F.A.I.T.H. (Forsaking all, I trust Him)

[HappyAuntie]

So...it could just be really bad luck? It is good that there isn't something obviously keeping you from carrying to term...but at the same time, it is frustrating that you haven't found anything you can fix. For the MTHFR, will they have you take blood thinners or something after you get your BFP?

Yep, it could just be incredibly bad luck. We'll never really know, so I try not to obsess over it too much. ("Try" being the key word there!) My FS has me taking baby aspirin and a mega dose of folic acid for the MTHFR already, not waiting for a BFP. He also has me taking progesterone pessaries (vaginal suppositories) every month starting on 3dpo, stopping them if I get a BFN on 14dpo.

Congratulations on your BFP!

 

[Deb111]

Hi Auntie and welcome to the group. I'm so sorry to hear about your losses.

A quick intro on me. I'm 36, hubby is 44. We have been TTC for 2 years since we got married. I always felt something wasn't right and eventually after nearly 18 months we went for help. Turns out I'm ok but hubby has been diagnosed with azoospermia (NO sprem present in his SA). He is having a surgical sperm removal op in October and they are hoping to find sperm. If they do, they will freeze it and we will begin ICSI treatment. If not there's nothing we can do apart from adopt or use a donor.

I totally understand how it can be hard to see God in the middle of all the despair.

 

[Guppy051708]

Auntie! & welcome
These girls are amazing! They have brought so much hope to my life!

I will introduce myself as well
Name's Stephanie, I'm 22 been married since I was 20 (may 17th, 2008) (and it was the best choice of my life ) because my dh and I were at Penn State finishing up our degrees, I was on BCPs from may 2008 until August 2009. Went off BC & We got our September 2009 unfortunately we MCed October 2009 (my teenage sister had a 3 week old baby at the time so I understand what having a loss and seeing babies can be tough )
Though we will never know for sure why I MCed, my gut feeling tells me it was indirectly caused from the BCPs (think the lining of my uterus wasn't enough (since it was my first cycle of the pill) for baby to dig deep and she passed the day AF was due, but that's a whole other story). We started TTC and got out second around Christmas. Isaiah will be here in as little as 2 weeks!
I think I tell everyone this but I see so much truth in what the Lord has shown me through our MC. God did NOT cause our miscarriage no! That was Satan trying to bring us away from the Lord. But God find a way to bring goodness to our lives even though the devil was working his hand. God is good.

Like I said these girls are lovely so glad you could be here!

P.S. We recently moved from pennsylvania to new Hampshire, not a soul we know. But we did try out a few churches and we found a great one!I recommend looking online for a church, that's what we did since we didn't know anyone here. Now we have a loving and uplifting church family. Praying you find a church home soon and you get that !!!!!!

 

[LaraJJ]

Hi Auntie and welcome!

So sorry to hear of your losses, I pray that God upholds and keeps you strong - and blesses you with your special sticky bean before too long.

I am pretty new to this thread too - only been around a few weeks, and not sure I've really introduced myself properly to the rest of the girls

I'm Lara from the UK, I'm 27 and DH is 29 - we've been married for almost 2 years now. Not been ttc for long - on our third cycle, but been waiting to try for a year - timing wasn't right as DH is completing a Masters degree. So now we are ttc and I'm trying to get to grips with it all - feeling pretty relaxed on the whole but have to say BFNs have got me down. My parents had unexplained infertility and took 3 years to conceive me, and I am so similar to my mum in so many ways - I just worry I'll have problems too. I know this is kinda irrational, but just human nature I guess.

I am also overweight, which I know doesn't help - but the more I try the less I seem to lose So praying something clicks and I wake up a size 10 tomorrow

I'm starting to chart, temp and use OPKs this cycle so praying it all comes together for us.

I love this thread - the girls are all so encouraging, and it is great to be able to talk about how God is working in our lives.

Have a blessed day

 

[FutureMommie]

So happy I stumbled across this thread. So a little about me.

