Early 30's TTC #1

[hopefulmama2b]

Rosa

 

[mrsmax]

Bfn. Stark white.

Isn't a BFN the most depressing thing. Big hugs.

It is still early days though, so dont give up hope.

I think I would pass out with shock if I got a BFP. Honestly. Myabe it is liking meeting the one, it happens when you least expect it to, but I god damn wish it would hurry up!!

Keeping fingers crossed for everyone!

I got my CD1-5 bloods back on Wednesday and they were normal.

DH results due Monday - a little bit terrified.

 

[workingttc]

hi all,
i've never done this before, but finding it so depressing to keep trying (even though we're only on month 2) without having anyone to talk to when AF comes and disappoints me. my husband (i don't know if this is what "dh" refers to??) doesn't like to discuss because he just wants to let things happen "naturally" but i feel like at our age (he is 35), you can't do that. anyway, just reading these has made me feel better about trying again in month 3...thanks for listening.

 

[kcali]

Ohh Rosa a bfn sucks. Especially when you think something is a little "different" this cycle...like mrsmax said maybe it's still early.

Hi workingttc- welcome! It is very sad, disappointing, frustrating,all of the above. This is our 7th month ttc but this forum helps!

 

[workingttc]

Thanks, kcali. I'm already feeling better just being on this forum. And I know 3 mos is early, too, so I could be in for a lot more frustration and disappointment. Joining this should help though.

 

[arianne]

oh no rosa! but you are not out yet! your temp is still high and af isnt here yet, so you never now...

Hopefulmama!!! I hope there is still a chance for you.....staying positive is the best thing! I am glad you will do a genetic test to the tissue

workingttc welcome!!! I think the frustration is still the same whether you are 3 or 8 months ttc (me) I remember feeling so down and depressed at my 3rd cycle... I even think I feel better now... I think you get used to it

 

[workingttc]

thanks, arianne. you're probably right. the first month was def the worst for me--i was convinced i was pregnant and (obviously) i wasn't. the letdown last month was slightly less bad...but still sucky. oh well. it really helps to know there are others out there in the same boat (besides all my friends here who keep getting pg on the first try!).

 

[Soleil Breeze]

I think the frustration is still the same whether you are 3 or 8 months ttc (me) I remember feeling so down and depressed at my 3rd cycle... I even think I feel better now... I think you get used to it

I think this is true, Arianne; I haven't had a bad melt-down in months. The three month mark was my first and then I had another around the 8 or 9 month mark...and maybe there was one toward the end of last year. If I'm not pregnant this cycle (18) ...
It wouldn't be a surprise. Being pregnant would be a shocker.

rosa...it ain't over 'til the red lady sings.

x

 

[sarah10380]

oh Rosa i'm sorry

welcome workingttc - do you temp or use opk's? i am starting my 6th cycle and am going to use the opk's for the first time this cycle. I think my problem before was that we weren't bding at the right time because i didn't know when i was truly ovulating.


Yesterday was my cd3 and i did NOT end up doing the 3 day fertility fsh test (i had mentioned this in one of my earlier posts)....i read a lot about it and most of the feedback was negative and it still doesn't tell if you ovulate or not. If i have issues with my egg reserve i guess i'd rather hear that information from my doctor...he told me to come see him in 2 months if i'm not preggo yet. I'm hoping i won't need to. i feel really good about this cycle. my best friend is pregnant (i'm throwing a baby shower for her next weekend) and she's had all of these dreams recently that i was pregnant. I'm hoping her being pregnant has turned her into a psychic. no, but seriously, i'm excited about the opk's and just feel really optimistic.

 

[fides]

workingttc welcome!!! I think the frustration is still the same whether you are 3 or 8 months ttc (me) I remember feeling so down and depressed at my 3rd cycle... I even think I feel better now... I think you get used to it

yes, I agree - it took us 13 tries for the baby that died, and some cycles were just harder than others. After we lost that baby, my 3rd post-miscarriage cycle with a BFN was the worst let down I've had yet, for some reason. Kinda crazy. I have a friend who tried for over five years, and she said pretty much the same thing you did about getting used to it.

 

[mrsmax]

thanks, arianne. you're probably right. the first month was def the worst for me--i was convinced i was pregnant and (obviously) i wasn't. the letdown last month was slightly less bad...but still sucky. oh well. it really helps to know there are others out there in the same boat (besides all my friends here who keep getting pg on the first try!).

Hi and welcome workingttc - somes months harder than others, kind of a like a rollercoaster, but hopefully you'll get lucky and be on the pregnancy boards sooner than some of us (i'm on 9th cycle).

B&B definitely helps to make you see loads of people go through the same thing, even if your closest friends don't.

 

[Dodima1999]

Hi all,
Do you mind if I join you all on your journey. I'm new to this thread.
I've been trying to conceive now for almost 3 years. Apart from lowish count and poor mophology doctors aren't sure why its not working for us.... I'm apparantly working fine and the past few months have seen improvements in DH tests. We've had 2 IUI's and one IUI which didn't mature enough to go ahead.

