Early 30's TTC #1

[mrsmax]

Thanks Rosababy - fingers crossed this is your month. It is so frustrating isn't it?! I am charting on fertility friend, I just need to work out how to post a link to it!! I haven't got AF yet, I've just been getting the cramps I get every month. Af due tomorrow - but I'm pretty much out this month.

Still, it does really help to get the ball rolling at the doctors. Sorry your appointment didnt go well - can you change your doctor? I am 34 so I used my age as a reason to speed things up - I also said we had been trying for 10 months - so slight stretch of the truth! Def think about getting a new dr and trying again - it's your health after all.

I am drinking Tea from Fertilaid called Fertil tea - it has raspberry leaf tea in it among other things to promote fertility. It has peppermint in it and tastes delish! (I wish I could say it is working for me, but clearly it is not) LOL although I've only been drinking it for a month. At this point, I'd drink a cup of MUD if somebody told me it would get me pregnant.

Did you order it online? How is it supposed to help fertility. And you know what, I'd drink mud, too!

MrsMax, Welcome!! I'm also in my 9th cycle. I'm so sorry to hear about AF getting you today. It's good that you have a dr appointment and a SA. We TRIED to get a SA last week, but the doc felt around, looked around and said you look healthy, keep trying. VERY frustrating. Didn't even get to do it in a cup. Whatever. If we're still not preggo in a few cycles, we'll try a different doctor. This site is definitely helpful and I love it! Are you keeping your chart on Fertility Friend online? If you'd like, you can post a link to your chart in your signature so we can look at it! Sometimes, it's fun to see other people's charts.

As for me, I ovulated yesterday!! I had a +opk, O cramps in the evening and sure enough, a temp spike this morning. Very exciting! I'll be happier with a 98 temp in the next few days, so I can be totally sure, but it was .4 higher than yesterdays, so I'll take it.

How is everyone else doing?

 

[rosababy]

Thanks! My dh and I are 31, and dh told doc that we had been trying for 11 months (really only 9). I'm honestly not sure why he didn't have him do it in a cup. Something about not doing it in this office, go down the hall and make an appointment, but when dh called, they don't accept insurance. Funny thing is I was standing next to dh when he called the place to make the SA appointment, assuming it mean do it in a cup. Very frustrating and a waste of time. I was hoping for some answers. The doc checked out all of the physical things that may cause sperm problems, but dh didn't have any. He also said that if it is low motility or low count than our only option is iui or ivf. WTF?! I don't believe THAT for a minute. What about medicine?!

Whatever. I'm so done with that. Hopefully, it'll happen naturally in the next few months. I'm trying not to have high hopes for this cycle, but I can't help it! I'm hopeful!

 

[arianne]

I AM in the 2ww! I think I'm 2 dpo, but now that I entered today's temp (which was .1 lower, but I'm not sweating it), FF says I o'ed on cd14. Whatever. It's dotted lines, so I'm fine with it. Either way, we had great waiting in there.

Yeah it seems that you covered all the days
0.1 is nothing... How long is your lutheal phase?
Good luck!!!

 

[nativetexan]

Hi all! Happy Monday and welcome to the new ladies.

Hope you all are having a great day. It's a little blah on my end. It's raining and cold outside, I wore two different colored shoes to work (same style), and I left my wallet at home! sigh.

rosababy...I too am feeling hopeful for this cycle, even though I try not to get my hopes up. I had a positive opk yesterday and everything feels like it's working right. That should equal a baby, right? lol

 

[rosababy]

I AM in the 2ww! I think I'm 2 dpo, but now that I entered today's temp (which was .1 lower, but I'm not sweating it), FF says I o'ed on cd14. Whatever. It's dotted lines, so I'm fine with it. Either way, we had great waiting in there.

Yeah it seems that you covered all the days
0.1 is nothing... How long is your lutheal phase?
Good luck!!!

You're right 0.1 is nothing. I wasn't too worried about it. Up to 97.7 this morning. Woot! I'll be happier when it's in the 98s, but FF officially moved my O date to the 4th, which is exactly when I thought I o'ed. Makes me 3 dpo. Yippee for the 2ww!! My luteal phase is NOT the same every cycle, which from what I've read, is supposed to be the same every time. Interesting. Sometimes it's 12, but last cycle it was 16, which was totally annoying. A few times it's been 15. Whatever. So to answer your question, I am not sure how long my luteal phase is.

Native, sorry you're feeling so blah. I chuckled a little at the different shoe thing. I have two pairs of shoes, brown and black, but it's the same style and everything. I'm so dead to the world in the morning that I'm always worried I'm going to grab one brown one and one black one! You're right...that SHOULD equal a baby. It's such a mystery. I'm in the same boat. Very frustrating!

How is everyone else doing?

 

[piccolo]

Hi All, signing off BnB for a while - just need to try and make my brain focus on something else! I'm sure I'll be back... Good luck to you all in the meantime.