I'm 37 Dh is 47 we have been ttc for 2.5 years, we have been together 10 years but married only a year. When we first started ttc we never thought we would have to cross so many hurdles, but 5 IUI's later, and 1 abdominal myomectomy to remove 9 fibroids later, we are back at ttc, I am currenlty 8dpo and in the horrible 2ww. I know what you all mean, I use to wonder if God even heard my prayers, and then one day which in church I got my answer, he does hear me and when it's my time it will happen, and honestly, I pray for his will in my life and I don't want to get pg a moment before it's my time, but being patient and waiting on him is the hard part, so I just keep praying and asking him not to forget about us.

I look forward to chatting with everyone.

 

[HappyAuntie]

FutureMommie, I'm in the 2ww also! I'm only 3dpo, though. It's our first month ttc since wrapping up all the recurrent miscarriage testing, so I'm trying keep my wits about me and not get too worked up.

I know what you mean about waiting for His timing.... We waited to have kids for lots of reasons, and now that we're having trouble I have to remind myself that I'd still rather be an "older" mom than a reluctant mom who had her kids before she was ready for them. No way was I ready earlier in my life.

And even with the difficulties of moving so far away from all my family right after our first mc, looking back now I can see that God has placed me exactly where I need to be. My new next-door neighbor had recurrent miscarriages herself (her kids are now late teens) so she has been an incredible support to me. And once we moved here and I got pg again, I picked my OB kind of at random (because the one several friends had recommended to me wasn't accepting new patients). When we lost the baby, he was amazingly empathetic and supportive... when he referred me to the recurrent mc specialist, he mentioned that this was the dr he and his wife saw after their losses... that's when I KNEW that God was right there with me! Nothing is a coincidence. He doesn't want us to suffer, but He placed just the right people in my life just exactly when I needed them.

He won't forget about you - He is always right there with you, even when you can't see Him. My favorite scripture is Romans 8:38-39 - "For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord." Even when we turn our backs on Him in despair, he is right there with us. He will never forget or forsake His children!

 

[Deb111]

Welcome futuremommie

 

[willbamom1day]

Hi happy and future glad the Lord has lead your hearts to this group of awesome women.

I'm 33 and hubby is 44 and after praying, hoping and staying in faith for 18 months the Lord blessed us with a bfp on Fathers day. I always knew it would happen just didn't know when.

I still like to check in over here and see how everyone is doing and see if there is any specific prayers needed other than that I just pray for blessings for everyone. God's love is hard at work in this section and it is awesome.

Many blessings for you both and I will be praying for your bfps - in the mean time we will bveliev and stand in faith that God is working and His perfect timing is coming.

 

[Rdy2BaMom]

Welcome Happy and Future! Glad you two can join us!

A little about me. . . DH and I have been married for almost 2 years and have been TTC for 15 mos now. We tried on our own for a year, then when no BFP, went back to the dr. It ended up that my DH has low counts all around. So, we both took clomid this past cycle. I am sure y'all will love this group! It's an awesome bunch of ladies!

 

[Rdy2BaMom]

Quick update on me: AF hasn't shown up yet. . .but I have had minimal brown spotting since yesterday. This is odd for me simply because I don't have spotting before AF shows up, she just shows her ugly face in full force! I'm not really sure what to think about it, as I don't know how the clomid is still effecting me. I suppose only time will tell! If AF doesn't show up by the morning, then I will test with FMU. Hope you all had a great Monday!!

 

[Guppy051708]

Rdy, sounds promising! I never had spotting before AF either, but the day before my bfp I had brown spotting for a couple hours! in fact, I thought I was out, but boy was I wrong! Can't wait to see your tomorrow! Brown spotting generally means old blood, so I say it's a good sign

 

[somedaymama]

Rdy2, I hope AF stays away and you get good news in the morning!!!

 

[mrskcbrown]

Hey futuremommie and happyauntie. So glad that you all are here. Sorry to hear about your losses happy auntie. I dont talk much about my early loss but I had one at about 5 weeks a couple of years back. Like somedaymama it was a chemical because I got a + and a week later I was bleeding. DH and I have been married a little over a yr and it took us 15 months to get this BFP. So I will be praying for you all and know that God has not forgotten you!

