extended bf-ers

[luna_19]

We've never had a problem with biting luckily but this article has some great advice https://kellymom.com/ages/older-infant/biting/

 

[annio84]

So nice to find this thread. I've stopped coming on this part of the boards to be honest because I didn't feel there was much here that was relevant to me.

My DD is 18 months and we're still going. I'm not sure how much longer it will last because I work irregular shifts and it has a big effect on my milk but she's happy enough.

 

[twobecome3]

mine has started biting again when in a mood, it tell her 'ow' and it could go either way - she will say sorry and stop or will laugh and then grab and pull!

turd.

 

[CupcakeBaby]

My DD goes through phases where she wants to talk while nursing. Which hurts!

She did on Tuesday before nap time and so first time I asked her not to as it hurts. Then she did it again so I put her on the floor.

She was so heartbroken it was awful!! Poor girl. She then cuddled me like a little monkey and kept sayin "No more fall down" so I felt very guilty but she's not done it again since.....

 

[bitethebullet]

I'm feeding my 27 month old pretty much on demand and I'm around 7 weeks pregnant. To be honest, I'm absolutely fed up with feeding. 1st trimester fatigue has set in and my toddler claws and scrapes at me as she feeds so it's tiring and painful

 

[bitethebullet]

For those who have verbal toddlers, what does your LO say your milk tastes like? Mine insists it tastes like strawberries.

Pink milk!

 

[bitethebullet]

Hi ladies

My toddler is almost 2 and a half and doesn't seem to want to stop feeding anytime soon. Sometimes she feeds throught the night and other nights she sleeps until about 5am when she wakes for a feed I don't mind feeding her in the day but I don't encorage her. I am sooooo done with the night feeds. It's actually annoying me. She pulls me from pillar to post all night sometimes. I actually night weaned her for 5 weeks and she screamed every night for the whole 5 weeks when I could take no more crying, plus she wakes my 5 year old up and myself and my husband work full time

She eats ok but it's sporadic. She definitely prefers boobs to food!!! Is anyone wanting to wean soon? Some weeks I think I'll just let her self wean but other weeks I want her to stop.

I fed my son exclusively for 2 weeks so being here 2 years later with my daughter is a massive achivement but the sleep deprivation is getting too much. We bedshare and have since birth.

Sounds like our situation. My little girl definitely likes 'mummy milk' the very best and ends up feeding from 5 am until it's time for us to get up for work. I wanted her to self wean but now it looks like it will have to be an active process. I am away for 4 nights with work in march. I think this may be the opportunity to get her used to daddy putting her to bed!

 

[twobecome3]

hey ladies


well we're still going. no sign of her self-weaning any time soon...

 

[AK89]

I've got a funny feeling I'm gonna be joining this group in the not-so-distant future!

When I was pregnant, I somehow decided I was gonna breastfeed for the first 6 months. I honestly can't even remember what the reason was for stopping at 6 months! Maybe I just hadn't thought through how pointless it would be to stop and wean onto formula at this point? Maybe it's because I felt there was a bit of a stigma around breastfeeding "older" babies and I completely miscalculated how young/diddy a 6 month old still is! I don't know.. but that plan changed shortly after I had her. I've loved breastfeeding right from the start! Even when it was painful and we were planted on the couch for 5-6 hours at a time at the very beginning. OK, maybe I didn't LOVE it at that moment in time But now I love it more than ever and I can't even imagine giving up in another 6 months!

My OH wasn't particularly jumping for joy when I told him I wasn't giving up at 6 months. I think he's really conscious of it "getting weird". But it's not really his choice is it! When I mentioned 12 months his face went white! And now I'm thinking I'm not gonna wanna give up then. We co-sleep now, and she's still BIG on night feeds. I started her on solids about a month ago and she's loving it, and she's massively reduced her daytime feeds. Even if she doesn't take much in solids, she doesn't feed much through the day... think she's just got better things to be occupying her time with haha! But then she feeds every 2 hours through the night. I'm thinking it's just a growth spurt.. I'm not too bothered though. We're "waiting it out", and I'm happy with it. God bless bedsharing! Haha..

Breastfeeding has just become such a big part of our life...It's how I get her to sleep at bedtime, it's how I soothe her in the night (and through the day actually, if she gets upset) I don't know that I'd be comfortable breastfeeding her in public after a certain age, but I'm liking the idea of continuing nursing at night and in the morning.

My OH is gonna go grey!

 

[AK89]

How do your OHs feel about extended BFing?? Anyone else coming up against opposition? :/ I just know that other people'd be thinking it too, but as a few others have said I couldn't care less what they think haha.. But I can see it maybe causing a few arguments between us.. I hope not, maybe I'm just overthinking it. Hopefully the time will come and it'll just be the norm for him too and it won't be that big a deal..

 

[apple_20]

I have a 6 month old still ebf Going great but like you said she's hardly nursing in the day but bf every 2hours at night fx it's a growth spurt though she never slept more than 3 hours before .

