Early 30's TTC #1

[MsJMouse]

I had decided I was going to try charting and temping this month to make sure everything was back to "normal" in my cycle. Well my thermometer has a flat battery so I guess we are just going with the flow this month cause now I just can't be bothered as I have to find somewhere that sells teeny tiny batteries.

 

[arianne]

Hello girls!!! welcome newbies!!

Im 12 dpo and couldn't resist to test this morning! bfn I wasn't going to test but my hubby kept insisting

mrsmax we seem to be in the same boat... don't try to find what might be wrong... I doubt your tubes are blocked... as hard as it is to believe it takes about 9-15 cycles for a perfectly normal couple to conceive...
Also, doctors don't seem to care about morphology; motility and count are far more important... so don't worry, your doc got it right
When are you going for your hsg? I'll be doing mine next week I think...

Hopefulmama that list is pretty old, I did it a long time ago when I was trying just about 6 cycles sigh... do you know how to put it at the beginning of the thread?

Crumbs I hope the baster method worked for you this cycle!! I didn't know you are a californian girl!! I love california!!

Re: preseed My doc told me that it doesn't increase your chances of conception, it just doesn't kill the sperm... so it is good for couples that are having trouble having sex and being too dry (me)... but it doesn't help getting pregnant at all. My dh's doctor told him to avoid it if possible, that it's better without any kind of lubricant, even preseed... so now we are trying to bd without any help, but sometimes we need at least a bit, otherwise I'm impossible to penetrate

Rosa happy belated bday!!! and sorry for the bfn I got one too today have you done the hsg test yet? maybe that would help too?, it flushes your tubes, and if your dh sperms are ok, then you have a higher chance of conceiving the cycles after it

Pink80 I also got low hemoglobin on my last blood test. I got 117 and the minimum is 120... so I am sort of anemic too!! I don't eat read meat anymore so that might be the reason... if you dont eat read meat, try to eat a lot of lentils with citrics, so the iron gets absorbed easily... My doctor says that it doesn't hurt your chances of conceiving BUT if you do conceive, it will be very risky... so try to increase your iron intake... but don't eat liver, even though it is a great source of iron, it also has vitamin A, which can harm your unborn baby....
do you take prenatals?

What's up with me? I went to see my fertility doctor today... I don't find the fert docs useful anymore.... He told us that he doesn't know why we aren't getting pregnant... so he recommended doing clomid/IUI if we are anxious... I thought it was more expensive! It is $350 per cycle... not as bad as I thought... I think we will try on our own for 3-4 more cycles before doing this... the success rate seems pretty low to me (10%) but at least it's higher than trying on our own (5%) Also the 5% chance per cycle is after you have tried for a year... so I have 4 more cycles to get to that... so we'll see...
oh! and I asked about just taking clomid, but he said it won't help in my case so anyway, I will ask that question again to my other fert doctor next week that I go see her... I still think I should try it even if everything is ok, it increases the chances, so don't know why it has to be combined with an IUI

Good luck girls!! And now I'll be more active in the forum... I took a well deserved ttc break

Who's testing/expecting AF next?

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Hi everyone! I am working on baby number 1 (the first for both DH and myself) right now. Being 32 I felt like I needed extra help so I am renting OvaCue and have been using the OTC LH testing sticks. I have only had one month of trying, this is month number 2 and I started Ovacue late so dont think it will help this month.
Just wanted to post something about myself to say "hi" to everyone.

I am a Nurse Practitioner, so being in the medical field makes me even more neurotic that I would've been otherwise. My hubby is clueless (at this point anyway) and my sisters and mom are all fertile myrtles and never had troubles getting preggers so I felt I needed more support than my family and DH can provide. You all seem to be a great group of girls for someone in this situation....

Jessica

Babylove- Jessica welcome! :wave: I hope you take after your family members and have a quick conception. If not- you've found a great group of ladies here! I'll add you to the list!

Hi ladies, hope you are well.

Got a call from the doctors - my blood count is 8 which she tells me is severely anemic!! Got to go get my prescription for iron tablets - does anyone know if it is ok to TTC I'm anemic??

Xxx

Pink- I'm assuming the anemia is because you've been bleeding a lot from the miscarriage? I'd imagine with the supplements and when the bleeding stops that should go away. You can't really TTC until your cycles returns so maybe you won't be anemic by then. I don't know- maybe a good question for you doc. You won't ovulate until your hcg return/almost returns to normal so maybe your blood count will be up by then and it won't be an issue?

Hello girls!!! welcome newbies!!