RDY: Praying that this is good news!

 

[FutureMommie]

Thanks ladies, I feel so welcome already and thanks for all the prayers and endcouraging words.

Rdy I hope Af stays ago and you get your bfp! I will be checking for results tomorrow.

 

[Dahlia]

hi girls - this is an excerpt from my journal but wanted you all to read it too. the overall message is to take heart b/c God IS listening and has the perfect plan for your life too. we must remember to pray and seek his Kingdom...and only that way can peace truly come. hi to the newbies and welcome! I'm cycle 15 ttc age 30 - dh 40...unexplained infertility. yee ha!
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ahhh, well - I guess now is as good a time as any to share my good story even though I really need to be choreographing right now but hey maybe a break will get my creative juices flowing.

so, dh and I are beginning a performing arts center where kids up through high school can come take classes in the arts (dance/theatre/musical theatre/voice/etc)...well, we moved to ohio just under three months ago and the ball is rolling big time.

in addition to our performing arts center, we wanted to also use the location as a place to host the live video feed from our church in NJ. this part of Ohio is extremely spiritually dead and we knew moving here that there was not a church for us. (we don't like churches that aren't ALIVE with the spirit...you know, where they are just all ritual and talk...not to sound judgemental but just being honest). so we decided that we would show the video in our house every week and any friends that wanted to join could. well, so many people showed an interest that we can't fit them. we've been praying that God would open the doors to a place where we could have both our studio center and a large church space on Sunday.

well, when God is behind an idea and it is part of his plan, MAN, no doors will be shut. we found a space and signed a lease one week ago that is about 1/4 the market rate for retail rental space plus it is 4,000 sq ft - so plenty of room for the church family to grow! plus, the owners are Christian and were brought to tears over our hearts' calling to bring a contemporary church to the area.

in case this sounds bizarre - we are not pastors and will not be acting as one...we are simply volunteering our space and inviting people to come join in singing and to listen to a message all piped in via the internet. it really will be church like it was back in Paul's day when he called us all to get together and pray and read.

who knows if our business will flourish or the church will be a hit? well, God does. but for now we are trusting and praying that he blesses us as we take these leaps of faith.

that is the story I wanted to tell you girls awhile back. as we drove away from the studio space, dh and I felt strongly God telling us that he has planned both of us for a time and purpose such as this. I have never submitted myself to him more fully and completely before - and it is the most invigorating time of my life. about 5 months ago God pointed us toward Ohio and now this is being set into our laps. it only makes sense that it is not yet our time for a child. as there are high schoolers all around the two of us clinging on for life answers and hope where there is none - we couldn't help but look at each other and say, "oh, this all makes sense now."

I have such peace over the fact that we will have children one day but the Lord has definitely put it on my heart that I shouldn't be so consumed with it happening now.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you not to harm you...plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11

-has always been my favorite verse but it is more relevant now than ever. I was so angry at him for making me wait and suffer this long, but his plans are becoming so clear. and I am at peace.

 

[Dahlia]

rdy - I spot every month before dh...but since it is not normal for you, it definitely could be a good sign! i really hope to wake up with a bfp from you!...that would mean I am next.

 

[Isi Buttercup]

Hi ladies! Hope you're all good!

Welcome FutureMommie and HappyAunty! I'm 33 and my DH is 36.....ttc since November 2008. I haven't had any positives or any losses in that time. I had a mymomectomy in May 2008 and one very good tube (the other is a bit iffy). Anyways, gearing up for IUI in another month or two....as I feel the need to be a bit more aggressive. Good luck with your 2ww. I hope they bring s

Good luck, Rdy!! Can't wait for your announcement!

 

[willbamom1day]

rdy2b I am waiting to hear news of a bfp

 

[Rdy2BaMom]

this morning. Prayers are appreciated. Thanks.

 

[Isi Buttercup]

Rdy. Keep testing!