F.A.I.T.H. (Forsaking all, I trust Him)

[HappyAuntie]

I don't think anyone is saying pregnant ladies shouldn't post on here at all, and I think I can safely say we're all thrilled when one of us gets a BFP... but I think Terangela said it best, that we should try to keep the ttc boards about ttc. If we want to make this thread a general faith-based group for women at every stage of the process, we should ask the moderators to move the thread out of the ttc groups.

 

[Dahlia]

yeah, almost all of my bnb friends are pregnant and they are the only ones I keep in touch with...so nothing against pregnant people. and I am always happy when someone I have been praying for or know gets pregnant. but it is still upsetting to be reminded by constant bfps in my real life (8 pregnant family members and counting)...but that doesn't make me less of a Christian because I'm going through a low point and feel sadness when others get a bfp. that's great if you can always rejoice and feel amazing every time someone else in your life gets one - but that's not the reality for me. anyway, that's not really what I was saying at all...as HappyAuntie said, I was looking for a ttc group that was still a ttc group...i love having all of my pregnant friends follow me and comment on my journal - and I love following theirs as well. but as far as a Faith-based ttc group - I was hoping for that...I was in this group since the very beginning (under another name) and when every single woman got their bfp except Rdy and me...it just got hard for me to be here with people and hearing about their entire journeys to birth and beyond. I rejoice that you got your bfp but it's too hard for me to continue on the journey with everybody.

 

[Guppy051708]

t it's too hard for me to continue on the journey with everybody.

Thats exactly why when I got my BFP i didn't drop in as much, and then other ppl commented on how ppl get pregnant and all of a sudden have nothing to do with the group...it wasn't because i was using anyone, it was because I felt i could not express any of my joys (or even troubles) with being pregnant. But then i came back bc other ppl (TTC) said to stay and seemed offended that i didn't come by much. ...i felt guilty for being pregnant...and now i feel guilty for finally get the baby that i worked so hard for....and I get where those still TTC are coming from...i totally understand that...but at the same time most of us in here either had a long journey TTC or experienced a loss (like myself). Its not like i never had my share of seeing others get pregnant and then have a baby in the end. I was happy for them even though i experienced my loss, and sure it was hard, but i believe we do need to evaluate our hearts if carrying resentment happens. We have all worked very hard to get where we are. With that said, I will no longer be stopping in- if anyone wants to follow me in my journal, on FB (stephanie kirsch) or in my surrogacy blog, feel free to drop in and say hello, but I can see that my journey with you all is no longer acceptable...Be blessed everyone & prayers as you all receive your which i know you ALL will

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Peace Joy & Blessings. You all have blessed me in more ways than you know

 

[mrskcbrown]

It's been forever since I posted here. I do stop by and read, occasionally. I personally don't see a problem with those who've achieved the goal, sticking around and sharing the details of their pregnancy. I've never understood the hard feelings some women have just hearing that someone else is pregnant. I think we should be happy for them!! It's perfectly fine to want something for ourselves, but we shouldn't have a problem when one of our sisters is blessed. I lost my mom 4 years ago. I don't get upset with folks who still have a mom around. I wouldn't tell anyone they couldn't talk about the lovely time they had going out to lunch and shopping with their mother. I'm happy for them! I think if something like this is causing bad feelings, we need to evaluate ourselves and pray for God to help us with negative feelings of jealousy/resentment.

Another team I belong to has a "graduate" team for those who've gotten their BFP. But thankfully, the graduates still come to our thread (those of us who just can't seem to catch the egg--there's only a few of us left) and share their pregnancy stories, ultrasound pics, etc. In fact, most have already delivered their babies and are posting the birth announcements and baby pics. And I LOVE it! I can't imagine not wanting to hear every detail just because I haven't gotten my BFP yet. That just makes no sense to me at all.

I've been overjoyed every time I saw someone on this team get their BFP. I hope everyone here feels the same way. We are Christians, right?

Agreed totally! Hope all has been well with you lately!

Just to play devils advocate.... Lets say we were part of a TTC group only, with no preggo ladies. Eventually someone would get pregnant, so when that someone gets pregnant, is it now time for them to move on to another group? Just curious because then it would be an ongoing battle to keep the TTC group "pure" from women who have gotten their BFPs. Just my 2 cents.