I'm just sick of it at the moment and think I'll never see the pink line or my BFP.

We've an appointment tomorrow with our consultant and hoping he has good news for us. However, I'm due to start a new job tomorrow so regardless of what the doctor says we'll have to put the whole baby thing on hold for at least 6 months I reckon until I'm made permanent..... The thoughts of this is killing me.

To top all this off the inlaws are not talking to us (unrelated family matter). but what should be a stress free, loving time for all family to rally around us and support us and DH family won't even bother to pick up the phone and text us. My family aren't much better with support... guess they don't understand how hard it is. They keep saying Oh relax, you're thinking about it too much. Aaaarrrrrrrrgggggggghhhhhhhhhh

If anyone out there can offer advice on how to deal with the emotional rollercoaster that is TTC pls help me....

 

[Aisak]

Dodima!

i swear the next person that tells me to relax and it will just happen is going to get a broken nose. Okay, maybe just a seriously dirty look.

 

[arianne]

Hi Domina! Welcome! I totally understand how you feel, and I hate when ppl tell me to relax!! arrghh!!!

Is your hubby taking any supplements? Have you heard about maca? It improves count big time! My dh took it for only 40 days and his results after that were just amazing! It is also good for many other things
How is his motility? I heard that is way more important than the morphology, my doctor doesn't seem to care about morphology...
What about you? do you take any supplements? did they give you some medicine when you did the IUI? I heard that sometimes, even if you ovulate fine, they induce ov, to have a higher chance of conceiving, although there is a higher chance for multiples

This site helps a lot, so whenever you feel down about this whole process, just come and talk to us

 

[mrsmax]

Hi Dodima

Sorry to hear you are having such a struggle. We haven't told many people we are ttc yet, so lucky I haven't heard the "just relax" bit yet, but no doubt as soon as we start telling people it will drive me crazy.

I dont get on with my MIL at all either - I am dreading her finding out we are ttc, as we will get no support from and no doubt she will blame me. So i know how hard it can be with unsupportive inlaws. People are much more supportive on here!!

We are due to get dh's test results today - I am terrified!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Welcome to the newbies! Good luck to you all!

My update- I had the D&C Saturday. Just hoping that they got it all out and that my cycle returns soon so we can get back to the task at hand. They sent the babe for testing so we should get those results back in 3-4 weeks. Based on those results, we will decide if we need to do further testing. I'm just hoping that we get some answers so our next baby is nice and healthy.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

about this cycle...Had some spotting today after sex. Argh. I have to admit, I had a secret "extra" hope that this cycle might be it, but I'm 80% sure that I'll be heading into cycle 19 on the weekend.

Dodima, girrrl, I really hope I don't get to the three year mark. That would suck. Royally. BTW, new job or not, you're chances of getting pregnant, like mine, don't seem to be that high. While you might not want to be "TTC" for a few months, you've at least got to be in the NTNP category (not trying, not preventing). We only have so many chances...

Dodima do you happen to know what your chances are of getting pregnant each month? After hubby's test results, the fert. doc. told us we a 5% chance.

Mrsmax, I hope that everything is fine with dh's SA. x

Fides, did your friend become pregnant after trying for 5 years?

Kcali, I take the Solaray maca

Regalpeas, I do what rosa said: started out with 1 500mg and upped it to 2 after a coupl'a weeks. I haven't had any side-effects (that I'm aware of) with the maca.

Welcome, workingttc! We hope you're not on this thread too long!

Rosa, honey, what can I say? Sigh....I feel your pain and wish the pregnancy test result had gone the other way.

It's a gloomy day here, and I'm feeling a bit bummed; so I'm going to head off.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

Just saw your post; I hope that you're resting up (emotionally and physically). Here are some extra flowers just for you x

I've never been pregnant and I can't imagine what it's like to have a baby and to lose it. I sincerely hope that you NEVER have to go through that again.

 

[Soleil Breeze]

i swear the next person that tells me to relax and it will just happen is going to get a broken nose. Okay, maybe just a seriously dirty look.

Go for the broken nose! That will tell them not to mess with us TTC'ers again!

Thanks for the laugh, Aisak. But seriously, being told to "relax" has got to be up there with "you're not getting any younger" and "you shouldn't wait too much longer." Arggggghhh.

Ok, I'm outta here for real. I have to pick up baby shower gifts for my girlfriend who got pregnant on HER FIRST TRY last summer! Dang, man.

xx

 

[finallyready]

Hi everyone....sorry I have been MIA lately...I just thought I'd check in today to see if there were any BFPs! I'm sad that there aren't any this cycle...but heres hoping for next....I have stopped checking this site on a regular basis because there is no point...I am not really TTC'ing cause I still have BFN on tests and NO AF in sight....so I can't really TTC when I don't know when I should be.

ROSA - I was very regular pre-pill days but since I've stopped BC I have been so irregular, that some days I wonder what the point is and wonder if I should just go back on the pill.

Anyways, Good Luck to those that are still in it this month and FX for those that are getting ready to try again. to all....

Hopeful...I hope you get some answers to you! You will get a sticky bean...I just know it!