Im 12 dpo and couldn't resist to test this morning! bfn I wasn't going to test but my hubby kept insisting

mrsmax we seem to be in the same boat... don't try to find what might be wrong... I doubt your tubes are blocked... as hard as it is to believe it takes about 9-15 cycles for a perfectly normal couple to conceive...
Also, doctors don't seem to care about morphology; motility and count are far more important... so don't worry, your doc got it right
When are you going for your hsg? I'll be doing mine next week I think...

Hopefulmama that list is pretty old, I did it a long time ago when I was trying just about 6 cycles sigh... do you know how to put it at the beginning of the thread?

Crumbs I hope the baster method worked for you this cycle!! I didn't know you are a californian girl!! I love california!!

Re: preseed My doc told me that it doesn't increase your chances of conception, it just doesn't kill the sperm... so it is good for couples that are having trouble having sex and being too dry (me)... but it doesn't help getting pregnant at all. My dh's doctor told him to avoid it if possible, that it's better without any kind of lubricant, even preseed... so now we are trying to bd without any help, but sometimes we need at least a bit, otherwise I'm impossible to penetrate

Rosa happy belated bday!!! and sorry for the bfn I got one too today have you done the hsg test yet? maybe that would help too?, it flushes your tubes, and if your dh sperms are ok, then you have a higher chance of conceiving the cycles after it

Pink80 I also got low hemoglobin on my last blood test. I got 117 and the minimum is 120... so I am sort of anemic too!! I don't eat read meat anymore so that might be the reason... if you dont eat read meat, try to eat a lot of lentils with citrics, so the iron gets absorbed easily... My doctor says that it doesn't hurt your chances of conceiving BUT if you do conceive, it will be very risky... so try to increase your iron intake... but don't eat liver, even though it is a great source of iron, it also has vitamin A, which can harm your unborn baby....
do you take prenatals?

What's up with me? I went to see my fertility doctor today... I don't find the fert docs useful anymore.... He told us that he doesn't know why we aren't getting pregnant... so he recommended doing clomid/IUI if we are anxious... I thought it was more expensive! It is $350 per cycle... not as bad as I thought... I think we will try on our own for 3-4 more cycles before doing this... the success rate seems pretty low to me (10%) but at least it's higher than trying on our own (5%) Also the 5% chance per cycle is after you have tried for a year... so I have 4 more cycles to get to that... so we'll see...
oh! and I asked about just taking clomid, but he said it wont help in my case so anyway, I will ask that question again to my other fert doctor next week that I go see her... I still think I should try it even if everything is ok, it increases the chances, so don't know why it was to be combined with an IUI

Good luck girls!! And now I'll be more active in the forum... I took a well deserved ttc break

Who's testing/expecting AF next?

Arianne- Sorry to hear of the BFN. It's not over til its over I guess, but I understand the frustration

I wish I could put the list on the first page, but since Caroline started the thread she has to do it. I wonder if there's a way to get a thread switched over to someone else? Anyone know? Arienne- actually you posted on the first page maybe you can go edit an old post and add it to that so we all have easy reference?

Sorry you didn't get better answers from the FS. What tests have you all had done?

 

[arianne]

I wish I could put the list on the first page, but since Caroline started the thread she has to do it. I wonder if there's a way to get a thread switched over to someone else? Anyone know? Arienne- actually you posted on the first page maybe you can go edit an old post and add it to that so we all have easy reference?

Oh! that's right that is a good idea!! ok I will once we have all the list updated

Sorry you didn't get better answers from the FS. What tests have you all had done?

We did all possible tests, even hiv hsg is the only one left, which has to be scheduled as soon as AF comes, it should be any day now... but I am going to vegas this friday YAY!!!! so I think I can do it as soon as I come back, I'll 9DPO, so it should be fine...

 

[Regalpeas]

Hi everyone! I am working on baby number 1 (the first for both DH and myself) right now. Being 32 I felt like I needed extra help so I am renting OvaCue and have been using the OTC LH testing sticks. I have only had one month of trying, this is month number 2 and I started Ovacue late so dont think it will help this month.
Just wanted to post something about myself to say "hi" to everyone.

I am a Nurse Practitioner, so being in the medical field makes me even more neurotic that I would've been otherwise. My hubby is clueless (at this point anyway) and my sisters and mom are all fertile myrtles and never had troubles getting preggers so I felt I needed more support than my family and DH can provide. You all seem to be a great group of girls for someone in this situation....