 

[candycaine78]

Im 32 and ttc my first aafter cerazette could do with help on abreviatons people Use all i know is ttc . This is my first month ttc i feel excited scared and nervous would b nice to sjare this sppecial time with others feelinf the same xx

 

[k7498632]

Hi candycaine78

Cant help on the abreviations as im very new to this but i can agree with you on feeling a little scared.

Im 28 and ttc my 2nd child. I have a gorgous little girl of 2 but cant realy remember what it was like last time!

I think im about 8dpo but am frightened to test just incase it neg

 

[candycaine78]

Hi wots 8dpo mean. Glad someone else deels the same and this is only my first month x

 

[nativetexan]

Hi Candy..welcome! The abbreviations are tough...here's a link to a thread that breaks them all down. I have to check this once in a while. 8dop is 8 days past ovulation.

rosababy...that is exactly what I did! One black and one brown. So now I'm just wearing my sneakers at work and having a laugh about it.

 

[rosababy]

Piccolo, we'll miss you. Good luck.

Candy and K, welcome! There should be a thread at the beginning of the "trying to conceive" page with abbreviations. Here are a few common ones:

ttc = trying to conceive
o = ovulate (may see o'ed, o'ing, etc)
bd = baby dance
dpo = days past ovulation
cd = cycle day
2ww = 2 week wait (the time between ovulation and period)
AF = aunt flo, period
bbt or temp = basal body temperature
opk = ovulation predictor kit (ovulation sticks)
poas = pee on a stick!
paosa = pee on a stick addict
dh = dear husband
oh = other half
SA = sperm analysis
FX= fingers crossed

hmmm...what have I forgotten, ladies?

 

[k7498632]

Thanks Rosababy so hopeful for you this cycle. x

Thats realy helpful as ive been watching this site for a while without joining and was v confused.

Candy im on my first ttc this month after finding out that my cycle is now 35 days, 28 before my first baby and was feeling realy down about it.

Feel abit weird writing things down on here instead of constantly rolling it round in my head ALL day.

What does prople think about testing before day 14? Ive heard that you can get a posative by day 10 but not sure if i would just be setting myself up for disapointment??

 

[rosababy]

K, re: testing before day 14. Everyone has a different length of luteal phases (the time between O and AF), so I think it depends. I have learned my lesson not to test before AF is due, and try REALLY hard not to test before 14 days. However, last cycle, my luteal phase was 16 days. It's supposed to be the same each cycle, but for some reason, mine is not.

The test will be more accurate the longer you wait, so it depends on how much you despise seeing the bfn (big fat negative). Some women poas every day after day 10, some wait until 14...

 

[k7498632]

God its soooo hard.

Gave up this morning and have just done one!!!

As you said BFN!!

Think ill give it till sun now and just test at the end to double check before moving on to next month!!!!

thanks hun xxx

 

[sarah10380]

Yes it is hard to wait and test. I think I just ovulated yesterday and I'm ready to test already.

Question...I had major EWCM on Monday, it was the most I've ever noticed, or maybe i just haven't been paying close enough attention. So, if I had the ewcm on Monday does that mean I ovulated that day or the day after? I'm not using the opk's anymore so I just have to rely on the cm. I'm on CD 23 and my cycle last month was 35 days...

How's everyone else doing??

 

[rosababy]

Sarah, every woman is different, but I usually ovulate a couple of days AFTER my most ewcm. I always think this is odd, but it's confirmed by opks and temping, so who knows. But everyone is different.

 

[finallyready]

How are you ladies doing? Still no for me.....

Hopefully she comes soon....this sucks I just want to be regular so I can TTC properly.

 

[pickle13]

hi i'm new to all this. after 13 cycles of ttc it finally occurred to me that there was probably a place on line that i could talk about the frustration, and struggle. I should be O any day now. we have a a couple of issues to overcome, after 6 cycles of ttc we found out i wasn't ovulating, so i went on clomid, then we had my husband tested cause he was having trouble ejaculating (humm no abbr. for that one). he had great sperm but low testosterone, so he is on clomid too. in nov i had a MC, we have handled it very differently, and that has been a huge stress, it was so early on he has forgotten about it while i glare at all pregnant people. so we BD every chance we get but he still rarely ejaculated, it seems to be a combination of stress and traumatic brain injury, any advise, my lady parts can only take so much activity.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Excuse my explictness (well, the title could have been way more explicit, right?!) But I am on here, after having been gone for a wee bit, just to rant momentarily - then I'm going to watch Modern Family because I need a good ol' laugh.

Status update? Cycle 18, CD 26 and 0 DPO. Yes, ladies; I said it. ZERO. My left ovary finally kicks in after three months of disuse (it had just been the right one) and it doesn't even ovulate?! Really!? I had EWCM days ago, but never got a positive OPK - I temped for 10 freaking days - and my temps are even lower than they normally are!

HELLO?

Really body? Is this some version of a joke?
Good Lord.

I hope everyone is well.

 

[pickle13]

https://www.babyandbump.com/forum-help-testing-area/730-babyandbump-lingo-abbreviations.html is where all the abbreviations are.