11DPO. I even gave my DH all of my tests to hide on me.

So I am not going to bother wasting a test unless I am a week late. I have been having some strange symptoms though, but I wonder if they are because AF is near? I am really trying to be in tune with my body so I know what to expect on my next cycle. The waiting is driving my crazy

ROSA sorry the SA was a bust. Did you still pay the guy? that seems like a waste.

RE: Temping...I feel like I want to temp too, but hubby hates the beep it makes when it is done. Does anyone know if there is a thermometer that doesn't beep? That way I could do it without him knowing

 

[arianne]

Finallyready congrats for your course, it must feel good to be done with that!
My hubby is starting to hate my beeping thermometer too! And yesterday he asked me why im doing it now if af just showed up. When I told him I have to do this forever till I get a bfp he didnt seem happy about it! Oh well! The good thing is that he usually gets up before me so I guess he wont be bothered by it too much. I find the weekends to be the hardest, because since I have to test at the same time than weekdays (8am), is too early for him to be woken up by 2 beeps (my alarm and my thermometer) so I wish I could turn off the beeping too!!

 

[Superstoked]

Hello ladies, I was hoping I could join your group. I am 33yrs young and DH is 32. I had a tubal reversal in October got a bfp christmas and MC not too long after. I have yet to have af since MC, no bfp I did not want to get into the temping as I did not think I was cut out for that much devotion...Well I have ordered my thermometer yesterday and waiting for it to be delivered..lol I want to get in tune with my body as best I can.

I sure hope you ladies will except me and sending babydust to all you lovely young ladies

And I just noticed this is for ttc#1...it is not #1 for me...Sorry I should have read carefully before I posted Good luck!

 

[sarah10380]

Rosababy: So it's been a few days, are you still having the ewcm? If so, i think i might need to get on that maca! I'm still waiting for my ewcm and i'm on CD 16. My OPK is still negative, but the line has gradually gotten darker, so hopefully my O is right around the corner.

I have been having some mild cramping and back pain..sort of like PMS, but not as strong and my AF is at least 2 weeks away. Has anyone else had this prior to or around ovulation? I've read that some people feel cramping when they ovulate, but that it only lasts a few minutes. Maybe it's just gas I think maybe i'm paranoid that theres something wrong with me.

I think i'm going to start temping next month. How much to BBT thermometers cost? Do you just get them from a drug store?

 

[rosababy]

Finally, I think my dh just paid the copay, but insurance covered the rest. What a hack. Oh well. I keep telling myself maybe those were meant for me this cycle! Who knows. Congrats on finishing your course! That must feel so great! I don't know of a thermometer that doesn't beep. Google it! It bugs me too, so I can only imagine how much my dh hates it.

Super, welcome! So you have a little one already? That's okay you can still join us!

Sarah, I had the most beautiful ewcm today. I definitely think it was the Maca, because I never have this much cm. But it made me realize that what I had 4 days ago was probably not ewcm, but sticky. It was thick, dry, stretchy, but not a lot. Today was much thinner, very watery, LOADS of it, and very stretchy. In my opinion, peak cm day. And yet, still no +opk. wtf? Oh well, maybe it's coming tomorrow, then. We'll see! My line tends to fade in, too, so I'll have some heads up. It was VERY faint today, so I still have a ways to go. And I've definitely heard of ovulation cramps, they're a great sign that you're o'ing! However, I've read that it can happen before, after or during O, so that doesn't really help us.

I honestly don't know how much a digi thermometer is. We've always had one for fevers and such, so I just use that. And yes, you can get it at a drug store or Target/Walmart.

 

[nativetexan]

Sarah: I have "cramps" every month when I ovulate. I don't really like to call them cramps though. It's more of a little ping or twinge around my ovary. It doesn't last long either...just a few seconds here and there for about half a day. I also get a little emotional. Not as bad as PMS though.

I don't temp either, but I'm thinking of starting if things don't work out in this cycle. I will need lots of pointers from you wonderful ladies!

 

[piccolo]

Yesterday was day 1 of cycle #9 and I was really feeling in need of some encouragement so I posted a thread over in the pregnancy first trimester forum, asking for stories of those who conceived naturally after 9+ months of trying. Lots of great responses if anyone else is in need of some inspiration and positive energy. So often the bfp forums are either people posting that they conceived in a month or two or else bfps after clomid, iui, ivf. this was a good reminder that just because it's taking a while doesn't necessarily mean we'll need fertility treatments.

 

[rosababy]

Oh piccolo, I'm sorry. If it helps, this is my 9th cycle, too, and I'm still hopeful. Average time frame is 9 cycles for normal women. Good to know that the pregnancy forums are helpful...I"ll check it out. Hang in there, girl. It'll happen.

 

[piccolo]

I'm actually feeling okay this month. It wasn't even that I was down so much as that I couldn't concentrate on anything else! But I'm feeling positive and ready to move on to next month.
But thanks for the hugs, they're nice anyway!