F.A.I.T.H. (Forsaking all, I trust Him)

[Willynilly]

Rdy - praise God...awesome news about fil!

I'm on CD11...things r crazy as usual but just praying we can stay on top all the dtd this month. not using anything but preseed so just winging it I guess.

today I'm feeling like it will absolutely never happen. bah. I'm sure I will feel better in the AM -been a long day.

 

[baby#3]

Good Evening Ladies,

As it is late I will make this a quick one. I am still awake because the inloaw flight was delayed 2 hours. Arrgh! I am sooo tired and would have liked to pick them up and go

I went to the doctor today and had my testing done. My results should be in tomorrrow but he checked and said everything "feels" ok plus they did another POAS test for me and the showed up immediately too!

@ Guppy as you can see we are having pretty much the same situations going on. My first scan is also January 12th. It was the only morning appointment and my hubby works nights and wants to be there.

Well I am going to leave for the airport in a few.

Hope everyone is feeling well.
My prayers go out to all you are going through their down days.
Also mucho and baby to whoever is testing this week.

 

[somedaymama]

willynilly--just remember your lingerie plan, that will help keep you on track.

I'm up working on a quilt that I need to have done tomorrow, but it's nowhere near done. hopefully I'll work fast once I'm done online.

I was just looking over my chart, and it looks like I'm probably not going to ovulate again this month. Only time will tell, but that's what I'm seeing. It's probably just as well since we'll be at my inlaws for five nights, and there is just no way that I could bd in my BIL's bed.

We'll see though. I'm actually not terribly upset about it. After all, my RE appointment is in 2.5 weeks!

 

[somedaymama]

One other thing I wanted to talk to you smart ladies about ...

What roll do you think weight plays in ovulation/conceiving? My husband told me today that he is worried that my eating habits could be affecting my ability to get pregnant. He didn't mean to hurt my feelings, but it really did. I am 5'9" and about 125 pounds--thin, but not overly so I don't think. I've always been naturally thin, so I don't know why it would suddenly be an issue. I haven't had much of an appetite lately, and that really annoys DH--when he asks me what I eat during the day and the answer is ...not much... he doesn't like that. Part of it is just that I'm kinda lazy and don't like to cook, but I'm also really busy, especially with school, and when nothing sounds good to eat I don't see the point in taking the time.

Sorry for the rant...I just don't know what to think. I wish it was as easy as just "eat!" but for me it isn't.

 

[Rmar]

Don't worry. I'm under 120 pounds and haven't been eating very much lately but I don't think it is playing a big role on my reproductive organs right now. I don't think I am overly thin either. I have fat in my tummy and my but so I'm fine with it. It's not like I have bones poking out. Also, don't look too much into BMI because I can't see how a system can be for both female and male bodies. My BMI goes from underweight to normal in the same cycle. Everyone is different so charts and weight measurements don't work that much. If you are truely underweight, you would know it through your energy levels. They are the biggest symptom of health.

 

[Guppy051708]

My mother only weighed 95 pounds her first 2-3 pregnancys. Granted she is only 5 foot 2, but still. To me anything under 100 pounds is too light. Im sure you're okay! As long as your healthy. thats the big thing. If you weighed that amount and were not healthy, then i would be concerned, but if you feel like you're healthy and your doc thinks so, than you have nothing to worry about
I am the opposite, I am overweight and i was able to get preggo. Im sure you're fine I think they just worry about underweight girls to establish with the eating disorders population. that sounds rude, i def. dont mean it that way, but basically, i think, their points are people who are malnourished are going to have trouble getting pregnant/staying pregnant. You dont sound malnourished to me and you def. dont sound like you have an eating disorder. You WILL get your hun

 

[Willynilly]

Someday - thx for ur reminder about lingerie - I did totally forget...I know it will be a nice surprise for him tonight when he gets home...hee hee.

About the weight thing - I disagree with the others - I think it def could be an issue. Esp since u aren't eating regularly or with nutrition always in mind. Reason I say this - I am 5'9" - 135 and have similar eating patterns as u - have to consciously remind myself to eat greens, avocados, fruits - things good for the repro organs. anyway, two years ago while doing a bunch of shows my weight dropped to 125 - my periods became much lighter - sometimes not appearing for a few months - once I even thought I might have accidentally become preg - haha - little did I know how hard it was. my mom did point out that I was underweight and like in extreme anorexia and such - ur period could stop or you could stop ovulating.