Jessica

Welcome!!! So good to have you. This is a great group. I'm fairly new myself. Ovucue= On my to google list for the evening. lol

Hi ladies, hope you are well.

Got a call from the doctors - my blood count is 8 which she tells me is severely anemic!! Got to go get my prescription for iron tablets - does anyone know if it is ok to TTC I'm anemic??

Xxx

This was the case with me. I had been anemic for years. My doctors knew this and they kept ordering different types of iron. Eventually it was discovered I had a benign fibroid which was causing a tremendous amount of bleeding during my cycle which of course was causing me to be anemic. So I took more iron tablets. I ate iron enriched food. Still low iron. I can't remember my last count before surgery ( I had the fibroid removed), but it was low.

There are a few different types of anemia as well. Something is causing your anemia(knowing what kind may help) especially with such a low count. That's what your doctors should be trying to figure out. It doesn't have to be something serious, but typically there is a reason. I would get the iron tablets but press for the docs to do further inspection. My fibroid was found accidentally on a trip to the ER.

Good luck with everything. Wishing it's something totally minor. Hope the tablets help. Also you should ask your doctor about anemia and ttc. I wasn't trying when mine was discovered. Then I couldn't until the fibroid was removed.

So I'm 7dpo and pretty much preparing myself for AF next week. I don't think I'm pregnant. I don't know why, but I always think if I see CM then it means I'm pregnant! Crazy, eh? So needless to say, but I'm gonna say it anyway, I have no CM.

You never know this can be it! fx I just read a BFP of someone who thought they were out because they had spotting and something other stuff. But they were totally in. Hope that's you!

Hello girls!!! welcome newbies!!

(A)Im 12 dpo and couldn't resist to test this morning! bfn I wasn't going to test but my hubby kept insisting


know you are a californian girl!! I love california!!

(B)Re: preseed My doc told me that it doesn't increase your chances of conception, it just doesn't kill the sperm... so it is good for couples that are having trouble having sex and being too dry (me)... but it doesn't help getting pregnant at all. My dh's doctor told him to avoid it if possible, that it's better without any kind of lubricant, even preseed... so now we are trying to bd without any help, but sometimes we need at least a bit, otherwise I'm impossible to penetrate

(A) It's not over until it's over. I say test again 14DPO if AF has not show. fx

(B) Also if a woman is having trouble with cervical mucus it helps in that way as well I was told. I have issues with preseed though because it has paraben in it. As a person who has had a fibroid I must avoid as much estrogen pattern chemicals as possible. I may have to switch over. I prefer not to use it anyhow to my own natural juices. But some times it is needed. I may get Yes baby! Several women here swear by preseed. But also soft cups and I can't stand those things.

 

[rosababy]

I had decided I was going to try charting and temping this month to make sure everything was back to "normal" in my cycle. Well my thermometer has a flat battery so I guess we are just going with the flow this month cause now I just can't be bothered as I have to find somewhere that sells teeny tiny batteries.

How annoying! I would just go out and get a new thermometer!

Re: preseed My doc told me that it doesn't increase your chances of conception, it just doesn't kill the sperm... so it is good for couples that are having trouble having sex and being too dry (me)... but it doesn't help getting pregnant at all. My dh's doctor told him to avoid it if possible, that it's better without any kind of lubricant, even preseed... so now we are trying to bd without any help, but sometimes we need at least a bit, otherwise I'm impossible to penetrate

Rosa happy belated bday!!! and sorry for the bfn I got one too today have you done the hsg test yet? maybe that would help too?, it flushes your tubes, and if your dh sperms are ok, then you have a higher chance of conceiving the cycles after it

We missed you!! Thanks for the bday wishes. Bfns suck, but I did expect it. I honestly don't ever think I'll get that 2nd line! I don't know what I'll do when I DO see one! Pass out, probably. Interesting that pre-seed doesn't help with conception. I never actually thought it would...just didn't kill the sperm. Or as MANY sperm. I need it too...I get really dry, especially this cycle with clomid. I'd love to not use it at all, but just can't do it all the time, especially when we're dtd every day or every other day.

I have not thought about doing the hsg test yet. Is that an official fertility test? Because my doc said I had to wait a year for all of the tests. I had low progesterone, though, so he put me right on clomid, so I was happy with that. He probably assumes that's my only problem. I haven't even thought of doing those tests yet...I'm putting my hope in the clomid right now. However, in a few cycles if I'm still not preggo, I probably will.

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Arianne- Maybe your tubes need a little flush and the hsg will do the trick! FX!!

