'Early Days' Rant....if I hear it 1 more time...

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bumpbear said:
Well, I guess I am either as hard as nails or just not very sensitive. I think those kind of comments are normal, objectively accurate and I'm not offended by them at all.

Though the person who said 'its barely alive' and the ones who mention miscarriage clearly suffer with foot in mouth syndrome and need lessons in how to make small talk with other human beings.
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I feel the same way exactly! I'm not offended at all and when I was 8w and started telling people, I was the first to say it was still early. It doesn't mean we don't feel bad or it's not a pregnancy, it just means it's the first stages of a baby!

It may also be my need to not make a fuss and be left alone :wacko:
Some of the comments women have received are just plain rude and that's completely different :flower:
 
I've experienced the same comments and while it was early (I was around 5 weeks the first time someone said it to me) what bothered me was the dismissive tone and the virtual delegitimization of my pregnancy.

What's worse is I've even had people suggest I hide my pregnancy well into the 3rd trimester if I can! That was very irritating because it's not like I'm 15 and pregnant. Why do I need to hide it? I have a career, I'm happily married and have been TTC for almost 2 years. :growlmad:
 
What on earth was the reasoning behind their suggestion that you hide it until third trimester? That's just bonkers.
 
it infuriates me!
The thing is, at 10wks us ladies are 1/4 through our pregnancies and i know for me that i dont think thats early days at all!
 
@bumpbear i don't think any1 is saying your insensitive!((hug))
Every1 has their own opinion including yourself and if you are not easily offended then that's great! Lol I wish I was like that cos it would save a whole lot of heart ache sometimes ;) xx I've had problems with all my pregnancies early on and I think that's what's made me feel a little upset sometimes! Every1 is different we are fro
All walks of life on here, comments shouldn't be taken personally, it is what it is, a rant! lol we all need to let off steam and relate to eachother xx
 
i told people i was pregnant when i found out at 6 weeks due to them wondering why i werent drinking or smoking anymore or why i was tired and when i told them they didnt give me the response i was hoping for i got "you shouldnt tell people incase something happens" and its " early days" why you telling people.... annoying yes! more annoying is now i have a bump and people keep touching it lol xx
 
Hiya,
I decided to announce my pregnancy over facebook once id had told family and close friends.. and a friend of mine told me how another so called friend had rang her staright away to say ' ooo fancy annoucing so soon etc.. is she mad' to which my later thread on facebook was 'yes im not very far gone but if i want to announce it, its my choice..! thankyou and gooodnight ..lol' i had a ectopic pregnancy 4 years ago and as soon as i had my scan last week i wanted to shout it from the roof tops.. i have 3 other children who are alot older but also my eldest who would of been 16 in oct .. passed away when he was almost 4 from meningtis... my other to are 14 and 12 and cant wait to be big brother and sister.. also be great babysitters..lol i think what im trying to say is every child no matter what stage in the womb or born has the right to be celebrated!!!!:happydance: ignore anybody that dismisses your pregnancy xxxxxxxx
 
sorry about your so called friends being such doofuss-es.. i guess some people just don't get it

and i am so sorry for your loss of your wee one - you must be a very strong lady :hugs:

x
 
thanks :) when my boy passed away it was the hardest time of my life quite litrally, we celebrate his life all the time and always talk about him etc, so i dont see why i should keep my pregnancy like a dirty little secret... it up to the individual person when they decide to announce and like many of you on this thread i choose to do so early on.. which i did with all my pregnancies.. 3 of them were perfectly normal pregnancies 1 ended in miscarriage at around 6 weeks and 1 in a ectopic where i lost my right tube so im extremly greatful to be pregnant with this little bubba... if not a little scared as its so like starting all over again..lol but ive always loved a challenge and will certainly keep me on my toes..:hugs:
 
Wow... All people have to say if they have no other appropriate comment is "congrats!". That saves any foot in mouth issues. Why is saying congrats so hard for some people?? Sorry some of you had idiotic comments made! A pregnancy is a pregnancy no matter how far gone.
 
Emma33 so sorry to hear of your losses ((hugs)) xx
you are an inspiration to life xx
 
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