 

[Guppy051708]

It's been forever since I posted here. I do stop by and read, occasionally. I personally don't see a problem with those who've achieved the goal, sticking around and sharing the details of their pregnancy. I've never understood the hard feelings some women have just hearing that someone else is pregnant. I think we should be happy for them!! It's perfectly fine to want something for ourselves, but we shouldn't have a problem when one of our sisters is blessed. I lost my mom 4 years ago. I don't get upset with folks who still have a mom around. I wouldn't tell anyone they couldn't talk about the lovely time they had going out to lunch and shopping with their mother. I'm happy for them! I think if something like this is causing bad feelings, we need to evaluate ourselves and pray for God to help us with negative feelings of jealousy/resentment.

Another team I belong to has a "graduate" team for those who've gotten their BFP. But thankfully, the graduates still come to our thread (those of us who just can't seem to catch the egg--there's only a few of us left) and share their pregnancy stories, ultrasound pics, etc. In fact, most have already delivered their babies and are posting the birth announcements and baby pics. And I LOVE it! I can't imagine not wanting to hear every detail just because I haven't gotten my BFP yet. That just makes no sense to me at all.

I've been overjoyed every time I saw someone on this team get their BFP. I hope everyone here feels the same way. We are Christians, right?

Agreed totally! Hope all has been well with you lately!

BnB needs to get a "like" button like FB!

 

[Dahlia]

Hi guppy...I don't think anyone here minds pregnants or moms stopping in...and it sounds like was the only one w the issue of it being more of a preggo group than a ttc group. Either way, I no longer stop by here (except for poppin in now of course) so don't leave for my sake I can see how it would b difficult to leave the group bc of feelings of guilt. I also get how stayin made u feel bad. Either way I was just suggesting that it might b best to have faith groups for every part of the journey. I think some people took offense where none was meant.

As for me, I don't need to examine my heart for reasons of resentment. Bc feelin sad by an overwhelming # of bfp announcements in my life is not a sin. God understands my pain and unfullfilled desires and is carrying me and dh through this time.

 

[Guppy051708]

No hard feelings doll I totally understand where you're coming from and would probably feel the same if I where in your shoes. I'm not leaving cus of you (love ya girl ) but it's hard without other mamas to chat w. I mean I love hearing how everyone is doing but I don't know how much life stuff I ave in common now....besides our wonderful Jesus and I can see why the admins generally have threads like this for certain parts of the making a baby journey - to keep this issue from happening in the first place. Tbh, if I were TTC I would probably want this to be a strictly TTC section too

 

[mrskcbrown]

BTW, I will continue to stop by and I will mention things about my pregnancy, because it is a part of my life at this moment. Am I doing it to rub it in? No. I am going to be open and honest about my journey and I will not feel guilty about it.

Guppy, dont feel guilty. Everything that you have received is from God. Be happy about that.

Im not offended by this conversation in anyway. I wish you all nothing but the blessings from God!

 

[Terangela]

I think I hold onto this thread as I want to share with women of Faith. I started the thread in the Pregnancy groups section and wouldn't mind if there was one for mama's too. Once I have this baby I will no longer fit into either category, as this is our last planned pregnancy. I think it is important for women of Faith to have each other. I know I can post things on here that I might not ask some of the ladies at Church as I find you get more real answers than the sugar coated ones from a face to face encounter. I think it is important to have women who have been through it or going through it in our lives. My one friend until she met me had only friends that had kids her kids age. She didn't realize that she was missing out until I introduced her to my other friends. We have people in every stage and it is nice to bounce a question off a mom of a teen or adult as to what they did at this stage. It is also nice to give that woman that is TTC that I have been there and tried different meds and let them know I am there if they have any questions and not to be shy.

I do want to be able to talk pregnancy and parenting issues with like minded ladies as well. So I hope we can get on those other threads and talk there. I think it would also be an opening to others joining and getting to know other ladies of Faith.

 

[Guppy051708]

Just be careful how you create the other threads, because the admins will delete them if there is more than one. (i had that happen to me )

 

[ready4onemore]

Hey ladies,

I hope everyone will still post. I love hearing about your journey and is excited about taking the same one very soon.

 

[willbamom1day]

You can begin and end your day talking to me - God

The Lord will receive my prayer Psalms 6:9

 

[cheerios]

Hi dear ladies - Thanks for all your comments!

My apologies for not being able to reply earlier, cos I've been v. busy preparing for my bday celebrations tomorrow. I invited about 30 ppl to my house and have been cooking since yesterday. My actual bday was yesterday actually. I'm 28 now!!! 2 more yrs to the big 3-0!