Rosa- I think it would fall into the official fertility test group. Arianne, correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's when they inject a dye into your uterus that flows through everything including tubes and then they take xrays and it tells them if there are any anatomical abnormalities with your lady parts. A lot of people have success afterwards because it flushes out their tubes. It can show things like fibroids, septate uterus, blocked tubes, ect. One girl I know tried for 6 months with no luck- since she was over 35 they did HSG more quickly and discovered bilateral blocked tubes. She had to have them removed! And is now doing IVF. Not to scare you! Usually they comes up clear though.

 

[rosababy]

Arianne- Maybe your tubes need a little flush and the hsg will do the trick! FX!!

Rosa- I think it would fall into the official fertility test group. Arianne, correct me if I'm wrong, but I believe it's when they inject a dye into your uterus that flows through everything including tubes and then they take xrays and it tells them if there are any anatomical abnormalities with your lady parts. A lot of people have success afterwards because it flushes out their tubes. It can show things like fibroids, septate uterus, blocked tubes, ect. One girl I know tried for 6 months with no luck- since she was over 35 they did HSG more quickly and discovered bilateral blocked tubes. She had to have them removed! And is now doing IVF. Not to scare you! Usually they comes up clear though.

I've heard of it...just never even considered it. However, I will definitely consider it. Are there any symptoms of blocked tubes? What causes them? Do people get this procedure done "just to see" if anything is wrong, or because something points to that being the problem? Am I making any sense??

 

[hopefulmama2b]

I don't think there are any symptoms. Maybe there can be, but none that I know of besides the infertility. I think they can be caused by previous infection.

Here, I found this link:

https://infertility.about.com/od/causesofinfertility/a/blocked_tubes.htm

 

[arianne]

Hi Rosa:wave: hopepelumama is right, it's an official fertility test... My docs (I see 2 fert docs) they both think I have been trying for over a year... For some reason I thought you also lied to you doctor
I went to the fert docs even before I started ttc, a friend that was struggling getting pregnant told me to do so, I'm glad I listened...
So if my hsg test is normal, then I'm officially unexplained
Today my husband asked the doctor that if there is any reason why if all our tests are good what could possible be happening, and the doctor responded saying that is why it's called unexplained infertility, and all that their treatments can do is just make more eggs and make the sperm closer to the egg
I don't really feel comfortable being seen by a male doctor (I like my female fert doc I was seeing first), but this fertility center has the highest success rates in canada, and it happens to be 10 mins from my place...so I hope my unexplained diagnosis soon changes to a success story...

 

[hopefulmama2b]

hopepelumama It would just be so much easier to call me by my real name, but here's the problem- I was on a wedding forum site with my real name and became very close with the girls and we'd share personal stuff and then one day someone I knew "in real life" said they ran across a post of mine and then they clicked on my name and read all previous posts!! I was mortified wondering what I had talked about! I'm so worried that someone will find me on here and know all my personal baby making business. I could care less if you guys know my name, but it's the people I know that I don't want to know!

So in the mean time you can call me hopepelumama if you want! Haha!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

And Arianne- I do hope you get some answers. And that's so weird to say- because I don't hope they find something "wrong" with you, but if that something wrong is easily fixable then that would be great!

 

[arianne]

Hi Rosa, Hopeful is right again there are not really any symptoms, it is a very standard procedure in fertility testing.... but don't worry about having blocked tubes.... unless you had previous infections or surgery in that area, it's very unlikely you will have blocked tubes... the reason why I said it might help is that it might be good to flush those tubes and get the path clear for your hubby's spermies
I think we are still within the average, we both have been trying for about 9-10 cycles "only"... so once you hit the year mark go right away to get those tests done... hopefully you won't need to do them! It is great you have already started with a treatment though!

I feel emotionally ok, I dont know why although I cried after our appt... my hubby and I where sitting on the couch going over all the stuff the doc told us, and I saw our wedding pic and started to cry thinking "little did I know at that time that years later I was going to go thru all these" but I am calmed and relaxed which is very important Deep inside I feel that it WILL happen... although sometimes I fear it might NEVER happen hahha what a contradiction of thoughts!

 

[arianne]

hahaha OK HOPEFULMAMA!, but I dont know your real name
I sometimes worry if someone I know might find all these posts and even though I don't disclose my real identity (arianne is not my real name), someone that knows me would know this is me... city I live in, age, stuff I post like going to vegas etc.... sometimes I feel I shouldn't be posting non-related ttc stuff...
Maybe it will be a good idea to create a private facebook group with all the active girls on this thread? what do you girls think? It will be more personal and private I can create it if you girls agree with it...