I love bf it's our special time. I can't imagine stopping soon. ( I too had 6 months as a target in my head)

 

[AK89]

Oh wow sounds like we're going through the exact same thing then! Yeah maybe it's just that they're too busy/distracted through the day then need to catch up through the night? Aww mine was sleeping AMAZING before. Would have about 6-8 hours then a short feed then another 2-3 hours! All in her cot too.. So this has come as a bit of a shock to me!

 

[luna_19]

Just wait until your hubby sees how easy it is to calm a toddler tantrum with a boob mine has never asked when we will stop, I made it clear in the beginning that this is about me and lo not him

 

[staralfur]

I initially said 6 months as well but when we got there I was like "why on earth would I stop now?" We really didn't have pain-free, easy feeding until my LO was 3 months old, so it felt like we had just gotten things right, I'd have been crazy to stop then! So I decided we'd stop when she was 1. Her first birthday came and she was still feeding several times per day and hardly eating any solids. So I decided to just not put any timeline on it and wait until we were both ready.

My DH started getting uncomfortable with it around 2. Not like, nagging me or acting disgusted or anything, but I could tell he thought it was probably time. By the time my LO was 2.5 I knew I would be done at 3 and my DH seemed happy to know that I had a limit again. I wasn't sure I'd have much luck weaning her as a couple of weeks before her 3rd birthday she was still very reliant on her morning feed, but it was actually super easy. She had her last feed a few days after her 3rd birthday.

I always wanted her to self-wean but she easily could have gone for another year at least... and I reached a point where I was just completely done. I think when you're ready to stop you know it. No point in stopping before you're ready.

 

[AK89]

I initially said 6 months as well but when we got there I was like "why on earth would I stop now?" We really didn't have pain-free, easy feeding until my LO was 3 months old, so it felt like we had just gotten things right, I'd have been crazy to stop then! So I decided we'd stop when she was 1. Her first birthday came and she was still feeding several times per day and hardly eating any solids. So I decided to just not put any timeline on it and wait until we were both ready.

My DH started getting uncomfortable with it around 2. Not like, nagging me or acting disgusted or anything, but I could tell he thought it was probably time. By the time my LO was 2.5 I knew I would be done at 3 and my DH seemed happy to know that I had a limit again. I wasn't sure I'd have much luck weaning her as a couple of weeks before her 3rd birthday she was still very reliant on her morning feed, but it was actually super easy. She had her last feed a few days after her 3rd birthday.

I always wanted her to self-wean but she easily could have gone for another year at least... and I reached a point where I was just completely done. I think when you're ready to stop you know it. No point in stopping before you're ready.

Aww

How did you eventually wean then?

 

[staralfur]

I initially said 6 months as well but when we got there I was like "why on earth would I stop now?" We really didn't have pain-free, easy feeding until my LO was 3 months old, so it felt like we had just gotten things right, I'd have been crazy to stop then! So I decided we'd stop when she was 1. Her first birthday came and she was still feeding several times per day and hardly eating any solids. So I decided to just not put any timeline on it and wait until we were both ready.

My DH started getting uncomfortable with it around 2. Not like, nagging me or acting disgusted or anything, but I could tell he thought it was probably time. By the time my LO was 2.5 I knew I would be done at 3 and my DH seemed happy to know that I had a limit again. I wasn't sure I'd have much luck weaning her as a couple of weeks before her 3rd birthday she was still very reliant on her morning feed, but it was actually super easy. She had her last feed a few days after her 3rd birthday.

I always wanted her to self-wean but she easily could have gone for another year at least... and I reached a point where I was just completely done. I think when you're ready to stop you know it. No point in stopping before you're ready.

Aww

How did you eventually wean then?

She was down to one feed a day for a few weeks before her birthday, then after her birthday I just told her that my boobs stopped making milk after she turned 3.

She occasionally comes up to me and says "Mom, I'm not 3 anymore!" or makes up other random reasons why she would be able to nurse (like she tries to take a cup of milk and shove it up my nipple, or she tells me to look at something else and says "I'm just going to take a little sip... don't worry about it!" while pushing my face away), but when I say no she just kind of laughs or says "okay" and drops it. She's doing a lot better without it than I thought, I expected tantrums and meltdowns!

 

[AK89]

N'aww that's so cute!!

 

[Casey3]

We just hit 40 months here and I still can't believe it. I honestly thought he would be done by now but he's still addicted lol. We just nihjt weaned in an effort to ttc and as much as I love bfing I would be okay with being done now.. I just don't see him doing it on his own for a long time :/ I asked him yesterday when he was going to stop and he told me when he turned 25, hmmm lol.

 

[Bevziibubble]

We are at 38 months now and no end in sight. She is just absolutely obsessed and I can't even count the amount of feeds she has day and night, including a loooong feed between 3-5am most mornings.
I have heard being pregnant sometimes changes the taste of the milk and puts them off, but I can't see it deterring her. I think she would still feed even if they were empty!

 

[AK89]

We are at 38 months now and no end in sight. She is just absolutely obsessed and I can't even count the amount of feeds she has day and night, including a loooong feed between 3-5am most mornings.
I have heard being pregnant sometimes changes the taste of the milk and puts them off, but I can't see it deterring her. I think she would still feed even if they were empty!

Aww congrats!!