I don't think u r underweight necessarily - could be just perfect for ur body type. but - b/c u admitted eating regularly is not a habit - then I think this could def contribute to not ovulating reg. of course, it could have nothign to do w it as well. but - I would recommend eating high-fat-good-fat foods and lots more protein...avocados, pomegranates, chicken, hard-boiled eats, wild canned tuna...these r things that are easy to pull out of the fridge and shove into your mouth. since u don't cook a lot or have time - it might be better to have lots of snack foods ready like hummus and pita chips or veggies. also - may help to schedule ur week out on Sundays with three meals plus snacks all day and what time u will eat them. sounds like a lot of work...but I'm thinking it could def get u back on track to reg ovulation.

sorry that u don't think ov will happen this cycle. praying for you...I hope this doesn't sound to bossy, either...just trying to give some insight from my own life. btw, I'm actively trying to work out less and eat more "healthiness" b/c I feel like my being thin contributed to a few cycles of me not ov either.

 

[Willynilly]

ps - my dh is the exact same way...we've gotten into fights b/c he wants me to take better care of myself and I get upset b/c it just isn't a priority. but u and i definitely need to make it one.

don't get down on yoursef either - this whole ttc is a beautiful journey on learning how to know and read our bodies - not to mention drawing closer to God and our dh.

 

[im_mi]

well, i have an eating disorder and my weight has fluctuated greatly over the years. I wasnt eating particularly healthily when i fell with jack (i was overweight at the time... perhaps about 15lbs less than i am now, im not sure as i wasnt weighing at the time).

Like people are saying i think it has a lot to do with nutrition. some people are naturally thin, others tend to be on the heavier side (like me).

 

[somedaymama]

I wrote out a reply earlier but my internet disconnected and I lost it.

Thank you so much for all of the honest replies.

I know I really need to work on eating better and more regularly. Since I'm on break from school, this is probably a good time to get into better habits of planning. After I read your posts this morning I ate some breakfast (leftovers from last night-yum!) whereas usually I wouldn't eat until I got off work.

Even though I know he means well and just wants me and our baby-to-be to be healthy, I think I have a hard time taking eating advice from my DH since he is overweight. I need to get past that though and realize that eating several times a day is good for me, and will help keep me at a healthy weight in the long run.

 

[Sayuri]

Im-Me prayin for ya x

 

[Sayuri]

I really think about weight alot too and if it will affect my fertility. I was quite a big girl a couple years back and then in 2005 I lost 36 pounds and became a skinny minny! It took hard work to maintain the weight and I just felt miserable most of the time as I was always calorie counting!. Since I got married the weight has gradually piled back on, dont get me wrong I love it and hubby loves it too however I realy wonder if my weight gain will affect my fertility.

 

[Willynilly]

Immi - how's it going? did you have the tough conversation yet?

 

[Rdy2BaMom]

Im_mi: Hope that your conversation went well, been praying for you!!

Dipar
I am doing well. I have been really moody lately. . . not really sure why, I have just been really anxious and I get angry very easily. Hopefully it will pass very soon as I am usually a very happy and up-beat person! It's driving me nuts! How have you been hon?? Hope all is going well for you!!

mrskcbrown- I will be praying that you find your cat!! That would be awful! I sure hope she comes back home.

Willy-hang in there hon!! It will happen soon. . you will get your BFP!!

someday-Sorry you are feeling like you aren't going to OV. . I will be praying for you dear! for you!! Also, about the whole "weight" thing....I do believe that it is extremely important to eat regularly and healthy when you are TTC and also when preggo. Your body needs the nutrients to operate at its best!

So. . .are y'all all done doing your Christmas shopping?? Have any of you gotten early presents?? Just curious!!

 

[Rmar]

I've done my Christmas shopping. I thought I was all prepared for Christmas until my mum walks through the door this morning with heaps of presents sent from my MIL and put them under the tree and tonnes of food and drinks in my kitchen. I can't believe how much stuff my MIL got for us let alone her own family.