 

[hopefulmama2b]

hahaha OK HOPEFULMAMA!, but I dont know your real name
I sometimes worry if someone I know might find all these posts and even though I don't disclose my real identity (arianne is not my real name), someone that knows me would know this is me... city I live in, age, stuff I post like going to vegas etc.... sometimes I feel I shouldn't be posting non-related ttc stuff...
Maybe it will be a good idea to create a private facebook group with all the active girls on this thread? what do you girls think? It will be more personal and private I can create it if you girls agree with it...

Good idea!

 

[SMFirst]

Hi all

I gotta keep up better with this thread!!

Rosa - so sorry about hte BFN - but the Clomd will work for you..

Pink80 - I am very sad to hear of your loss. I too did not have any cramps but just a tiny bit of spotting, and mine was medically managed as well (glad to have avoided surgery). I know it's tempting to try again ASAP but I found (and I think others have too) that sometimes emotions are delayed with this kind of thing, and it takes several weeks for your mind to process the loss, so realy wait until you feel emotionally stable before you try..

hopefulmama - that's creepy about someone you know finding you on a site!

Arianne - that's a good idea to make a facebook group.

Hi Babyluv - welcome!!

AFM - I know what you guys mean about the acne thing - I purposely stayed on BCP until after our wedding because I was worried about breakouts and am very happy I did.. Now my skin is yucky (but not as bad as it was years ago - I used to cry over it!). I suppose AF is due for me tomorrow but it could be a longer cycle who knows (usually I am regular though) - we will start TTC again for real this next cycle.

 

[MsJMouse]

I agree SMFirst - it is hard to keep up with the posts. I read thru then and think of something to reply to each one but by the time I get to the end I can't remember half of what I was going to say.

Rosa - sorry to hear about the BFN.

Arianne - great idea about the facebook group - I had no idea you could set up private groups on Facebook. I spend so much of my day on the computer for work that this is about the only thing that I look at on my computer outside of work hours - normally I avoid it.

Hi Babyluv. Welcome.

 

[mrsmax]

Found it!

Time to update Add your name if you're not on there or update others if you know their status:

1) Caroline -

2) Beaner86 - - 24 years old

3) FionaHere - cycle#4

4) pink80 - wttc after mmc 3/11

5) hopefulmama2b - wttc after mmc 7/10 and 2/11

6) Soleil Breeze - cycle #19

7) elliot - on cycle#7

8) SilverWillow -

9) MsJMouse - ttc after mmc 02/11

10) piccolo - cycle #6

11) finallyready - 2/11

12) Holpop - 1/11

13) Aisak - cycle#6

14) brinib1 - cycle #2

15) Arianne (me ) - cycle #6

16) Kcali - 2/11

17) Rosababy - cycle #10

18) SMFirst - ttc after mc 1/11

19) Crumbs - cycle #4

20) RegalPeas - cycle #7

21) MrsMax -

22) Foxylady -

23) Sarah10380 -

24) Dodima1999 -

25) Sillysilly7 - 1/11

26) Babylove - cycle #2

Me cycle 10

 

[mrsmax]

OMG! Wow - 2 days away and so many wonderful posts!

Welcome back Arianne I am off to see doc next week and he will refer me to fertility clinic (he thinks this is my 12th month, it is my 10th). He said the first test will be HSG - I am looking forward to that, just cause the not knowing is so frustrating. I am now convinced my tubes are blocked!!

There is a good thread about HSG on here somewhere = I raedd it and the treatment takes 5 mins and twinges a bit. I imagine like having an IUD removed.

And welcome Jessica. I hope for your sake you dont hav eto hang around us too long!!

I have been thinking recently about what would I do if someone from "real life" stumbled across my posts and it def stops me saying not ttc stuff, even when I'm bursting to share. I think the only thing I would be worried about it what dh would say knowing that our sex life was out in the public eye

ps I love the number of BFPs we have had - let's keep adding that up!

Rosa - I love your comment about a baby on Christmas day. I said the same thing to dh the other day. I really dont care anymore - even new years eve is fine!!

 

[Crumbs]

Welcome back arianne! I hope you enjoyed your time just relaxing!

Hopefulmama, I totally understand the anonymity! I share way, way too much info on here and would absolutely hate to know someone in RL knows our biz! There's not many Americans of child-bearing age where I'm at! BTW, thanks for updating that list. I really hope the stork drops by again soon and gives you a sticky, sticky bean!