Anyway, I read through everyone of your post with great interest.

I don't resent any of you preggie ladies. I'm happy for you all. Really.

TBH I think this thread could continue to be a TTC thread if the other TTC ladies continue to post in here.

I guess of late, mainly the preggy FAITH girls have been posting and I haven't read a lot of TTCing posts. Correct me if I'm wrong.

That's why I felt that I didn't have much to say anymore.... cos most of the topics were not really TTC-relatd, if you know what I mean?

I think the TTC part of this thread was way more active when I first started. The thread would move so fast because each lady was talking about where she was in her cycle / fertile days / 2ww / etc etc.

But now its hardly like that anymore. That's why TTC ladies like myself feel a bit displaced. I don't write about my TTC issues anymore, because I felt that even if I did, there wouldn't be many TTC ladies would could relate - perhaps cos they don't frequent this thread any longer.

That's also the reason why I've been writing more in my journal as an outlet.

I hope I didn't offend anymore. You preggy ladies are welcomed to stay.

Maybe if the other FAITH TTC ladies could post more here? Then this could be a TTC-to-preggy thread???

Alrighty, won't have time to log in for a while again. Take care and God bless each of you!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hi dear ladies - Thanks for all your comments!

My apologies for not being able to reply earlier, cos I've been v. busy preparing for my bday celebrations tomorrow. I invited about 30 ppl to my house and have been cooking since yesterday. My actual bday was yesterday actually. I'm 28 now!!! 2 more yrs to the big 3-0!

Anyway, I read through everyone of your post with great interest.

I don't resent any of you preggie ladies. I'm happy for you all. Really.

TBH I think this thread could continue to be a TTC thread if the other TTC ladies continue to post in here.

I guess of late, mainly the preggy FAITH girls have been posting and I haven't read a lot of TTCing posts. Correct me if I'm wrong.

That's why I felt that I didn't have much to say anymore.... cos most of the topics were not really TTC-relatd, if you know what I mean?

I think the TTC part of this thread was way more active when I first started. The thread would move so fast because each lady was talking about where she was in her cycle / fertile days / 2ww / etc etc.

But now its hardly like that anymore. That's why TTC ladies like myself feel a bit displaced. I don't write about my TTC issues anymore, because I felt that even if I did, there wouldn't be many TTC ladies would could relate - perhaps cos they don't frequent this thread any longer.

That's also the reason why I've been writing more in my journal as an outlet.

I hope I didn't offend anymore. You preggy ladies are welcomed to stay.

Maybe if the other FAITH TTC ladies could post more here? Then this could be a TTC-to-preggy thread???

Alrighty, won't have time to log in for a while again. Take care and God bless each of you!

Happy bday! My bday is 12/27. So we are holiday babies!

 

[groovygrl]

g'day lovelies!

I haven't posted in a long time! But I took a wee peek today, and saw that someday had a baby! Congrats sweet thing! Hope your enjoying these first days, I pray that they are full of joy, grace and ease (oh yeah, and sleep!)

happy happy birthday cheerios and mrskc

interesting chat in recent posts re: a new F.A.I.T.H pregnancy to babies thread. Here's my 2 cents. I believe that all the mom's to be and new moms deserve a place to 'shout from the mountain tops' their pregnancy and birth stories, every glorious detail! What a shame to have to hold it back. I also understand and believe that in our real lives (outside of computer land) the women that are still TTC are praying and struggling their way through every baby shower, every pregnancy announcement and sometimes wincing silently when you see a big beautiful pregnant belly. So why would you come sit at the computer for more?

it's tough 'cus you meet some amazing women that you'd like to stay in touch with but... perhaps everyone could win! everyone could cross over and move back and forth but for those ladies that experience really vulnerable times throughout the TTC journey, there is a space that's only TTC. AND pregnant ladies and new moms can let out all that joyful, messy, beautiful, weird and wonderful stuff about their bodies and birth stories without feeling like they're upsetting anyone. I think there's room for two threads. And an open-ness to share in both. Why not add more Christian threads to B&B?

there it is,my two bits. I wish you all loads of love and light. xoxo

 

[somedaymama]

Thank you groovy grl! Good to see you!!