I am glad that we wont be together this year because last year was insane. 3 hours of present opening...food! I checked out her after christmas list and last year cost her over $20,000!!! I would love to spend that money on a deposit for my own home instead of renting...

I think my mum will love her photos I put together and chocolate and I think DP will love the scrapbook I put together.

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hi all! Thanks for the prayers. We found the cat. After looking for her all night, we woke up this morning and found that she was locked in our spare room closet! We are so happy to have her home.

Im watching, Im pregnant and Im 55 on Discovery Health Channel. This lady has been trying for 12 yrs to get BFP and she is 55 yrs old. Amazing. Does anyone else watch all these pregnant shows on Discovery Health??

Question: Would you try this long? And at her age? She says insurance does not cover the many IVF cycles that she has had. Im thinking they have very lucrative occupations to be able to afford these cycles. Im not sure at age 55, if I would want to be pregnant for the first time. IDK???

Somedaymama: Yes I have a 9 year old little girl named Amariah. Pronounced, AH-MAA-REE-AH. She hates when people say it wrong! It means "God has promised".

 

[Rmar]

I'm glad you have your cat back with you!

I steer clear from health shows about pregnancy because they try to make it too interesting for the viewer and put the most extreme cases on which freak me out too much. I remember watching a show about a lady that had 18 m/c and even though she ended up with a beautiful daughter, it very depressing. I am very sad for this lady and I think I would watch it willfully at another time in my life but not while I'm TTC. It's kind of like a pregnant lady being told horror stories of pregnancy and labour. Eeeek.

 

[mrskcbrown]

I'm glad you have your cat back with you!

I steer clear from health shows about pregnancy because they try to make it too interesting for the viewer and put the most extreme cases on which freak me out too much. I remember watching a show about a lady that had 18 m/c and even though she ended up with a beautiful daughter, it very depressing. I am very sad for this lady and I think I would watch it willfully at another time in my life but not while I'm TTC. It's kind of like a pregnant lady being told horror stories of pregnancy and labour. Eeeek.

Good observation, I didnt think of it like that. Although I love the show, "A baby story". I cry when the babies are born because I want that moment so bad. Sometimes it gets hard, I get upset and just turn the channel. Well 12 days to ovulation and hopefully I will get my turn Jan 17 to say I am expecting a miracle from God. GL to you as well and everyone on F.A.I.T.H!!!!!!

 

[Willynilly]

mrskc - ah! yes - baby story! I am obsessed. although I really only dvr the water and natural births since they fascinate me the most and water birth is my birth plan. really funny to have a birth plan years before u get preg right?! I'm kooksville. -hey, at least I said it. - and sooo glad u found ur cat! I am obsessed with my two...cat lover here for sure.

rdy - it's ok, girl - try to relax - it will happen for us...well, I'm not sure that is why u r feeling moody - but I know that is why I am moody! I hope those feelings go away soon and u r back to feeling positive polly. how are the headaches? hope they have subsided.

Christmas. yes, I'm pretty much done. saved my biggest two projects for last. haha...tomorrow while dh is working, I am re-doing his home office with all sorts of organizer "things" b/c men generally aren't good at that stuff and he asked me to do it for an xmas present. Also, I'm going to try to squeeze in the annual "updating" of our scrapbook. Oh - just about 100 pics and articles and such to add. no biggie. wow - what an extreme procrastinator I've managed to become. will let u all know how it goes.

someday - thx again for reminder. we fit in bd tonight! so excited to start off the schedule strong. he is being a real trooper this month! funny to say that about sex, right? but he got home and was exhausted today from theeee longest day ever. first thing he says to me is "so, can we tdt now before I crash?" The beginning of this cycle we planned out our "days" and he remembered that this was one all by himself!

so - 6 more bd's and we can relax again. and pray for that bfp.

tmi alert. so, after we bd, I usually try to keep the soup in for 15 minutes. then I just go about my business but with a pantiliner b/c it just keeps seeping out for the next 3 hours. I am out of instead cups...plus I'm just sick of trying too hard with stuff. I feel like this month I want it to happen more naturally if it is gonna.

Anyway, when it seeps out, I just feel like I'm losing all the little spermies. thoughts? how long do u all keep it in?

 

[Willynilly]

btw, we are almost to 100 pages! yeah, FAITH! I love our group.