I really like your suggestion. We could have two groups and everyone could post in both if they wanted too, but then people who are pregnant and have babies could feel free to talk about that, and those who are TTC could actually talk about that. I know that I don't post here much because I know how it would hurt to hear others' wonderful news wen I was TTC. I would love to be able to support those who are trying, but it seems like there isn't a whole lot of TTC talk going on.

How are YOU doing, groovy grl??

 

[cheerios]

someday - Congrats! I suppose you've already got my congratulatory wishes on FB. Your little girl is gorgeous!!! And its amazing to see u up and about sooo quickly! And even back on BnB!!! Wow, you're already one super mom!

"I would love to be able to support those who are trying, but it seems like there isn't a whole lot of TTC talk going on." - I think TTC ladies like myself would really appreciate that. I would like to see more TTC talk going on here though!!!!

Maybe I'll start.

I'm on my 4th clomid cycle and am toward the end of my 2ww and will go for a blood test on Wed. TBH, I couldn't really be bothered with this cycle. I mean, I took clomid and metformin and all, but I didn't bother to temp or anything. And I found it sooo much better! No stress, no fussing over every highs and lows of my BBT.

And I've applied for a new job and am going to spend the holiday season applying for more jobs. My goal for 2011 is to either get a new job / go for MBA or get pregnant. I'm trusting that God will show me His best plans for me.

I know that if I could choose, I would rather stick with my current job and get pregnant and be a stay-at-home mom. But the one thing I know with 100% I would want to be, is the 1 thing that I have 0 control about. So I've been praying that God would show me what's His alternative plans are for me, if we're not meant to get PG now, for this season of my life.

It's hard not knowing but I've been wanting to change jobs since end of 2009 and have just been holding it out because of this TTC business. And now I feel like I don't want to "waste" another year! My life has to move on. After all, I'm 28 now.

And if I can't be a mom (for now), at least I want to have a successful and thriving career.

 

[willbamom1day]

Follow me - God

Teach me thy paths Psalms 25:4

 

[groovygrl]

hullo again!

how great to see you here too someday! I'm so thrilled for you! WOW! time moves fast, seems like such a short time ago that you announced your pregnancy and your little girl is here already! Yahoo!

willba - your Christmas pic looks gorgeous and thanks for the verses!

mrskc - you are a babe! look at your tummy! you obviously making a big healthy baby! (hope that's not rude?)

AFM - Clearly, I'm in a really good place re: belly's and babies. I'm still TTC only I've dropped all the calendar marking, OV testing, POAS, pre-seed, RE appointments, etc.

I am seeing a wonderful therapist and I have acupuncture once or twice a month. The ultimate goal of these modalities is to deal with the stress and sadness of my TTC journey. I have spent the last year persuing more answers to my infertility and miscarraige and it involved a heck of a lot of procedures, tests and ultimately discouragement. I have had a laperoscopy, hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy. I have had an HSG. I have had numerous blood tests. I have seen a naturopath, an R.E., a Chinese medicine practioner/acupuncturist. Everything led to more discouraging news and a lot of stress, $ and anxiety. I had become emotionally paralysed, barely functioning in my job, my marraige and my social life.

Therapy has been amazing for me. The stress levels have dropped right off and I am moving forward in a really joyful way. You see, I haven't posted here because I'm in a really different place. I would be overjoyed should God have a healthy pregnancy and baby in his plans for me but... I am asking him to lead me to the joyful life he knows I will have and I am actively working on moving forward through the other side of infertility. I can not afford to spend the next 50 or so years living with pain and stress and sadness. I need to understand and practice a life that will be a joyful testimony without my own children. I found my DH later in life and we started TTC when I was 36. I am now 41 and it's time to put down this struggle. I worked really hard at it and I am finally giving it all to him. You see, my prayers are now about asking for joy and grace and ease as I move past my TTC journey. Hallelujah! he is providing this for me! By the good grace of God, I can finally 'chill out'

xo and Merry Christmas!

 

[Rdy2BaMom]

Hello all! Sorry I haven't posted in a while, I too was feeling very out of place being one of the few who hasn't gotten pregnant. So, heres an update on me. We are still actively TTC. This is our 20th cycle and we have decided to do IUI in January if we aren't blessed this month. I am in the 2ww now. This journey has gotten so discouraging over the past few months, but I am clinging to my Jesus and His promises. Hope you all have a very blessed Christmas! Still keeping you all in my prayers Hopefully I will be back with a BFP announcement after Christmas. Blessings!